What do you think is the most unsafe place for women?

I think the most unsafe place is when girls walk alone at night, and they go clubbing in nightclubs or bars.

When night falls, a corner where you can't see your fingers is dangerous! Don't dress revealingly, don't walk on unlit paths, be sure to walk in a group, and be sure to go home before half past nine in the evening. Places with only strangers, or a lot of strangers, are not safe.

One level deeper, unfamiliar places are not safe. Again, a little deeper, a strange and remote place is even more unsafe. A sense of security is familiar and trusting, vice versa, insecurity, and so on.

The most unsafe are the small remote villages, where there is no light, and it is very dangerous to pass by alone at night.

The most unsafe place for women is not in the streets and alleys, not in inaccessible places, but at home. Nowadays, the frequent occurrence of many domestic violence incidents has really hurt many girls.

I think the most unsafe place is in the dark alleys at night, so when girls go home alone at night, try to avoid these places and go to some well-lit avenues.

I think the most unsafe place for girls is walking alone on the road at night, which feels very unsafe.

I think it's nightclubs, bars and other places that are the most unsafe, and if you don't say it, you will encounter some kind of ruffians and hooligans.

The most unsafe place is the human heart, and what we have to do is to maintain a sense of awe and have more eyes. As for how to do it, I won't go into details, refer to Brother Lang's "Demon Universe" series. The Nightkin is an expert at this.

It's not safe when you're alone, pay attention to your surroundings when dining out, don't accept invitations from strangers or give you tea and drinks, and call the police in time when you encounter bad guys!

From a safety point of view, girls try to avoid contact with strangers alone, don't walk alone at night, don't dress revealingly, and don't show their wealth! From the perspective of work, if you want to enter a regular company, you must find a job that you like, from the perspective of doing things, do not associate with three or four people, often contact your family and be timed!

Driving outside, or walking across the road alone, be sure not to answer the call** or keep looking at your mobile phone, it's a big thing, it's not too late to look at it again when you get to a safe area, this is strictly observed by discipline, and it doesn't hurt you.

Once I came back late from work, passing by a relatively remote path, at this time a man came over, dragged me into the woods, I struggled while calling for help, at this moment a few people came, maybe just heard my call for help, the gangsters scared away, leaving me in a mess of horror. In the future, I will never dare to go to a remote place alone, thanks to a few well-wishers, it was you who saved me!

As a woman, have you ever felt unsafe?

Yes, especially in the workplace. Recently, the company laid off five female students in one department, and three were going to be laid off.

Working women generally have a sense of insecurity, their psychological tolerance is relatively poor, and there is a sense of precariousness. At the same time, long-term hard work will make them feel physically and mentally exhausted and bored. If this is corrected in the long run, it will lead to their psychological imbalance, and then the psychological pressure will become more and more great.

Many women want to pursue "work-life balance", which is actually caused by a lack of security

One is the sense of economic security, and the fear that my main energy is to take care of my family and miss my career. Get up early every day, go home and have to do housework, take care of the children, but as a result, he is regarded as a person who has no income and depends on a man.

The other is psychological insecurity, fear of being criticized by others, or self-affirmation only when you are constantly recognized and praised. Therefore, I hope to control my life by controlling my own behavior, and one manifestation is perfectionism, hoping that I can be comprehensive and become a delicate working mother who "works and lives well"; Another manifestation is avoidance.

This psychological insecurity has created two groups of women: one group is looking for a way to become a sophisticated working mother who "works and lives well" every day; One group is a group of single girls who are afraid of marriage and only think about how to work hard and how to make money every day.

If the problem of insecurity is solved, I believe that the problems of many women in the workplace will change, instead of being trapped in a state of frustration that they want both and fail to satisfy themselves for a long time.

The confidence generated by the correct recognition of self-worth is the root of the problem. When we regret that we have eliminated our economic and psychological insecurities, we can only make our own choices after seeing what we really want in our hearts.

This choice of harmony between the inside and the outside is more worth pursuing than the kind of delicacy that seems perfect on the surface.

Past experiences: Women may feel insecure because of past hurts or disappointments. For example, experiences such as being betrayed by a boyfriend, neglected by family members, and being abused can lead to fear and distrust of relationships and intimacy.

Socio-cultural factors: Socio-cultural factors may also influence women's sense of security. For example, traditional gender roles and societal expectations may lead to the need for women to prove their worth and attractiveness, leading them to feel uneasy about their appearance, intelligence, and emotional state.

Personal personality traits: Women's personality traits can also contribute to their insecurity. For example, being overly sensitive, emotional, self-doubting, or overly dependent on others can make women feel unsafe.

Physiological factors: A woman's menstrual cycle and hormone levels may also affect their mood and sense of security. For example, physiological changes such as menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause may cause mood swings and increased anxiety in women.

In conclusion, women's insecurities** are complex and diverse, and can be the result of a combination of factors. If you or a woman close to you is feeling insecure, it is advisable to seek professional help to understand the specific cause and get appropriate support.

A woman's insecurity comes from her family of origin.

In the book Family of Origin, it is said that our attachment relationship determines our adult relationships, and if we grow up in a loving environment, then when we grow up, we will be more mentally healthy, and then we will not be insecure in general. But once we grow up in an avoidant family, especially in an environment of parental indifference and domestic violence, then children will have insecurities from an early age, and this insecurity may even accompany them for life.

This is what we often say that girls should be rich, and only when a girl has experienced an environment that is tolerated by love and grows up, then she will have a higher degree of trust in the crowd in the future, and will present a better benign interaction in the exalted intimate relationship. On the other hand, if a child grows up in an indifferent family, Yuno will either fall into low self-esteem or be hostile if he does not get attention. On the other hand, women's insecurity comes from lack of economic independence.

Many people tend to underestimate the importance of financial independence, which is very important for women's self-esteem and security.

Women's insecurities come from? Her husband from her is not good enough and considerate enough to her.

Biological instincts. It's the same with boys, maybe the type of pressure they are under is different. Therefore, strong women are forced by life, and the times create heroes, and there is some truth when you think about it carefully. However, self-improvement can be solved.

As a woman, the moment that makes me feel insecure is mainly reflected in the fact that when some parents do not agree with our way of educating students, they often use verbal violence or threats against us.

Because as a people's teacher, when a student makes a mistake and criticizes it to no avail, we will use some disciplinary means, such as punishing him for writing homework or punishing him for reading aloud, to punish the student, hoping that he can reform himself, but some parents often do not understand the painstaking efforts of our teachers at this time, and some even use verbal threats or intimidation to threaten our teachers, which will make me feel that as a female teacher, safety is threatened.

I remember a year ago, when I was still working in a kindergarten classroom, there was a classmate in the class who often made trouble in class, and he didn't listen to criticism several times, so in order to punish him and rectify classroom discipline, I punished him for going to the podium to read the text aloud to us. The next morning, his parents ran directly to the classroom in a rage and threatened me: If I punish the child again next time, I will directly call someone to clean me up, so I immediately feel that my safety has been seriously threatened, so I can only report this situation to the school leader, let the school leader make an appointment with the parents to communicate in person, and finally, under the mediation of the school leader, let the student change to another class.

Therefore, as a female teacher, the teacher's fable was originally intended to educate the student, so that he would not be so naughty, but many parents did not understand it, and used this language or drinking means to target me, which made me feel really unsafe, so I personally feel that in order to maintain my own safety, and at the same time, in order to avoid the crack, this contradiction intensifies, and it is best for students to violate discipline in the classroom, teachers, it is best to report to parents to let parents go home to educate themselves, so that it may be better.

As a woman, the moment that makes me feel insecure is mainly reflected in the fact that when some parents do not agree with our way of educating students, they often use verbal violence or threats against us.

Because as a people's teacher, when a student makes a mistake and criticizes it to no avail, we will use some disciplinary means, such as punishing him for writing homework or punishing him for reading aloud, to punish the student, hoping that he can reform himself, but some parents often do not understand the painstaking efforts of our teachers at this time, and some even use verbal threats or intimidation to threaten our teachers, which will make me feel that as a female teacher, safety is threatened.

I remember a year ago, when I was still working in a kindergarten classroom, there was a classmate in the class who often made trouble in class, and he didn't listen to criticism several times, so in order to punish him and rectify classroom discipline, I punished him for going to the podium to read the text aloud to us. The next morning, his parents ran directly to the classroom in a rage and threatened me: If I punish the child again next time, I will directly call someone to clean me up, so I immediately feel that my safety has been seriously threatened, so I can only report this situation to the school leader, let the school leader make an appointment with the parents to communicate in person, and finally, under the mediation of the school leader, let the student change to another class.

Therefore, as a female teacher, the teacher's fable was originally intended to educate the student, so that he would not be so naughty, but many parents did not understand it, and used this language or drinking means to target me, which made me feel really unsafe, so I personally feel that in order to maintain my own safety, and at the same time, in order to avoid the crack, this contradiction intensifies, and it is best for students to violate discipline in the classroom, teachers, it is best to report to parents to let parents go home to educate themselves, so that it may be better.

What is security?

A sense of security is something that we all crave, but once you get it, it becomes invisible, and it becomes something that prevents you from gaining a sense of self-worth and starts to drain your energy buildup. ”

When we don't feel secure, we all want to feel safe.

However, when you trust and indulge in security, it may be the last knife that kills you.

has been a housewife for many years, dedicated to taking care of the children and the family, and when the children grow up, the husband says that he wants to divorce;

To make a best-selling product, sell more and earn more, so keep expanding the scale, and then sell and earn, suddenly one day, the product can not be sold, and the company is bankrupt due to the rupture of the capital chain;

The child has always listened to his parents, and his grades are good, and he never worries about it, but when he reaches the third year of junior high school, he suddenly says that he doesn't want to go to school;

In the past few years, the housing prices in Beijing have been **, repeatedly hitting new highs, and at the beginning of 17 years, Sen Xiang finally couldn't help but invest in a set, waiting for the price to rise. Who knew that it had encountered the regulation of the property market, and now it is almost halved;

We always over-trust our inner security. What you don't know is that any unexpected event in your life is enough to upend everything in your life.

There's a lot of stuff like that....

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In this day and age, it is absurd to pin hopes on stability, security, and immutability.

In the psychology of maternal and infant education, we often pass on such a truth to baby mothers:

Maintaining a moderate level of anxiety is good for raising children. ”

As an early mother, she has a natural motherhood to protect her children. This anxiety can make the mother stronger, so that she can overcome many troubles in life and let the child grow better. ”

On the other hand, the stoic character that the mother slowly develops in the process of raising her children will also play an exemplary role in the development of the child's character in the future.

Always remember that teaching by example is better than words.

In real life, I see a lot of rich people, most of whom are not as secure as ordinary people. For the middle class with a certain amount of savings, anxiety is a common phenomenon, and life is full of all kinds of fears:

Afraid of layoffs

Fear of asset depreciation

I'm afraid of food problems

I am afraid of political instability

Afraid that the child will lose at the starting line.

How fragile is it to carry so much "fear", and how can you live with a normal state of mind? Not to mention enjoying life.

Remember, we are chasing security, and this is the right direction, but never indulge in gaining and enjoying it. Because you don't know when the next moment of risk will come.