Why do you always let me down? Why do I always feel disappointed in myself?

Don't get your hopes up too much, the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment.

I can understand your feelings, because I have been confused about this matter for a long time recently, in fact, our disappointment stems from our trust and overestimation of certain things and certain people, we often feel that others promise us that we should do it, but the facts are often changeable, we can't decide to control other people's lives, disappointment is inevitable.

What is love? The meaning of love is very broad and can be friendship, family affection, love, ......Perhaps the most interesting thing for people is love, right? Then I might as well talk about love.

Love is the most beautiful word, how many people are struggling to pursue it, sometimes people regard love as more important than life. But what is love? How many people truly have eternal love?

How many people have been searching for it all their lives? Love may be the feeling of love at first sight, love may be the feeling when you make a promise, and love may be the ......feeling of life and deathLove is a topic that can't be talked about endlessly. When you fall in love with someone, your heart is panicked and uneasy, you don't know how the other person feels, and you have to hide your feelings because you are a reserved person.

Maybe the root of your love is a shadow in your heart, you put on a dream clothes for him, you are intoxicated in the illusion of the dream and do not want to wake up, wandering and tossing for a long time, when you know the other party's feelings, everything has been light, because you have stepped out of his shadow, his coat is no longer gorgeous, the love you hold has lost its luster, and your life has been injected with gray since then. When I don't have the experience of loving others, I think, "It's a pleasure to love others."

When I was loved, I thought, "What a blessing to be loved!" But whether it is to love or be loved, it is so sad, because people's hearts are always so unpredictable, and desires are always so things, for her, they can only pass by.

Nothing can penetrate deep into her heart. Like a decadent and gloomy flower, with a gesture of despair but looking up at an innocent face, smiling at all cruelty and humiliation. The deep dark green color is without tears.

Such a flower that blooms forever in the dark does not believe in tears, and is destined to be lonely for a lifetime. Often, in a crowded crowd, I feel the extension, sound, smell of many strangers, chaotic and noisy. And when you are quiet and then look and listen, you can feel incombinable, with love and being loved, there will be a struggle in the whirlpool of feelings, and with love and being loved, there will be more entanglements in the emotional world.

The wrong car of loving and being loved, the incomprehension of loving and being loved, the restriction of loving and being loved, the helpless ...... of loving and being lovedIn the vast land, for a person who is disappointed in the world and has no love in his heart, isn't it the same to **? Forever walking on the road, all love, all of a sudden, you will find that there is nothing here. Empty and silent.

There are many people who have no soul. I live a mediocre life, I have no purpose, I don't know why I want to live, and I never think about what I live for. There may be more and more such people in this world.

He's been looking for the one who feels the same way he or she feels.

When I was a child, I always felt that I would become an amazing person in the future, become a scientist, become a teacher, or become a star, or even become a national **. But when I grew up, I found that these were not the lives I wanted, so I was disappointed in myself. I regret my choice.

In fact, everyone will have such a mentality, but some people choose to face reality, and some people choose to escape from reality. We always like to set goals for ourselves and work hard to achieve them. However, as we get older, we will find that those goals are simply out of reach.

When we were children, we all hoped that we could get into a good school, because it represented a kind of honor, it meant that we were better than others. However, when we actually walked into the campus, we found that a good school is not so easy to get into. Moreover, even if you are admitted to a good school, it does not mean that you will be able to have a good future.

When I was a student, many people would fantasize about what kind of person they want to be when they grow up and what kind of life they want to have. However, when I grew up, I realized that all this was just a dream of friends. Although we are now adults and can make decisions for ourselves, many times, we are still hesitant and do not know what to do or which direction to work into.

In fact, the most important thing in a person's life is not how much money you have, but whether you can make yourself happy. Money is endless, as long as you are willing to work hard, there will always be something to gain. But if you're not happy, what's the point of having more money?

So, whether you have money or not, love yourself well. Only when you feel happy and happy, can you feel that life is meaningful.

Don't let yourself live in the memories of the past, and don't let the days ahead be full of regrets. Only in this way can you live a more wonderful life.

Disappointments are accumulated, and after a long time, they will naturally see through and let go.

When you need him, he turns a blind eye to you, doesn't reply to messages, doesn't answer **, even if he replies, it's a faint sentence or even a word, and it's cold across the screen;

When you have something to share with the other party, the other party's attitude is always cold, even impatient, and they are no longer willing to receive your messages or receive them early, and even clearly refuse to accept those big and small things that you care about, you like, and you mind that you are looking forward to sharing, and there is no longer a moment of empathy and sharing;

He closed all communication channels to you, even if your mutual friends have an equal opportunity to see the Moments, Douyin and other software he shared, but you can no longer see it. He has closed all channels for you to intervene and even learn about his life for no reason, and he no longer shows you any joys and sorrows about himself, and you have no access to them;

He will still have daily unhappiness or happiness, but from now on, you will no longer be the person he wants to share. Between you, more and more is left of silence. You will never take the initiative to find each other again, and even after the active party finds each other, there is no longer a topic to easily open the situation between each other, time passes by the minute, and you are only embarrassed by each other across the airwaves, so you suddenly feel that everything is like a farce of your own imagination when you hang up in a hurry;

You are still concerned about him, for his sake, for him, but the other party's attitude towards you has been completely cold, he will only appear when he needs you, no matter whether you are convenient or not, whether you have time, only to achieve your own goals, once you get the benefits to achieve the goal, he will disappear again as if he never appeared. This kind of giving is always one-sided, and when you need help, the other party is as silent as dead;

Any good relationship is that after two people are together, they will want to be together, have a sense of sweetness, a sense of expectation, and are willing to pay for the hungry party, and they are looking forward to paying, and all the giving and giving are with a sweet sense of satisfaction. Both of them feel that because of each other, their future is full of expectations, and they are willing to go to each other better. Feelings flow in both directions, and this sense of security and preference from the other party is full and firm.

If not, you are miserable, even doubtful and hesitant, then forget it and give up. All your suspicions are true.

We've all had the experience of letting ourselves down. These experiences may be because we didn't get the results we wanted, or because we made the wrong decisions. Whatever the reason, these experiences will leave a lasting impression on us and make us more cautious when we encounter similar situations in the future.

When we are young, we may make some mistakes. These mistakes may be due to our lack of experience, or because we are not mature enough. But over time, we will understand the negative effects of these mistakes and begin to regret our choices.

For example, if you don't study well or participate in extracurricular activities in school, you may miss out on many opportunities in the future. Of course, at that age, you may not know what you really want to be in the future, but it would be a shame if you had the opportunity to try something new and eventually give up.

Similarly, if you don't make good use of your skills or improve your abilities in your career, you may miss out on opportunities to reach the next level in the future. It is very important to study and continuously improve your skills at work. If you don't work hard at the time, you will start to regret your choice in the future.

Of course, everyone has their own unique experiences and stories. We can learn from the wrong choices of the past and apply those lessons to future decisions. While we can't change the past, we can shape a more fulfilling, successful, and meaningful future by reflecting and recognizing our mistakes.

In short, it's not a bad thing to let yourself down and regret it. In your career and life, it's inevitable to make mistakes. It's all about how we learn from our mistakes and work towards making better decisions.

Only in this way can we continue to grow and make progress, and turn regrets into motivation to move towards a better future.

When I was a child, I would have a beautiful vision for the future, and I would have a big plan for the state when I grew up. ......But when I really grow up, I will find that I have not met those requirements at all for my childhood vision and planning, and many people will feel disappointed and regret because of this. Personally, I think this feeling is inaccurate, and I don't have to be disappointed and regret it.

The reason why I say this is because my childhood vision and plan were too idealistic to become a reality, everyone needs to experience difficulties and pay a price for their growth, and as long as I have no regrets in the process of growing up, I have no regrets.

1. Childhood visions and plans are too idealistic to become a real reality.

For us as children, we lack both experience and knowledge accumulation, so our understanding of the future is very simple. Planning for one's future in such a state often results in too much idealism to become a real reality. ......Therefore, when you look back on your childhood visions and plans when you grow up, and find that you didn't meet the requirements, you don't have to feel disappointed and regretful.

2. Everyone's growth has to go through difficulties, they have to pay the price, and it is impossible to be perfect.

When we were children, we had great plans for our future, but our real-life upbringing was full of difficulties and had to pay a lot of costs. ......As a result, we can't grow up perfect, let alone meet the requirements of our childhood. ......We don't need to regret this problem, let alone regret it, it's like this in real life.

3. As long as you have no regrets in the process of growing up, you will have no regrets.

In the process of our growth, we have made our own efforts, reaped the rewards of growth, and finally learned knowledge, experience and experience, and Zao Yi also has its own position in the process of learning and working. ......In this process, as long as we have no regrets, we have no regrets, and we don't have to feel disappointed and regretful because we didn't live up to our childhood visions and plans. We've done a great job and we should be proud and proud.

1. Misplaced identity.

The identity positioning is: At this time, who do I think I think in my heart? A person can only have an identity and do a good job in one thing.

If a person does not change their identity in time during different events, there will be problems.

For example, the professional identity and the partner's identity are misaligned, and the professional identity is the leader, and as a result, in the family, the partner is treated in the same way as the subordinates, and the leader's way of thinking and behavior habits are used to manage the family;

For example, the social identity and the partner's identity are misaligned, the social identity is the trainer, and as a result, in the family, the partner is treated in the same way as the trainee, and the partner is educated in a didactic way;

Similarly, doctors treat their partners the same way they treat their patients; The counselor treats the partner in the same way as the client with the problem, etc.

If you don't get along with each other as a partner, you will naturally not feel the value of the other person as a partner, and disappointment is inevitable.

At the same time, this practice will make the other person not feel your value as a partner, causing tension in the relationship between the two parties.

2. Projection failure.

Projection, in psychology, refers to the process by which a person transfers the mode of getting along with his or her parents in the family of origin (the mode of satisfying needs, the mode of emotional interaction, the mode of emotional expression), as well as the unmet needs and unreleased emotions, to other people.

For example, they will transfer their parents' mode of getting along with themselves to their partners, and treat their partners as children, so as to satisfy their psychology of being worshipped, needed, and depended on; or transfer some of the needs of the parents to the partner, treating the partner as a parent and needing the partner to satisfy themselves;

Once the partner does not satisfy himself, he will have feelings of grievance, disappointment, dissatisfaction, and even resentment.

This kind of complex, the transfer of needs, is instinctive and unconscious, and it is difficult to adjust it in a rational way. At the same time, this transfer is also ineffective, because the other person is not your child's parents, and you can only get real satisfaction from your own child's parents.

3. Immature mental model.

If a person is constantly disappointed in others, it may be a childlike mentality, he is used to being taken care of by those around him, and instinctively thinks that everything is what he deserves, and everyone should take care of him like his parents.

When someone doesn't do what he wants, he will be disappointed, angry, and blame others.