The family is urging to get married. But if you don t want to tie the knot, what should I do?

I think that if you don't like a person, and your family urges you to say that you are not young and get married quickly, then you still have to stick to your own ideas and not get married! Think about it, if you marry someone you don't like, even if you get married, it's not easy to get along, it's hard to get along in all aspects of your personality, you don't like each other, and you don't know how to get along when you get married. In case there is really no way to get by, it's okay if you don't have a child, just leave, but what if you have a child?

When you leave, adults can find another life and live another life, but have you ever thought about how much your marriage has an impact on your children, you have to get along with your stepmother if you have a father, and if you have a mother, you have to get along with your stepfather, especially when the child has reached the rebellious period, it is even more difficult to get along with the stepparents. It has a shadow on all aspects of a child's growth, and it will even affect it for a lifetime. If you find someone you like to marry together, and she likes you too, then the two of them will cherish it and live a good life, and they will cherish their future life and cherish the road they have walked together.

In fact, marriage is your own business, your parents can't accompany you for a lifetime, they will grow old, and the object of your marriage is to spend a lifetime with you, marriage should be carefully chosen, you can't get married for the sake of getting married, as you said, you don't want to hurt your family, I don't think it's called hurting your family, you can talk to them about your thoughts and try to convince them. It's hard to live without feelings. In a word:

Marriage is a lifelong thing, don't marry someone you don't like because of a momentary impulse or a family urge, that will be a fire pit, do you still want to jump into it?

In fact, you can enlighten your family, and in this case, you should also find the person in your heart as soon as possible. Then you can be liberated.

I was urged to marry by my family, but I don't want to get married now. We can tell our parents that we are not ready and have not met the right person, or we can tell our family about the actual situation so that they know their true attitudes and thoughts about marriage.

If an enlightened parent is able to understand all his thoughts. Of course, as the age increases, the situation of urging marriage at home will become more and more serious, trying to keep the beauty of being single all the time, but. As everyone knows, the family's urging to marry will also become a burden in life.

Therefore, it is also a right choice to meet the right person to enter the palace of marriage. After all, in the eyes of parents, walking the path that most people have walked is the behavior that a normal person should have.

Unless your parents are very open-minded and understand all your thoughts, urging you to marry may be with you all the time. From their point of view, raising children seems to have completed most of their tasks, but the children's marriage problems are also the most important in their hearts. The most important thing, when they want to change the status quo, can only be achieved by urging marriage.

At this time, we don't have to be too disgusted with this behavior of our parents, empathize, understand their positions and ideas, and at the same time express our true feelings in our hearts, understand each other, and support each other.

But we don't want to get married, and we must not force ourselves because of the urging of our parents, which is respect for others and irresponsible for ourselves. Marriage requires anticipation and courage, yearning and patience, and no marriage will be happy without the foundation of love. Nor can we marry for the sake of marriage, which is sacred and inviolable.

Even if our parents are in a hurry, we must stick to our hearts, and love and marriage cannot be compromised.

It can be said that work is the priority. Nowadays, young people's lives are under great pressure, and in the face of urging marriage, they say that their careers have not been successful, so they will work hard for a few years.

You can directly say that you don't want to get married in your life, and you will meet your own destined person in the future, if there are some unreliable feelings at this time, you will get divorced after getting married.

You can tell your family that now you just want to have a career, you want to make a difference in your career, and you don't want to get married yet.

<> blind date is only an effective solution to the problem of singleness, and it may not necessarily solve the problem of singleness. Feelings are two-sided, not commodities that can't be bought or sold. Only a good relationship can be maintained.

In fact, I believe in a saying called long-term love. In that case, I will do it.

Different ages have different ideas, when I was in my 20s, my family kept urging me to go on a blind date, but at that time, I was thinking about starting a business and thinking about tossing my own career. So many times it is difficult to communicate with my parents, they want me to live a stable life, but young people always have dreams. Of course, now that I have failed, I have found that what my parents said was right, and I regretted not listening to my parents.

If I had gone to work in the bank safely and securely, I would not be so depressed now, with an unstable job and almost zero savings. The blind date is old again, and all kinds of people are disliked, I don't regret it.

Try to communicate with your parents and talk about your thoughts. Parents are just anxious about you, and some things are not stepped on the time node, and it will be difficult to miss them. You can communicate more with your parents and say what you think, so that the family will understand you more, urging marriage is their attitude, at least you have to give them the attitude that you want to get married, but you haven't found the right person, you can talk to them about your feelings, I often talk to my parents about the feelings of blind date girls, many parents can also understand, if not, change to the next one to continue the blind date.

When I was young, I always felt that I was a character and always wanted to do something big. When you are 30 years old, you find that you are just an ordinary person, and when you begin to accept reality, you find that you are really happy to have girls who like you. Try to change your mind, I believe that I will be able to love over time.

Let go of your own requirements, try to communicate with each other more, and try to cultivate feelings between two people, and good feelings are run-in. What is so perfect that all kinds of things that satisfy you at the beginning. Try to change your mind and try to step on the time node of your life, what age you should do things.

For example, I'm in my 30s now, and I want to find a random one to marry, but no one cares. You're already very happy now that you have a girl who cares about you, don't waste the opportunity.

Marriage is different from falling in love, marriage is a lifelong thing, and there are many things to consider. If you are urging marriage at home, you can tell your family that you are so young that you will have more contact with girls for a period of time. Slowly find more common interests and hobbies, and try to develop in the bright side.

If the two of them really can't get along, then they can only be replaced by the next one. After all, there is still a long time in a lifetime, and it will be more interesting to find someone who is really compatible with you to spend the rest of your life with. Otherwise, you can only be the same as the older generation, because of the responsibility of the family, the two people can barely get together, and life seems to be able to live.

If you don't want to get married, don't get married, there are not so many obligations in life, marriage is not a process that must be experienced in life, as long as you don't want to get married, then you don't get married, you have the right to choose independently, don't give them the right to choose because they are your family.

In fact, you can explain to your parents what you think now and your plans for the future, and generally parents will respect your decision, but if you say that you don't want to get married in your life, many parents may not be able to accept it.

I think you should seriously consider whether you are suitable for marriage, if you still resist marriage after weighing the pros and cons, then decisively tell yourself that you don't need to get married in your life.

Since the family is urging you, you can also promise them, and then slowly adjust your mentality to see if you can adjust it well and find a suitable person to marry. If you plan to be single for the rest of your life, you can also slowly communicate with your family, saying that you have no plans to get married, and it is good to live alone, and let them take over.

You can find a fake boyfriend or fake girlfriend to fool your parents, and then say that the two of you still need to get along and have no plans to get married for the time being.