Why is it that when the child is older, the care of the elders becomes a serious constraint?

After many children enter adolescence, with the awakening of self-consciousness and the enhancement of their sense of independence, they no longer unconditionally obey their parents' words, nor are they willing to passively accept the various arrangements and ...... of their parents

They yearn for freedom, for space, to be free from their parents' shackles and to be themselves.

Everyone has their own bottom line, adults have it, and children have it, but parents have touched their bottom line.

Parents care too much about their children, but feel that it is a burden and a constraint.

When the child grows up, the care of the elders is superfluous, and the children are always underestimated and unhappy, especially the children who are overly concerned by their parents are either rebellious and disobedient to discipline, or have become talking pets, mom bao man, dad bao girl, no big deal. The concern of parents seriously interferes with their ability to think, socialize, work, and behave in the world.

Because when the child grows up, he longs for freedom and wants to be responsible for himself, so he will take the care of his parents as a constraint, and as he grows older, he will gradually understand his parents, but for a long time.

When the child is older, he does not like to be tied down, and he also has his own opinions and worldview. In his eyes, the care of the elders has become a kind of mother-in-law and mother-in-law, which is easy to arouse a kind of disgust from them.

Because the child grows up, she will have her own thoughts, and many of the ideas of her elders are in conflict, so she will feel that it is a burden.

When the child is older and has his own ideas, although the ideas are not yet mature, they want to see what will happen if they do what they think, which is a common problem of children at this stage, and we are also like this, give him some time and opportunity to try, so that he will grow faster.

When the child is older, there is pressure on learning, so the adult's concern for the child will always be annoying, and even rebellious.

It was a difficult time for the most far-sighted mother to be a difficult time when she could no longer be a hen in her nest and should let the chicks out from under her wings and let them live independently. said that the child is still very fragile, he had an appendix surgery four years ago, and he should eat the nutritious food specially prepared for him by his mother; said that he couldn't play in the courtyard, or he would sweat; Say that he can't go for a walk with the kids, he will definitely forget to wear a cardigan and so on, etc. There is no justification for using these excuses to delay this moment.

Elders need to control their own care, you can care but not too much, so as not to affect the normal life of the child.

Some people say that there is an obstacle, and the excessive love of parents is an obstacle for children. Nowadays, young people are under a lot of pressure to study and work, and they are often busy until late, and they have no time for their parents, but what about parents? After retirement, there is nowhere to release energy, so I pay attention to the children, in the name of love to the children all kinds of advice, all kinds of instructions, which causes a lot of pressure on the children, many young people would rather travel, than go home, it can be seen how to reject such endless nagging.

When the children are older, give them space and let them fly freely, isn't raising children a process of watching them drift away? Don't let the love of your family tie their wings!

These are two generations with different perspectives.

It's normal for parents to care about their children, but sometimes they doBut it will become a bondage, become a child's stress. Excessive concern can become pressure can become a constraint, and parents should also be aware of their own problemsIt's notInfinite care for childrenThere may be times when the child simply doesn't need this kind of attention.

When we tell ourselves for a long time that you are the best, that you are very beautiful, then this sentence willwill become our psychological suggestion, also in the constant passage of timeReally make a differenceThe same is true for parents' concerns, there may be times when parents are just concerned about the progress of their children's things, but then they will complain a few words.

When there is a lot of complaining, these words will beBe a psychological cue for children, which for him is not only the impact of his youth, but more likely to becomePsychological hints of his later. Because I heard it a lot when I was a child, this kind of words lingered when I grew up, and it was hard to forget. This is actually because parents are overly concerned about casual words in childrenBut there are hidden dangers buried in my heart, which became the psychological suggestion and bondage of the child.

Sometimes parents feel like childrenDoing things too slowlywill urge them to infiltrate, but often find outEven if you urge your child, you won't listenThis is because every child has their own rhythm and accomplishes something when they willKeep doing it at your own pace。Some children are slower in doing things, but in the eyes of the family, it isHe dragged his feet, so blaming the child, this will actually lead to the phenomenon of caring and messing up.

Because he already has his own rhythm, but parentsA urge, his rhythm is out of order, he can't finish this, and at this time, the care of parents, justIt became a child's bondage。Maybe the parents just think that as long as I urge him, he can finish it quickly. But for accomplishing one thing to nuclear sparrow saidHaving your own rhythm is the most important thing, rather than the speed of the slow, for the child they are able to develop their own rhythm of things, which will keep them inSolve problems and deal with problems in the futureon, get a better solution.

Parental concern is sometimes for childrenIt is an act of imposition, because the child himself has his own ideas, has his own rhythm, he does not need parents to point out, or to point fingers. When parents take their childrenThese cares are not neededWhen imposed on him, this becomes a bondage that upsets the childThe rhythm is disrupted

Sometimes parents should care about their childrenLearn to point to point,That is, when a childShow impatienceWe should stop caring, because at this time it is already for him to careYesHindrance, is a bondage。It is normal to want children to develop good habits and educate them well, but we should also want toLearn to care for them in the right wayto educate them.

Because parental concern is not what the child wants, m is just the wishful thinking of the parents. And the way in which parents express their concern will make the child unbearable, and the child will feel that his spirit of doing simplicity is controlled and he cannot enjoy the freedom of being a human being.

Because children also have their own privacy space, and excessive parental discipline will make children feel pressured in their hearts, which is not conducive to the establishment of parent-child relationship.

Because parents are too concerned about their children, they can put a lot of pressure on them, so they may become a constraint on them.