Is this fate? Can you be selfish once?

Yes, because it can be remedied later, I don't know if what you are talking about is a relationship problem.

Of course you can, people can be selfish.

Never believed in fate, fate was in your own hands.

Look at your conscience and choose the answer that is most comfortable for you so that you don't regret it.

You have to face it, you don't love him at all right now, and going on will only hurt both parties deeper.

Don't force it, don't doubt it, it's up to you to find out for yourself, to talk about it. Only when you are satisfied can you be truly complete.

How can selfishness be explained? That is, when a person encounters a dilemma, no matter what the situation, most of the time the first choice is to protect personal interests at the expense of the interests of others. Why is this so?

The root cause of this is the problem of value orientation. In the heart of a selfish man, who values his personal interests above anything else, the balance of his values is always tilted in favor of his own. So, if you want to change the problem of selfishness, you must change your values.

The fundamental way is to learn to care for others and take pleasure in helping other people of kindness. This is a difficult and lengthy process, and perseverance will pay off.

What a magnificent undertaking it is to work for the happiness of mankind, and how great is this purpose! —Saint-Simon The greatest happiness possible for each person is among the greatest happiness that all people achieve. —Zola ..

So healthy. Why can't you buy it for my father? It feels like they're selfish. Women like me always come up in relationships in the form of a problem. Poetry is nothing more than the feelings of real life, with the help of literary means, in accordance with.

"Sadness Flows Into a River", "Those Things in the Ming Dynasty", "Wolf Totem".

Feelings are things, not eternal. A lot of things are ephemeral. It's been three years.

More or less feelings will fade. If you can't grasp the happiness in your hands, it's better to let go happily. The more you struggle.

In the end, the more painful you are, and now that you already know that she has left you, then face it. You're still going to have to live. Let's be distracted.

The future is still very bright. There's nothing you can't get over. As long as you're willing to start over.

You are right, there is an old saying: sometimes there must be in dreams, and there is no time to force in dreams; As long as you have loved it.

Is there real love? I don't think so.

Ha, it turns out that my brother is worse than me.

I also thought she didn't care about city life, I thought she didn't care so much about money, I thought she didn't care about vanity.

I listen to her for everything.

I didn't take the civil service exam, I didn't take the public institution exam, and I didn't work in the most promising company.

She finally left.

Are there too many good men in this world? Or are there too many bad women?

You have heard that three parts depend on fate, and seven points depend on hard work. I believe things are man-made. So I believe that I can change my fate, it depends on whether you want to change it, and whether you have the determination to do it.

Half of man's destiny is in heaven and half in man. In the heavenly part we can't do anything, but we can grasp in the human half.

Two ways. Selfishness: I don't want to lose you because I don't want to lose my son, daughter, husband, wife, etc.

It's for yourself, with you, parents have children, and you can place their love. With you, your partner has someone to snuggle up to. Look at it this way, selfish.

Not selfish: Your family wants you to live well, have a happy life, a wonderful life, and realize your own value, which is for you, not for him. Looking at it this way, your loved ones are selfless and have your interests in mind.

There's a story about a tree that has so many leaves on it, can you determine where each leaf falls?

In fact, you are just psychologically empty, as long as you adjust your mentality, it is not a big deal Your current life, do you know how many people are working hard for such a life, your current life is already very happy, why bother, marriage is a major event in life, you can discuss it with your parents, I think your parents also want you to be happy, because you should not object, that there are parents who don't want their children to be happy, if you really don't want to live such a life, you can also talk to your parents, say that you want to go out and have a look, no, when you come back, your parents will understand Parents all over the world are the same, all for the good of their children, you say, don't worry about this, be yourself.

Your life is a lot like an idol drama without a heroine! In fact, what you are facing is not that you have money or no money, not everyone who is rich will live as hard and tired as you! Or your family problem!

Parents want their children to be the best, but they won't understand what you want, just blindly seek wealth to create wealth, so that you can live a life of abundant food and clothing, in fact, there is nothing wrong with that! After all, to be honest, living the life of a poor person, you will find that money is really useful! No money!

If you don't like the things that the family has arranged for you, I suggest you rebel! Because if you're so unhappy. So what are you pursuing in this life?

If the person you find at home doesn't like it, find one you like! Parents say you. You're going to have to explain and tell him what you really want!

How do you really want to live! Don't be too tired yourself, always carrying so many heavy burdens! Otherwise, it's worthless!

What's more, it's not what you want, if you want I'm willing to enlighten you!

That can't be helped, God is also fair, if you are born superior to others, then this superiority also gives you responsibilities and constraints that others do not have, why are you born to enjoy a superior material life, a good education, and no worries about food and clothing Why do others have to work to earn even tuition fees and want to live well and want to be free ? Then you still don't let others live Don't talk about how unfree you are on the basis of enjoyment, if the parents of ordinary children are laid off, then they can choose to study or not, they can't get into a good school, they can choose to go to vocational high school or do odd jobs, what they can choose is far less beautiful than you imagined! They may not have as many rights to choose as you do!

If you don't love it in China, you can also go abroad Ordinary children may not even be able to go to Shanghai and Beijing! You have a lot, so you don't want to accept a little bit of dissatisfaction! Don't say how wronged you are, if a lot of money can't make you happy, then poverty can't, you don't have to envy this, envy that, happiness will always be there, it depends on how you find and accept.

In fact, the problem is in yourself, a person without self, it is impossible to feel happy, this is not to blame the family, not to blame the environment, not to blame the money! You always feel that these are constraints, and you never think about how to adapt and accept them in your own way! Or even change

If I really want to say pitiful, there is one thing I agree with ... A marriage without love is indeed pitiful...

I sympathize with you, the rich are distressed about their lives, and the troubles of no money are how to be rich. Everyone has their own suffering. So far, you're still working for your family, so you're tired.

Have you ever thought about what you want, what your goals are, you don't have to live for your family, they can't accompany you for a lifetime, you live by yourself in the second half of your life. You have no feelings when you marry that girl, and you hurt others and yourself, will you be happy? Divorce is easy to say, and it must be good afterwards?

When you're so old, you should tell your parents what you want, instead of blindly obeying. Compared to what I think I am still happy, I don't have money but at least I won't go hungry, my family is okay, the relationship is good, harmonious, I can do what I want to do as long as it is reasonable, my family will support it, it's very democratic, I think this is also a kind of happiness. If you can't get rid of it, look for your happiness elsewhere.

It's useless to think about it, it's better to find more happiness.

I am very happy to see you say this, it turns out that money is so annoying. In fact, you are wrong, whether a person is happy or not does not refer to whether that person is rich or not, but whether that person's ability to feel happiness is strong. In fact, the things you encounter are very common, and it doesn't mean that you will encounter them if you have money.

You have to accept a blind date with the person arranged by the family, why don't we be, parents insist on arranging a blind date, once you feel that the other party's conditions are almost the same, regardless of whether you like it or not, wishful thinking wants us to get engaged and married, if you don't agree, you will play some tricks, say something that our children can't bear to hear, uncompromising, under pressure, suffering, endure the white eyes, listen to sighs. It's not easy. I can only think in my heart that this is life, and life is not easy.

But I still held on to my dream until I collapsed. (hehe, exaggerated) three points of fate are destined, and seven points of fate are in my hands. Prejudice aside, maybe it's good to look at that girl.

Hahaha!!

The troubles of the rich!

I don't have any money, but I'm also troubled!!

Do you know the trouble of not having money???

You have to run around for work, and you have to bow your head and swallow your anger for a salary that may only be the price of your meal!

You have to think about buying a house, but what about the money?

You want to take your mother to the best hospital and see the best doctor, but what about the money?

You want to give your beloved girlfriend a brand-name dress and make her happy, but forget it, if you buy clothes, the food at home will be greatly affected! Bear with it!

You look at those rich people, full of pride, and take out the money to come out so chic! That realm of life! Red eyes! But you only have a few thin ones in your bag, and you can't get up!!

You want to touch her beautiful heart, and finally have a chance, but she asks you, how much money do you have? How are we going to live in the future? You look at her speechless!! Beauty is never cheap!!

So, I'd rather have money and then endure your pain!

Because of money, you are enviable, because you are not assertive, your fate is manipulated by your parents, and you are pathetic.

Because of your cowardice, you are also pitiful, because you are annoyed by coming here to ask such an annoying question!

A lot of people in China live at the bottom of the pyramid!

The overall well-off is the moon in the water!

Everyone has their own problems, so they should solve them by themselves. Since you don't like this, you have asked yourself what kind of life you like. One thing I'm very like you, just to keep my parents from being sad I did a lot of things I didn't like, and I had to pretend that I was very happy and liked them in the face of them, and sometimes I really felt helpless, I didn't take the initiative at all, I was coping, and people became negative, but I can't always be like this, I'm trying to solve the problem, and I hope you can solve your own problems too.

Alas, no wonder some people say that sometimes being rich is like being cursed by someone else. Wouldn't you do something yourself? Do something you love.

Sometimes I am lonely because my heart can't really be opened to others. Who said everyone is dating you because they're rich? Then those who don't have money don't have friends, right?

So God is fair, what you get has to pay the corresponding price, people can't get everything, but often people yearn for what they don't get, but they don't know that others are also yearning for what they already have, so it's better to cherish what is in front of you.

Ay. Anyway, I'm short of money right now.

But I think one thing I can be sure of is that the greatest happiness in life is to be able to live the way you want. That is freedom.

But sometimes we really can't do it, at least I can't, I worry too much, most of the time I just think about it instead of doing it, so I'm a person who dares to think and don't dare to do it.

So I kept thinking that from tomorrow onwards, I must live the way I want, and I will never do what I don't want to do!

Friend, you think too much...

Maybe you're right, that's fate, and if one day you lose that and you get the freedom you want, you won't be able to bear the blow that blows you, so you have to be more appreciative, and you mentioned that you can't find someone you can rely on.

Aren't you sensible yet, you're so old and you have to find someone to rely on. Can you do it? I'm depressed for you.

You are in charge of your life, and maybe you have been arranged to get to where you are today. Tomorrow, however, you can live your own life. If you can take a small step, you will have a different world.

I suggest you take 200 quick money, leave your parents, and live independently, if you can persist for a year without asking your family for help, you will definitely get a lot of experience, and some of your thoughts will change.

Calm.. Smile Everyone has their own helplessness, so they must learn to face their own affairs, do what they think is right, don't be influenced by the outside world, and their fate is in their own hands.

Don't believe fate! Do what you want, but don't regret it.

If you really love, try to get it back!! But you must think clearly about whether you really love it, and if you don't love, it's also a good thing to let go.