How to do it, gain but not like and lose without worrying

Those who can do that are saints, how many saints are there in the world? Why is it bad to be happy, why should you suppress your emotions, as long as you don't go too far. It's normal to lose and worry, and you have to release your emotions reasonably and appropriately, otherwise your body will be damaged. . .

Probably you, like me, have experienced too few things, and deliberately let yourself experience more things, and if you have more, you will be numb, but don't do nothing, do something meaningful, hehe. If not, it's a personality reason.,There's no need to suppress it too much.,Usually promote your strengths and avoid weaknesses.,Try not to cause bad consequences because of this habit.。

It's very simple: when you don't value that kind of thing, you naturally gain and don't like it, and you lose it! The key is, take it easy, nothing is lost and you can't survive! Except for your guts....

To regain a sense of balance elsewhere is to lose and not worry. It's hard to get it and not like it, at least I can't do it, forget about him as soon as possible, and you'll have to leave it unwashed.

You yourself are aware of it, so why can't you overcome it.

Just be happy, whatever it is.

Be brave enough to express your feelings, why be so deep. Not an old man.

You're too young. Who can do it without rejoicing in things and not being sad for himself?

I've tried to do that before.

But I found that I couldn't, "not to be happy with things, not to be sad about myself".

Just this morning, my parents told me that one of my relatives was about to pass away.

When I was very young, I watched my third aunt leave, and then my grandmother,。。 Who do you say?

There is a saying in Zhuangzi: "Gain but not joy, loss but not worry." You don't have to rejoice when you get it, you don't have to linger on it when you lose it, you don't have to worry about it, no matter what you gain or lose, you always keep a calm and detached heart, and treat the world with a quiet and peaceful attitude.

Whether it is in the court of iron tile Jinluan, or in the rivers and lakes of thatched adobe, you can handle it calmly.

The harvest exceeds expectations, and excitement and pride should be excluded. For students with anxiety and insomnia, meditation tends to have immediate results; For students who have a strong understanding ability and actively apply meditation to their lives, life changes will be beyond imagination. The resulting joy and fulfillment are accompanied by excitement and pride.

If excitement and pride are not removed, the subsequent meditation practice will deviate in the wrong direction.

Why avoid excitement? At the heart of meditation is not a complex technique, but a simple, undivided attitude towards life, so nothing is more important than perseverance. However, the biggest obstacle on the road to perseverance is mental turmoil, and the two factors that trigger mental turmoil are "busy" and "excited".

The fast pace of modern life makes "busy" unavoidable, and what we can do is to keep ourselves as quiet as possible and stay away from "excitement".

Why avoid "out-of-focus"? The word focus is a technical term in psychology that means the focus of attention. If we focus too much attention on the results of gains and losses, we will invisibly indulge in the joy of gaining and the loss of gains that do not exceed expectations.

This kind of mentality prevents us from meditating and causes us to slack off.

Eat greens with love and practice meditation. If you practice meditation with curiosity and a desire for mystery, after making some progress, generating excitement will only make you busier and your life worse. The interest in meditation itself is not really interest, the purpose of meditation is to stimulate interest in everyday life, it is a quiet, ordinary practice, and there is nothing to be excited about.

Meditation is like baking bread on a fire, the heat is important, and excitement only adds fuel to the fire, and it seems to be lively, but the bread is burned. Therefore, no matter how good the meditation is, we should not focus on emotional meditation, and nothing is more important than returning to life with a calm heart after the practice.

There is a sentence in the Zhuangzi: "Gain but not joy, loss but not worry." ”

When you get it, you don't rejoice in prudence; and when he loses, he does not grieve over it. Treat with a calm mind.

In this life, we are living between loss and gain.

Gain and loss are often intertwined and coexist with each other, and the result obtained is often the beginning of loss, and the fact of loss is often the cause of limb formation.

As the saying goes: "Seong lost his horse, and he knew whether it was a blessing or not." ”

Gain and loss are not absolutely good and bad, but a kind of flow of blessings and misfortunes.

Zeng Guofan also said: "If there is no heart of gain and loss, the voice will be relaxed, and this heart is like a bystander, what is wrong?" ”

People walk in the world, and gains and losses are a norm.

Only by being calm and indifferent can we truly live peacefully. New day, good morning

1. Gain but not happy, lose but not worry: I don't feel happy when I get it, and I don't feel sad when I lose it.

2. Original text: Beihai Ruo said: No; The amount of things is endless, and the time is endless; There is impermanence, and there is no reason in the end; Therefore, the great knowledge is seen in the near and far, so the small but not the widowed; Big but not much, infinite knowledge; Prove to the present, so it is far away and not boring; 掇 (duō) and not 跂 (qí), knowing the time is endless; Observe the surplus and the void, so the gain is not happy, the loss is not worried; Knowing the impermanence of the division is also.

Three words, ordinary heart 1Maintaining a normal heart means not being arrogant or impatient, and doing things to enter the WTO with the heart of being born, and maintaining a normal heart means that under the pressure of modern life, there is still a mood to feel the dragon humiliation. Idle in front of the court flowers blooming and falling, looking at the sky outside the clouds and clouds Shu that is comfortable!

2.The so-called ordinary mind is nothing more than a state of mind in which we deal with the things around us in our daily lives. Ordinary mind should be a kind of "normality", which can only be possessed after a certain amount of cultivation, and it belongs to a kind of "philosophy of life" that sustains life.

As Mencius said, "Benevolence is the heart of man, and righteousness is the way of man." ”

Clause. 1. Doing good and not being attached is a normal heart: no matter what you pay or do good, if you have attachment, you will be hindered; With persistence, there will be something to look forward to. When expectations are disappointed, we will inevitably be disappointed, or even irritated and uneasy, and our hearts will not be at peace.

If one is able to do good deeds and give kindness to others, without asking for anything in return, without attachment to the mind, and attaining the three-wheeled body emptiness, the pure and equal mind without the giver or the receiver and without giving things is the ordinary mind.

Clause. 2. Fear of old age and death is a normal heart: the cycle of life and death is the common way of the universe, people will inevitably get sick, face aging, and even the coming of death, can be fearless, not upside down, unhindered, and at ease, so-called: Death is the beginning of life, and life is the preparation for death; Life has not tasted life, and death has not tasted death.

This is called the normal mind.

Clause. 3. It is normal to ignore losses: there is a saying: Learning to suffer losses can cultivate virtue.

Sometimes it is not a bad thing to suffer a loss, you can accumulate life experience from the loss, and from the loss, you can learn to give in to the world. Especially when people get along with others, it is inevitable that there will be injustice and indebtedness. Being able to ignore and compare when suffering losses is a normal mind.

Clause. Fourth, adversity is not annoying is a normal heart: the so-called: the moon has no sun, and people have no sun.

When we encounter the state of disobedience, we must be able to see our worries clearly, let go of our worries, not dance with our worries, and deal with them calmly. It's like when you are competing, you always want to defeat your opponent, in fact, you have to defeat your opponent first, and to defeat yourself is not to be disturbed by the environment, not to be trapped by distracting thoughts, not to be moved by obedience, to forget about the opponent, to forget the victory or defeat, and to treat it with a natural attitude, which is the normal mind.

The truth is not to be said.

Only when you have experienced the ups and downs will you know what it means to laugh and watch the storm.