My girlfriend doesn t go to work, and my parents are unhappy

If you don't want to go out, do something at home. Don't be idle all the time with nothing to do. Slowly people will become very decadent, even if you take good care of you or clean up the house well, it will be very fulfilling, so that your parents will not be able to say anything...

Or ask your girlfriend what she likes to do, and if she is interested, doing something will also make her younger.

It is normal for the elderly to have this kind of thought, you can let your girlfriend go out to find an easier job, always stay at home, your parents will think that she is lazy to do it, and after a long time, it is easy to have conflicts.

Your parents think that a girl has nothing to do at home all day long, so she depends on you to raise her, and she will not take care of you at home, such a girl is unreliable, and they are always worried that she is coming for your money, and even think that the girl's family is such a person, maybe you will have to support the girl's family in the future.

Talk to your girlfriend. At the same time, comfort your parents. Since there is no shortage of money at home, it is your own liking. Talk to mom and dad.

If you don't go to work, it's not a problem for you to support her. But she has to be sensible, help the family do some housework, take care of the house, and I believe your parents will be happy.

If you do it for his good, you can persuade her slowly, and she will have problems at home every day, and you must slowly persuade her to learn some skills and find a job.

You're going to get depression at home.

No social contact will be degraded.

It's very simple, that is, don't live together, your family is not bad for money, just buy you a house and go out to live by yourself!

It's good to go out to work, you don't have to work old, but you have to have the ability to work, the ability to survive, in case there is a need for life.

If you don't get married, your parents want their son to marry a hard-working daughter-in-law, and if you stay at home, you have to clean up the house properly, so it's better.

Discuss it with her, whether you want to sell something or something.

Helped you analyze it.

This can be solved in this way.

First: your parents care about you, your girlfriend has no job, and you have to bear all the expenses of the family, of course, as a parent, you can't bear it, so you don't agree, but your parents don't veto your girlfriend, you don't have a job, so your top priority is to help your girlfriend find a suitable job.

Second: Your parents didn't like your girlfriend, but they couldn't find a suitable reason to sentence her, and they just knew that she didn't have a job, so they naturally turned her out.

The content of the problem is simple, and there is so much intelligent analysis.

Can you find one for her? You should ask your girlfriend what she thinks!

The landlord must have hidden the most critical contradiction, and it was also the most reluctant to mention, and asked her about her views on the house on the spot, and his girlfriend said her thoughts directly. As a result, my parents were very upset on the spot.

There is no reason for the displeasure in this;

Parents must know more than us according to experience, and they will choose what kind of daughter-in-law according to their point of view, because they feel that they have experienced many typical cases and are deeply imprinted in their minds, so they will also compare your girlfriend;

But the landlord said that the mother is the main strong power in the family, which means that most of the decisions made by your mother in your childhood, you have become accustomed to this, and it seems that every time you make a decision, you subconsciously consider your mother's feelings first;

If the landlord does not change, even if you don't live together after marriage, you will still subconsciously consider your mother's feelings in your thoughts, and the conflict between you and your wife may arise, because as the head of the family, you need to make your own decisions;

What you need to do is not to break up and not to break up, but to change yourself, to take on the responsibilities that you need to bear in the life world, which may experience pain and repetition, but to be strong to move forward towards an independent and complete life;

When you change, your mother will slowly stop interfering with you because you are mature, and your girlfriend will trust you completely because you are mature, and these problems will not be a problem.

Give your parents a big surprise (or whatever) with your girlfriend on a special day, and then let your girlfriend and mother have the opportunity to chat together alone, (note, at this time, let your girlfriend fully show filial piety and well-behaved), both of you have to think from the perspective of your parents, after all, the elders are respected, and your parents should be older, pay attention to let your girlfriend behave more in front of your parents, and then knock on the side yourself, the most important thing is to let your parents know that your girlfriend is not bad, I love you so much that it should be done!

Since your girlfriend is more okay in all aspects, you can only persuade your parents, and it is her advantage that a person speaks more straightly, are you willing to associate with a duplicitous person.

You have to make a choice, if it's me, I'll choose to break up, because even if you get married, your girlfriend will still be at odds with your parents in the future, if there is a war, it's even more terrifying, and after the breakup, you should also make it clear to your parents, just say, it's not easy to find a suitable one, if you are not satisfied with me every time I am single for a lifetime, you will be happy? It is me who is married, not you. (To put it mildly, that's probably what I mean, anyway).

Be bold, stand on your girlfriend's side, your parents are scaring you, if you can't break this pressure, you won't grow up, and you don't know when you will be able to live your own free life in the future.

You do the work of both sides first to see if there is any possibility of reconciliation. If not, just break up. If you are not married, there will be contradictions, and you will not be happy for long if you are married, that is, it is not suitable. Excuse me.