A woman chatting with a man after a divorce was gouged out by her ex husband, how do you view mascul

With the progress of society, the role consciousness of women is gradually awakening, and everyone increasingly feels that men respect and value women, but in this development process, there are still some men who have a strong sense of self and regard women as their own accessories and other patriarchal ideas, how should we look at this?

First of all, masculinity is a manifestation of lack of self-confidence or blind arrogance.

The more advanced the society, the more civilized people are, the more people respect each other, and the more equal men and women tend to be, which is a normal development trend. However, in real life, there are some men, because of their lack of confidence in their abilities, or think that they naively think that they are the king of heaven, and they need their female partners to obey them in everything, and then there are some restrictions on the personal freedom of their spouses or the imposition of a lot of unreasonable family treaties, etc., this kind of men who are not confident or blindly arrogant because of their own self-confidence, their performance is what everyone calls masculinism.

Second, masculinity is a manifestation of extreme individualism.

Between human beings, mutual concession and mutual understanding is always a virtue, but there is a kind of man, born I am the biggest, typical self-centered, without any ideological quality and personal constraints, in marriage, to the wife to drink around, in life, indifferent to the women around him or even disrespectful, this is extreme individualism and sexism, but also an external manifestation of masculinism.

Finally, if masculinism is allowed to develop into criminal acts such as domestic violence, it will inevitably lead to greater defects in the personality of individuals.

A lot of masculinism, at the beginning, may be just a primary manifestation of machismo, but later with the development of the degree, the escalation of the incident, and some will even develop into domestic violence, social crimes and other behaviors, just like the "Don't Talk to Strangers" staged a few years ago, the male protagonist in the play is a typical masculinity, and the divorced man actually gouged out his eyes and cut his tendons because his ex-wife chatted with others, and in the end, he went to the abyss of crime.

Masculinism, what era is this! It seems like a century ago!

We are living in the 21st century, but there are indeed many ideas in our bones that have not changed, such as male power, generally speaking, male power seems to be a common problem, because many men around us are very macho. Everyone thinks it's normal to have a little machismo, and if you don't have it, it's soft-boned, and there's no masculinity. But actually!

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But in this example, the husband and wife divorce and do not leave home, for whatever reason! If two people do not leave home, a long time will give people the illusion that the two people are just separated and are not divorced. Maybe everyone thinks this is strange, but there are strange things.

Xiao Y and Xiao X divorced three years after marriage because of emotional discord, but the house prices in first-tier cities do make people feel depressed. Therefore, after the divorce, the two discussed the divorce and did not leave home. Then the two of them started the mode of living under one roof. <>

Half a year later, Xiao Y brought back a woman, who was his girlfriend, but his ex-wife re-acquainted Xiao Y in the past six months, and decided to live a good life, but life is so bloody! Xiao Y is ready to start a new relationship again, but his ex-wife really hasn't adapted to it.

Going back to this example, we can see that the husband has not adapted to this life, and the wife has already been converted! <>

And the husband is completely macho thinking, and the wife is indeed suffering. This example gives you a piece of advice, after the divorce, the two people have broken off contact, don't break the connection! Don't live together at all, this will add a lot of unnecessary trouble.

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Recently, such news has appeared.

The divorce of the two was due to emotional discord, so it was decided to officially divorce, although it was divorced, but the two still lived together. However, one morning, the ex-husband saw his wife chatting with other men, and felt very angry, so he stabbed his ex-wife in the eyes and hands with a knife, and poured hot water on her, causing the ex-wife's eyes and hands to be damaged to varying degrees.

Although feminism is becoming more and more recognized, at the same time, masculinism still stands, and there are many similar news reports from time to time, which is really chilling. Take this case as an example, he is obviously divorced, but for his ex-husband, he still can't tell the boundary between him and his ex-wife, no matter what he does after the divorce, it doesn't matter anymore, and he still feels that his ex-wife's behavior is undoubtedly "provoking" and giving him a "green hat", so he takes an extreme way to support the "big man" in his heart.

The understanding of the four words "masculinism" simply means that there is a strong possessiveness and control in the heart, objectifying women, treating the other party as their own belongings, rather than seeing them as a thinking person, once the other party does something that does not meet their own requirements, this possessiveness and control will naturally run out, and even take extreme forms of violence like this news.

Regardless of the era, extreme masculinism must be rejected.

I don't think this is about "male rights" or "male rights", but the divorce between the two has not been dealt with.

First of all, since the two agreed to divorce because of emotional discord, they should have dealt with each other's relationship after the divorce. But isn't it strange that the husband and wife did not separate after the divorce, but still lived together?

What's even more strange is that the two divorced on March 12, and in the early morning of the 18th, the two actually quarreled because of their husband and wife life. I'll it, these two have divorced, but not only did they not live separately, but they still had to live as husband and wife. Are you sure your divorce wasn't a joke?

I think this woman is also to blame. Since you are divorced, then don't hurry up and separate. If it is because of financial problems, then the two should divide the property before the divorce.

Is it still thinking that you should go through the divorce procedures first, and then adapt to the man, and then find a suitable one, and if there is a suitable one, you will immediately kick the man and move out?

Of course, this man also has no grace, since he is divorced, don't pester the woman anymore. Maybe out of kindness, they still live with women and bear the living expenses together, but why do they have to fulfill their husband and wife obligations?

This incident makes us understand that divorce must be completely divorced, otherwise there may be life-threatening worries.

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I was shocked to see this news, the two divorced and still lived together for some reason, maybe they were used to it or it was because of other reasons, we don't know, but what this man did was terrible.

There were some conflicts when the two lived together after the divorce, and then the man found out that the woman was chatting with other men and gouged out the ex-wife's right eyeball, boiled water to burn the head and face and other body parts, and broke the hands and tendons, this is no longer a problem of masculinity, this whole thing is something that people with extremely distorted psychology do.

I don't think this man would do this kind of thing, and he may have a great tendency to violence, so it is inevitable that the two will divorce.

But there is one thing I don't understand, if this man's usual personality is extremely bad, why didn't this woman leave sooner if he was divorced, I don't know if it's because of the child, after all, I haven't seen the news. However, one thing is certain, that is, the divorce must be thorough and decisive, and the property division procedures must be completed as soon as possible.

If you have to say that this man is patriarchal, he must be an extremist, even after the divorce, he feels that his ex-wife is still his own private "belongings", which no one else can touch. So when a man sees his wife chatting with others, he will feel that he is green, and then vent this anger on his ex-wife, causing such serious consequences.

Recently, I have seen a lot of discussions about masculinism and feminism, and I think that although some people still have a certain bias in this regard, most people no longer have this kind of inequality, egalitarianism is the trend of the times, and mutual respect can lead to a more harmonious life.

Due to the discord between the husband and wife, Wang and Song officially divorced on March 12 this year, and they still live in a jointly rented house after the divorce. In the early morning of March 18, Wang and Song had a conflict over their married life, Wang found that Song was chatting with other men, Wang was angry, and then stabbed Song's eyes and hands with a knife, and poured boiling water on Song's body, causing Song's eyes to be damaged, his hands were scratched, and he was burned to varying degrees.

The nature of this matter is very bad, it has constituted a criminal offense, the parties are not only caused by the patriarchal mentality, no matter how the parties get along, such a vicious incident occurs after the divorce, it can also be seen that China has been the epitome of a patriarchal society for thousands of years, women are not independent existence, they will be attached to their parents when they are young, and they will be attached to men when they grow up, in the eyes of masculinists, women are an item attached to themselves, and if they marry themselves, they will always belong to themselves, There are often such cases in life, although none of them are as tragic as in this case, but life is also very hard.

After Xiao S married her husband, her in-law's family treated her as a free laborer, she had to cook when she was nine months pregnant, and took care of their family with a big belly, in their eyes, Xiao S took care of them as a responsibility and obligation, In fact, people with such a concept will not think about how to get along normally.

If you meet such a person, you should learn how to protect yourself, many friends will say that it is possible to solve the problem through communication, in fact, as a communication coach, I hope that after you meet such a person, you will first learn how to protect yourself, the transformation of people's consciousness and thinking is not so simple, especially if you find such a husband, can not get rid of the influence of his growth environment (original family, parents), it is not easy to change.

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