How can we get rid of the pain of the past and have a bright future?

I'm not a single parent, but our situation is similar, I've thought about it a lot these days, it's not that we don't have our own dreams, and the conditions we have are no worse than anyone else, why are we always in the tangled and depressed, but when I was young, it was very beautiful. Remembering the past. There was bitterness in the smile.

We may not all have a rebellious heart, but life is always unfulfilled, why.

I don't know what you think, I don't feel like I have like-minded friends around, I don't have supervision and I don't have role models, I think this is actually the idea of a fragile person, of course the whole world is full of fragile people, otherwise where would I get my sorrow. We're all thinking that we've grown up, we've all grown up, but we're not mature enough. When encountering important things, there will still be six gods and no masters.

What I'm trying to say is that you don't care about it, you're not mature now, you're going to mature eventually, and people's lives are very different, and what you deserve will always be given to you in all sorts of ways.

Think carefully and carefully What do you want to do in the future, you have to have a goal What you want, whether you can't achieve it, and then stay firm Think about your goal To achieve this goal, do what you want to do from now on Do it For your ideal goal Do what you don't want to do Don't care about other people's words, they are a bunch of people who can't change themselves and have to waste their lives on evaluating others and envying success.

Never be pessimistic and disappointed, you have a lofty ideal, never be inferior and give up when your ideal is realized. Think about how proud and contented you were at that time.

Don't think about whether you'll succeed or not. Since the goal is far away, it is convenient to take care of both the wind and rain; "When you think it's too late, it's the earliest. This is the warning of a famous American university You are younger than me You have to understand that now I seem to have only lived for 20 years, or you have lived for 21 years, towards your own goals, slowly accumulate in ordinary life, even if you don't succeed, at least we don't fail in life, don't be exposed to ten cold days a day, know what you are dying, you are persevering, accumulating steadily.

It's unfortunate that no one can really help you with what happened to you, and you have to overcome it on your own. Try to communicate more with your classmates, neighbors, partners, etc., let go of yourself, and actively accommodate the people around you.

Hello, your heart is very understanding. Since I understand the big truth, I won't say much. You have this awareness.

The key is to change it. It's a real change. Don't always stay in the past, you're only 20 now, you've only lived a small part of your life, and you have more time, most of your life or even longer.

Think about your future. Don't just stay in the past.

You are not young anymore, you have to learn to mature, you have to have your own direction. Learn to think about your family, and live not just for yourself. Think more about others. Learn to make friends and make friends. Distract you.

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Mindset issues. I used to have a hard time falling asleep at night, and I had to think about it for a long time to get to sleep. But after work, I was so tired that I basically fell asleep as soon as I fell into bed. Of course, it doesn't have to be that way.

Analyze your reasons:

1. Girls, it's normal to be sentimental, you don't have to take it to heart if you are a single parent, your life is your own, and you will have to start a family yourself in the future.

2. Friends, look for them slowly in the future, friends are not expensive, this is not easy to talk about, as long as you are sincere to people, you will find your friends.

3. How to develop in the future, just let it be, I am machismo, I feel that girls can live happily, and the pressure of life should be borne by men. Personal thoughts, dumbfounded.

4. If you want to find a job you like, a happy job, and a happy life, you will find that there are many things in life that are worth pursuing, and the boy you like will appear by himself.

I've also been a single parent since I was a child, so I might be able to open a little more because I'm a boy. Your situation is that your mind is too heavy, and your attitude towards life is pessimistic and negative. From my own experience, in addition to finding a psychiatrist, there should be 2 things that can soothe heartache:

1. Learn Buddhism. 2. Dedicated people who love you deeply.

Friends, be happy, relax, and everything will be fine!

I feel that you should first get out of the house, overcome your heart, make more positive friends, even with fruit sellers, you can smile and gossip with them, chatting is actually a very happy process, and the scholars release their pressure.

Happiness is to be earned by oneself, not to open one's hands, and happiness will come to the door.

It is well said that people have to live in the moment.

Seize the present. will inevitably harvest a life without regrets.

Hello this friend;

If you can't face the past, how do you want to live in the future? If you want to make your future life happy and happy. Then, you need to clear the mental junk brought to you by previous painful memories.

The past, today, and future are a continuous process. We can't face what we did in the past, and the things of the past affect the current mood, so what is our bright future? Are we going to let the past history dictate our lives forever?

Think about it again, how will you spend your life in such a state? The past is in the past, face it once, let yourself feel better, spend the future life well, and be responsible for your future. That's a scientific attitude.

Dude tells you a word: it doesn't matter...

Because you've been in pain, you won't make the same mistake again;

Because you have been in pain, you see someone who is as weak as you were yesterday, and you will sincerely want to help him;

Because you have been in pain, you will not be indifferent when you see the pain of others, and you can be considerate of other people's feelings;

Because you have been in pain, you can know the hardships of life, and smile for a little kindness and a little happiness;

Because you have been in pain, you will be more tolerant when you see others make the same mistake again;

Because you have been in pain, you know that stumbling in this world is inevitable, and you are mentally prepared to encounter bumps in the road;

Because you have been in pain, at a certain point, looking back, you will be glad that you have experienced the five flavors of life, and you are not living in a muddy way;

And it is precisely because you have been so miserable that you can tell yourself that because you have gone down to the bottom, you can only go up a little bit every day, so every day you will only go to a better place.

This pain comes from two aspects, one is "past" and the other is "wrong".

If you want to get rid of it, you have to talk about these two points.

Let's talk about the mistake first, you must know that this thing is wrong, whether you have been able to recognize this mistake positively, and after facing this mistake, then you will know what is right.

Let's talk about the past, since it is already in the past, there is naturally no way to turn back time for you to change, so you can only use the present and the future.

Combining the two is to face the present and the future in the right way, and you will be able to avoid the mistakes of the past.

Of course, if you want to get rid of it completely, it depends on whether this pain comes from yourself, someone else or the outside world. But whether it is oneself or the outside world, the result is the same, that is, to make up for and avoid.

It is difficult to completely get rid of the mistakes you have made in your heart, but knowing that you are wrong means that you have a heart of repentance and really want to get rid of the pain caused by the mistakes you have made.

The mistake has been made, so what we can do is to make it meaningful, let the tears not flow in vain, let the wrestling not fall in vain, let those who have been hurt by themselves not suffer a lot of damage, and try to be careful not to cause harm to other people for similar reasons.

Who hasn't done something wrong, time will make everything pass.

Regardless of the past, work hard to face the future.

Throw away the past, start over, and don't think about bad things anymore.

In fact, sometimes it is you who remind yourself of some things in the past, no one can force you to think about anything, only you can, maybe you are silently telling yourself in your heart to persevere, to miss ......So a habit that gradually forms in your heart, this habit is to make yourself think about him. You can try to slowly forget, listen more**, do more exercise, record what you do every day, enrich yourself more, and then circle on the calendar, and wait for the circle to hit 21, and then you look back and think about it, maybe it won't be so sad. People should look forward, move forward, not live in memories, raise their heads, look at the sky, think about tomorrow, everything will be fine.

Forget! It's autosuggestion, it's escapism! Why forget? There is no point in escaping, no.

Answer: Facing it, intellectually, emotionally. Memories may be beautiful, or they may be painful. But when people are old, the most beautiful thing left is memories, a memory that has been the most beautiful and moving, a memory that has made you heartbroken!

Don't deliberately put pressure on yourself, if you force yourself to forget, it will be futile anyway, and it will make you even more unable to forget. When people are in pain, they should be happy, learn to be grateful, learn to be grateful, thank every passer-by in life, and thank them for giving you a chance to grow! Instead of trying to escape this fact again, escaping from the world, and escaping from oneself.

Face it calmly and let go of your body and mind. There is still a long way to go, we need to face it bravely, accept it bravely, continue to challenge, and continue to be happy!!

The world is carefree, go in a trance, don't laugh and don't live, spend this life happily, don't miss the past, the pain becomes a cloud, happiness is in mind, laughing at the people,

Many people are completely dizzy when they fall in love. I love people when they look handsome, but what if they are flowers? If you look at people, you will love, but what if it doesn't last long?

If you feel honest, you love, but what if it's disguised? What is the most important thing about love? It's about finding someone who can always be with you.

It's that when you're lonely, there's always someone to lean on.

Under normal thinking, people will not forget the pain, even if they are sluggish in old age, they also forget the present, chatter about the past, only time, time can dilute the pain of the past, do something beneficial, don't let things like this happen to others, only heal behind your own back, try hard.

Keep the painful memories in your heart and don't think about it, time will ** your wounds.

Do every little thing around you with sincerity. Down to earth. With love, care for the people you know and don't know. Slowly you will come out of the pain. You will find that there is a lot of sunshine everywhere.

Time is the best medicine, as time goes by, everything is no longer as unforgettable as it was at the beginning, adjust your mentality, life is short, youth is limited, you will not have too much time to wait to reminisce and pain, face everything with a normal heart, you will have more energy to face the future!

Forgetting is a much deeper memory. Therefore, don't deliberately forget, everyone has their own journey, there will be all kinds of passers-by in the journey, every relationship and every experience is the mark left by life, whether the memories are beautiful or painful, they have already happened, learn to thank everyone in life who has met or parted.

Learning to forget is not easy to do, because many sorrows and shames that cannot be forgotten are unforgettable. Then, we need to treat the problem with a normal heart. Since it happened, it is destined to be irreparable.

When you're crying over missing the sun, you're also missing the stars.

When you're lost and sad, it's best to learn to forget. Don't care about the road under your feet, the scenery ahead is more charming.

The past is gone, but what is left is the best memory, so why deliberately forget it. Although you can't be with him, you have good memories, I believe he will also keep your good memories in his heart forever, loving someone is to make him happy, to make him happy, but the premise of his happiness is that you are happy, are you happy, do what you want to do, happiness and unhappiness are in your heart, and when the time slowly passes, you find your other half, you will put your memories in the bottom of your heart, and bring your blessings to him with the same memories, and let him pass in the pastShort-term heartache is inevitable, but don't let yourself deliberately forget anything, it will be more painful, as long as you think you are happy, you will always be happy.

It is precisely because people are happy and sad in their emotions, and all kinds of love songs are mixed, so people's joys and sorrows will be highlighted.

That's the joy of life. So, no matter what troubles you face, face them calmly. People have seven emotions and six desires, and if you want to get rid of emotional troubles, I am afraid you can only become a monk. Look at the opening point, know how to cherish and be content.