How to make yourself a good chatter?

If you want to be a master of chatting, you must first make one thing clear, that is, chat is the interaction of two people, you don't want to think about how to make the other person happy, so that the conversation with a strong purpose will only turn the conversation into an embarrassing thing.

Chat is about coming and going, it is the interaction between the minds and spirits of two people, and if you want to continue to chat with this person to make a spark, it is necessary to do your homework in advance. You can take a general look at the other person's circle of friends, understand the content of the other person's life, and the things you like and dislike, even if you can't accurately cater to the other person's hobbies, you can also avoid saying things that the other party can't forgive to a large extent.

When chatting at the same time, don't dare to speak or respond because of shyness, your attitude will give the other party a feeling that you don't want to pay attention to me, so as to end the conversation hastily. So when chatting, you must overcome your shyness, ask more questions to the other person, don't feel stupid to ask questions, you have to know that everyone likes to talk about themselves, and when he thinks you are interested in him, the conversation is successful.

If you want to become a master of chatting, you must first become a master of listening, learn to listen, and then say an amazing word to explain the key to this.

The main thing that people want to talk to you is basically that you can listen carefully and give useful insights or suggestions at critical moments. Therefore, if you want to become a master of chatting, you must first learn to listen, and do not listen in an empty state, but carefully analyze the situation in the process of listening, and at the right time, express your own opinions on this matter or suggestions for solving this matter, if your opinions or suggestions are very clear, people can easily accept, and think that you are a person with high emotional intelligence, no matter what you encounter, you can have a unique opinion, then they will be very willing to chat with you. <>

In fact, when chatting, many people think that they can talk with others, and they are called chat masters if they are like-minded, but when you are willing to listen and be good at solving other people's things, others will talk to you about intimate things, rather than just superficially chatting about which place in the world is fun, ** things are delicious, which clothes are good-looking, etc.

The qualities of a chat master, the accumulation of rich knowledge. Knowing astronomy, knowing geography, and everything as trivial can be said. Taboo, self-aggrandizement, and wanton interruption of others' speech.

So how do you become a master chatter? The following needs to be done.

1. Be empathetic, understand each other's interests and hobbies, especially when chatting with girls, know that girls want not only the atmosphere, but also hope to meet boys who can stimulate their thoughts.

2. As a chat master, you can express your unique views on things in a timely manner, or point out subtleties that have not been noticed, and describe them with a plot similar to "storytelling", which will make girls throb like never before.

3. The ability to chat does not come out of thin air, just like telling a joke, whether a joke is good or not is not funny outside the subject matter itself, it is often the result of prior preparation, and it requires the accumulation of life.

To become a master chatter, you must learn to collect topics from daily life and develop a keen sense of things, and these topics will naturally come in handy at that time.

Social life is all-encompassing, there are always some deep experiences in life, what you want to say, people and things you dislike or like, things that ordinary people want to get and care about, and so on, you can talk freely through the chat room, and say it easily, so that you can become a master.

Become a master of chatting, good at finding topics, and also good at topics that the other party is interested in, give full play to them, and understand them thoroughly.

1. The point is not what to say, but how to say it.

The same sentence feels different to different people, different circumstances, and different tones and tones. Like this one. You can read it right now.

It's weird, right. That's because you're not getting into a sad mood. That's why many people have memorized movie lines, but it didn't work.

Literal copying of light is useless. The point is not in what to say, but how to say it. It's not a method or a move, it's an internal skill.

2、cold reading

Coldreading literally translates to "cold reading". Girls hate the question of checking the household registration the most. How old are you?

Are you a ** person? What is your name? It's a pity that most people still only have this superficial chat mode.

If you can read cold, you won't have this problem. Cold has the meaning of unpreparedness, reading has the meaning of mind reading, mind possession, cold reading refers to being unprepared, even when meeting for the first time, to see through the minds of others, so as to better communicate with people, often used by psychologists in psychology**.

For example: "Did you study abroad?" This is a common question.

Translated into cold reading, it is: "You must have studied abroad." ”

Another example: "How do you feel about your personality?" ”

Converted to cold reading: "If I'm not mistaken, your popularity must be good".

That's pretty obvious.

But it's a different story with cold reading: Ah! How do you know! No, I don't have many friends.

Don't interrupt others. A lot of funny memes. Say a lot of humorous things. You need to learn to listen. You need to learn to respect others and don't rush to speak.

Be patient with what others say, understand what they mean when they say these things, chat with them, and talk about topics that interest them.

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The so-called (text) master:

It's what others say, what you say.

--Integrate with the masses.

What others don't say, you say.

--Act outside the box.

If no one else says it, you have to say it yourself.

--Enjoyment.

When others say it, you will say it on the sidelines.

--Recharge your batteries.

If everyone else throws themselves to the ground, you will have a thousand words.

--Do you want someone else to pick a bone in their egg?

You are a god now, you don't speak amazingly, you want to be short and concise, humorous and meaningless words are used with "haha, hehe" and so on

At this time, you can arouse everyone's enthusiasm by saying a few words, if there is no enthusiasm, then you can comfort yourself when the contact is typing

Quick eyes, quick hands, fast brains, extraordinary imagination - extensive knowledge that does not require mastery - a certain amount of self-confidence - plus a smelly and shameless nirvana.

Basically, do whatever you want, you are naturally a master, don't look left and right, let them say what others say, and have a good psychological quality.

Don't do it, it's okay to "hurt people", because chatting is not a formal reception, it's all a pastime. It's not right to scold, because everyone can scold, and it doesn't hurt or itch when scolded, don't do this kind of thing. Don't talk about politics, race, religion, etc., see the registration agreements for the major forums

ps: In the voice chat room, you can set a special color large font, which has a great lethality & & a certain amount of stun damage for the talker

Chatting is for fun, not for torture.

Find a few topics and see if you can talk about them, but don't talk about them like surveying accounts

Find a few topics, see if you can talk about it, and really make friends with others.