Why don t young people nowadays want to get married?

The biggest reason is that the financial burden is too heavy, and if you don't get married, one person will be fed, and the whole family will not be hungry. Once you get married, you have a car, a house, a ring, and you have to raise children, and the cost is getting higher and higher.

Why are young people now increasingly reluctant to get married? Is life too stressful or not meeting someone like you've been working with for a lifetime?

It's stressful! The pace of life is so fast! Prices are so high! And then there are the young people of today! There is a common problem to compare yourself! Hehe!

Not wanting to get married is not something abnormal.

After all, who wants to enter into marriage early, although it will be lonely if you are alone, but you can make up for the gap by raising cats and dogs. But if there may be some contradictions between two people, for example, the other person does not agree to buy something, because both of your possessions are tied together, and he may feel that what you are buying is not very necessary. Therefore, there may be a long quarrel.

Nowadays, many people do not want to get married, and for men, marriage means starting a family, and with it there will be pressure of bride price. For the woman, it is necessary to prove that she has another home, and has more parents who are not related by blood, and she is a free nanny for other people's families. is also responsible for having children and passing them on to the next generation, and the damage caused by having children is irreversible.

So I personally don't think it's unusual to not want to get married.

There may be many reasons why young people nowadays are reluctant to have weddings. On the one hand, the definition and requirements of modern young people for weddings have changed. They pay more attention to the practicality and personalization of weddings, and no longer use weddings as a way to show off their status and status, but pay more attention to the celebratory meaning and emotional value of weddings.

On the other hand, modern society is stressful, and young people are anxious and uneasy about their future, and they may be more willing to devote their time and energy to work and study rather than having a wedding and preparing for it.

In addition, a lot of time and effort needs to be invested in the wedding preparation process, including wedding venue selection, wedding costume selection, wedding photography sedan chair, wedding videographer, wedding emcee, etc., which require a lot of money and effort. For young people, they may be more willing to devote this time and energy to more meaningful things.

Finally, young people's attitudes towards weddings are changing. Some young people may prefer non-traditional forms of weddings, such as traveling marriages, family reunion marriages, etc., which do not require much material input and can also make young people feel more freedom and happiness.

In short, there are many reasons why young people are reluctant to hold weddings, but with the changes in society and the change of young people's values, the traditional wedding form is gradually changing.

So Qi Huai is a fan of young people, so we don't want to get married, or because there are too many choices, we have all kinds of ways to spend a long time, find our own real fun.

I think young people nowadays are too materialistic about this issue. Especially girls, take marriage as a condition for getting rich overnight, what house and car are their marriage conditions, a few years ago, remember the eighties of the last century, don't you also want this question? There was also a girl who proposed to stay in the villa and cry, and not to take a bicycle.

The problem is that the bride price proposed by the current girls is also beyond the scope of the bride price, and what they want is that as soon as they get married, they will let the man do a good job of living his life. Marry and sit down and enjoy it. There are a few men who can really do it.

If it can be done, I dare say that 80% of the men, if they can meet the conditions of the woman, if it is not the housing accumulation, the bank payment. There is no way to satisfy the woman's house and car. Now in some places, the bride price is high and scary, and in some places the bride price is very low, more than 780,000 yuan, less than 70,000 or 80,000 yuan.

The key to the bride price is still in the woman's parents, depending on whether the woman's parents' appetite is big! The parents of the girls around me are very cheerful in terms of bride price, and the man can give as much as he wants, and when he gets married, he will take the bride price as a dowry for his daughter, and finally go around and around, and the money is still back to the groom. Coordinates Chongqing, the bride price is not high, generally around 100,000.

Because of the bride price problem and not can not get married, I think it is a very pity thing, rather demolish ten temples, not a marriage, the bride price issue or hope that all parents can see the point, not because of money, cut off a good marriage, the important thing is to see how the man's character is!!

Nowadays, young people think that they can find better options, and their horizons are very broad, they are not very good, and they always want to find a better one, so it is difficult to get married.

Many people have been single for a long time, feel free, do not get married, have no children, and have no constraints.

In fact, it's not that they really hate marriage, it's just that there are too many unknown variables hidden in marriage, which they really can't accept and passively change.

What's more, it's easy to fall in love and difficult to get married, there are no economic conditions, few people dare to get married, the pressure is too great, it's too scary.

In the traditional ideology of the Chinese people, marriage is to perpetuate hope and pass on the lineage. There are only melons and seeds, and there are no children and melons, and the overwhelming response to married life has discouraged many people.

All of this is really just two words: "escape".

People who dare not get married because they are afraid or avoid it have also become part of the army of marriage-phobia, simply because they do not want to take responsibility for themselves.

In the end, they may not be able to withstand the strong demands of their relatives and find someone to marry hastily, but most of those marriages end in unhappiness. A marriage without love is even hard to speak, and getting along without feelings is a dream along with a bed.

It is always said that marriage is the grave of love. This quote also serves as a reason for an ideal lover to refuse to marry in pursuit of true love.

How easy it is to fall in love! The happiness of the two people is pure and beautiful, not mixed with all kinds of trivial things in life, and it does not involve the details between the two families. It's just that two people have come together because of feelings and hormones.

But this is not a fear of marriage, it is a fear of growing up.

In China, non-marriage and infertility have always been non-mainstream, and it is difficult to say that they may marry later and have children later, and vote with their feet on a large scale.

However, the notion of not marrying and having children will become mainstream.

Young people in first- and second-tier cities are roughly labeled as the following, and a careful analysis will find that each of them does not seem to have the need to get married and have children:

Either the economic pressure is high, and they can't even gain a foothold in the first and second-tier cities, and such people basically can't have children; Either the economy is acceptable, but such people often do not want to get married and have children, because it is likely to seriously affect their current living standards; Either the economy is not a problem, but they are very concerned about their spiritual needs, and such people do not care about worldly things; Either they are financially strong, but such people are afraid of economic disputes caused by marriage.

In life, we tend to look forward to many things, but there may be some risks and *** to try this thing, and when this risk and *** are big enough, we would rather not try new things, and shrink into our own small but warm little world.

This is the case with love and marriage.

Now there are actually two very mainstream values, one is to marry high and marry high, which reflects that we are not willing to suffer. In reality, you often encounter such an example: a girl of 150 likes a boy above 175, which means that a boy under 175 is not considered; But you ask 175 boys and they like girls over 160; And you ask girls over 160 who like 180 boys.

But 180 boys are a very small minority after all. So you will find that in the field of marriage and love, the Matthew effect is extremely obvious, regardless of men and women, everyone is actually only interested in those few people, if you can't find a few high-quality people, you would rather not find it.

Second, the vigilance is very heavy, and everyone's mutual trust is very low. Some people are worried about the other party's domestic violence, some people are worried that the other party has a bad temper, some people are worried that the other party's financial resources are not good, some people are worried about the other party's excessive beauty, some people are worried about meeting a bad mother-in-law, some people are worried about the sky-high bride price, and some people are worried about the property after marriage. And now the first- and second-tier cities are stranger mode, you know little about the other party, this kind of information asymmetry blind box model greatly affects everyone's yearning for marriage.

Therefore, people who get married are often either classmates, have an emotional foundation and have a certain understanding, or they have a reliable intermediary to match in a small range, which also leads to a very weak marketization of blind dates.

Therefore, the overall environment of first- and second-tier cities determines that everyone has a low marriage rate and a high divorce rate. If you are involved with children again, a series of bad things such as bringing children and cram schools will follow one after another, and for young people in the new era who care about their personal feelings, they will retreat.

For most men, the economy must be a prerequisite for a young person to enter a marriage and the basis for building a new family.

Therefore, they hope to work hard for their careers when they are young, and only when they have a certain economic foundation will they dare to propose to the woman they love.

Of course, in addition to this reason, many men need to have a house of their own and a car, and if they do not have these material conditions, they do not have enough confidence to propose to the woman they love, so it is very financially stressful for young men.

Especially in some places where the bride price is more important, many men often worry about the bride price money, and even after marriage, they will continue to worry about the family's livelihood.

Putting aside the cost of the wedding for the time being, after marriage, not only will they worry about the miscellaneous trivialities of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, but also after they have children, milk powder money and various expenses of early education classes will also follow.

If you can't prepare for all the unknowns in the future before marriage, then you will feel a headache for the word "money" after marriage, so this pressure will make men keep retreating, not daring to talk about "love" easily, let alone easily entering marriage.

Modern women are independent-minded.

Today's women are becoming more and more independent-minded, completely different from the young girls of the previous era, when women wanted to change their lives by marrying a good man and starting a good marriage.

And today's women choose to become the person they want to be in this era, and begin to work hard for their careers and dreams, they no longer "love brains", and no longer rely on marriage to spend their lives.

In other words, women nowadays are very "Buddhist", and even in the face of constant urging from their parents and relatives to marry, they still maintain their persistence.

If you can't meet someone who loves each other and is suitable, then you'd rather be single than choose to spend the rest of your life with someone you don't love and aren't suitable.

And they have enough ability to support themselves and give themselves all the good things, even one person will be particularly happy, so more and more young women are beginning to reject marriage.

Didn't meet the right person.

Marriage is a major event in life, and only by finding the person who is truly suitable for you can you feel the taste of happiness on the next journey.

Therefore, the reason why many young people have not been married is that they have not yet met their lover, but when they meet the person they really like and are suitable, they naturally want to enter the palace of marriage with each other.

If you just get married for the sake of getting married, then you will never feel lucky again in this life when you meet someone you don't like.

So even if you spend a little more time, try to find someone you really like to spend the rest of your life with.

This is also what many young people think in the hearts of today, so they don't want to get married more and more, and they don't want to meet the blind date introduced to them by their parents and relatives, because they just want to marry someone they really like in their limited life.

I hope everyone can look at marriage with a normal heart. First of all, you should have an independent personality and the ability to stand on your own, and live a good life on your own. And getting married is a natural thing.

Just like no one can tell if they will meet true love in this life. Marriage requires a suitable person, but this person is not just suitable, the beginning of the relationship needs to be in the right place at the right time, if you can't love, then be yourself. Whether or not a person can find someone to love in this life is itself a matter of luck.

Some people like to be accompanied, while others feel that they are fine alone and have other expectations for emotions. Then everyone can live their lives on their own terms. Don't easily deny people who don't get married, and don't be easily doubted by all kinds of doubts around you.

But don't feel that marriage is heinous, and don't get married as soon as your mind is hot. In this era, there are more and more fear of marriage and childbearing, and it is normal not to want to get married. Others may have been hurt by a relationship, become very insecure, will not devote themselves to the next relationship, or no longer trust the other half, are unwilling to accept another person, and do not want him to break into their lives.

Therefore, it is an individual's freedom of choice whether to marry or not.