The story of tolerance and humility

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Tolerance stories.

Zigong, a student of Confucius, once asked Confucius: "Teacher, is there a word that can be used as a lifelong principle?" Confucius said, "That's probably 'forgiveness.'" "Forgiveness," in today's parlance, means tolerance.

The prime minister can hold the boat in his belly.

During the Three Kingdoms period, the state of Shu appointed Jiang Wan to preside over the government after Zhuge Liang's death. One of his subordinates is named Yang Xi, who has a withdrawn personality and is reluctant to speak. Jiang Wan talked to him, but he only answered.

Some people couldn't get used to it, and muttered in front of Jiang Wan: "Yang Xi, this person is so snub to you, it's too unreasonable!" Jiang Wan smiled calmly and said:

People have their own temperaments. Let Yang Xi say words of praise to my face, that is not his nature; Let him say in front of everyone that I am not, and he will think that I can't get off the stage. So, he had no choice but to remain silent.

In fact, this is the preciousness of his human being. Later, some people praised Jiang Wan for "the prime minister's belly can support the boat".

Lin Xiangru was named Shangqing because of his meritorious work in "returning to Zhao", and he was above Lian Po. Lian Po was very unconvinced and threatened to humiliate Lin Xiangru in person. After Lin Xiangru learned about it, he tried his best to avoid and tolerate it, so as not to conflict with Lian Po.

Lin Xiangru's disciples thought that he was afraid of Lian Po, but Lin Xiangru said: "The Qin State did not dare to invade our Zhao State because of me and General Lian. I tolerate and give in to General Lian, I put the danger of the country in front and my personal enmity in the back!

When Lian Po heard this, there was a story of Lian Po's "guilty plea".

During the Ming Dynasty, Dong Duxing, a native of Jiyang, Shandong, was an official in the capital. One day, he received a letter from home, saying that the family had a quarrel with a neighbor over the foundation of the house, and hoped that he could use his power to intervene to solve the matter. Dong Duxing immediately repaired the book after reading it, and said:

Thousands of miles of books just for the wall, I can't help but laugh and break my bowels; You are kind and righteous to marry your neighbors, so why not give up two feet. After reading it, the family felt that Dong Duxing was reasonable, so they took the initiative to give up a few feet when building the house. And when the neighbors saw the Dong family like this, they also felt something and followed suit.

As a result, the two families gave up a total of eight feet of space, and after the house was built, there was an alley, which was known as "Renyi Hutong".

Lou Shide in the Tang Dynasty taught his younger brother to be an official and tolerant of others. His brother said, "Somebody spit in my face, and I wiped it off myself."

Lou Shide said: "This is not enough. You wipe it off, or against the will of the angry person who wants to insult you.

I think it's better to let the saliva dry out naturally. ”

The noblest revenge is tolerance (Hugo).

Those who have lived without being tolerant of others do not deserve to be tolerated by others. But who's to say that tolerance is not needed? (Turgenev).

Example: Cao Cao forgave the generals who had betrayed him and defected to Yuan Shao after the Battle of Guandu, and did not pursue any faults, and some even increased the number of officials and reused Li Shimin, Taizong of the Tang Dynasty, tolerated Wei Zheng's outspokenness and created the rule of Zhenguan that shocked the world

Don't boast at all, pride and complacency will overturn. Looking at many things in ancient and modern times, the success is due to humility and the defeat is due to luxury. —**。

Dissatisfaction is the upward wheel. — Lu Xun.

If you humble yourself, you will be attached to it; If you are arrogant and arrogant, there will be many people who go. —Ge Hong.

The legend of Six Feet Lane.

During the Kangxi period of the Qing Dynasty, Zhang Yingguan, a native of Tongcheng, went to Wenhuadian University and was a scholar of the Ministry of Rites. The neighbor is another large household in Tongcheng, Ye Mansion, and the owner is Ye Shilang, who worked in the same dynasty as Zhang Ying, and the two families had a dispute over the courtyard wall. Mrs. Zhang repaired the book and sent it to Zhang Ying.

Zhang Ying was deeply worried when she saw the letter, and replied to the old lady: "The book of thousands of miles is only for the wall, so why not make people three feet?" The Great Wall is still there, and Qin Shi Huang is not seen.

So, Mrs. Zhang ordered the family to retreat three feet back to build a wall. Ye Fu was very moved, and ordered his family to also move the courtyard wall back three feet. Since then, the two mansions of Zhang and Ye have eliminated their estrangement and become a family friendship.