When you are old, will you live with your children?

Yes. Whether it is fifty or sixty years old or seventy or eighty years old, how old is old, or sick, or unable to take care of oneself or stay in bed, if it is said that after the age of sixty is old, this age is the favorite old age group for young people, because you can help them take care of their children, you can cook for them, support their economic needs, if you are healthy at seventy, you can be with your children without being taken care of, you can help them cook and buy vegetables, young people can live freely, they don't have to work for the family, they can do whatever they want, When they want to come back, they will not dislike the elderly, they can be with their children, but when they can't move, they are sick, they can't do anything, they don't want to be with their children, they can't do anything for a long time, they can't do it for a long time, they have to live alone or have the conditions to find a nanny to take care of the best, if there is no condition, they will be resigned to fate, anyway, they are incapable, and they can go to the arrangement of their children, and it is better to die than to live, because the country will not provide for you. Let's choose, and when the time comes, we won't count.

No. I don't have any siblings, and now my children are the only ones, so you can imagine that my family's population should be the most compact. There are few people who are not lively, few people who are lonely and lonely, and many things that are few people have to be carried by themselves, so I have been very envious of those big families since I was a child, playing together when I was a child, helping each other to live together, and celebrating the New Year's holidays.

Based on this, I must live with my children and enjoy family fun. Of course, living with my children, I will not be selfish and only think about myself, as long as I can move, I will also give full play to my spare energy in this home and share some of the burden for the children, so as to reduce their life pressure. <>

No. When I'm old, I'll choose to live alone. Now I live with my in-laws, and my mother-in-law is helping with the children, and there is a fact that I have to face, that is, since I have children, my mother-in-law will live with us, and she will always live there.

It's impossible for me to say that the children will be brought up and let the in-laws go back to their hometown, that's basically impossible. So I thought about it many times that if I was old I didn't want to live in front of my daughter-in-law, I wanted to live alone. If they need me to help with the children, if they need me I can do my best to help, but they want to be free and comfortable, I want to live alone, the best case is that they can live closer to each other, so it is perfect!

Thanks for inviting the question.

I definitely won't live with my children when I'm old. But I hope that the place where the child lives is not too far away, and there used to be a bowl of soup at a distance, that is, a bowl of hot soup was served, and the soup had not become cold. Living separately allows you to have separate living spaces for each other and help each other.

Let's say I'm Kaichun myself, my parents live alone in Shenzhen, and my eldest sister in Shenzhen is not too far from where they live, so I often take them to drink tea and eat together, and go to distant places to play. I live in Hong Kong and am busy with work, so I go back to visit from time to time, and it takes three hours to go back every time. My second sister also lives in Hong Kong, so my family basically gets together in Shenzhen or Hong Kong on a regular basis to eat and go shopping, and then go home separately, which I think is a good way of life.

So when I'm old, I'll do the same, not to live with my children, and everyone has to have their own living space, but we have to respect each other, help each other, and get together regularly.

Whether or not to live with children in the future is actually a time to consider.

To put it clearly: whether there are elderly people living together in your family now, and whether there are "three generations in the same house", will leave a deep imprint on the child's original family, subconsciously affect the children's future family concept, and determine whether they accept the elderly to live with them.

Therefore, if you plan to live with your children in the future, you may wish to take the elderly to live with them now.

To put it more deeply, if you want your children to be more filial to you in the future, then you should be more kind to the elderly at home now.

This is also in line with the ancients' theory of retribution for good and evil, which is that children take their parents as an example and use their parents' original family model as a template for forming a family in the future.

So is it good for the elderly to live with their children? Of course, there are pros and cons.

Good aspect: It can unite the family concept and make the children understand filial piety better.

Zeng Shiqiang, a well-known Chinese scholar, said: Three generations in the same house is the best family model, which can allow children to learn filial piety from an early age.

Because of how parents treat the elderly, children will see it in their eyes and remember it in their hearts. Similarly, children have the opportunity to learn how to serve the elderly. In addition, this family model has old, middle and young, which will make the child's personality grow more sound, and know how to respect the old and love the young.

The bad side:

There will be contradictions, and even affect the relationship between them.

In reality, there are many parents and children who originally had a good relationship, but after living together for a period of time, various conflicts arise, and then the relationship with each other deteriorates, or even does not interact with each other.

This is what the ancients said, "the noble is far and the cheap is near", and distance produces beauty. Because there is always a gap in concepts between parents and children, there will inevitably be some friction in daily life, resulting in a deterioration in the relationship between each other, and the good impression of the past has disappeared, or even turned against each other.

The world is so big, I want to see it! When the child grows up and I have fulfilled my responsibilities, my choice is: to wander around the places I like, such as Dali, Lijiang, Jiangnan, etc.; When you can't walk, choose a Buddhist temple and spend your old age in a Buddhist temple.

I was born in the early 70s, and now I am in the period of "sandwich cakes" with old people and small support, and after a few years of struggling to earn a living and practice, I can become a daughter-in-law for many years, my children can finish their studies and work, I can also retire from the workplace, and the rest of my days can be happy with the calves.

Pack your bags and go! The world is so big, I want to see it! I like Dali, so I rented a private house, lived for a year and a half, explored the local veins, looked for fellow practitioners, integrated into the local life, tired of it, and changed places, and so on....Of course, the most basic requirement is that there must be a temple in that place, and I live next to the temple mansion and interpret the story of Dongpo and the Buddha seal.

After walking for ten or twenty years, I really can't walk anymore, so I choose to read the Buddha nursing home, obediently recite the Buddha for liberation, and live in peace.

Some people are more anxious and panicked as they get older, most of these people are financially unstable, have no savings, and their bodies are getting worse. That's why I'm in a hurry to deal with the coming of my old age. If a person works hard to make money and cherishes his body when he is young, when he is old, he will live a very elegant life, and he will have the time and energy to pick up flowers and grass and live a slow-paced life.

When you are young, you should work hard and cherish life, and when you are old, you will naturally be blessed. So, if you're young now, you can tell if you're living with anxiety or elegance by comparing your own lifestyle. Those who are more and more lonely as they get older are most likely because they did not educate their children well when they were young, and when their children grow up, they run around to earn a living, have no fixed place to live, and have no time to spend with their parents.

Therefore, when you are old, you will feel very lonely. If a person educates his children well when he is young, when he is old, the children can make time to take care of themselves, at least the children will not come back to see themselves because they are distressed about the travel expenses. When you are young, spend more energy on your children, urge them to study hard, and when you are old, you can worry less about your children's hearts, and you can also be grateful by your children and enjoy the joy of family.

Therefore, if you are still young and have just had children, you must be patient to educate your children and take your children's learning and growth seriously, so when you are old, you will most likely be able to live a happy life.

When you are old, if you are okay in all aspects of your body, you will choose to live independently without trouble affecting the children's lives, because the children have their own family life, and besides, it will be better to keep a little distance between people.

I feel that if I can take care of myself, I will choose to live on my own, after all, it is inconvenient to be with young people, it is inconvenient for both parties, and if the children insist on being together, I can also consider it. But I still like to live on my own until I have to, I know what is wrong with me, and I don't want to affect my children.

When you are old, you can no longer take care of yourself, then you have no choice, you should be with your children, if you can be independent, or you are together, if you can't agree to be with your children, you enjoy the joy of family.

When you get old, you should choose to live alone. After all, at that time, there were many inconveniences and troubles for living with children, and it was better to live more freely by yourself.

When I get older, I choose to live alone instead of with my children.

If you can support yourself, it's better to live alone, after all, it's two generations. There are big differences in living habits, eating habits and other aspects, and it is difficult to eliminate such a generation gap in a short period of time. Rather than that, it's better to be separated.

In this way, family affection can be guaranteed, and family conflicts will not break out.

When people are old, it is best to choose the belly and live alone, if you have to live together, there will be many contradictions or frictions in each other's lives.

This is a general trend, you can't look at this problem with old eyes, you and your children are together, which not only affects them, but also has no independent space for themselves, and everyone complains as a result!!

Of course, if you choose to live alone, you will not be with your children and will not be a burden to them. Living alone, having your own living space for old age, and being constrained by your children, it is better to live alone and be at ease.

The habits of young people and old people are different. And the child also needs to go to work. So when I'm older, I'm willing to live alone.

I heard a story about elephants that leave their herds and leave them alone when they are dying. I think that's a really good feeling. That will not make the people who love you grieve for your loss.

Originally, we came to this world quietly, and I think we should leave like this.

And if you are old, there must still be a gap between them and their children. And everyone's living habits are different. Or alone with some like-minded friends. I think I'll be a little happier.

A generation has a generational mission. When we raise our children, we don't have to worry so much about it, and we should enjoy our lives. There's one sentence that I agree with. Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, don't be a horse and cow for your children and grandchildren!

When you are old, you should choose to live alone. The best option is to rent or buy a house close to your child. Living with children has a lot of inconveniences.

Because there is a generation gap between the two generations, living together affects the family relationship of the children, which is not conducive to the happiness and harmony of the extended family.

When I am old, I will choose to live by myself and will not go with my children, because the two generations live differently, the diet is different, the children are very busy at work, there is no time to take care of the elderly, and it is inconvenient to be with the children.

When I am old, I will choose to live alone, and the living habits of the elderly and the young will definitely be very different, so don't cause trouble for the children, just care for each other.

Want to live with children but the reality is difficult to achieve, now the children are almost not around their parents, in the field in the big city, one is not to add trouble to the children, and secondly, the old and children's lifestyle, living habits are different, easy to produce contradictions, the rhythm of life in the third big city is not suitable for the elderly.

When you are old, choose to live alone or with children. I choose to live independently. Older, physical character.

There is a generation gap between living habits and young people, and there will be a lot of contradictions together. It's better to be free and eat and do whatever you want.

As long as I can move on my own and take care of myself independently, I will choose to live independently.

When living with children, there are still some mutual inconsistencies or it is good to unify the positions, views and methods of all parties.

If old. Of course, they want to live with their children, and the elderly are most afraid of loneliness. Living alone has too many problems to solve, such as going to the doctor, cooking, etc. In addition, enjoying family happiness in old age is also a traditional form of the Chinese nation.

When you are old, of course, you are happy to live with your children.

The children have been taken care of.

But if you are able, you will serve yourself.

You should live together by yourself, and don't disturb your children's lives too much, only when you can't take care of yourself.

to be with his children.

Choose to be with your child, such a child will grow up to be more promising, or have a better temper, will not be very irritable, lonely, this child will have a great deal in the future.