How can you tell if your child is a baby who returns the favor or a baby who takes revenge?

For example, if you give him an orange, and then you take the orange from his hand, see if he will snatch it back, or if your mother will give it to you, it's easy to tell.

Looking at his usual behavior, if he has a good attitude towards others and knows how to share toys with others, it means that he is a grateful baby.

Look intimate or not. If the child does not make trouble for himself and is considerate, he is the baby who repays the favor; If you just blindly ask for it without knowing what to reciprocate, it is revenge baby.

Children often sleep in an upside-down schedule, so it often causes some trouble for adults. Retribution and revenge are all parents' own mentality. The mentality of parents is also the mentality of children in the future.

Will the child repay the favor or take revenge? It can be judged by whether the child is obedient or not, and whether the child is usually sensible.

If your baby is not a picky eater and eats everything, then it is really a great blessing for mothers, because I have seen many children eat, this thing is really difficult to picky eaters, and often do not like to eat.

Recently, I read a news article about a 15-year-old boy who dropped out of school at home and stabbed his 8-year-old neighbor's brother in order to monopolize his mobile phone. Addicted to mobile games, his father smashed his phone in a fit of rage, and then he came up with an idea: to snatch someone else's phone.

So, this scene was staged, and he himself was sentenced to three years in prison.

15 years old, what a beautiful young time, but unfortunately, it went astray, which makes people sigh.

For a long time, the issue of juvenile delinquency has attracted much attention from society. Some children are young, ignorant and fearless, and make big mistakes.

And some, because of age, even if they commit a crime, they can be exempted from punishment, and they commit crimes again many years later, which is really painful for the people in Jizhou.

Some people will say that some children are born to repay kindness, and some children are born to take revenge. The child comes into the world through you, like a blank sheet of paper, and whatever color you add to it, he will become.

Parents are the first teachers of children, family is the first school of children, and children's behavior comes from imitating you. Whether it's to repay your kindness or revenge, it's all closely related to you.

At this time, we should reflect on our own education methods, instead of putting the responsibility on the child and letting the child bear the consequences of your educational failure.

Wu Yuzhang once said:

You are reluctant to educate your children, and eventually society will help you educate them fiercely. There are many ways to love children, and it is not advisable to spoil them; Be strict with your child, but avoid verbal negation and use sticks to solve it.

Learning the right education is a topic that parents need to study throughout their lives.

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My children have come to repay the favor; They will take the initiative to help with housework when they are at home, they will consciously take the initiative to complete their homework, they will take the initiative to care for their parents, and they will sincerely accept their parents' criticism.

If the child is very smart, sensible, very filial, and has a very strong learning ability, it means that the child is here to repay the favor.

This life is here to collect debts. Every family has a different perspective on their baby. Some people say that their family is a vengeful baby, and they often make themselves haggard, and sometimes they are even close to collapse.

My child still came to help, because my child is very sensible, does not talk nonsense at home, and is very attentive in class.

No one is saying this, so listen to it and figure it out for yourself. It's not the child who takes revenge or revenge, but you live for the child in the end (if there are children), and when the child is older, you will still live for the child's child, and you won't bring it to death!

My children are very filial, my son and daughter, they are very filial, care about me and my wife, and help us a lot in terms of manpower and money. We feel blessed.

Husband and wife are destined for good and evil, and there is no reason for incompatibility.

Children are in debt, and debts are repaid, and debts are not in debt.

How so? For the time being, I'm still very grateful, because we don't live together and she works in the field, and she goes home once a month or two, and when she comes back, I make something she loves to eat, just. Marriage problems are disobedient, the eldest is not too small and does not get married, let her go.

Unless the child needs your help, don't live with the child if you can.

There are contradictions in dwelling.

According to cause and effect, it should be revenge, you owed him too much in your previous life, and you have to pay it back in this life, this is fate, how can you meet without owing.

The child did not come to take revenge, nor to repay the favor, but to collect debts, and to pick the fruit because he had sown the cause.

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It is better for the child not to be burdened, and there is neither to repay the favor nor to take revenge.

Copulation and reproduction are biological instincts. Raising children, or not raising children, is nothing more than a life choice.

The child is good to you, or not good to you, it is not, or not necessarily, the reason why you raise the child, or the result of your education.

Nurture and protect children when they are young, stay away from them when they are adults, and help them when they need help and are within your means. That's it.

The most important thing is to be yourself and live your life well.

Family focuses on management, happiness comes from cognition, hello everyone, I am a happy ferryman, welcome to listen to "Family Happiness Knocks on the Door". Next, I will share with you "Is your child looking for you to repay your kindness or revenge?" 》

The child is not good at language, but on Mother's Day, he will give the warmest poem to his mother;

The child is not good at math, but he never cares about his classmates;

The child does not speak English well, but gives up his seat to the elderly man on the bus.

The secular has always used a uniform standard to measure a child's development, but grades should not be the only yardstick. The love of parents should not be conditional, loving a child means accepting him, accepting his excellence, and accepting his ordinariness. Happy children spend their childhood ** for a lifetime, and unfortunate children use ** for a lifetime ** childhood.

So what kind of family is the best for the growth of children? A father's best love for his children is a mother who loves his children well; A mother's best love for her child is to appreciate and respect her child's father; And the best love parents have for their children is to unconditionally protect him with their lives, so that he can become what he likes, not what you expect.

I'm an emotion analyst, and I hope today's sharing will be helpful to you.