How do you deal with your own sluggishness in the world?

You first ask for 3 days off, let them get used to the taste of not you, after 3 days, say that you are in a bad mood, others call you, you can pretend not to hear, slow to react, you say that you are in a bad mood, do not want to help him do anything, sorry. Lunch, aggrieved yourself, eat instant noodles for a few days, if you want to cook, take an account book and put it, just say, everyone is sometimes busy, I can help you cook, but everyone pays for the dishes together, there is an account book, if anyone is not at ease, you can burn your own food. It's not bad to say this when you're in a bad mood, now people just have to inch in, you are good to him, he thinks it should be, and he still says you're stupid behind his back, you can do whatever you want, you make a contribution, take a share of money, and their affairs have nothing to do with you.

When they ask you to do something for them, you jokingly say, "Why?" I'm your maid, huh?

How much do you pay me? Or do you want me to eat seafood? Rub their sharpness.

In short, when others always use you for nothing, you just jokingly and semi-refuse. Or wait for me to work on it when I'm free, and then I forget about it. Don't take them seriously and it's 0k.

I don't think it's worth a dime in their eyes, and now who doesn't want to work less and get more money?

1.Stand in the other party's position and think about it, compare your heart to your heart, and communicate in a warm, respectful, and understanding way.

2.Understand communication barriers and try to break them down as much as possible.

3.You have to be willing to communicate with others, listen with an open heart, and never make value judgments immediately, but it is best to imagine from the other person's position and point of view.

4.Be a good listener, use our hearts and minds to listen to the other person's thoughts and feelings, not just the literal ones. And then be honest with each other, what did we hear? What kind of feelings and thoughts do you have?

5.Being empathetic, we don't necessarily agree with others who disagree with us, but if we understand others, we will be happy ourselves.

6.Understanding yourself better and knowing what to say is also one of the skills you can use to maintain good relationships with others.

7.Be good at handling your emotions and don't let bad emotions affect your relationship with the people around you. I think if you can do the above things, you can't have a bad relationship!

First of all, you must be confident, you are not worse than others at all, and be a person with personality. Refute and reject other people's unreasonable demands, and don't pay attention to what others think and think. As long as you're not wrong. The goodness of people in this world will be expected to be negative, don't let yourself be wronged.

with blunt braking. Respond to all changes with the same, take the impossible as the law, and win without a move.

In fact, there is no need to be inferior, all the great achievements in history have been slow to react by half a beat.

This way you have enough time to test yourself and others.

It's not within your scope that you can refuse beforehand, of course it's okay to help, but your other colleague is the tone of command.

I was speechless. Next time Reject it outright.

2.On the issue of food.

As long as there is food, you should pay for food.

Only by having a target can you be more left and right ......

I also feel this way, I feel that society is really hypocritical, so I have been a housegirl... Hey, take your time, I hope you can be happy.

There are too many people in life who don't understand the world, so what are the manifestations of people who don't understand the world? The teachers of Yang Qin Eloquence Training Center summarized the following points:

To be strong here actually means "to die to save face and live to suffer", this kind of person habitually looks down on some people who are stronger than him, commonly known as admitting that a person is better than you, is it so difficult? If there are people around him who are stronger than him, then he will think that he does not rely on anyone, and relies on his own hands to prove that he is strong. To give you a very simple example, if a friend suddenly says that he wants to invite you to dinner, you may think in your heart that he is here to laugh at me, that he is here to help me, and that I have to earn my own money to eat and support myself.

In fact, as a normal person, it is normal for a friend to propose to invite you to dinner together, but people who don't understand human feelings are not grateful, and they still have resentment and suspicion in their hearts.

In fact, a person who has been strong for a long time is often prone to become conceited in his heart, because he always wants to be the strongest among the people around him, maybe in his eyes, the people around him need to be inferior to him in order for him to be happy. It is difficult for this kind of person to listen to the advice of his friends, and the whole person feels very arrogant, they regard themselves as high-minded, and they will look at things they are not capable of doing with disdain.

A person who doesn't understand the world of human feelings is easy to be jealous, because he is very sensitive, for a very simple example, a friend takes out a newly bought mobile phone in front of you and says that the phone is very good-looking, has many functions and so on, and may feel in this kind of person in his heart "what is great, what is there to show off".

Some people don't know how to be sophisticated, and finally don't know how to communicate in life, so there is an inferiority complex in the heart, when he sees that his friends around him are doing well, there are many friends, and his spare time life is very active, he will become depressed, unhappy, and inferior in his heart. In fact, these people need to change through their own efforts, instead of complaining and blaming others for everything.

There are more sleek people. Pebbles-like. There are also more upright people. Speaking and doing things with a clear point of view, principled, positional, dare to speak the truth, have a momentum, but also easy to make mistakes, easy to keep pigtails, easy to offend people. There are people here who are sophisticated.

The children of relatives get married and go to the ceremony. You go with two hundred, and I follow two hundred. You follow the two thousand, and I will follow the two thousand.

The host was satisfied. If there is a gap, people who do not follow are often easy to talk about and say that they don't understand the world. A friend has done you a favor, but if he is in trouble, you are watching from the sidelines, which is also a favor.

It's easy to say a little thing, but it's just a bean soup. Especially for some major events related to a person's life, you have taken great pains and helped a lot, but the person being helped is unaware of it, and you don't mention the word favor at all, what is this called? This is called great grace to feed the enemy.

The neighbor Wang Ma took a few chili peppers, or cowpeas or something, and came to the house from time to time to sit and talk. This is actually a human favor. Neighbors often walk around each other.

To be honest, I don't understand the human world, but I know gratitude and the emotions of taking care of others.

And there is such a girl next to me, let's call it Friend A.

Once, a friend invited me to drink milk tea, and everyone was very happy to drink it. On the way back, I casually mentioned that I don't know when I will have the opportunity to go back next time. At this time, friend A told me with her expression: "Do you want to go back to this?"

Another time, a teacher invited everyone to dinner. More than a dozen people came, and the teacher invited a relatively remote place. After arriving at the place, friend A said, how did the teacher invite such a bad place. I was really speechless when I heard that.

One time it seemed like three people were chatting together or something, and another friend joked that there was something in his mouth. At this time, friend A answered: It's okay, I've seen people with smellier mouths than yours. I was stunned to hear this sentence next to me.

The above examples are not the most bizarre, mainly the most bizarre ones are not easy to say.

At first, I was very confused, I think my three views tell me that others should repay me for their kindness, and I should be grateful for the meals they invited, and don't make impolite jokes at will. I once tried to share my thoughts with A, only to find out later that I was wrong. I was wrong not to put myself in the first place and change others at will.

I'm not qualified to be a savior.

So much so that now I don't even know how to get along with A.

People who don't understand the world or don't know much about the world; Either they are mavericks, living in their own world, and are reluctant to deal with others. Children and young people lack social experience and are mostly ignorant of the world. Adults don't understand the world, and it is related to their own values, for example, some people think that dealing with others has a little bit of a feeling of bending down to please.

But no matter what, there is no right or wrong thing about human feelings, and it is always good to understand a little human feelings.

If you don't understand human feelings, you will be selfish, don't understand human feelings, and only care about your own happiness.

In real life, such people are common, no matter what others say, he has to interject, and he holds the opposite point of view from the other party, without doing so, he doesn't know how to turn at all, no matter what the occasion, no matter who he talks to, no matter how serious the consequences of his words will be, he often goes straight when he speaks, and he can say whatever he wants, and as a result, he is easy to offend others unintentionally.

People are more selfish and never think about others. We don't treat everyone equally. A little snobbish. I don't want to help others, and I always want to ask for resources from others. There is no politeness and no etiquette in life.

To put it bluntly, it is low emotional intelligence! I don't know how to communicate with people with the right words! Always hurt people with your mouth and don't save face for others!

Only then will we be able to face life's toughest tribulations without losing faith in the future. There is a good saying: "When you don't have something to rely on, you can better protect yourself." "There is no need for loneliness for no reason in the world, and the Qiang Shejing altar sacrifice is enough for the Song Dynasty.

The so-called sophistication of human feelings, it seems that the person who asked the question has a great opinion on the so-called sophistication of human feelings. In my eyes, the so-called sophistication of human feelings is to say the right things at the right time and do the right things, and to put it even more unpleasantly, you must cater to the things and people you are about to face, and sometimes even abandon your certain rules of life or something.

The so-called sophistication of human feelings requires you to be dusty in many things, and do some things that you don't like. In my opinion, it is divided into several parts.

Next, I will first talk about a real human sophistication, that is, some things you need to do when you face your relatives and friends, which is the most basic requirement for you as a person.

Because when you face your relatives and friends, you must have enough respect for them and so on. Also, I feel that your relatives and friends are no one else, and you don't need to pretend what kind of person you are, as long as you are yourself.

But then, because in front of our relatives and friends, it may be that you think they are acquaintances or something, so you don't have any need to treat them well. But I feel that this is the case, that is, because you are the closest people, you should be a better version of yourself by the side of these people.

You should also face them better and more respectfully, which is the so-called human affection about relatives. Because when you choose to hurt the hearts of your relatives and friends, there is really no way to make amends. Therefore, it is important to know that in such a situation, it is really important to be sophisticated.

The second is that you should face such a situation as a person who has entered the society. At this time, you can't be asked to be completely yourself, because when you say the wrong thing or something, because you really don't have any relationship with others, so people don't have any ability to tolerate you.

Therefore, at this time, you need to think carefully about what you do or what you say. At this time, you can put yourself in a lower position, and only then can you make the right choice. Especially when you are working, it is really a key part of learning to be sophisticated, and only when you are at work can you have a better performance.