How to get rid of the victim mentality when recovering the ex?

1. Recall the good times between the two of you.

often think of beautiful things with him, such as two people going on a trip together and warming each other in a strange place; Go to high-altitude events together, hold each other's hands and scream at the highest point, go eat food together, and marvel and praise for wonderful food. The two of them participated in the competition together, although both of them had the bitterness of staying up late on their faces, but they couldn't hide the smile behind them. If you think more about these beautiful moments, you will be more determined to redeem your ex, and you will feel that your ex has actually given a lot and added a lot of fun to you.

2. Reflect on yourself and realize your mistakes.

It is obvious that the two of them went from being in love to breaking up, and it was definitely not the reason why he was alone. But because you are very painful after the breakup, it is difficult for you to come out of the shadow of broken love, and you feel that you have been hit and frustrated a lot, so you subconsciously blame the other party for all your mistakes. You feel that he doesn't love you enough to make you insecure; You feel that he is not considerate enough of you, so it leads to big and small quarrels between you; You think it's because he's too good with the opposite sex, so it makes you feel inferior.

But in fact, as long as you start from yourself, you will find that you have also done a lot wrong in this relationship, such as you are too sensitive, making him feel tired to get along with you; You always interfere with the rights of the other party, so that the other party loses its independent space and true self; Your temper is like that of a princess, always asking the other party to spoil you, be considerate of you, tolerate you, and put too much pressure on the other party. So you must learn to empathize and learn to look at the problem from the other person's point of view, so that you can find that you are both a victim and a perpetrator.

Therefore, if you want to get rid of the victim mentality, you must learn to look for the strengths of the other person and reflect on your own shortcomings.

You should have a clear understanding of your relationship, in the previous relationship, you have not given enough, you are the hurter rather than the victim.

If you think that if you are reluctant, the other party must be reluctant, so you will give yourself some courage from the bottom of your heart, and you will not feel that you are a victim.

Don't always think that you have been hurt before when you get back your ex, but tell yourself that no one is a victim in love, this mentality will lead to impure feelings.

Apologize to your ex, you hurt him for your immaturity, and now you know that you are wrong, and you will show him a new attitude and start your relationship again.

Do some self-reflection and find out where you did wrong, so that you don't blame your ex for your breakup.

You have to understand from your heart that you are not only paying in this relationship, but the other party has also paid a lot, so you can get rid of the mentality that you are a victim.

Put yourself in the other person's shoes, sort out the problems that exist between you, reminisce about the sweet and beautiful times in the past, and don't always think that you have been hurt.

Don't always think that you have been hurt, think more about the sweet times you had together, and pursue each other again.

You must recognize that your purpose in redeeming her is to be good to her, love her very much, and want to go on with her.

It is inevitable that some contradictions will occur between two people during the run-in period of love, and some contradictions may be completely intensified under the control of emotions and become a fuse for both parties to break up. So at this time, if you regret it after the breakup and want to save your ex, what misunderstandings do you need to avoid?

1. Don't stalk.

When many people save their predecessors, a mistake they often make is to stalk and stalk, often touching themselves, bringing embarrassment to the people around them and bringing complete damage to their predecessors. Because stalking is often accompanied by harassment, text messages, invitations, or commuting to and from work to block the ex, all kinds of behaviors such as laughing will bring great distress to the ex, and even affect the normal life of others, so you must avoid stalking.

2. Drunk**.

After breaking up with their ex, many people will choose to drink to vent their feelings, and even call their ex ** after being drunk. And at this time, if the ex comforts you in **, it is just to calm you down when you are drunk and out of control, rather than really wanting to agree to your request to get back together. So drunkenness is a misunderstanding, because at this time, although it is your heart, it is the real you, but it is also the worst you.

In the process of falling in love, the relationship between two people has reached a certain level, and the other party will accept that you have shortcomings and a bad you, but at this time, you who expose huge shortcomings is not a good thing for you.

3. Bottomless prayer compounding.

Prayer compounding without a bottom line is actually the same terrible trick as stalking. Once you choose to pray for a reunion without a bottom line, the other person will feel that you are not so valuable, and the other person may even think that the way you are praying is particularly bad. And sometimes the bottomless prayer to get back together will make the other person do something very bad to you, remember that you still need dignity no matter what.

So at this time, instead of praying for reunion without a bottom line, it is better to recall how you attracted the other person in the first place, and then it is possible to attract the other person again.

Whenever you encounter something, you must take into account the feelings of the other party, and often prepare some surprises for the other party, and often prepare some gifts for the other party, and also prepare some delicious meals for the other party often after sleepiness, and if you have free time, you must often take the other party out for travel, but I think the most important point is that don't do things that make the other party sad.

There must be a reason for two people to break up, and when the other party comes back and gets back together with you, you must make sure that the conflict between the two people can solve the previous breakup. Because this problem is not solved, the two still interact as before. The same will lead to a quarrel between the dusty factions, and in the end, the ending of the Zen is to break up.

If you want to get back your ex, you can't blindly bother the other party, you have to know why the other party broke up with you in the first place, don't ask for a reunion before this has changed, and you will never fail. To make yourself excellent, excellent enough to attract the other party, Jian Wang's success rate is high.

Avoid the sensitive points of the other party, avoid the places where the other party minds very much, avoid some places that are particularly easy to cause misunderstandings, try to avoid the places that the other party minds, avoid the places where the two people are particularly sad, and do not do something that the other party is not willing to do.

We should avoid the misunderstanding of too frequent contact, the misunderstanding of rushing, the use of the wrong method, the overall attitude, and the misunderstanding of causing the other party to cause a sense of anti-braching.

No, to get back your ex, you need to avoid some misunderstandings, the first Na Nu must first make sure that you still have a hidden feeling for him, and secondly, make sure that he does not have the next relationship on the basis of pursuing it.

Don't continue to attack each other, don't deny each other's contributions, don't let the other party not feel their love, don't let the other party think that they are better because they can't find the first pants, and don't let the other party feel perfunctory. Hood bucket.

I think we should work hard to solve it, and we should choose to communicate with the other party, and we can have a good face-to-face talk with two people to solve the problem.

Adjust your mental balance, pursue her well, don't give up Lu Dong, don't be discouraged early, but also improve yourself, make yourself excellent, and be very attentive to the other party.

I think you can just be coquettish. No one can stand being coquettish. Then buy him a gift to please him.