Now in my second year of high school, it s hard to break up and fall out of love. What to do if you

I also just fell out of love, and some people say that the way to get out of a relationship is to start the next one, you are a good girl, because I am also thinking the same question as you, will you still meet a good guy? But you believe me, breaking up is lucky, followed by misfortune, because after all, we really loved, and he who loved us at that time was real, you must know that many people have never really loved it in their lives, unfortunately, it is not them who accompany us. But if you break up, it means that this person is not the one who can go to the end with you, and nothing else can be explained, and he cannot be denied or denied you, because you will definitely shine in the eyes of some people.

Finally, I will tell you that the men we meet are not perfect, not because there are no good men in this world, but because maybe the boys around you are still on the way to growing into good men, and what you see is only half-finished products, just like we can't be considered good women. So for now, it is to do your own thing, enrich your own connotation, calm down, and know that charming women have connotations, not showy ones, which you will understand later. My goal now is to prepare well for the graduate school entrance examination, travel to more places to see the world, go to the places I want to go, and be with my parents seriously and love them.

I knew that the person who would eventually accompany me all my life was waiting for me ahead, but he was very bad and would watch me make mistakes, and just watch, connived, spoiled, waiting for me to walk towards him.

I was also deeply hurt by the rejection of a crush in my sophomore year of high school, and even took a 90-day break from school for this, and when I came back, my grades plummeted, and then I learned more than two o'clock every day to catch it back, I want to tell you that everyone will have such a very uncomfortable period, cherish what you have, let time solve it, time can precipitate all problems, and add a point, don't fall behind in learning, don't do it at any time.

。。。Don't think so much, study hard, high school is to find fish in the pond, college is to find fish in the river, after entering the society is to find fish in the sea, there are so many varieties of fish, don't just look at the turtle in the pond, or wait for your excellence to find an excellent one in the society, now you are too young, since you have experienced it, put it in your heart, and then take it out when you have time in the future.

Oh, I'm also high 2, I have a crush on a girl for 1 year, I'm looking at high 3, the most important thing now is to start studying seriously, since you can find a boyfriend in high school 2, why worry about your charm, college entrance examination graduation, it's good to talk about a love without hindrance in college, there is no obstruction from teachers and parents, if you want to open these, just study hard, that man and you break up, you need to study hard, and prove how stupid his decision was with excellent results, cheer for yourself, I wish you success --- your studies and hope to help you.

A really awesome man is to identify a woman as a person, not to mess with flowers, not to hook up, refuse to seduce, refuse to be a junior, treat his daughter-in-law as a life, give happiness, give a sense of security, don't make his daughter-in-law sad, don't let her daughter-in-law worry, and the rest are pretending to be forced.

What you should do in the second year of high school is how to improve your own value, in the future, you can only dump others, only others can be good to you, and only you can be worthy of their pursuit. Girls don't have to worry about meeting better guys. It's disdain to look at guys who aren't good enough!

It's only a sophomore year of high school, and your wonderful life hasn't really started yet, don't worry. Losing a tree, there is a forest, there are countless good boys in the world, find another one that is good for you.

Learning is your own business, no matter what, you must study hard first to improve yourself, make yourself better, and good boys will be more likely to notice you. Come on, let this relationship become a beautiful memory of your life, let yourself grow and know how to cherish, don't think too much.

Taking a good look at yourself is the biggest punishment for him, and in the future you will be very proud to say, thank you for not wanting me, I will be so beautiful.

Breaking up is not an end, I hope that in the world, I wish you to find a boy who makes you happy.

Psychoanalysis: Some things you seem to accept, in fact, they are just diverted and ruined, when the night is quiet, those painful things will resurface, this is normal, everyone will encounter a major setback, thinking about how to solve it, how to avoid it happening again, repeated thinking will lead to the re-experience of the situation, you will wake up in the middle of the night, it means that this anxiety and the pain of intimacy separation has always been in the subconscious, and has not completely disappeared. It's emotionally speaking.

In addition, from the perspective of insomnia, too much attention to one's sleep, the inability to fall asleep has produced anxiety, this anxiety about sleep is a very important factor that causes anxiety, insomnia is not terrible, the fear is that you will not be able to sleep. So, first of all, face up to your sleep problem, face it, and face it, which means that you have to accept that you don't fall asleep to a certain extent, because you have just experienced a traumatic event, and most people will experience insomnia. Secondly, I suggest that you vent your dissatisfaction with this scumbag, pain and other emotions, you can find someone to talk to, exercise (exercise itself will help this Hui fall asleep in this situation), or even get drunk once, etc., this has a process of emotional catharsis release.

Finally, if the sleep problem is still difficult to solve, you can try to use a little sleep aid drug, such as zopiclone, etc., to take it for a short time, and then stop after the sleep adjustment has come, and then stop, which will not form dependence.

Psychoanalysis: Hi there!

I had a similar problem two days ago, so when I saw your troubles, I think that maybe after falling out of love, everyone's mentality will be affected to varying degrees, which is very normal.

And from your description, I can still feel the pain, contradictions and entanglements in your heart during this time, and the non-Zen people only make you feel bad, and your sleep is also affected. On the one hand, I feel that the other party is very "scum", and on the other hand, I am angry that I can't let go.

I have some feelings and thoughts on this that I would like to share with you. I think that in a relationship, in fact, it is a two-way street, not only you are serious, but the other party also needs to be invested. Therefore, both parties in the relationship need to take their own responsibilities, which is why a relationship is formed.

So, he needs to take his own responsibility in the relationship. He made a choice and chose to break up.

And what you need to bear is the loneliness, or rather the pain, after the relationship ends.

I hope you don't get scared of change and losing a relationship that hurts you, it hurts at first, but when you go through this pain, through these stages of sad feelings and self-doubt, your life will only get better!