When I meet my boyfriend s parents, should I receive a gift?

Updated on psychology 2024-05-25
16 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    This practice is also right, if it is normal to give a meeting gift in my house, but it will not stuff money or anything like that, only give red envelopes, and the first time you go to their house, it represents a good omen! I have this rule in my house. He stuffed money into you, I think he was trying to see if you were a woman who was greedy for money before you even entered the door?

    As long as you truly love each other, I believe that their parents are reasonable people. Doing so will not make them lose face, is they thinking too much.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    This belongs to the meeting gift, a bit like the meaning of engagement, I personally advise you to keep these, saying that if there is a conflict in the future, you will be separated, and people will ask you for these, you can also have an explanation. It's hard to say anything in this society right now.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    If you decide to marry him, accept it, his parents do it because they treat you as a daughter-in-law. If you don't accept it, they will inevitably have thoughts in their hearts.

    If you don't plan to get married, don't accept it, it's not good to be misunderstood by others.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Or don't, unless you're sure you want to have a result or something, so it won't be a hassle later.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Tell your family. What can I do if I have already received it? . . In fact, you should take a symbolic amount, and you can't take so much.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    There are a lot of things and they are valuable.,You can choose a few pieces to accept better.。。

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I have three opinions on the question of "whether parents who meet their boyfriends for the first time should accept the meeting gift".

    The first is to respect customs and habits. Before going to meet your boyfriend's parents, you can communicate with your boyfriend to find out about your boyfriend's family situation and what customs and precautions they have at home, so as not to be embarrassed and caught off guard after meeting. If your boyfriend's hometown has the habit of giving your girlfriend a gift when your parents meet their son's girlfriend for the first time, you can accept this gift calmly, because this is the respect for your boyfriend's parents, and it is also a respect for local customs, which is acceptable.

    If your boyfriend's hometown doesn't have this custom, it's up to you to decide whether to accept this meeting gift or not.

    The second is to measure the relationship between the two sides. We Chinese have a habit, when the relationship between the woman and the man develops to a certain extent, we will go to meet the parents of both sides together, first, out of etiquette to meet with the parents of both sides, both sides take a reassurance, and second, take the opportunity to initially understand the situation of each other's family and members, and provide some reference for how the relationship between the two should develop in the future, which is also in line with the psychological needs of both men and women, especially as a woman, it is more important to understand the boyfriend as comprehensively as possible in advance. Of course, since your relationship with your boyfriend has reached the point of meeting his parents, it means that you are currently in a good relationship and are developing towards marriage, so this meeting gift boyfriend's parents must be sincere to you, and under normal circumstances, if you accept it, your boyfriend's parents will be happier.

    Third, it can be politely refused. There are many unstable factors during the relationship, the relationship is very good today, maybe tomorrow it will be awkward, today the two don't talk maybe tomorrow will be reconciled, it can be said that every moment is in change, then when you go to meet your boyfriend's parents, if you feel that you are just meeting your elders, you have not yet reached the level where you can accept your boyfriend's parents to give you a meeting gift, and you feel uncomfortable accepting each other's money for no reason, you can completely refuse. However, you must have skills in refusing, you can't refuse to accept it stiffly, and you have to find a suitable reason that not only does not go against your will, but also allows your boyfriend's parents to have a step down, so that they will not feel shameless because you do not accept this meeting gift, and cause dislike and estrangement for future relationships.

    The above three points are my personal opinions, I wonder if they can help you? Thank you!

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    When meeting your boyfriend's parents for the first time, I think you should accept their meeting, and accepting the meeting gift also represents your recognition and understanding of your boyfriend's parents, and the man's parents will also recognize their future daughter-in-law.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    It's time to take it. Because this is a part of the old man's heart, and it is also a custom, you should accept it.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Yes, if you don't accept it, it will make the man's parents think that you are disgusting the man's family.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Summary. It can be judged based on the following two factors:

    1.Household financial situation.

    The main purpose of giving the other party a meeting gift is to express respect and recognition for the other party, and the amount is not the most important, so how much to give the other party can be judged according to your own family economic situation. If the economic conditions are good, you can give more, and it is no problem to pack tens of thousands of yuan, and if the economic conditions are poor, you can pack less, and it is most important to be able to express your mind.

    2.The amount of a common local greeting gift.

    I don't know how many red envelopes to give to the woman, you can wrap a meeting gift to the woman according to the amount of red envelopes often made by locals. For example, the amount of the local red envelope is 4,000-5,000 yuan, then you can package the amount of the meeting gift within this range.

    The man's parents give the woman a greeting gift.

    Judgment factors.

    It can be judged based on the following two factors:

    1. Family economic situation.

    The main purpose of giving the other party a meeting gift is to express respect and recognition for the other party, and the amount is not the most important, so how much to give the other party can be judged according to your own family economic situation. If the economic conditions are good, you can give more, and it is no problem to pack tens of thousands of yuan, and if the economic conditions are poor, you can pack less, and it is most important to be able to express your mind.

    2. The amount of common local gifts.

    I don't know how many red envelopes to give to the woman, you can wrap a meeting gift to the woman according to the amount of red envelopes often made by locals. For example, the amount of the local red envelope is 4,000-5,000 yuan, then you can package the amount of the meeting gift within this range.

    As the man's parents, they will generally give the woman a meeting gift, such as jewelry or something, or directly take out the digital cash with meaning to the future daughter-in-law to express their acceptance and recognition of the woman.

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  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Summary. Hello dear. It's good to accept a gift from the man's parents as soon as they meet. The first time you meet the man's parents, they will give you a meeting gift, indicating that they like you very much, at this time, no matter whether the gift they give is expensive or not, you should first politely refuse, and then accept the gift.

    Hello dear. It's good to accept a gift from the man's parents as soon as they meet. The first time you meet the man's parents, they will give you a meeting gift, indicating that they like you very much, and at this time, no matter whether the gift they give is expensive or not, you should first refuse it politely, and then accept the gift.

    If you insist on refusing, it will make them lose face and feel that you look down on the gift they are giving.

    I didn't know each other for long, so I received a meeting gift, okay?

    Yes, if they take the initiative to give a gift, it means that they are very satisfied with you, and you accept the gift as a sign of respect for them.

    The main thing is that it will be too hasty to go after not long after we have just met? I was introduced to him, and I went to his house when I met him for the first time.

    Did you say no at the time?

    I've already received a greeting gift.

    It means that they accepted it as soon as they gave it to you, without any hesitation?

    If that's the case, they like you, they will think that you have a play with his son, and they will only be happy.

    They will also give you a gift when they are satisfied, and it is the best choice for you to accept it.

    Do you have to get married if you give a meeting gift?

    No, it's a statement, they agree with you to get married, not that you have to get married.

    If you don't plan to get married in the future, you can just return the gift.

    Does the woman's acceptance of the meeting gift mean that she has the intention to get married?

    Not really. You received a greeting gift, which shows that you are very polite and shows that you have a good impression of his family.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    1. According to custom.

    When a girl meets the man's parents for the first time, it is a custom for the man's parents to give a meeting gift, so the man's parents can give this meeting gift according to local customs, which can be a red envelope or a gift, and there are no specific regulations.

    2. According to family conditions.

    Parents should also give a meeting gift according to their own economic conditions, if the economic conditions of the family are better, it is okay to give a little meeting gift to the girl, the family economy is not very good, then it is okay to give less, after all, the meeting gift is just a heart, and the girl should understand more.

    3. Geely numbers.

    If you really don't know how much to give as a gift for the first time, then you can directly choose the amount of some auspicious numbers, such as 1001 yuan (10000 yuan (10,000 yuan (1 lifetime), or the mantissa is the amount, which means smooth and hair.

    When will the meeting gift be given to the woman.

    1. Give it when you finish eating.

    Generally speaking, the meeting gift is given to the woman after eating, and most of them are given by the man's mother to the woman, of course, the man's father can also give it. In order to avoid embarrassment, when giving a meeting gift, parents can say some polite words and some of their thoughts and attitudes towards the woman, and the woman should also say some words of thanks.

    2. When you are about to leave.

    If you don't give a greeting gift after eating, then you can also give her when the woman is about to leave and say goodbye, and politely welcome her to come to dinner next time.

    In fact, it is a traditional custom for parents to give a meeting gift, there is no specific rule on how much and when to give, as long as you express your heart, of course, if the girl does not receive a red envelope for the first time, don't be too sad.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Need. Before a couple gets married, the parents of both parties definitely need to communicate and talk about each other's opinions. Although this exchange was very harmonious on the surface, it was related to the marriage of children. In order to facilitate the marriage of children, it is necessary to treat the occasion of meeting well.

    Gift recommendation. (1) Fine tea or coffee. Some parents with petty bourgeois complexes like to drink coffee and taste tea, so it is most appropriate to choose some high-quality tea or coffee gifts.

    2) Supermarket Convenience Card. If you are worried that the other party will not like the gift you give, you can give a supermarket convenience card. Supermarket convenience cards are affordable and not as straightforward as money, making them a great option.

    3) Clothing. Warm sweater or cool silk scarf, pay attention to keeping warm in late winter and early spring, you can give each other a woolen sweater. In the summer heat, you can send silk scarves to make the other party feel cool.

    4) Health care products or health care equipment. If you don't know the other person's preferences, giving health products or health equipment is the least likely to make a mistake.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Hello, I am Rourou and I am very happy to serve you, I have received your question, I will reply in time after reading, after asking, because there are too many lists will be in turn, will not not, please be patient!

    1. Gifts for the first meeting of parents 1. Generally in our ordinary life, there is no need to give gifts for the first meeting of parents on both sides. Even if the gift money is prepared, it is not given to the other party's elders, but directly to the hands of the little newcomer. 2. Therefore, before your parents meet, the gift money can be prepared, but it does not need to be too grand, about 500 to 2000 is enough.

    Moreover, it is generally wrapped in a red envelope as a blessing for the little newcomer. 3. The first meeting of the in-laws is a more formal thing. In addition to the gift money, you must also be prepared for other small details.

    For example, in terms of clothing, it is necessary to be simple and generous, and it is not suitable for clothes such as flip-flops and shorts.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    The customs and habits are different in different places, and sometimes we don't use red envelopes to measure whether the in-laws value you, but in terms of etiquette for the future daughter-in-law, if you don't do it well, or if you don't do it well, you can't say it. The first time you meet, you don't respect your in-laws, how good can you expect them to be to you after marriage?

    Different etiquette interactions represent different responses. The woman can only make a judgment and respond if she knows the purpose of the money given by the man's parents. If it is just a ceremonial greeting gift, it is okay for the woman to accept it, but it is necessary to grasp the degree of the greeting gift or according to the custom, when the man goes to the woman's house, he also responds with the greeting gift as a return gift.

    However, if the man's parents are satisfied with the woman and thus approve the relationship between the man and the woman, the woman needs to use a certain stupid way to let the man's parents know whether they are willing to continue the relationship with the man.

    In addition, the woman's first limb shirt is a meeting gift, because the woman is willing to come to the door to meet the man's parents, and under normal circumstances, she is already ready to marry, and it is normal for the man's parents to give a meeting gift. However, if the meeting gift is too valuable, it means that the man attaches great importance to the woman, but the woman should consider the problem of the man's family background, after all, the meeting gift contains etiquette and tentative content.

    If it is too expensive, the intention of the meeting gift will be changed, and the meeting gift will be regarded as a bride price. At this time, the woman needs to pretend to be confused with a clear heart and understand the intentions and purposes of the man's parents.

    Finally, if the woman's intention of the meeting ceremony is not clear, she may wish to use her boyfriend's resources to help him understand the parents' intentions before responding.

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