What is the illness of one spouse who always blames the other all night?

I think this is called neurosis, she can't see the problems in herself, she always blames others, she doesn't work, it's always wrong to watch others work, this is a problem with the nerves, find your own reasons, you don't go home for a day, you don't work, you are better than others, where to go?

Then either his personality is too picky and he can't get used to the other party, and then the other party doesn't fight back much, or he is too stressed and finds a place to vent.

Hello everyone, I'm Xu Chuan, and today we're going to talk to you about communication issues in marriage. Many readers left me messages in the background, after there was a conflict between husband and wife, I wanted to communicate with each other well, but unexpectedly it caused a quarrel, and some even evolved into divorce.

In marriage, communication is indispensable every day, and communication cannot be avoided. But many people are afraid of communication, especially after there is a conflict, knowing that communication can solve the problem, but they are unwilling to communicate.

Because communication is easy to quarrel, quarrels will escalate the conflict, either the two sides will make a big fight, or the two sides will fall into a cold war from then on. Either way, in the end, it still depends on communication.

Many people may say that it is normal for couples to quarrel, time is the best medicine, some things do not need to be communicated, and time will eventually pass after a long time. Is that really the case? Here we take a look at several consequences of communication and quarrels between husband and wife.

1.Cold war. Many times, after a husband and wife quarrel in the process of communication, one of them will choose to avoid it for the sake of the child or the peace of the family, but the resentment in the heart has not been eliminated, so the cold war begins.

There are especially many women who engage in this behavior, especially full-time housewives. They spend most of their time on children and housework, and they have little understanding of the outside world, and there is a big deviation from their husband's knowledge and cognition.

Once the communication turns into a quarrel, they often can't say any big reason, and they can't even understand the meaning of their husband's words, and they can't refute it when they are wronged, so they start to choose the Cold War.

In the past, as long as Mr. came home late, he would care, and as long as he saw that Mr. was tired when he came home, he would take care of him.

As the Cold War lasted for a long time, the husband and wife had less and less common language, and at first they would discuss the issue of children, but once the children were older, the two gradually became the most familiar strangers.

Explain that the party accusing is having some mental problems, especially sexually, and is not being satisfied.

One of the husband and wife always makes each other all night, that is, the two parties have no common language, not real love, so there will be this problem.

Because of the lack of communication, you should sit down and have a good communication between the two of you.

It's not the disease, it's the wrong way the husband and wife get along.

This is not necessarily a disease, if you think it is a disease, you take him to the hospital to see it.

Reason 1: There is a friend of the opposite sex Reason 2: You don't really know each other yetReason 3: Because both of you are too tired from work, and financially.

A pair of children who never grow up always emphasize "how am I going to be, why are you doing this".

I feel that people who like to accuse others are often hurt deeply. People who like to blame others generally think like this: "If you don't blame others, you can't show your intelligence and authority." In fact, blaming others is a loss for yourself.

When he is instructing, instructing, or pointing out the shortcomings of others, he has already offered his wisdom. Originally, he pointed out the other party's situation and way out for others, and he should be thanked by the other party, but when he held a reproachful attitude, it hurt the other party's self-esteem and caused the other party's emotional resistance. This makes him, who was originally kind to others, become a wicked person in the eyes of others, hated by others, and makes people oppose him.

As a result, not only his wisdom was wasted, but also each other's feelings were hurt. It's easy to blame others for their shortcomings and mistakes, but it's hard to find fault with them.

It's not a psychological problem!

But it is certain that there is a burden defect in the character.

Normal people will take the initiative to take responsibility for themselves.

A better person will be lenient and strict with himself!

Not to mention between husband and wife! It is more important to understand and make concessions to each other rather than to pass on each other's commissions.

Although personality defects are the main factors, long-term marital relationships are not harmonious, prejudiced against each other, and even have grudges, which will also exacerbate the contradictions and confrontations between them.

It is recommended to reconcile openly and honestly, and young couples will be old companions!! That's true!!

No matter how good the children are, they can't compare to the harmony of husband and wife!!

Life is short, meeting is fate, but husband and wife, cherish!!

Is it that he doesn't want to take responsibility and only knows to blame you.

No, it's all their own attitudes.

Irrational and not good at dealing with interpersonal relationships.

Well, I don't know, say you're talking about a problem between you and your lover or someone else. If I'm more direct, don't blame it. People who can quarrel can enhance their feelings after quarreling, because quarreling is to solve the problem, not to quarrel for the sake of quarreling, and after the quarrel is solved, the hearts of two people will suddenly open up, and naturally, the relationship will also increase.

People who don't quarrel will only blindly take care of their own feelings, don't see their own mistakes, only see each other's mistakes, and then magnify the mistakes on the other party, such people are very selfish, and will blindly blame each other in the process of quarreling, and then the problem will get bigger and bigger, until the end is out of control, so not only can not enhance the relationship between two people, but also make two people feel more and more tired, every time they quarrel is like a battle, the relationship between two people will get worse and worse, At the end of the day, I don't want to stay together, I just want to escape.

There will always be contradictions between people.

Yes! The personality is divided into inside and outside, and the heart is wide and narrow; The two of you belong to the same extroverted personality and the same narrow heart! character and heart; There is nothing wrong with any of this, because it has been accumulated since childhood; But it can also be changed, and I also hope that when I hear this narrow-hearted word, I will not be angry; Many times, we have to discover our own shortcomings; When you get here when you post this question, explain; You've identified the problem; That's a good place to start.

as a man; Appropriate forbearance is a rational act; What's more, the other party is a lover; Home is a harbor of happiness, home is a warm place, and home is a place of rest and warmth; If it's noisy every day, is it still home? Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and I believe that every family will have small conflicts; When contradictions arise, the person who can resolve the contradiction correctly is a mature man; I've seen Happy Camp before, and they've discussed the topic of family fights; However, most people gave a unified answer, that is, men should take some mistakes appropriately, take the initiative to admit mistakes, and ask for forgiveness; Women have psychological phenomena such as menopause and menstruation, and these phenomena are also one of the most popular phenomena for women. In short, love is not a person's business, and you want to manage love well; You must first understand what love is.

Share weal and woe, mutual sincerity, mutual trust, mutual gentleness, clear opinions, treat others with kindness, righteousness, and mutual respect; This is not only what you need for love, but also what you need to be a human being; If neither husband nor wife can handle the relationship well; How can we deal with it externally? For women, it is also necessary to know how to take home as home; Understand that the husband is away from home and takes on the whole family; It's stressful, and that's something everyone encounters; Husbands and wives should fight each other, not individually; Either one is inside and one is outside, or it is the same inside and outside the Lord; Whatever the way to run the home; Warmth and happiness are the most important thing.

As an aside, since ancient times, thousands of years have been fighting, quarreling, fighting, and fighting; are too self-conscious, too concerned about some so-called power; Since the existence of human beings, human grievances and hatreds have not stopped; However, understand that we are all ordinary people, and we just want to live a stable life; It's not about competing for honor and the world, since you want to be stable, then don't care too much, but do a good job; In all conscience. The affairs of the world and the country are left to **!

It's normal for two people to quarrel together, just don't control the size too much!

It's possible, the main thing is that you can't understand each other, tolerate each other, and tolerate each other.

Quarrels between husband and wife in life often happen, and the reasons are also many, such as the pressure of work and life, the ideological burden is relatively heavy, including economic conditions, ideological feelings, etc., there are opinions to communicate in a timely manner, study ways to overcome solutions, do not scold and beat people, can not always emphasize the other party's fault, to understand and sympathize with each other, to understand and sympathize with each other, to tolerate each other in some dismemberment issues, to be tolerant, as long as the heart and everything is easy to do.

Man is perfecting himself in constant self-reflection, making himself more perfect and stronger, which is suitable for all those who are at fault. Good and effective communication is a good solution, not just forbearance. Excessive tolerance will only fuel the other party's arrogance.

At the same time, it also makes his shortcomings more entrenched. It hurt him. The way you communicate is particularly important. Note.

Cherish that you have a good wife!

Men put their energy and attention on their careers and be the spiritual and financial breadwinners of the family.

This situation is not something that is tolerated by a single party, the society is equal, and if this continues, something will happen sooner or later.

Hello, for divorce, you can go to your local court and consult a lawyer.

You need to think calmly about whether she is always so strong, whether it is caused by your regressive inaction, or whether he is that kind of person himself. If you don't like that, talk to him, express your opinion, and don't take his blame alone.

This can only mean that you are not good enough, and you have not improved after being together for so long, so your position in your lover's heart has changed, so it will lead him to always blame and complain.

Can you change the position and think about it for the other party, why is she like this, is it that you are too idle on weekdays, and you don't do any work at home, just waiting for it to be ready-made. Who will smile after a long time like this.

This is a person's personality, it is difficult to change, he always has to think about the bad side when he encounters things, so you usually have to instill some positive energy in him and slowly change him.

The lover is always strong, always accusing and complaining, it may be because he is under a lot of pressure in his heart. To care more about her, it may also be a personality problem, which is an acquired habit.

In fact, the reason why this situation occurs is because we humans are very egoistic types of animals, and it is difficult to accept the rejection of others.

Because she has always been that kind of strong person, once she doesn't go as she wants, she doesn't follow her thinking, she is very irritable, and she feels that no one values her.