I have a boyfriend and I don t have a common language. I like another person, how half

Don't be in such a hurry to break up, I used to be the same, I liked my brother (not biological), but my brother has a new girlfriend. So I was very miserable, and I accepted someone else, who is my current boyfriend, and when I was with him first, every day as long as I touched something that my brother gave me before, or something that reminded me of my brother, I would cry, and I wanted to break up. But he's a very good guy, and if I break up with him, I'll be blamed by everyone around me, and no matter what, people will think that I did something wrong.

So, at that time, because of the worldliness and the loss of the person I liked, I accepted the facts, and slowly I began to find out that he was really a very good person, and he was very good in life, career, and emotion. And I really like him now. Sometimes, it's not that love can last a long time, it's not love at first sight that makes you happy, sometimes it's just a habit, to get used to a person, you will find that you really can't do without him.

Try to check it out. If it really doesn't work, I'm sure you won't regret it then. If you're still fighting, I advise you to leave, after all, if a guy really wants to be nice to you and likes you, he won't do it, and even if it's not his girlfriend, he shouldn't.

How long have you known your current boyfriend, what was your original relationship, and does he still love you?

You have to think about these questions.

Does the other person you like like about you? Do you know?

As the friend above said, what kind of person do you want to find when you get married in the future?

You have to find out if you and your current boyfriend were like this before, why it happened, and find the cause of the problem, so that you can prescribe the right medicine! Good luck friend

Boldly give it up It's good for any of you in the future Otherwise, you'll regret it even more in the future Believe me, love without feelings is meaningless.

You're on your own, you're in charge of the initiative, and you're still going to take the main idea yourself.

Does the other person like you? Love you?

You want to find someone you love in the future and he doesn't love you to marry. It's better to find someone who loves you, but you don't love him.

Not beat around the bush! It's good for each other, too!

Early separation, early relief!

Without a common language, the three views do not agree and they give up.

Clause. First, the three views are very important.

A person's three views are directly linked to his spiritual world, so if your spiritual world can't be the right one, then your three views may be difficult to agree, two people with different views live together, it is very tiring, and marriage will naturally be useless after a long time.

Clause. 2. Life goals.

In marriage, the husband and wife will be able to achieve long-term harmony if they have the same life goals, but if the husband and wife are inconsistent in spirit and ideas, then it will directly affect the goals and structure of the marriage.

Therefore, many people do not care about the family background and family background when they get married, thinking that as long as they have feelings, they can overcome the habits brought by these original families.

Clause. 3. Common language.

The most direct manifestation of the spiritual level is whether there is a common language, you are talking to him about the world political situation, but he replies to you trivial, like a chicken and a duck talking, you can never find a topic to chat with, slowly you will be alienated, and the spiritual world will feel very lonely.

Fourth, learn to be understanding others, which is often as difficult to do as demanding of yourself. We are always trying our best to find each other's faults, always feel that the other party can't get along with me, always feel that anyone is making enemies of me, there are many things that are unintentional, but there are those who are cautious and always have to sit in the right seat and find troubles.

will not understand others, often a sentence unintentionally said, the person who has the intention to provoke listen, he sat down, thinking that he was sarcastic and sarcastic, he couldn't get along with himself, and he became troubled. After a long time, once or twice, there may be a general outburst in the end, a fight, and even a person's **. All kinds of social news reports in the newspaper, such as a person who made a person for a few dollars, and a joke caused a tragedy.

Learn to forgive: Learn to forgive your friends and loved ones. The closer people are, because they care too much about each other, they are prone to misunderstandings.

can't explain, can't explain, outsiders can't see jokes, and they can't let go of their dreams. At this time, the only thing that helps is time, time will dilute a lot of things and will melt resentment.

One day you will find out that if you are a friend, you will definitely come back. And the sooner you forget the words you have said or heard in your anger, and forgive each other or yourself one day sooner, the biggest beneficiary is not the other party, but yourself, and you will be happy and sweep away your troubles.

Personally, I think that for two couples, having a common topic is indeed a necessary condition for love, if two people don't even have a common topic, it means that it is difficult for two people to really resonate, and it is difficult for such a relationship to be maintained for a long time.

First of all, for two people, if you want to make a relationship really recognized by each other, then you need two people to have common values, love and outlook on life in the process of getting along, and be able to attract and respect each other, and for two couples, there are common topics, which is an important embodiment of these aspects. Therefore, for couples, since they want to understand each other, they should communicate as much as possible, communicate more, and find common topics as much as possible.

On the other hand, by finding a common topic, the couple can further enhance their understanding of each other, and can further warm up the feelings between the two people, which is obviously very beneficial to the emotional development between the two people, and when the two people find a common topic in the relationship, then it means that the relationship between the two people is likely to develop to a new stage. So the longer they spend with each other, the more people may think that this kind of relationship is a more embarrassing thing for both people, then eventually one party will not be able to bear this state and propose to break up with the other party, so for the relationship, we must learn to find resonance with our other half, find mutual recognition and common interest topics between each other, so as to ensure the longevity of the relationship.

With more and more contact, I found that the three views of the two people have a very big way out, and the goals of life are not the same, there is no common language, indifferent to each other, only like and no love, so they can only break up.

Clause. First, the three views are very important.

A person's three views are directly linked to his spiritual world, so if your spiritual world can't be the right one, then your three views may be difficult to agree, two people with different views live together, it is very tiring, and marriage will naturally be useless after a long time.

Clause. 2. Life goals.

In marriage, the husband and wife will be able to achieve long-term harmony if they have the same life goals, but if the husband and wife are inconsistent in spirit and ideas, then it will directly affect the goals and structure of the marriage.

Therefore, many people do not care about the family background and family background when they get married, thinking that as long as they have feelings, they can overcome the habits brought by these original families.

Clause. 3. Common language.

The most direct manifestation of the spiritual level is whether there is a common language, you are talking to him about the world political situation, but he replies to you trivial, like a chicken and a duck talking, you can never find a topic to chat with, slowly you will be alienated, and the spiritual world will feel very lonely.

Let's talk about the truth of pretending: When you are very comfortable chatting with a person, and the three views are very consistent, then the other party's cognition and knowledge content must far exceed yours. Because there is no completely compatible three views in this world, and there is no unhindered communication.

When you say anything that the other party can resonate with, and even what you can't say clearly is that the other party can understand it, then he must be backward compatible with you.

Another truth is: when you don't grow and make progress, then the other party will be compatible with you, and he will be tired after more time. So don't feel as if you have something to rely on and you can stagnate.

Because what is needed in the emotional world is support, not support. When the other party and you have been in internal friction, then no matter how deep the love is, it will not last long.

Conform to the other person's knowledge and approval. For example, if you learn that a friend attaches great importance to integrity, in order to quickly share the same frequency, you can also emphasize the lack of honesty and tell a story of integrity.

These two tips will allow you to quickly integrate with others. When I was a child, it seemed to be a derogatory term, but when I grew up, I realized that it was a sign of maturity.

In front of your parents, you are a son, and you must be filial and obedient. You are a parent in front of your children, be strong and courageous. You are a boyfriend in front of your girlfriend, be gentle and tolerant. We are multi-tasking, and human nature itself is a polyhedron, so how can we have a tendon throughout?

In the case of not breaking the law and not violating morality, all your changes are to cater to the changes and keep the peace.

The way of heaven is beneficial but not harmful. The way of man is not to fight.

So remember that self-growth is a lifelong thing.

This one...

How long have you known each other?

1. Under normal circumstances, when meeting a caring person, people will be nervous and restrained because they want to show their good side to each other. I think that's normal.

The way to overcome this situation is to get along with each other more, preferably by doing things that everyone is interested in, and trying to increase mutual affection and common language.

2. If your personality makes it so good, you are all quiet people, then you will be affectionate. Silence is better than sound here. o(∩_o

3. If it is because the other party is not ready to have a deep friendship with you, then you should take the initiative more and confess in time, maybe you can break the deadlock as soon as possible.

4. Trying to discover the strengths and interests of the other party, and focusing the topic on the other party's interests and strengths, is an effective way to quickly eliminate strangeness and defensiveness.

Give it a try. Anyway, if it's a relationship. Don't take it too seriously. Feelings cannot be replicated, and there is no need to use the love scenes on TV to benchmark your life. There are thousands of love patterns, why stick to one kind of love, vigorous and natural joy, and the two little guesses are also wonderful.

Be honest and savor, and you will find the unique beautiful emotions that belong to the two of you...

Oh my God, how did you talk about going together?

Do you think that the two of you don't have a common language, is there not enough communication between the two of you? Maybe the two of you don't really know each other very well together, you don't know where he is interested, how can you have a common language?

So you can find a time to talk about what you are interested in, whether it is **, movies, or travel, there is always a common interest, only in this way can you have more common language, otherwise it is just the beginning, you will have to get married and have children and start a family in the future, in the next few decades, do you have to spend it like this?

Don't be afraid of not having a common language, the most fearful thing is that neither of you wants to work hard. In this case, what is the meaning of two people being together? Since you choose to be together, you should try to make the two of you more comfortable, happy, and less stressful.

In fact, it's good not to speak, just need to be accompanied.

I'm afraid there is only a breakup, how to live together without a common language, long pain is better than short pain.

This depends on what you mean, you can live like this, live your life like this, you can't live like this, you should look for the common ground between the two of you, slowly cultivate, if you think it's not good, remember that no one should be wrong, separate, find like-minded people with yourself.