Why is it that there is a lot of truth when I persuade others, but I am very confused when I face it

In life, we can always encounter all kinds of strange problems, these problems make us feel very distressed, do not know how to solve, very confused. But when others encounter problems, as friends, we have a lot of reasons to persuade them, why is that? <>

The road of life can not be smooth sailing, it is a tortuous development process, in this process we will encounter this or that big or small problems, the problem comes, we can not sit idly by, to find a way to solve. Many people feel upset and irritable because of these problems, and only know to blindly complain or be sad, such an attitude cannot solve the problem at all, and the first step to solve the problem is to cheer us up first. At this time, the role of friends is highlighted, they stand up, patiently comfort, and can say a lot of truth to completely impress each other's ideological stubbornness and confusion.

But when they themselves encounter a similar situation, they feel overwhelmed. <>

As the saying goes: the authorities are confused, but the bystanders are clear. That's why we feel very lost when we are faced with a problem.

For the problems of our friends around us, we stand in the perspective of bystanders, looking at the problem much clearer than our friends themselves, at this time we are objective and rational, knowing how to solve it is the best way, so on the basis of empathy, we can always think of a variety of convincing truths to enlighten friends and let them out of the predicament. And when we have a problem, we, as the authorities, will be immersed in our own world and keep circling in circles, not seeing the reason, but only stuck in the point where we are entangled, wondering why this is happening. Secondly, we only understand the truths that we have persuaded our friends, but we have not put them into practice, so when we face problems, we will feel lost.

Everyone understands the truth, but it is also important to know how to practice it rather than understanding the truth.

Many times we have a lot of truth when we persuade others, but when it is really our turn, we have no way to get out, and we feel very confused, because the authorities are confused, and many times we are not the people in it, and there is no way to really see clearly. This is because I am in the middle of an incident, and I feel very confused, mainly for the following reasons.

First, the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear. There are so many things that happen in our lives, and when we are caught up in them, we can't really do them completely. We have too much truth when we persuade others, that is, because we ourselves are not in the center of the event, there is no way to cause an emotional fluctuation, and naturally we can clearly see how things are developing, just as we see the whole event and process from God's perspective, and can better encourage the other party.

2. No mood swings. When we are in the position of a bystander, we are very rational, because we are not in the middle of the event, and there is no way to truly empathize, so there will be no emotional fluctuations. But for the parties involved, because they are in the middle of the event, any direction of the matter will affect their emotional fluctuations, and naturally they will not be able to think rationally, and everyone will have their own emotions.

Joy, anger and sorrow will have a significant impact on us, and it is normal for us not to be able to think rationally when encountering an emergency. <>

Third, there are expectations. The reason why we can't really look at this matter rationally in the incident is because we still have expectations in our hearts, and we always hope that things can find their own good direction to develop, or in the whole incident, we feel very remorseful and need to take too much responsibility, so we will feel confused and emotionally unable to stabilize quickly. It's because of such a complicated mood that there is no way to really be a bystander.

Because some things will always be confused by the authorities and clear to bystanders, so when you encounter something that is more confused, you can find a friend to help you analyze it.

Because when you persuade others, you don't feel the helplessness of the other party, and when you are there, you know that it is difficult to change your thinking.

Because the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear, it will be easy to solve the problem from the perspective of a bystander, but when you are in it, you are very confused and don't know how to solve it.

Because there are a lot of things to think about, the authorities are obsessed with bystanders, and this is the reason.

Because the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear, many things are often unclear on themselves.

I don't know the true face of Lushan, only because I am in this mountain, and you are an outsider when you persuade others to head the world, you see the situation very clearly, but when you face your own things, you become an insider, and there is no way to look at the overall situation, so you will be confused, people have such a characteristic, otherwise how to say that people should empathize, in fact, when you empathize, your perspective is different, and the conclusion of the change of your perspective is naturally different, the larger the perspective, The bigger the conclusions, the smaller your perspective is, the more trivial things you see.

The friends around him fell out of love and cried into tears, and he was ashamed to be a spiritual mentor next to him to persuade him that he should let go, only by letting go can he pick up a new relationship, and only by letting go of the burden of the past can he travel lightly and make the future better. However, this is just a matter of being a bystander, and it is not the case when it really comes to us, because the stakes have changed.

When a painful thing is placed on someone else, we will not have too obvious perception, because we don't feel pain or itching, so we can stand and talk without backache to give others guidance, but if this thing really happens to you, it hurts yourself, this pain will make you lose your mind, will make you lose the ability to think, and will also produce confusion, isn't this the case for everyone?

There are often people who stand on the moral high ground to judge others, regard themselves as saints, as an absolutely rational person, but this is just wishful thinking, he doesn't know anything about what others have experienced, when he really puts himself in his shoes and feels those things, he can't be so calm, some things must be experienced by himself to have the right to speak, so I am now a person who likes to be silent, and there is no right to speak without experience.

To sum up, persuading others to be the head is the way, and that is because the bystanders are clear, and the authorities are confused.

Because the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear. When persuading others, he can always look at the facts rationally, and when he comes to himself, he will always be angry.

Because the authorities are confused, the bystanders are clear, and from the perspective of the bystanders, others can see clearly, but once they are in it, they will be confused.

As the saying goes, "the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear", which is not unreasonable, and it is more clear to look at things from the perspective of a bystander, and to be more confused when you encounter things.

Because sometimes we understand the truth, but when we experience it ourselves, we will also be at a loss, although we understand the reason, but there is also unspeakable suffering in it.

Because it is often the authorities who are confused, and the bystanders are clear, when things are put on themselves, they are often unclear.

Because the bystanders are clear, often when they are stuck in the quagmire, they don't know it, and only the people next to them can see it.

When you persuade people, you are very sensible, why are you confused when you face them?

The bystanders are clear, and the authorities are confused. Because other people's affairs have nothing to do with you, you can be calm and calm. When you have something, you will think wildly. It's best to have a bigger heart and a little lighter.

If you ignore yourself, this world is someone else's world.

And we live in other people's worlds, and we often care about what others think of us, so we often care about what others think, but others don't care so much about ourselves at all.

It is that you are insignificant to the world, and you are the greatest to yourself. Therefore, looking at oneself and looking at others is different, and it is not about oneself to hang high.

So no matter how big the matter is not on you, you can be logical and clear, analyze strongly, and a series of operations. I can't really empathize. And when you encounter it, it's different.

Similar to the authorities fan, but not the authorities fan, can only say. Authorities. Lock.

This lock is very spiritual. It includes a person's family of origin, background, experience, current living conditions, economic pressures, family status, work status, and other factors that are intertwined.

So the same thing has different locks on different people. Different people are clear observers, but it does not mean that the parties and authorities are confused. And just persuade people and feel the lock in the play.

Because there is never such a thing as empathy in this world, when persuading others, they feel that they can get through and cross over, because bystanders don't have so many emotions, but when it comes to themselves, a series of negative feelings such as pain and anxiety will make people lose control of their emotions, and jealousy is often easy to cause discomfort in the limbs, which often affects people's judgment and execution. At this time, you can try to detach yourself and imagine how you would persuade and hope that the other person would react to the incident if it happened to someone else. Of course, this is not easy, but it is a more feasible way to get out of emotional control.

Man is a combination of emotion and reason, and the two must reach some balance in order for man to function properly. Those who are too emotional, too rational, moody and hysterical. Those who are too emotional, too rational, have invisible emotions but suppress pain.

When persuading people, the main thing is that the reason is working, and there is not much emotional burden, so it is very simple. When things happen to you, emotions and reason sometimes oppose each other, so it's not so easy to reconcile.

I understand the truth, but I just can't do it. It is difficult for a doctor to heal himself. In this case, there is an imbalance of emotions and reason.

Because there is no empathy in the world at all, and only when this happens to you does you know what it feels like, so it is normal to have this situation.

Because people are complex. When persuading others, we will jump out to look at the overall situation, and we will be more rational, but when we face it ourselves, we will not know the direction of **.

I can never see the back of my head, and I always feel that I am a person with a unique gender and relevance, but there are some things that cannot be solved by myself, and this is a problem that everyone will encounter.

The main reason is that because the bystanders are clear and the authorities are confused, they are very rational every time they persuade people, and they have no way to start when they encounter this situation.

It is because the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear, and everyone will be very confused when facing their own affairs, and such a phenomenon will occur.

No one will empathize with anyone if it doesn't happen to them, so there is no way to solve problems when they encounter them.

Because even when encountering things, they will become very irrational, and their judgment will become very poor.

Because I didn't empathize with others when I persuaded them, and when I got to myself, I knew how difficult it was, so I was very confused.

Because we know in our hearts that this is nonsense, and the road ahead is still shrouded in fog.

Everyone will encounter some difficulties on the road of life, and when they encounter difficulties, there will always be some people who will speak out to comfort them. However, when everyone comforts others, they can talk about the truth, but when they are really in trouble, they still don't know what to do.

There is no empathy in life, everything is just our self-righteousness. Some time ago, my friend divorced, and I thought he would be in a bad mood, so I deliberately asked him to drink together. When the two of us were drinking, I said a lot of comforting things to him, and it sounded reasonable, at least I thought.

He listened patiently to me, and then said to me with a smile"Don't worry, I'm not in that bad mood, and that's probably a relief for both of you. "I was a little speechless for a moment, only to realize that everything was just my own self-righteousness.

Life is actually like this, we don't know what others have been through, and it is difficult to truly understand the innermost thoughts of others. We are just savoring other people's lives with our own ideas, and then we are temporarily trying to comfort others.

We know in our hearts that the persuasion of others will not help much in life, and we still need to test the road in the future. When I was hospitalized the year before last when I was not in good health, many friends came to see me in the hospital and said a lot of comforting words. I laughed and responded, but when they left, I couldn't laugh at all.

I know they mean well, but no one can understand what I really think in my heart, and no one can understand the psychological pressure that this incident has put on me.

I accepted their blessings, but the road ahead was still on my own. I have to test and explore a little bit to make it possible to take fewer detours on the road of life in the future.

In fact, everyone is like this, whether it is our consolation to others, or the consolation of others to us, everyone is just trying to influence the lives of others with their own ideas, but all this is doomed to be in vain.

After all, you have to go on your own road, and you have to carry the fatigue and ups and downs along the way.