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Let's start with the psychology of the offender. The father in the movie is a typical emotional abuser and the reason he swings his fist is never because his mother did something wrong, but anything that makes him feel bad, any day out and about, any situation where he doesn't want to fully meet God's needs, can get him into violence. He had a big hole in his heart.

As long as he feels bad about himself, he spreads violence on others, and it is the mother who bears all this in the film.

In addition to intrinsic motivations, the motivation for paternal violence may also come from family traditions and socio-cultural influences. From my aunt's words, it is clear that this is a family where violence against women by men is very common, whether verbal, mental or physical. This pattern of behavior has been passed down from generation to generation.

On the one hand, on the other hand, the boys who see violence grow up generation after generation, and they don't know how to deal with their negative emotions except fighting with others, they don't learn anything. On the other hand, identifying with powerful offenders is also a common strategy for weak children who grow up in such families. In such a family, where people are not based on love and equality, a certain core of one's ego has long been destroyed, just as self-confidence becomes the pole of inferiority and arrogance after it is destroyed.

If a person does not identify with the perpetrator, then their ego becomes extremely fragile. In order to feel good about themselves, some people choose to identify with the strong side. Even if they make such a choice, they will pay such a price:

I can't get the inner balance all my life, and I always feel pain for myself.

The father in the film is a typical emotional abuser, and the reason why he swings his fist is never because his mother did anything wrong, and the motivation for his father's violence may come from family traditions and social and cultural influences, in addition to his intrinsic motives.

It can also come from family traditions and socio-cultural influences. From my aunt's words, we can clearly deduce that

For the sake of the healthy and happy growth of children, we should bravely choose divorce. Because family warmth is the soil for children's healthy growth. Without a loving family, a child's heart will be twisted.

If the parents' marriage is not harmonious, divorce or not divorce will harm the children, and not divorce will hurt even more. Because there is no fundamental solution to the problem of contradictions.

When there is a marital crisis, I don't know how to do effective communication and solve it correctly, I treat my children as a bond to maintain my marriage, I rely on them extremely and dare not admit it, and I can't face various uncertainties in my life. Cause wrong thinking, do not divorce to give children a complete home, children can grow up healthy and happy.

In fact, children can feel the love and harmony of their parents. Even if the parents organize quarrels and fights, pretending to be affectionate in front of the child's slippery nature, the child's heart is hungry and knows better than anyone else, but he doesn't say it in his heart. Imagine growing up in a loveless family, hearing and witnessing parents arguing over trivial matters every day, and being traumatized psychophysically.

On the surface, it is for the sake of the children, choosing not to divorce and giving the children a complete family, but in fact, it hurts the children even more. Marial discord has a profound impact on children. Laughter is replaced by quarrels, and the child is emotionally depressed and dull. Feeling the conflict between parents, he becomes rebellious and unhappy, and he is unwilling to communicate with his parents.

Divorce can hurt children, but don't underestimate your child's ability to bear it. After the divorce, give the child more love and warmth, and when the child is sensible, you can talk to the child about the relationship problems and the reasons for the divorce, and the child will tolerate and understand.

If it is really for the good of the child, we must solve the problem. In the event of a marital crisis, take effective communication. Patience and tolerance, empathy, thinking about each other everywhere, and harmony between husband and wife is truly good for children.