How can I be valued by my friends, and how can I make my friends value myself more?

You don't need to be so distressed, you have to believe in your own three views. Zi said: "The gentleman is harmonious but different.

You don't have to ask everyone to be like you. My friends and I have a lot of differences, but we're still friends. What would the world mean if everyone in the world was like you.

And this is also impossible. It is better to be someone else in the shadows than to be yourself in the sun. I also came out of this stage.

You have to have your own characteristics that make you stand out. For example, if you have good computer skills, when people encounter computer problems, the first person who comes to mind is you. If you can dance, if you can play the guitar, if you can tell bad jokes... It's easy to think that friends value you.

This only shows that you have no personal characteristics and are too ordinary.

Be the best and most authentic version of yourself, and don't have to deliberately imitate others;

Only treat people sincerely and honestly. in order to gain the respect, appreciation and attention of others.

Since you like it, take the initiative to approach, talk to the person you like, be nice to her, everyone has their own opinion on the same thing, learn to accept other people's opinions that are different from their own, pay attention to your sitting, why she is welcome, what advantages she has, these are all things you can learn from her, when you find her advantages, you will begin to like her, but your like can also infect her, I believe that slowly she will become friends with you.

Sincerity and sincerity are just four words.

Modern people live a fast-paced life and have little free time, so they need to pay special attention to frequent contact with friends. Because in most cases, only the exchange of courtesies and frequent contact and communication can maintain and promote the relationship between each other. Otherwise, as time erodes, the original fervent emotions will cool or even fade away.

Xiao Wang, I've been having a bad time lately, and this feeling has been going on since a year ago.

A year ago, Xiao Wang worked in a company, and later resigned on impulse because of some unsatisfactory work. With a little loss and hesitation, he came to another city, thinking that he could have a new beginning, but what he didn't expect was that his Moldy Clan's fortune did not end there.

The first is that the job has never been secured, and although he has submitted many resumes, there are very few companies that have responded.

The second is the housing problem, Xiao Wang found a house rented by others. As a result, not long after Xiao Wang lived in the rental house, the landlord wanted Xiao Wang to increase the rent for various reasons, and Xiao Wang was angry, and he decided to move immediately.

Xiao Wang doesn't have much luggage, and he doesn't have much money on hand, so he doesn't plan to find a moving company, just find someone to help him carry his suitcase. The day of the move was Saturday, and he planned to call a few friends he hadn't contacted for nearly a year, because there were not many people in the city who could be considered his friends.

He first called a friend named Xiao Ding, but Xiao Ding did not refuse directly, but he did not readily agree, but just said some possibilities that he could not go. Xiao Wang was very angry, and after hanging up **, he called Yang Bo again, and Yang Bo expressed his willingness to repent and disperse to help, but he already had arrangements for the weekend, and he was really not available.

Xiao Wang suddenly found that the relationship between him and these friends had faded a lot, if it was before, even if Xiao Ding and Yang Bo had other things to do on the weekend, as long as they didn't have to do it, they would change their original plans and come over to help. Thinking of these Xiao Wang, I felt very lost. He couldn't help but ask himself

Am I too much of a failure? ”

In most cases, the friendship between people needs to be managed, and only the exchange of courtesies and frequent contact and communication between friends can maintain feelings and close relationships, otherwise with the passage of time, the original eager emotions will gradually cool down and even be forgotten.

The reason why Xiao Wang was rejected is that he rarely contacts his friends, and the relationship between him and his friends has faded, so that his friends will naturally not put his affairs first, and even think: "I don't even fight when I'm fine, and I only think of me when I need to help, why!" ”

Therefore, no matter how busy we are, we must cherish and treat the fate between friends, keep in touch with friends, and maintain emotional communication, which is not only conducive to maintaining and deepening the relationship between each other, but also enables us to gain more friends.

Help friends and family.

Ask how you can help. Talk to family and friends, ask them how they can help, and do what you can. Offering help before they open their mouths will make them feel that you care.

You want to entrust you with the other party, and complete it thoroughly. It's just lip service, but it doesn't help at all.

Always ask the people around you if there is anything you need help with, and it won't be long before helping others becomes your second instinct.

Hearken. Too often, all people need is patient, non-judgmental listening. When someone tells you how you feel and describes what you're going through, don't force your feelings, thoughts, and stories to add, just listen quietly.

Be an active listener. In the process of listening, pay full attention, look directly at the person you are talking to, and don't let the complicated thoughts distract you. If you think about it, the other person will notice, and they will think that you don't want to hear it at all and don't care about them.

Try not to give any comments to the person you confide in. Reviews not only end the conversation, but they also make the other person unable to trust you.

Help with household chores and work. Some people are so busy that they can easily miss any work or chores. Make time to help family and friends with tasks and chores that they missed due to busyness or stress.

For example, when a friend is particularly busy or stressed, cook a meal and deliver it to a friend's house so that the friend doesn't have to worry about running out of food. It is especially suitable for those who have just lost a loved one, or who are seriously ill.

Take the initiative to take care of younger siblings, or friends' children, so that parents and friends can rest.

Send something to let them know that you're thinking about them. Many times, people feel isolated by their friends and family and feel lonely. So you want your friends and family to know that you are always thinking about them and that they are very important to you.

You don't have to make a big move, a few small actions are enough.

Write a warm email or letter to express your love for the recipient. You can recall the funny and stupid things you experienced together. If someone has recently passed away or become ill (or unusually depressed), tell them how important they are to you.

I don't know if your friend here refers to friends of the opposite sex or friends of the same sex, so the solution to the problem is different for friends of these two genders.

I guess you must be talking about a friend of the opposite sex, I think you must be deeply in love with this friend, if not, you will not say that you value her very much, if it is really the same as I said, this friend of the opposite sex of yours does not value you, it means that you may be unrequited, unilaterally in love with a friend who does not love you very much. Or that people have never loved you, and in this case, your first task is to let him know that you love her, and don't give so much to others without them knowing. If he knows that you love him, but he is still like that, it means that people are not in love with you.

Then it's up to you how to go next, you can choose some small things he likes to give him, or find a chance to talk to him alone, and slowly let him feel how much you love him, and after a long time, he will slowly like you.

Some people don't like to make friends, so when you meet this kind of person, even if you are enthusiastic about him, no matter how good it is, it is useless, he will be lukewarm to you, because this kind of person doesn't like to make friends at all, even if it is Ma Yun, this kind of person has no desire to get acquainted, don't believe it, there really is such a person. Therefore, not being valued by friends does not necessarily mean that there is something wrong with you, but I am talking about too few such people, and it is generally difficult to meet, under normal circumstances, not being valued by friends is because he is dissatisfied with you, if he is a person who has friends.

In fact, I have had a similar experience before, which can only mean that you are not particularly close friends, this kind of friend should actually let go and let go, and can only be a passerby.

When you encounter such a thing, you should find the reason in yourself.

Through what you have said, I think you are relatively low-key in your circle of friends. I think it's about making friends or talking about what you're talking about when you're making friends.

If you really don't have good conditions for making friends, the condition I say may be financial, life can give the other party guidance or help. At this time, you should take the initiative to communicate with others, since you are in a circle of friends, there must be no annoying or other actions that do not want to be friends with you. You can take the initiative to find out what you have in common, and from above you may be a girl, and you girls have a lot of topics.

Life, fashion, work, family, boyfriend and girlfriend. It's a topic of conversation. Sometimes you feel that you have not found the right place among your friends, and you may not be taking the initiative when communicating.

Unless your friends are all on their own. Everyone has a desire to talk, but since we are very passive, let's start as a listener. This kind of topic will be slow.

In summary, it is recommended to make friends on the initiative. For example, where your friends live now, they can come and go, they can go shopping, and they can have a meal once in a while. Remember, there is no reward for not giving.

Topic: You have been together for a long time, and there are more activities, so the natural topic will come. Joy, anger and sorrow, anything can be discussed. If you give it sincerely, you will definitely have a lot of friends.

Thank you for seeing what I'm saying.

Don't shy away, even if there is no topic, get together, so that after a long time, there will be a tacit understanding, and the topic will come naturally.

Society is too complicated these days.

Here's a suggestion for you. The better you treat others. The less people care about you. Even ignore your presence.

So a lot of things you have to learn to ignore. Helpful to you. Or you feel like you can help someone else. You're doing it (it's worth it) and don't do it conspicuously. Keep a low profile. People think you're actually a good person.

Ask others to value you. Condition 1You are especially capable + economic, 2It is. You make the first impression on someone.

First impressions are the most important thing. Someone who identifies with you at first sight. It's hard to forget you. And it may deliberately slap you up.

It's to be good friends with you. And you may get bored after a long time. So people are like that.

It is impossible for people to live without a common language. Maybe you haven't met.

Don't be like Lou said. What deliberately finds common topics to talk about. If you don't have it, don't force it. Otherwise, you'll be very uncomfortable.

Be yourself. Otherwise, others will think you are very pretentious. Ask others to value you. You have to find the right friend for you first.

There is a common language. With the same interest. They don't think of you until they do anything.

It's a bit abstract to put it. Ponder it slowly.