Regarding the question of who is talking about the people behind the scenes, please give your opinio

Talking and talking don't seem to be the same.

I think it's okay to be with your classmates and talk about other students, for example, talking about their current situation and status, which can not only increase the topic, shorten the distance between classmates, but also make everyone pay attention to those who are not around now and are being mentioned.

As for talking about their personalities, character, especially people you don't like, are you afraid of being a little suspicious of right and wrong? I think it's good not to talk about other people's shortcomings, or some characteristics of others that you don't like, for example, it's not appropriate to say it to ordinary classmates who play with you, others will think you have too many things to do, and rap. Even.

If they get your word out again, you'll have a hard time being a human being.

As a general rule, don't talk about people you don't like, but I think it's okay to complain with a good friend once in a while without causing a large area of fluctuations.

Through your questions, it can be seen that you are not the kind of person who talks a lot, remember that when you are with a lot of people, you can talk about other classmates, a very ordinary kind of talk (not too much personal feelings), this kind of talk is absolutely legal and reasonable. Talking about the rights and wrongs of others, it's better to have a few! I'm sure you'll get the right measure

Or try not to talk about others

If you have to talk about it, you would rather hypocritically say that he (she) has 100 advantages, rather than sincerely say that he (she) has 1 disadvantage

Ignore them, it's human freedom to speak, as long as it's not slander and life attacks, don't pay attention! You can't live in other people's opinions, you're living for yourself! It's enough to be yourself. Liu Xiang doesn't say it's good or bad, right?

Despise the upstairs, complain about him!

This matter can be divided into two sides, first of all, our human nature, we spend 90% of our time talking about others, this is normal, you don't comment on others, you are also the object of other people's comments, you think about it carefully, no matter how good this person is, there will be people who like him and people who don't like him. And everyone has their own reasons.

However, there are several things to pay attention to when evaluating others, and say as many good things about others as possible, even if it reaches the ears of others, it will not cause a bad impact on yourself.

Secondly, when evaluating people, you should be objective, and you should be right about things and not people, you can express your opinion and say how well he handled this matter, but don't target him and say how his character is. Otherwise, there is a risk of enmity.

In addition, anyone has their own preferences for things, or they look at problems from different angles, or know that the inside story of things is different, and the natural way of dealing with them will be different, so they should be as considerate as possible to others.

As long as it is not a matter of principle, such as embezzlement, framing, or rumor-mongering, we should try to tolerate others.

In fact, it is very normal to talk about people behind our backs, because we live in the world of people, every day we are in contact with people, everything is created by people, when talking about others, this is a normal thing, you are not wrong, there is no need to blame yourself and generate psychological pressure, just pay attention to one point, like the friend above said, try not to say bad things about others, or too subjective to discuss others, if you say good things about others, people don't know how happy they are when they hear it, It's even better than if you tell him in person, so remember to say more good things about others behind your back, so that you will be more liked and respected. Thank you.

I also don't think it's good to talk about other people, but it's okay to complain, and if you have any grievances with anyone, and you're afraid that it will affect the friendship between two people, you can choose to talk to your family, and no one has ever done this kind of thing, and no one is perfect.

Who has nothing to say in front of them, and who has no one to say after them?

We should face these things with optimism and calmness!

It's strange that people who like to analyze and evaluate others indiscriminately and people who like to give advice indiscriminately.

In the case of not understanding, it is very arbitrary to do something, very shallow, and a little self-righteous. Of course, there are certain reasons for habitual this, which are worthy of being understood and tolerated, and everything is cause and effect. It's better to be very serious and responsible just meddling in other people's lives, right?

I don't care more and more about other people's evaluations, whether they are praise or criticism, because I gradually find that others judge me by their own ideas, not necessarily the same as my inner judgment.

I don't want to judge others, every time someone around me doubts me and asks me "what do you think of me", I will tell him that I don't want to tell you what I think of you when I don't know you so much, which is not very responsible, but I approach you because I like you very much now.

So the great Gatsbury wrote in the first chapter: "Don't judge anyone, remember that they don't necessarily have the same superior conditions as you." ”

Jealousy of you would say that. It's good to ignore these directly, they live a wonderful life, no matter what they say, they can only just talk. The key is to live comfortably.

If you care about what other people think, you're going to be tired. And how can people who really like you believe in some right and wrong and deny you.

Believe in yourself, you must believe in yourself, you must be your own master, meet your own needs, not external evaluation, young people to be true to themselves, not to be disturbed by the outside world, do not care about other people's praise and blows, but also do not care about other people's evaluation and attacks, such people are truly happy people, the most important thing for a person to be a person and do things is to be assertive.

It's not good to talk about the behavior of others behind your back, and it's easy to give the impression of a tongue-chewing woman.

If you are cowardly, or if you are psychologically unbalanced, you will talk about it behind your back, otherwise, you can say it to your face.

Talking about others behind your back is despicable.

I don't like this type of person very much, it's not good to talk about other people behind my back.

People will only be jealous of those who are similar to themselves, and they can only look up to those who are much stronger than themselves.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Human beings are social animals, and there is a lot of discussion behind them, you can listen to Leslie Cheung's silence is golden.

This kind of behavior is very shameful and hated.

This kind of behavior is very bad, and it is not advisable to talk about people behind their backs.

If you don't listen, it doesn't matter, why care about other people's tongues.

This kind of behavior is not good, and the quality of the people who do it is not high.