How does parental divorce affect children?

I'm a single parent, my mother's fault, I'm exposed.

When I was a child, when I was about 5 years old, when Crayon was new, my mother brought an uncle to the house and asked me to call my uncle "Dad". The little ignorant went back to his grandmother's house and said to his grandmother: "I have two fathers!" "Grandma was speechless, and after some investigation, it turned out that I was a single parent.

The court sentenced my dad to have always looked like my dad and my dad carved out of the same mold, otherwise I would have to go with the forensic doctor.

Today, I am 3 years and 30 years old.

In my freshman year of college, my ex-girlfriend had an eventful time, so I got in touch with my mother. In other words, I didn't have a mother from 5 to 20 years old, well, I didn't have a father, because I was 6 years old, and my father brought a mother home, and my grandparents were afraid that I would be bullied, so they stayed at my grandparents' house.

Later, my father's family was a standard three-person family, which means that I had a half-brother. And I, who have been at my grandparents' house, once provoked my aunt who was also at my grandparents' house, and my aunt said, "You go back to your own house, this is my house."

Interestingly, I didn't know that my dad's family lived in **).

When I was a freshman in high school, I rebelled once at home and asked my grandparents, what am I? Ask my father, why did you give birth to me?

When I was in my third year of high school and went to college, something happened, and I felt like I was just a financial burden for my father.

When I was a child, my family was very good, and my grandfather and grandfather (my own mother) were all people who came to visit the local ** leader for the New Year and the holidays after retirement, but my later mother locked me in a room at my grandfather's house and questioned me for half an hour because I wanted to buy a toy car for 5 yuan, and the question was: "How do you want to play with a toy car?" "That's right, I said it in a hurry

There are 300 ways to use toy cars, but in the end, I still didn't buy them.

When I was a child, I sat in my father's car, and I would never dare to sit without my grandfather, if I sat by myself, I had to fasten the seat belt, and my hands were clenched tightly, not because my father was not good at driving, nor because I had a sense of safety, but because I was afraid that my father would take me out to find a place to throw me away.

In all conscience, without my grandparents, I would have died on the street.

In high school, I suffered from suicide, because I didn't know what I was living for, I once drank a certain insecticide for the garden behind my grandparents' back, and finally suffered from serious stomach problems, and now I have the problem of eating pasta and refluxing acid. (Thanks to the worker who adjusted the pesticides, if he hadn't deliberately made money and added so much water).

Every year on Mother's Day, **text message, wishing mom a happy holiday, and then receiving two particularly polite**.

When I was a child, I didn't study well, and my grandfather was very anxious, so he asked a tutor for counseling, but my dad said: Let it be.

Later, when the results of the high school entrance examination did not come out, our family was very pessimistic, and my grandfather asked someone to send me to a key high school, but my mother later told me: The technical school is also good. (Her son's grades were much more pessimistic than mine, and in the end, my grandfather found a relationship and sent him to a key high school) I relied on my scores to enter the most ordinary high school.

I unlocked the "Everything on Own" achievement and successfully convinced my grandfather that I didn't need his help).

At the beginning of the year, my first boyfriend, looking for many inquiries, finally added my WeChat. Ask me why I'm not with him. I remember the letter I wrote at that time, my birthday, all the details. So. You can't be together. Too strong of love to bear.

High school boyfriend, always in touch, occasionally regretting not being together. Because, he was too attentive to me later. To my best friend of the opposite sex, I wanted to turn friendship into love several times. So good for me! How can it be?!

Later, later, I found out. Can't be together, it's because they're too nice to me!

And now the husband! When I was in college, I wow, didn't eat with me, didn't walk, didn't chat or joked. I got married, and I was out on business for more than 200 days a year.

That's it, send me a red envelope once in a while, and I'm flattered! Being too kind to me, I started to be impatient, panicked, and restless. Particularly tired.

Being particularly tired is the biggest feeling.

I think I lost the ability to be loved.

The divorce of the parents itself does not affect the children, what affects the children is the endless torture of the parents, disgusting each other, and slandering each other. Therefore, I hope that the unhappy marriage can be reconciled and dispersed. Don't end the father-son or mother-child relationship just because the relationship is over

Children whose parents divorce will be more or less affected, they will not feel the warmth of their parents at home, and they will feel different from other children, especially if one of their parents remarries, he will feel that he has lost the love of his father or mother, and will become timid and inferior.

I'm 14 years oldGirl, before I was born, my dad had someone outside, but my mom still wanted to give birth to me, and finally went to the hospital to find out that it was a girl, and my grandma took the abortion pill to my mom, but my mom didn't want to, and finally gave birth to me. After I was born, my grandmother provoked a relationship between them, and later divorced.

After the divorce, my dad still owed my mom a lot of money, but he didn't pay it back, and he slowly paid it back like this, continuing to control my life. My mother is not in good health, it is not easy to take me alone, sometimes I am beaten for no reason, I scold me, and endure it. This year, I was suddenly diagnosed with moderate depression, and I feel that the divorce of my parents is also a factor in my depression! Alas!

My predecessor, my father abandoned his wife and children to marry a wife who was not a few years older than him, and this is the reason why my parents did not approve of my relationship with him, but they couldn't stop me from jumping into the fire pit. Later, like his father, he abandoned me. Thinking that he was also a victim, but unknowingly passed on this injury.

You play with a divorced parent, and then everyone else will say that he is a child who grew up in a single-parent family. Therefore, it is easy to be told by classmates that he has no father or no mother.

The mother's divorce means the dissolution of a family. Originally, this family was happy. Very warm. Suddenly faced with a shattered here. The child's body and mind will definitely be shocked. Neither the lack of fatherly love nor the lack of mother's love is detrimental to his growth.

Parents who divorce will care less about their children, and children feel that they will become very introverted and not cheerful enough in the future.

The impact of parental divorce on children is huge, it will also affect children's physical and mental health, and will make children become inferior and introverted, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of children.

1. Divorce of parents can make children have low self-esteem.

When parents divorce, children will feel that his family is inferior to others, when he sees that children from other families have the love of his parents, when other children are wronged, there are parents to stand up for him or parents to hold parent-teacher conferences for him in kindergarten.

Thinking about himself but having nothing, the child will have an inferiority complex.

Second, the divorce of parents will make children lack love.

Divorce of parents will also make children lack love, and children will not be able to feel complete fatherly or maternal love after their parents divorce.

The child doesn't even understand what father's love or mother's love looks like, but he is extremely eager to have this kind of feeling in his heart, and this lack of love cannot be made up for in his life.

3. Divorce of parents will change the personality of the child.

Divorce of parents can also make the child's heart extremely sensitive, for example, when the parents divorce, people around the child will point fingers, or some friends may taunt the child.

Over time, children will become extremely sensitive in their hearts, will be very concerned about the opinions of others, and will even give up their own opinions in order to please others, and become unassertive.

Fourth, the divorce of parents will also prevent children from receiving a good education.

A large part of a child's education comes from the family, and if the parents are divorced, then one party may not have so much energy to spend on the child's education and may neglect the child.

For example, when the parents are divorced, the girl follows the father, but the daughter has some little secrets that cannot be shared with the father, but can be shared with the mother, but the parents are divorced, and the girl's heart cannot be shared with others, which will affect her development.

The impact of parental divorce on children is relatively large, mainly reflected in the following aspects.

First, there is a lack of complete paternal and maternal love. Once the parents divorce and separate, the children cannot be accompanied by their parents all the time as before, and may have to choose one of them, or even live with their grandparents. In this way, the child is bound to grow up in an environment where there is either a lack of father's love or a lack of mother's love, and the lack of love is inevitable.

Second, it leads to character defects, interpersonal communication disorders. Children who grow up in an environment that lacks the nourishment of the love of one parent generally have more or less character defects. Some are particularly extreme, some have a serious father-lover or mother-love complex, and some are introverted and unwilling to socialize, and these personalities often affect the child's life.

Children will become withdrawn, which is not conducive to the formation of correct values later on.

Third, both physical and mental health can be affected. Because they have left a complete family, a single father or mother will inevitably neglect to take care of their children when they are running for life, including daily care, as well as psychological communication and exchanges; In the long run, it can cause indelible damage to a child's life.

Therefore, for parents, they must fulfill their obligations and responsibilities to raise their children, and do not choose the road of divorce until they have to, because divorce is an irreparable damage to both parties, children, and families, so you can't be too selfish, and you must think more about your children!

As children grow up, they need a strong parent-child relationship.

For parents, divorce may be a way out of the siege of marriage and looking for a way out of their own happiness. However, for the child, he is still in a critical period of physical and psychological growth, and he also needs a strong parent-child relationship to help him establish the core sense of security. If the most trustworthy parents parted ways, it would be difficult for him to face all this.

Therefore, after some parents divorce, there are various changes in their children.

Although, the current parents choose to divorce, unwilling to compromise in a low-quality marriage, and live an unhappy life, which is a manifestation of becoming independent in mind and becoming confident in life, and I believe that ending an unhappy marriage can also be a good life. However, for the sake of the healthy growth of their children, parents also have to be wary of the sequelae after divorce appearing in their children.

The impact of the divorce of the parents on the children.

The marital relationship between parents breaks down for different reasons, some are financial, some are emotional, some may be family and personality, etc. However, the impact of divorce on children is often surprisingly consistent, and it is not very good:

The child's personality development is affected, and he is prone to loneliness and low self-esteem.

When parents divorce, the formation of a child's personality is the most susceptible. Psychologists have found that children who grow up in divorced or remarried families are more likely to have behavioral problems, such as liaring and stealing, in most cases.

As for the reason, it is not difficult to imagine. After the divorce of the parents, the child can only choose one parent to live, whether the child chooses the father or the mother, are destined to not enjoy the complete love of the parents, it is difficult to get the double protection of the biological parents, the child who longs for love and attention, it is easy to have no sense of security, lack of happiness, the formation of withdrawn, low self-esteem character.

As a child, I understand that divorce and remarriage can be a complex emotional issue for children. However, I can't be biased or personal about this issue.

Divorce and remarriage are not uncommon in modern society. Every family and situation is unique, and I think how to handle this situation should depend on the specific situation and relationships. Often, the happiness and welfare of parents should be one of their children's top concerns.

If the parents divorce because of an unhappy marriage or other unavoidable reasons, it may take time for the children to adjust to the change. However, if the parents decide to remarry, then the children should be informed and their feelings respected. If the child is not comfortable with remarriage, then the parents should consider the emotional needs of the child and try to adapt them to the new family form as much as possible.

Overall, the divorce and remarriage of parents may have some emotional impact on children, but if parents are honest with each other, respect their children's feelings, and help them adapt to the change, then children will usually understand and support their decisions.

Yes, what is the impact of a parent's divorce on the child?

One. Children are prone to negative emotions.

These negative emotions such as inferiority complex, abandonment, resentment, etc., will act on their interactions with peers to a certain extent, and eventually affect their interpersonal interactions, resulting in their psychological defects and increasing the difficulty of partnering. Children are easily timid, withdrawn, extreme, and do not trust others.

Most of these behaviors are due to the unhappy marriage of the parents.

2. It is easy to lack self-confidence in life and study.

The breakdown of the family has led to the incompleteness of family education. Children living in single-parent families often lack good parenting and learning guidance, and broken families will also cast a shadow on their psyche, causing them to lose confidence in life and learning. In real life, there are many children who excel in learning, but due to the divorce of their parents, there is a significant decline in their life attitude and learning status, and they may seriously embark on the road of crime.

3. Prone to more serious character defects.

After the parents divorce, the child will feel that he has lost the love of his parents, even if the parents are responsible and want to give love to their children, this love is incomplete. Even, some children are one manifestation of their mother's presence and another manifestation of their father's appearance, and they are afraid that they will be abandoned, which is also prone to character defects.