Do you regret the fact that you didn t ask for custody of your children when you divorced?

I don't regret it, I'm on the verge of divorce now, maybe I won't have a suitable partner to remarry if I have a child, but the child is reluctant, I have a house, a salary, and I don't think it's difficult for the man to pay child support, even if the man regrets not giving child support in the future, I can still rely on myself, he has always said that mom as long as you don't want me, I agree with the rest, how can I bear to let go.

Because my mother is divorced, my mother-in-law has intervened in our marriage for more than 10 years, and the custody of the divorce is in the hands of others. As for the children, I will find a way, I will earn more money to buy a house, and then take back the custody of the children. My family was completely ruined in the hands of his mother and the people in his family, and I remembered that when I didn't marry him, I got engaged and had a child, and my mother said that the child was not his son's.

In the end, the child had a miscarriage, so he got married again! I was like a flower, so I was ruined in such a garbage family, and I endured them for more than 10 years after I got married. Now that he is divorced, I don't regret the child and him, because he can't occupy the child for a lifetime.

After the divorce, he was alone, and he couldn't afford to raise his own children. Although I feel sorry for the children, I will also do my best to visit them.

Domestic violence, leaving the house, asking for children and not letting them be seen, at that time, considering their own conditions, there was nothing, and there was not a penny on them. I didn't earn it with him, I went to see the children secretly, and now I have bought a house, and I plan to sue the court for custody. Will not remarry.

I'm asking for custody right now! If you don't, you'll definitely regret it! I just want my girl! No matter how hard the future may be!

Only when you are strong can you have the capital to negotiate, there is no mother in the world who does not love her children, and the real determination of a mother to that point, I think it must be a man and his in-laws who are heartbroken.

Divorced women are not happy, they can have children if they have a house and money, they have no house, no money and no job, don't suffer for children!

If a woman is financially independent after divorce, she can have child custody, if she does not have a house, her monthly income is less than 7,000, and the convenient economic conditions cannot be met, it is best not to have child custody, not only can not give the child happiness, but also will not be happy with the child in the later marriage!

Divorce I have always wanted custody of the child, after all, the child was raised by me alone all his life, she never left me, and now he doesn't let me see the child, every day I think of the child I will cry a lot......It's so unpleasant.

If I have the ability, I want to have children! If I don't have the ability, I don't want children! If you get divorced, you won't remarry!

I asked for custody. It's bitter but it's happy

I'm now hovering at the stage of whether to divorce or not, there is no mistress, he will mention divorce if we have a little trivial matter, I will definitely take the child away, and he may not want it either.

If I have the ability, I want to have children, and if I don't have the ability, I don't want children.

Due to the lack of ability of women and they want to have children, but due to economic reasons and the problem of child care is not solved, women are worse than men under the conditions of child rearing, and the guardianship can be vested in men. Here, it is necessary to make it clear whether we can and cannot fight for it. The former refers to the fact that the child's will is not so strong, so it is better to give it up to the woman.

A woman raising a child herself can have a big impact on a man's financial and the likelihood of remarrying. If you don't fight for it, it is possible to have access rights according to the agreement. The second is that children are needed, but the ability is insufficient.

In this case, choose Tao Guangyang, first strengthen your ability to bring the child with you, when you have a certain financial ability, or when the child is older and people don't need to take care of it all the time, the chance of divorce through litigation will be much greater. In any case, if you have a child, you have to stick to it, and things may get better after a while. I can feel that this mother is very cute.

I may not be able to meet my own conditions, but I still don't want to give up on my children. This is a mother's love for her child. Children will be happy if they have the love of their mothers.

Moreover, divorce is just a breakup between the husband and wife. It doesn't mean that the child doesn't have a mom or a dad. Divorce does not harm children.

Moms are not in a position to take their children now, and they will not hurt them. Because the child's father, grandfather, and grandmother also have true love for the child. What really hurts the children is that after the parents divorced, the two people attacked and blamed each other.

In this way, the child will have to choose the edge, and the child's heart will be tangled and painful. Therefore, if you want to divorce, you don't need to take children for the time being. You can go back regularly to visit your child and give him love.

Then the child still has a father and a mother.

And, if you don't attack each other, and the children learn from you, divorce if the marriage of two people is not suitable. But he will not lose his father or lose his mother. Give up custody for the time being, work hard to develop yourself, keep in touch with your children often, and fulfill your responsibilities as a mother.

When the time is ripe, file a complaint with the court to change the parenting relationship, and if your living conditions and ability to raise you exceed the other party's, and you catch the other party's shortcomings in the process of parenting, the judge will sentence you. Mother's love in the world is the greatest. Children are the flesh that falls from their mothers.

Fighting for custody of their children is the expectation of many divorced women. But after the divorce, I think it is better for the child to follow the one who is conducive to the child's growth. There are also women whose financial ability has decreased after divorce.

Some fathers are quite responsible, and they will also participate in the growth process of their children, and from time to time they will play the role of fathers and fulfill their obligations as fathers; Some fathers are busy, only giving money, accompanying or something, almost nothing; There is no lower limit for fathers who neither give love nor money, and let their children "fly freely".

You say that a single mother, if she has the last kind of father, is it a bit unlucky?

I did not obtain a detailed picture of the proportion of divorced families in China who live with their fathers or with their mothers, but as far as I can see in my own world, there are indeed more people who live with their fathers than with their mothers.

As for the proportion and number of mothers who make efforts to fight for custody, I do not know, but I can tell the subject with certainty that it is definitely not a pure ruthlessness not to have custody of the child.

1: In the current Chinese society, it is more difficult for women to remarry with children than it is for men to remarry with children.

2: The economic income and social status of men are generally higher than those of women.

In the current environment, men are still better than women in terms of material life.

However, with the development of society, women continue to participate in production activities and obtain high remuneration, and more and more women can raise their children independently, and no longer need men. It's just that not every woman can be so independent.

3: Men's strength and courage are more conducive to escorting children. (This is not a necessary condition, it can only be said to be a supplementary opinion, and the gentleness and carefulness of women are also conducive to the growth of children).

But it's not like you said, "I don't want custody of my children."

I wonder if your world is too narrow for you to see the phenomenon this way, and infer that the whole world is like this?

Actually, if you look at the outside world and perceive the farther future, many of your past views will be overturned.

A little off topic:

A few days ago, a colleague told me that his daughter was going to summer camp and had to pay a sum of money, and I said why didn't his father give it, and she said that after the divorce, his father would not care about it. I asked her why, and she said:

Just look at the last sentence, the rest of the information is irrelevant.

How could a child born to a mother who had worked so hard and risked her life give up ruthlessly.

Even if you love your children very much, you will also consider your own future and future, and even more importantly, who your child will follow, and you will have a better future and future.

Ignoring the actual situation of the individual, blindly leaving the children by their side, letting the children go to the worst schools, giving the children a very poor material environment, not letting the children go to the father's side, and following the mother who could have allowed the children to go to the best school and could give the children a superior environment is true love?

This kind of mother may feel that it is difficult for the affectionate mother to raise her child, and she does not have the ability to give the child a good living environment, so she simply reluctantly cuts her love and lets the child follow the father.

I think it may be because I don't feel that I have a certain ability to raise it, so I naturally won't fight for it.

I think there are many possibilities and reasons. It may be because mothers feel that carrying children will increase their burden, and there is also a possibility that they feel that carrying children will not give them a better life and do not want their children to suffer.

The financial ability is not good, and it is difficult to raise children.

Most of these people are very selfish and try to figure themselves out.

Legal analysis: According to Chinese law, the issue of child custody will only be discussed when the husband and wife divorce, so whether or not the custody of the child is obtained, it will not affect the divorce of both parties. In the event of a divorce, both parties can determine the custody of the children through the divorce agreement or by filing a lawsuit in the people's court.

The custody of the child is not determined for life at one time, and the custody can be changed.

Legal basis: Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 1076:Where both husband and wife divorce voluntarily, they shall sign a written divorce agreement and apply for divorce registration in person at the marriage registration authority. The divorce agreement shall clearly state the parties' expression of intent to divorce voluntarily and the consensus on matters such as child support, property, and debt handling.

Article 1079:Where one of the husband and wife requests a divorce, the relevant organization may conduct mediation or directly initiate divorce proceedings in the people's court. People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted. In any of the following circumstances, if mediation fails, a divorce shall be granted:

1) bigamy or cohabitation with another person;

2) Committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;

3) Having bad habits such as gambling and drug addiction that they have repeatedly taught and not changing;

4) Separated for two years due to emotional discord;

5) Other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.

Where one party is declared missing and the other party initiates divorce proceedings, the divorce shall be granted. Where, after a people's court has ruled that divorce is not permitted, the parties have been separated for one year, and one party initiates divorce proceedings again, the divorce shall be granted.

Article 1085:After divorce, where children are directly raised by one party, the other party shall bear part or all of the child support. The amount of the cost to be borne and the length of the period shall be agreed upon by both parties; If the agreement is not reached, the people's court shall make a judgment. The agreement or judgment provided for in the preceding paragraph does not prevent the child from making a reasonable demand to either parent in excess of the amount originally set forth in the agreement or judgment when necessary.

Article 1087:In the event of divorce, the joint property of the husband and wife shall be disposed of by mutual agreement; If an agreement is not reached, the people's court is to make a judgment based on the specific circumstances of the property and in accordance with the principle of taking care of the rights and interests of the children, the woman, and the innocent party. The rights and interests enjoyed by husbands or wives in the contracting and management of family land shall be protected in accordance with law.

OK. In terms of custody, in accordance with the principle that the maintenance of the parent is beneficial to the child's growth, the court will comprehensively consider the child's current living status, the working income and moral aspects of both husband and wife, and whether the child has been raised by one of the parents.

Children under the age of 2 are generally given custody to the mother, unless the woman is not suitable for support, and children over the age of 8 are advised to listen to the child. If there are two children, one child is raised by one person as a general rule.

1. Does not allowing the other party to see the child have an impact on custody?

Not allowing the other party to see the child has an impact on custody. In terms of custody, it is determined in accordance with the principle that the upbringing of one of the parents is beneficial to the child's development. When determining custody, the court will determine the child's current living situation, the father's or mother's work income and moral aspects, and whether the child has been raised by one of the parents before.

In addition, after the divorce of the husband and wife, the father or mother who has not obtained custody of the children has the right to visit the children, and the other party has the obligation to assist.

2. Will hitting the child affect the custody battle?

Spanking a child will affect the custody battle. When determining custody, the court will take into account the child's current living situation and moral aspects, the income of both spouses, and whether the child is being raised by one of the parents. After the divorce, the children who have not reached the age of two are directly raised by the mother.

If the parents of a two-year-old child do not reach a consensus on the issue of upbringing, the people's court will make a judgment based on the actual situation of both parties and in accordance with the principle of the best interests for the minor child.

Article 1084 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China provides that the relationship between parents and children shall not be extinguished by the divorce of the parents. After divorce, the children are still the children of both parents, regardless of whether they are raised directly by the father or mother. After divorce, parents still have the right and obligation to raise, educate and protect their children.

After the divorce, the children who are under the age of two or two are directly raised by the mother. For children who have reached the age of two, and the parents fail to reach an agreement on the issue of child support, the people's court is to make a judgment based on the specific circumstances of both parties and in accordance with the principle of the best interests of the minor child. Where children have reached the age of 8, their true wishes shall be respected.