Why do some good friends fade away slowly?

<>I think life is like a journey, and there are always people you meet along the way. Lu Xun once said that it is enough to have a confidant in life. This proves that people may have many kinds of friends in this life, but one is enough to really understand you and accompany you through this life, which shows that confidants are rare and can not be found.

Everyone's life is short and long, and they may experience three ups and downs, or they may be thirty years east and thirty years west of Hexi. A lover can't guarantee to be with you for a lifetime, let alone a friend. We make new friends at every stage, and we also lose some friends as we age and life circumstances change, which is normal.

Sometimes it's not necessarily because of something that the relationship is not good, maybe it's just because it's far away, there is less contact, and the contact is not diligent.

People's lives are full of variables, everyone has experienced it, the former good relationship classmates have now gone their separate ways, have gone to different cities to struggle, college classmates have disappeared after graduation, and former colleagues have long since lost their intersection with resignation and job hopping. Even the neighbors who get along with each other day and night have moved, and I don't know how they are doing. Even though social software is developing now, it is limited to adding a friend, looking at the dynamics, and occasionally liking it.

It feels hypocritical to even ask softly how you are doing, let alone have nothing to say.

The reality is like this, no matter how good it used to be, how much to get along with day and night, now there is no intersection, there will be friends at this moment in every time period, just like it is said on the Internet, not for eternity, but for what you once had, so if there are one or two people, no matter where you move, they will often find you to get together; No matter how long he doesn't contact, a ** can still wake him up late at night; Whether you are rich or poor, she is willing to listen to you and talk to you. Such a friend, cherish it, it's really rare!

I have a lot to say about my good friend slowly fading away. I've been listening to a song "Walking and Walking", and I feel that some of the lyrics are really well written, but I didn't expect it to be like this in reality.

I have a good friend, to be exact, I should have been a good friend, let's call her Shi. When everyone else was asleep in my sophomore year of high school, I stood in the corridor with a flashlight to look at the stars and moons, chatting and talking. At that time, we had a lot of similarities, we loved to read, Xue Zhiqian, loved to be alone, and had a longing for travel.

Almost every night, I would stand until the wee hours of the morning, and then I would be stung with countless bags. We joked to each other about "thirty years of professional mosquito breeding". The days of laughing and making fun together seem like yesterday.

But everything can change in an instant. At the beginning of the third year of high school, we suddenly stopped talking, and we didn't say hello when we saw it. It went on like this for a while, and I went to her QQ to leave a message below:

There's something I want to tell you. However, for various reasons, I didn't talk to her for a long time, and she didn't come to me on her own initiative. And then it's really faded.

Although the whole process is a bit inexplicable. Ah, maybe the EQ is too low. But I'm also at ease when I come, and I don't force it.

Because the relationship, whether it is family, friendship or love, is meaningless, and it is the same for overexerting too much.

Recently, a friend of mine told me about a distressing incident that happened to her. She went to work for a summer job with two people who were still on good terms, and the other two were in a relationship and worked in the same place. Because of this, she and the two of them gradually talked less.

Later, although the three of them worked in the same place, they did not leave together. I think in the end, their friendship will slowly fade.

In fact, good friends have faded, it may be a conflict, or there may be no reason. It's actually hard to sort it out. After all, there is no reason to talk about such a thing. So be it.

It is said that the years are ruthless, but in fact, people are also ruthless. Relationships need to be maintained slowly, and as we grow up, we will constantly come into contact with different people and things. With limited energy, it's impossible to keep in touch with every friend you think is good all the time.

And each stage of life is different, and the definition of a good friend is also different. When I was in elementary school, making friends may be pleasing to the eye, and I didn't think too much about it, but I made a special good friend from the fourth to the fifth grade, and I wrote letters to each other after I went to junior high school, and I thought that I would be good friends for the rest of my life. But gradually I lost contact, I also met more friends, there was no intersection with each other, and the relationship slowly faded.

In junior high school and high school, good friends become the same kind of people, or friends who have the same interests and hobbies, and can play together, but because of the difference in grades, they may be admitted to different schools, contact different people, and their concepts become different, and they rarely have time to get together.

And when you enter the society, you may have some good friends who drink and meat, of course, this kind of friends come and go quickly, and there is no need to be entangled and sad. In the workplace, you will also make a lot of good friends, these people may be colleagues, may be in the same industry or a group of people in different industries who are helpful to you, but with the improvement of your work ability, with the change of your circle, some people will naturally be out of our sight.

Actually, realistically speaking, your energy and money are limited, and you have to live. Sometimes it is natural to avoid the connection between some friends and choose to forget about them, so that you can have more energy for a better life. That's why I say that people are actually very ruthless and selfish.

There are always some special and good friends in our lives, but as we grow up, looking back, there are always some friends who slowly disappear from our side. I think it's all normal. We will slowly embark on different development tracks, and we will gradually understand each other less, and the common topics and joy of life will disappear.

In this way, the feelings will slowly fade away.

I had a very good friend in high school, and we ate together all day. There was a time when he lost his meal card, and we shared it. Basically, half of the semester is eaten together.

Later, he had a girlfriend, and he heard that the girl's family was very good, and on the eve of graduating from high school, he went to other provinces with his parents to take the college entrance examination. My friend didn't do well in the college entrance examination, and she heard that the girl had gone to Beijing, so she applied to a poor university in Beijing.

After graduation, I was not contacted during the summer vacation or university registration. After the military training at the university, he suddenly contacted me and said that he was in Beijing, but he did not go to school. said that he was going to do some kind of small business, doing ** kind in college, and he was still a little bit of money, so let me lend him a little bit and pay it back to me after a while.

Because on the eve of the holiday, I didn't have any money in my hand, so I earned him 200 yuan. Later, I found out after a while that he asked me if my good friends had borrowed money, and they were all people who played very well in our high school. One of the most friends borrowed 800 yuan from him, and that was in 2009, my friend's living expenses for two months.

After borrowing the money, this friend and all of us were no longer in touch.

This should be the strangest and most extreme of my good friends, slowly disappearing. After all, we slowly disappeared, but our mutual understanding was deepening little by little!

It's normal for good friends to fade slowly, for many reasons, because of time and space.

Most of the good friends of people are friends in junior high school or high school, and they have experienced the most difficult period of their lives together (hard I mean when they are under great academic pressure), at this time, everyone works together to be admitted to the ideal high school, and everyone has stayed together for a long time, and they understand each other very deeply, and their feelings are deep, and their lives at that time are very single and their feelings are simple.

Later, when I come to college, I have new roommates, new classmates, go to a new school, live a new life, I will meet more and more people, and the contact with good friends will gradually decrease, even if I keep in touch, there are many things that I can't fully understand if I am not in a school, so as I understand less, it may not be so close, of course, this does not necessarily affect the relationship. It's just that as the contact decreases, some people may show less concern or indifference to the problems or things of their best friends. After a long time, I will gradually stop contacting each other.

After finishing college work, everyone has to start their own lives, many times due to the different professions and people they are engaged in, many ideas are different, sometimes others ask you for approval, but you don't support her, she may not look for you, you will feel that you can't understand her. Then the relationship will slowly drift apart. In addition, the things you need to worry about are different, she is concerned about how to decorate, get married and buy a house, and you are concerned about going to play next year, when to change jobs this year, you find that you don't seem to be very interested in her topic, and you can't help her when she tells you, she doesn't understand what you worry about, and she doesn't understand each other's thoughts.

The difference arises. It's normal for feelings to fade due to differences in experiences and thoughts.

So, it's normal for good friends to fade because you know less about each other. Therefore, if you have the opportunity to communicate more with each other, you should keep in touch with each other.

1.Life changes: Over time, people's lives will change, work, living environment, family situation, etc., and these life changes may increase the distance between originally close friends.

2.Differences in values and hobbies: As people age, their interests and values may change, and if these changes lead to disagreements with friends, they are likely to distance each other from each other.

3.Reduced communication: Reduced communication due to busy life or moving to another city can lead to a weakened relationship.

4.Misunderstandings and contradictions: Misunderstandings, contradictions, and even quarrels can affect the relationship between two people and lead to estrangement from each other.

5.Poor management: Sometimes, if both parties do not manage and maintain each other's relationship well, it can also lead to estrangement from friends.

It is a common phenomenon for people to drift away from their former good friends, often due to a variety of reasons. If you feel that your relationship with a good friend has become apathetic, try to reach out, share your life, reconnect, or accept the change and try to make new friends and build a new social circle.

There are many possible reasons why friends are drifting apart, but here are some of the most common ones:

1.Life trajectories are separated: As people grow and develop, their life trends and goals will vary.

For example, if one party has a new job, a new family, they may move to another city or country. These changes can make it difficult to stay in close contact and ultimately alienate friendships.

2.Differences in values: People's interests, values, and attitudes may change over time. If two people's ideas start to diverge greatly, they may find it difficult to communicate and get along, and then drift apart.

3.Quarrels and grievances: Quarrels can break out between friends for various reasons, such as money, love, or some other issue. If these issues are not resolved, they may develop grievances and conflicts, and end up moving away from each other.

4.Lost contact: In today's era of social networking and silly characters, people can already contact each other anytime and anywhere.

However, sometimes people can be too busy or too mobile to respond to a friend's text message or ** in a timely manner. This loss of contact can lead to a drift of separation, even when they reconnect, they are no longer able to return to their former intimacy.

Here are some suggestions for maintaining friendships:

1.How to avoid alienation: Often, the best way to stay in touch is through face-to-face and regular communication.

Try to keep in touch and text or ** often to express your feelings. Even if you're not in the same place, you can stay connected by socializing, chatting, or booking a slot for each other altogether.

2.Embrace change: Friendships can be challenged as their lives and careers change. Sometimes we have to accept these changes, which means we can weaken our connection with certain people, either temporarily or for a long time.

3.Deal with conflict positively: When conflicts or grievances arise between friends, be proactive in dealing with them. Discuss issues and try to resolve differences so that your relationship is not alienated by trivial matters.

4.Be in tune with your surroundings: Making the right adjustments can bring us closer to our friends. Participating in activities together, organizing time, traveling together, etc., can all help maintain friendships and get to know each other better.

In conclusion, friendship requires constant attention and effort, and we need to take the time and energy to build and maintain our bonds in order to strengthen the friendship.