Do you know what stubborn children think in their hearts?

A stubborn child is actually a child who has opinions and ideas. Therefore, you must not be tough, this kind of child's character is rather bent than bending, and if you take tough measures, it is likely to lead to serious consequences.

First of all, we must analyze the reasons for the child's stubbornness. It is likely that the child thinks it is the right thing to do, but the parent does not think so. Moreover, parents always do not listen to their children's explanations, and parents also stubbornly insist on their own opinions.

As a result, the child's temper gradually grows and becomes particularly stubborn.

At this time, it is important to communicate with the child, understand the child's ideas well, and if the child's ideas are correct, then you can give support. If the child's idea is relatively childish, then you can tell the truth of this childish idea and let the child understand the reason. It is likely that the child's personality will never become so stubborn again.

Therefore, parents must give their children a chance to argue and let them make their thoughts clear. Children also have the right to express their own thoughts and words, and if they are blindly suppressed, it is likely to cause emotional dissatisfaction among children, so over time it will cause a particularly stubborn character.

I often hear people say things like "this kid is very tough" and "ten cows can't pull it back when it's strong". My daughter is also tough and likes to say "no". I'm trying to understand why some kids are obedient and do almost everything they are told to do, while others are the opposite.

What does the stubborn child think in his heart?

Through reading books and thinking on my own, I found that no matter adults or children, the first thing that comes to mind when they are stubborn is these three words "why". "Why should I listen to you", "I don't listen", "I have my own ideas", this line of thought is what we see as stubbornness.

Knowing what children are thinking when they are stubborn, how do we get along with them? First of all, we should respect the child's idea of "wanting to do it yourself" and "being yourself". It is not a bad thing for children to be curious, willing to try, and assertive, let them do it.

What about their "wrong decision-making"? If it is not a big right or wrong, parents should be tolerant. Give children the opportunity to try and make mistakes, which may bring us some trouble, and even increase some financial burden, but we don't blame and punish children, we can simply analyze things with children, and children will gain experience and lessons from them if they feel that something is wrong.

This sense of right and wrong is important, and parents can benefit their children a lot by guiding them to summarize and reflect.

My daughter has a lot of that. For example, when she was more than 5 years old, several of her friends went to learn to dance, she had to go, in fact, she wanted dance clothes and dance shoes, and she had no dancing advantages in terms of figure, movement coordination and hobbies. Sure enough, I didn't want to go before I finished a period, and there were two times when the teacher came to call in person to go to class, and I barely finished a period, and she said firmly

I don't learn to dance." Through this trial and error, my daughter gradually learned what she liked and what she was good at. She chose to learn piano by herself, and she was able to persevere.

When the child does it, he will have a feeling, right and wrong and analyze it with him, so that the child can slowly learn to analyze things and distinguish right from wrong, reduce willful behavior, and the child will be more sensible; In this process, the child will also experience equality, democracy and tolerance, the authority of the parents will be slowly established, and the child will be more obedient.

Children need trial and error, and it is unscientific to not allow children to make mistakes and obey their parents in everything. Even "obedience" is temporary and superficial, and we need to cultivate long-term and inner perfection in children. His inner self-confidence and peace are more important than being cautious, curiosity is more important than not making mistakes in everything, and having the courage to choose himself is more important than choosing the right one.

Later, when I grew up and stayed away from my parents' nagging, when I heard others compliment me, I realized that I was not bad and that I was still very good. I've made some achievements through my own efforts.

Now that I have become a parent, I will lose control in the face of naughty children, and I will repeat the way my parents taught me back then, knowing that it is wrong but I will involuntarily use it. At that moment, I deeply understood the mood of my parents back then, "hatred of iron does not make steel". When I became a parent, I realized that it was not easy for my parents.

From the day I became a parent, I told myself to do my best to educate you well, but slowly I found that you have your own temper, your own preferences, and your own persistence. Your hardness has repeatedly hit a wall in my beautiful educational prospects, and I know that you are not a small mud changer, and if I carve it at will, I can become what I want in my heart. You have your own ideas (you know what you want, what you don't want, what you like and what you don't like), you have your own temper, and your mother is proud of your choices, but also worried about your stubbornness, because you are still young, it is inevitable that you will make the wrong choice, and you do insist on not listening to advice.

It's really hard to be a parent, and everything is good for the child.

I still remember when I was in school, my parents always said that you should see how other people's children are doing, and my heart will be very unhappy. I always feel that in the eyes of my parents, I am useless, and I am not as good as others. Because of this, I feel inferior and not good at talking.

The little ones are particularly stubborn and should be adjusted using the following methods:

1. There should be more communication and exchanges, moderate tolerance of children's personality issues, and encourage children to express their inner thoughts, learn to understand the problems from the perspective of others, and even learn to share them with others.

2. For children's excessive persistence or stubborn thoughts, communication skills should also be used to make children realize that these stubbornness and stubbornness are not the right behaviors, so that children can deeply realize that these behaviors are sharp and wrong. Only in this way can Zhaodan children understand that their behavior is wrong from a new perspective, take the initiative to cooperate and adjust, and improve their stubbornness.

3. When children have wrong stubbornness and stubbornness, parents should also be clear about their bottom line, and at the same time have a resolute attitude. Because some children may stubbornly want to play for a while and watch TV for a while, and some children want their parents to buy them toys and so on.

At this time, parents must adhere to their own principles and bottom lines, and cannot accommodate their children, and only by adhering to these principles and bottom lines can they not let their children have wrong words and deeds, and even become more and more stubborn and selfish. All of the above methods are fine.

Hello dear! The child has entered the rebellious period, you should pay attention to the way you speak, guide him slowly, and use less commanding tone. Don't be impatient if he is disobedient, let alone yell, or physically punished, be patient and talk to him in a different way.

Even if the child is growing, the parent's education method must also grow with it.

Appropriately grasp the level of appreciation, and the degree of appreciation varies from child to child. For example, timid and dull children are more affirmative and encouraging, and less criticism and accusation. For naughty, active, and poorly behaved children, we should be good at capturing their shining points, affirming and encouraging them in time, and promoting their strengths and avoiding weaknesses.

Good children, willful children are appropriately appreciated, and new and higher requirements are put forward or more encouraged to overcome willful behavior.

Nowadays, many children are like this, and they belong to the rebellious period, and it is best for their families not to reject or criticize them positively. Therefore, the family should learn how to communicate with the child, because the family environment and education style lead to the child's current personality.