Please help me with my interpersonal problems in China

China is a very friendly country, and Chinese people can easily integrate into other countries and prefer to be friendly to other races. It can be seen from the fact that China is a multi-ethnic country! So first of all, you have to abandon the idea that you are an outsider, and integrate yourself into the people, to contact them, to understand them, to be close to them.

Exchange your true feelings for everyone's true feelings, and you will integrate with everyone. Form a Chinese people in your heart, a friendly and hospitable people. Only by opening your heart can you integrate into them faster.

Believe in yourself.

That's because your classmates are not mature enough, and the national consciousness in the mainland is too heavy, so of course you will have a hard time.

It is recommended that you change places to Taiwan or Hong Kong.

Taiwan may be a little easier because it speaks Mandarin the same, and Taiwan is relatively inclusive, as for Hong Kong, although it is also, but Hong Kong speaks Cantonese, if you can speak Cantonese it is also a good choice.

Hehe, it doesn't mean that they are not friendly, it can only be said that you still haven't fully integrated into the collective.

Think about your own reasons first.

I'm sure you'll get along with your classmates.

In fact, Chinese are still happy to make friends. But most people are embarrassed to communicate with people they don't know well.

It is easier to socialize, take the initiative to chat with the people around you, and gradually have more friends.

In fact, many Chinese only have a small circle of friends around them, and there are not many people who really have many friends.

Sometimes you need to emphasize your existence, kindness does not equal cowardice, if you sincerely help someone, but refuse you when you need help, then next time you must clearly tell him that you can't help him either!

According to what you said, you should be a very popular person, but you said that the relationship with colleagues is so bad, which is very incomprehensible, but think about it You always have something to lose, but you don't feel it, as the saying goes: to know the real thing, you need to listen to the words behind you, I hope you can find a friend and let him give you pointers, as long as you worry about it will be good!

"I know I'm not confident and even have low self-esteem"

I think low self-esteem is the biggest problem you want to change your strength, people are confident, everything will be fine.

A large part of me is like you, but I still have people to talk to in the company, and I think you can do the same, communicate more with your colleagues, and they will naturally be friends with you.

When you talk to others about others, choose what is good. People who don't speak ill of people are very popular.

Both are indispensable, both are very important, China's environment is not, as long as you have knowledge can be displayed, I really help you look forward to it,

Both are important. For example, if you don't know how to deal with others, then you will be eliminated. Also, if you don't have knowledge, many people will laugh at you.

Isn't it feeling dazed and overwhelmed?

The fact that you can envision all kinds of possible situations shows that you are very thoughtful, and this is an advantage.

However, this is also the reason for your shortcomings, you are always trying to figure out what the people around you think, but you ignore yourself. Do what they want you to do, do you still have yourself? There are many times when we don't need to figure out the psychology of the other person, as long as it doesn't cause harm to the people around you, we don't have to be so careful.

A person's life is very short, and it is very long, and it is inevitable that there will always be stumbles and stumbles on such a long road, and it will never be smooth sailing, which is unrealistic. You can't bind yourself by previous failures. Failing to pass the exam does not mean that there is no future, the current society is not solved by academic qualifications, you can consider becoming a teacher, as long as the professional knowledge is excellent, it will even have more employment advantages than the students who are recruited by the unified recruitment.

It's not good to see your lack of self-confidence everywhere between the lines, as long as you look up to yourself, no one will look down on you. It depends entirely on your own mentality, and if you have time, you can communicate with a professional psychological counselor to find the root cause of your own mentality, and look at yourself correctly, so that you can correctly look at the things around you.

Good luck!

Start small, develop self-confidence, and slowly it will get better.

Although I have a lot of things I want to say after listening to what you said, I see that these friends below have analyzed very well, so I don't know what to say, Hehe, you can look at the analysis of these friends, I believe it will be of great benefit to you!!

But I want to add that this mileage of life is long and short, but in this mileage you will encounter a lot of setbacks and sadness, perhaps, this is your fate will be regretted by your fate, regret your character, God's injustice, hehe, but you have to believe that nothing in the world is very fair! Don't complain about this, don't be annoyed, you have to believe in your goals and work hard!

I heard you say that you failed the college entrance examination twice, but I want to say that at the same time, there are many students who have taken the college entrance examination many times, and they are also persevering,! Yes, I hope you can also persevere and study hard, I believe that if you have the confidence and perseverance, then your life will be different! Let's do it!!

Wish: You smile often, eat Ma Ma Xiang (

Remember the phrase that everyone is their own hero.

Damn, my brother and I are too similar, but I'm slowly coming out now, and my feeling is that I want to be myself, and I'm the only one who can make me happy.

Believing in the other person and betraying me are two different things entirely. My affairs are entirely up to me. ......It has nothing to do with people in the world, I just want to be kind to people, so I want to be kind to people, I want to believe, so I believe. ”

Yoko, "Tale of the Twelve Kingdoms".

What cannot be escaped is the self, and what cannot be recovered is the past.

Ray "Gundam SEED

Not because others are unhappy, I am unhappy, not because others are better than me, I have low self-esteem, the root of everything is in myself, not in others, try to think for myself, what I want to do, do not let myself give up because of others, external reasons, accept yourself, if you don't even accept yourself, deny yourself, then you will lose the opportunity to redeem, accept yourself to be more able to recognize yourself, recognize your own advantages and disadvantages, in order to promote your strengths and avoid weaknesses, do things to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, this is like you bought a new product, First of all, you have to read the manual, you have to know enough about the product, you can understand how to use it, the more you understand, the more you can play the role of the product. Only when you know yourself can you be more confident, because you are sure of doing things, no one is perfect, everyone will have shortcomings, and you will be comfortable with what you can't do. To care too much about others is to not take yourself to heart, to ignore yourself, and to base your concern for others on your own suffering.

Try to be selfish, people in this world are inherently selfish, you have to take care of yourself first, so that you have the strength to speculate on others, and you won't often feel powerless when doing things. To realize self-worth is to realize social value.

Oh, see the answers above, see that this is a more reflective of the public's problem, listen to your narrative found a problem, that is, you pay too much attention to other people's views of you, some things do not need to be done too perfectly, the pursuit of perfection itself is imperfect, and there is to say to you, you are a little inferior, this is the key, a person who is not confident and has no assertiveness can never enter the hearts of others, don't care too much about other people's opinions, life is like this for decades, It's so short that you don't have the time to imitate others, all you can do is to step up your own pace and go your own way, as long as it doesn't involve the interests of others, I can go as I like, try to fly, it's much better to fly to university, there is a place for you here. This is the heartfelt words of one of my people who have come before, and I hope it can be helpful to you. Good luck in the end.

Let's do one thing seriously, if you have an idea and don't take action, it is equal to no result! ~

Thinking like this, it seems that you really can't die, don't be a giant in words and a son in action.

Pay to get a reward, do it well, stick to the end, or let go cleanly, it's useless to write these to you, you may have thought about it, or be confident to do things, it should be time to break through yourself! Bless you! ~

Don't think too much, do things with confidence, be positive and optimistic in the face of setbacks.

Everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages, I hope you can know your shortcomings and advantages, slowly improve them, enjoy life, don't feel inferior, as the first floor said that I am born to be useful!

If you want to change, from today onwards, you should do things neatly and neatly, don't hesitate, even if it's wrong, if it's wrong, it's wrong, don't be afraid of being wrong. All you need now is wrong! Frustration is needed.

If you feel sorry for your parents or teachers, if you want to be worthy of them, you must first be worthy of yourself, they don't need you to be worthy, they want you to live a good life. If you can live a good life, you can be worthy of them.

Hope you get to know yourself soon! ~

My parents were very loose with me. It's a pity

I'm actually in the same problem as you.

There is no end to everything you do, and then you always find objective reasons, and you fail a lot and feel unwilling but you don't know what to do, and the college entrance examination is not very good

When I do a lot of things, I think a lot, but it always backfires.

I have been lost for a long time and have been depressed, but I finally got rid of it.

In fact, for others who can't help you like this, the most important thing is to communicate with yourself.

In fact, don't deny yourself so much, think, what do you want to do the most?

Determine a goal that you have always wanted to do, even if it seems impossible, don't feel that you can't do it first, as long as you work hard for the goal, I think as long as you really have something you want to do in your heart, you will never treat it the same as usual.

It is precisely because I always fail that I must force myself to do a good job, prove it to others and myself, and show myself that I am worthy.

Besides, if you even give up on yourself, who else can afford you?

If you face life negatively, how can you ask life to give you happiness?

So start being happy now, do what makes you happy, do what you want to do, and build up an awareness of your own worth.

In fact, sentimentality is not a disadvantage, it proves that you are very attentive and know how to be considerate of others, don't you? ~

If you think too much-,- brother, everyone has their own value of existence, be yourself, give yourself self-confidence, everything is good, and ability is also slowly cultivated.

You're a lot like me.

In fact, you can indulge yourself in indulgence.

And that's because you're not confident in yourself -- sometimes things aren't the way they are, and we're just afraid of what other people think about us and think a lot about the environment

Perhaps, your environment makes you feel unhappy and uneasy, and there are some people who are too demanding of others, making you confused and stressed

In fact, you can keep a relaxed state of mind to face anything, and doing a little wrong is not a heinous thing, and you can face your right and wrong calmly.

You are a very creative child, but your talent is suppressed by life.

The problem is that when people can't concentrate on doing things, many things can't be done well.

Maybe not going to college is not a big deal for me. It's not that I'm sorry for my teachers, it's not that I'm sorry for my parents, but the person I'm most sorry for is yourself.

You can't have a little more dependence. Only in this way can liberation be achieved.

Go with your feelings.

Nowadays, society doesn't necessarily have to go to college.

360 lines, the line is the champion.

You still have to live your own life.

Don't care too much about what other people think.

Whether it's for people or things, you have to be careful. Learn to trust others.

The selfish part of human nature is also more inflated when desires are inflated, because other means and methods derived from selfishness have also increased significantly.

Materialism has now become a popular and recognized standard, and if the wrong standard is established, people's hearts will develop wrongly.

That is true. But if you don't think about yourself, people will call you stupid.

Selfishness is buried in everyone's heart.

Marxism has not been studied well, and there are too many people who are idealistic...

You said that you don't have girlfriends, and you have small hair or something, which is normal. Because everyone's living environment is different, all kinds of differences naturally exist. In particular, personality differences can have an impact on interpersonal relationships.

People with a cheerful and lively personality are more likely to make more friends. Because everyone is open and has no worries, they will form some friends or something if they are together for a long time. But if you think about it, in fact, many people have friends who are just superficial and flashy.

There are not many friends, and it would be good to have a few who can talk to each other. Personality can also be changed, if you are determined to meet more people, then you take the initiative to communicate with the people around you, and slowly everyone understands more, you will respect and trust each other, and the friendship will continue. When interacting with people, it's not about how much you say, it's about being sincere.

If you treat others with your heart, others will treat you with their hearts. It's like looking in the mirror.