Do you talk to strangers on a long train? How did you get up to it?

<> I would chat with strangers. Because it's a long-distance train, I think I'll suffocate if I don't talk for a while. Hey, just kidding.

Some people say it's unsafe to chat with strangers. I both agree with and disagree with this view. Recognition is justified, and denial is justified.

First of all, let's talk about why I agree, because it is a stranger, so you just don't know the bottom of this person, and it is easy to expose some of your privacy during the chat. If you encounter bad people, or some criminals, you may encounter danger. Especially if you are a female person or someone who is younger, it is easy to put yourself in danger by chatting with strangers.

Targeted by some unscrupulous elements. As for the negative, I think that if we don't chat, we will always be strangers and will never break the barrier in between. Our world will only be the people we already know, and there will be no new people.

In contrast, I think I should talk to strangers, because I'm a man, and I think I'm safe, and the main thing is that there are still many good people in the world. First of all, it's boring to take a long-distance train, you say playing with your phone? After playing for a while, I get bored.

Q: How did I get up to talk? I love to laugh, I always like to smile at people, if others return me to smile, I think this is the beginning of the chat, the key to the heart. Chats came naturally.

Since you have already taken the same train, it means that you will have the same or similar destinations, which should be a clue for you to chat. Greetings to where to go. It's a casual matter how to talk next, but you should be careful to always pay attention to your privacy!

This is the top priority.

Therefore, the proper chatting makes our lives lively and interesting.

Do you have a chat with strangers on a long train? The answer is different for each of you, but for me I will definitely chat with others, but maybe it is not me who starts first, but someone else chats with me first, and then I start chatting with him, so why do I chat with others every time I take a long train? Because it's so boring, on a train, you have to sit for 36 hours to get to your home, can I just play with my phone within these 36 hours?

Especially when the hard seat is not too convenient for the whole person to move around, you can only sit and chat with everyone, especially when the phone is out of battery chatting is the only way for you to pass the time.

1. The mobile phone of the 36-hour train will soon run out of battery

36 hours of train travel, if you have been using the mobile phone, the mobile phone will soon run out of battery, even if you are carrying two batteries, so you must ensure the power of the mobile phone at this time (because you must call the family when you get home, so, the last bit of electricity is not allowed to be used) At this time you are not allowed to play with the mobile phone, some people say that you can bring a power bank, in fact, 36 hours, even with a power bank is not enough, so sometimes you have to use other methods to replace this way - For example, chatting.

Second, I don't take the initiative to talk to someone

Under normal circumstances, when they are chatting very high, I just listen silently, if they don't take the initiative to chat with me, I will not automatically go to them to chat, only from the moment others take the initiative to talk to me, I will say some of my inner thoughts, when continuing to discuss, my words will gradually increase, but if others do not take the initiative to chat with me, I will not take the initiative to chat with them, it is estimated that it is a personality reason, in short, I'm not used to talking to strangers, I'm used to people coming to me, and then I'm talking to people, and if they don't talk to me, then I'm just going to be a listener.

3. After familiarity, the words will gradually increase

36 hours of time, everyone will soon be familiar with it, and roughly recognize some of the other party's character, when chatting, you will let go of yourself, from here to there, after all, 36 hours, the time is very long, even if you play with the mobile phone for more than ten hours, you still have more than ten hours to use the chat, so at this time we will talk about Chinese animation, Chinese TV series, Chinese politics, China's economy and foreign affairs, such as some things in Taiwan, or talk about some things about school, Some things at work, professional things, in short, talk about everything, and don't talk about it until you get off the train, because it's so boring on the train.

Now that I'm about to graduate from college, this may be the last time I've been on such a long train in recent times, uh, why don't you fly? Hey, planes are too expensive, let's go through this kind of long train].

<> when I take a long-distance train, I usually look at whether there are people of the same age next to me, and if they are about the same age, I will talk to them, because the age is about the same The cognition and perception of things are similar, so it is naturally easier to chat, if the age difference is too much, then I generally do not take the initiative to chat with them. The chat is mainly from the food aspect, and the tourism aspect is better as the entry point of the topic.

At the end of March, there was a six-day holiday, and I temporarily decided to go to Xishuangbanna to play, and to go to Xishuangbanna, I first had to take a car to Kunming, and then transfer from Kunming to Xishuangbanna. Because it was a temporary decision, I couldn't buy a high-speed rail ticket, so I had to book a train ticket, which took 13 hours to ride. I booked a sleeper, and in the same compartment as me were a young couple and a girl about my age.

At first, we were all putting their own luggage, I had less luggage, so I packed it up earlier, and they packed it one after another, I opened my snack bag, and then opened a bag of potato chips and handed it to them, and asked them if they wanted to eat, they all politely refused, and when they went out, they generally refused for strangers' snacks, and then a girl who was about the same grade as me asked us what we were doing in Yunnan, and it was from this topic that we talked about our respective destinations in Yunnan. talked about his past travel anecdotes, and then to the food in his hometown.

In fact, chatting with strangers is the easiest. Why?

Although you don't know strangers, whether they are old or children, men or women, intellectuals or farmers, whether the three views are the same as yours, you can always find topics of common interest.

Strangers chatting just need to pay attention to these 3 points:

1.When chatting with strangers, forget about being yourself for a while.

Isn't chatting a process of communication, the purpose of our chat is to jump out of our own world and see other people's worlds.

It would be interesting to be able to understand other people's thoughts and experience their worldview through chatting with them.

If you just blindly express your thoughts and only accept your own opinions, this kind of chat is not necessary, and the process may not be pleasant.

So we have to forget about being ourselves for a while, and try to see the world from someone else's point of view, which may bring you new discoveries and surprises.

2.Using some fixed chat patterns can be a good way to create a good chat atmosphere.

If you really don't know how to answer, then you should jot down these chat patterns: "Hmm," yes. "Really? ”

Sometimes you may not be sure of what the other person means, or if you don't fully understand it, so you might as well respond with some neutral words that are neither embarrassed nor appear to be you not understanding.

This is a chat mode borrowed from the dialogue with foreigners, when we can't understand what foreigners say, we will say: oh, yes, really? Wouldn't that also be a pleasant way to continue the conversation?

3.Think of chat as a social survey or a test of your chat skills.

Sometimes the other person may be someone who disagrees with you, and there is really no common topic between you. Then you take a neutral stance as if it were a social survey to see how different people are from you.

Think of it as a time to put your chatting skills to the test. How good are your communication skills? How many different opinions and ideas do you absorb from your tolerance? Treat it as something very meaningful to do.

From the above three perspectives, chatting with strangers is actually very easy and beneficial.

No, you don't.

I think there are so many things to do on the train, and you can do other things besides chatting, so it won't be boring even if you're not alone. You can have a snack while you are on the train. However, it is not recommended to bring those things that are inconvenient to eat, because once the ** amount is relatively large, there are many people on the train, and it is troublesome to walk around.

You can bring some: melon seeds, plums, duck necks, peanuts and the like, these things are convenient to eat, and you can eat them for a long time.

It is not easy for us to take a little time out of our busy work to read books. So it's a good choice to pick a book that interests you and flip through it.

The last way to kill time on the train is to sleep, of course, this method is mainly for friends who have seats or sleepers. If the journey is long, get a good night's sleep and rest. Sleep is also the best way to pass the time.

In fact, there are many ways to pass the time on the train, so you don't really need someone to talk to.

No, I don't need to. Chatting too much on the train can backfire and affect others. Usually when I take the train, I close my eyes while listening to songs.

Yes, especially on long-distance trains, it's really boring to sit alone for so long without anyone chatting with you, especially when your phone is out of battery.

No, I think I still like to see the scenery outside on the train, which makes me feel like I don't have any worries, so I don't need someone to talk to.

For me, no. When I go out alone and take the train, I prefer to listen to the songs quietly and enjoy the scenery along the way.

No, it's easy to disturb others when chatting on the train, it's better to watch **chasing dramas by yourself, anyway, everyone has a mobile phone and a power bank now.

I don't think it's necessary, everyone has a mobile phone now, isn't it good to play with a mobile phone, it's a waste of energy to chat with others, it's better to sleep.

No, I take the train alone every time, and I don't feel very lonely, I can catch up on the train and watch **, and I don't necessarily need to be alone to chat.

No, I felt that I was quiet and very good along the way, and I felt very noisy when I had someone to chat with.