Should a child be punished for making a mistake?

I think children should be punished if they make mistakes, and if they are blindly indulged, they will become lawless.

In our daily life, we can often see this phenomenon, if two children fight, many parents will help their children regardless of the reason. So is this a good way to deal with it? I think it's inappropriate, if it's your own child who does it first, then you must be at fault, and you still have to pay attention to others, what will other parents think?

I will definitely feel that you are an uneducated parent, and you will definitely not be able to discipline your children well in the future. If the fault party is on the other side, then don't keep holding on to the other party's mistakes, after all, it is inevitable for children to quarrel or fight, as long as people sincerely apologize to you, then let it go.

After I come back, I will definitely educate my children in this way, if my own children do it first, then I will definitely educate my children first, if my own children are still disobedient, they may beat him. When you hit him, you won't hurt his body, just let him know the consequences of doing this. If your child is not at fault, then educate her not to bully others first when she encounters such a thing, but not to sit still when others bully her.

If a child makes a mistake, it will definitely be punished, but the specific method to use is very important. It is necessary to let the child get a certain lesson, but also not to harm his physical and mental health. Before the child reaches adulthood, his mind and body are not mature, and naturally he does not know that it is right to do those things and that is wrong to do those things.

When the child has some bad behavior, parents must stop it in time, otherwise when something big happens, he may have regretted it. As parents, we punish him not for the purpose, but only to make him realize the seriousness of the problem.

Should I be punished for my child's mistakes? Want! But how to punish depends on the method. I would like to recommend 5 scientific punishment methods, punishment is not the goal, education is.

If the child is constantly grinning at the child, it will not make the child realize the seriousness of the mistake, and the appropriate punishment will impress him.

It should be punished. But this punishment should be measured, and try to avoid using violent means, through punishment to let the child remember this lesson, so as not to make a similar mistake next time.

The punishment is as follows:

1. Cancel some specific treatments, for example, parents can cancel the fact that their children are not allowed to watch TV within a week, or are not allowed to eat snacks within a week, and parents should not be soft-hearted in this process, so as not to lose their prestige in the hearts of their children, and it will be more difficult to discipline their children.

2. When the child is disobedient and collides with adults, keeps making noise, or fights with friends, parents can take this way of knowing the punishment station. Set a fixed corner of the home as the "penalty corner", the penalty station area should not be too obvious, and the general penalty station time is about 15 minutes. Before the punishment station, the parents should explain clearly why they want to punish him; After the penalty is over, let the child say how to correct the mistake next time, which is the meaning of the penalty station.

It shouldn't have been hit.

Because if you can't control the strength of hitting the child, once the shot is too heavy, it will hurt the child and cause harm to the child's body. If you hit your child in full view, your child will feel shameless and will also affect his mood. The child will also remember such scenes, and when he grows up, he will treat others in this way.

And hitting the child is the most severe punishment, if you hit too much, the child will "slip and get tired of scolding" and don't care. If your child knows your bottom line, if you want to discipline him harshly in the future, you will feel that there is nothing you can do, and the child will be even more difficult to control. If parents can control themselves, try not to hit their children.

The most important way is to "be silent". When your child makes a mistake, stare at him with your eyes for a minute. In psychology, it is called "long gaze", which itself carries the meaning of warning and threat, and children will feel very uncomfortable.

Punishment education has a role. When children are punished, they are afraid to make such mistakes again. But fear is often only temporary, and when the fear is over, they still go their own way, and there will be no less mistakes to be made.

To a certain extent, punishment education can play a role in educating children, but it will also bring all kinds of drawbacks, and parents must be cautious. When children are faced with parental punishment and education, they have to choose to obey. But in fact, the negative emotions in their hearts have not dissipated, they are still accumulated in their hearts, and once they are out of the supervision of their parents, those negative emotions that cannot be resolved will come back.

As the saying goes: either die in silence or explode in silence. Punishment education can be effective in a short period of time, but the use of punishment in a long period of time can cause a series of negative effects.

Does punishing a child really work? In fact, the benefits of punitive education outweigh the disadvantages.

1. Punishment education will affect the relationship between parents and children. After the parent has punished the child, the child will feel scared. At this time, they will subconsciously avoid parents and reduce contact with parents.

If parents have been punitive with their children, then the fear will always linger in the child's heart and linger. In the long run, there will be a gap between parents and children, which in turn will affect the relationship between parents and children.

2. Punishment education will make the child become depressed. Children need to be comforted. When children do something wrong, their hearts are frightened and at a loss.

At this time, what they need is not criticism, education, or accusation, but comfort. Children who do something wrong will already have doubts about themselves, and if parents blame them at this time, it will deepen children's self-doubt. This will cause the child to fall into negative emotions and not be able to extricate himself.

3. Punishment education will stimulate children's rebellious psychology. After a child does something wrong, their negative emotions will spike and they will feel irritable and bored. They are now like a pile of dry wood, and a single spark can cause a skyrocketing fire.

The accusations and scolding of parents may be this spark. The slightest carelessness may affect the child's negative emotions and arouse the child's rebellious psychology.

I agree. Proper punishment is also an education.

From the point of view of the characteristics of students' psychological development, educational punishment is one of the necessary educational methods.

Educational punishment and correction of their bad behavior are necessary conditions for their healthy growth. Educational punishment is conducive to the development of the habit of obedience and discipline in students. Educational punishment allows students to distinguish between right and wrong, and also understand what is right and what is wrong, what should be done and what cannot be done, what behaviors should be learned, and what behaviors are despicable.

Educational punishment also enables students to learn to be responsible, so that they can develop a sense of responsibility for their actions and their own actions.

Educational punishment is not the same as corporal punishment.

Corporal punishment will cause serious physical and mental harm to students, and punishment is a conventional means of education, a compulsory corrective behavior for students' problem behaviors, and an educational measure taken under the premise that students can fully bear it, which can play an educational and warning role for students.

It is necessary to flexibly choose different punishment methods according to different times, occasions, degrees of violations, and the personality type of the person being punished.

At the same time, educators need to make it clear that punishment is only a means and not an end in itself. The purpose of punishment is to punish the past and the future, to maintain discipline, to rehabilitate the punished students, and to educate the majority of students. A true educator should combine both reward and criticism.

As long as the punishment is appropriate, the punishment is moderate, and the punishment is merciless, we will certainly receive good educational results. When a child does something wrong and refuses to change it, we can use appropriate corporal punishment to let it.

He realizes that he is wrong and helps immature children grow up healthily.

Because many parents nowadays are too spoiled by their children, especially the elderly.

The grandparents of the generation are even more fond of the children, and the children do everything right.

can't be beaten or scolded.

In fact, this is not conducive to the healthy growth of the child, allowing the child's rebellious development.

It's not good for the child. There is an old saying: "Under the stick comes a filial son, no."

You can't beat it. "There is some truth to it!

There are certain benefits to proper corporal punishment of children:

1. Moderate punishment has the effect of awakening, and moderate punishment makes children know themselves.

inadequate, and to be responsible for their own mistakes, to improve and progress in reflection.

2. Moderate punishment strictly warns the child that the child has made a mistake once and has been subjected to corporal punishment, which can strictly warn the child's future life and make him face similar mistakes.

or challenge, to be able to warn yourself to make the right choice.

3 Moderate punishment can motivate children.

Every child has a somewhat competitive mentality, hoping that they are better than others, so when they are subjected to corporal punishment, they will have a sense of frustration, and they will learn a lesson in anxiety.

Force upward. In fact, it is only when the child realizes his mistake that he is subjected to corporal punishment.

They will be convinced, and they will know the effect of corporal punishment. Many parents don't make it clear to their children.

Inflicting corporal punishment on the child, the child does not know what is wrong with him, this is not done.

with. This is just a way for parents to vent their emotions, not education.

If a child is disobedient, he cannot be beaten. It should be analyzed from several aspects. First, whether the parents are really right.

If the parent does something wrong, the child is right not to listen. Second, whether parents also pay attention to their children's ideas, whether they can listen to their children without interruption, as long as this is done, children will definitely pay attention to listen to their parents' views. Then speak your mind.

For children's more serious shortcomings and mistakes, it is necessary for parents to use certain punishment methods and miracles to let children distinguish between right and wrong, good and evil, and avoid similar situations from happening again. However, parents often use punishment in an inappropriate way, which does not achieve the desired effect, or even backfires. If the penalty is light or the penalty is not on the point, the child will be indifferent and will not work; When the punishment is heavy, the child often resists.

So, how should parents punish their children?

1. Punishment must be directed at the child's behavior or performance, focusing attention on the event rather than on the child's personality. Some innate qualities, such as beauty and ugliness, physical defects, and even personality.

As long as it does not belong to the results and behaviors that show the child's efforts, parents should not disparage them.

2. The younger the age, the more closely followed his actions in the time of punishment. If punishment is repeated after a certain period of time, the child will not have a sense of reality and will not be able to deeply understand why he was punished. There is another thing, don't punish more than twice, the number of punishments is too much, and the child will swim and rebel.

Don't add up a few things to settle the ledger, so that the child will feel that as long as he grits his teeth at the critical time, he can be at ease again.

3. Avoid punishing children in public. As the old saying goes, "Yang is good at the public court, but the rules are better than the private room." "Everyone is happy to be praised in public, and no one wants to be punished in front of the public.

Being punished in public will not only cause the child to lose confidence and have an inferiority complex, but also make him feel that he has lost the trust of his peers, thus creating a sense of loneliness. In the long run, the child may not be able to tolerate it, or be absent-minded, which greatly reduces the effect of punishment.

4. Verbal blame is the most convenient and common way to correct bad behavior. Therefore, pay attention to attitudes and words. The attitude should be serious and serious, and we should not be casual and open-mouthed.

5. Children of different ages react differently to punishment. Generally speaking, the younger you are, the more you should use a combination of praise and punishment. Older people can use the influence of criticism.

6. Different punishment methods should be adopted for children with different personalities. For children with a strong sense of sensitivity and independence, parents should convey the critical message to the child with a discussion attitude, so as to create a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere, so that the child can dispel his concerns and cooperate with the parents. For children with strong self-esteem, shortcomings and mistakes.

Parents should gradually output criticism information, criticize at different levels and step by step, from shallow to deep, and patiently guide. This can give the child a stage of psychological preparation. Let them gradually accept it, so that they will not be burdened with ideological baggage.

For children who are cheerful and easy to accept criticism, they can point out problems directly. For children who refuse to admit their mistakes easily, parents should criticize them with reason and evidence.

I think this should be viewed dialectically.

1. It is difficult to continue to enforce the punishment of children. Behaviorist psychologist Skinner proposed that when the threat of punishment is eliminated, the power of punishment to suppress behavior is usually eliminated as well. In most cases, it is impossible for parents to strictly enforce the punishment for bad behavior.

When children know that their parents are unlikely to punish them after many "battles of wits and courage", the deterrent effect of punishment is no longer as great as before.

2. The satisfaction of bad behavior may make children think that punishment is worth it. For example, a child may be punished by a parent for over-indulging in video games. In the eyes of children, the sense of accomplishment they get in the virtual world is far better than the punitive behavior of parents.

So the children do not hesitate to take risks, and if they are lucky enough not to be punished, the children will even think that it is an additional reward.

3. Punishing a child often triggers a bad chain reaction. In many psychological experiments, organisms often try to run away or avoid further punishment when they are punished, and even cause rebellious aggression. In fact, the same is true for the punishment of children.

Punishments that involve pain and humiliation, although they can correct bad behaviors in the short term, can seriously affect the healthy development of children in the long run. On the one hand, this punishment sows the seeds of violence in the child, making them more aggressive in their interactions with others (juvenile delinquents in society who tend to be aggressive have often been abused by their parents at home). On the other hand, punishment can also cause children to become worried, fearful, and insecure, which can lead to learned feelings of helplessness or depressive disorder.

4. It is difficult to be fair and just in the punishment of children. For different children (boys or girls, older children or children), there will be problems with fair treatment of parents' punishment standards, and even for the same child's behavior of the same nature, it is difficult for parents to achieve a unified standard in different scenarios.