When will the monument be erected when my husband dies?

You are a good woman, you can have this heart, I think your husband will feel extremely relieved to have a spirit in the sky, in fact, you can erect a monument at any time, if it is a cemetery, you will have to erect a monument when you are buried, if it is a private cemetery, you can be in Qingming, Zhongyuan Festival.

If you erect a monument in your own name, it is not too particular, if the name of the child erects a monument, it depends on whether you remarry, if you no longer marry, it is necessary to leave a place for you.

You can't stand, you can only stand after you both die, and you can't stand when you die.

In fact, you can erect a monument at any time, if it is a cemetery, you will have to erect a monument when you are buried, if it is a private cemetery, you can set up a monument at Qingming Festival, Zhongyuan Festival, October 1st and so on, you can also wait for his death sacrifice as the time to erect a monument, if you use your own name to erect a monument, it is not too particular, if the name of the child is erected a monument, it depends on whether you remarry, if you are no longer married, it is to leave a place for you.

Generally three years. However, it can sometimes be extended. If the third generation of the deceased old man has not yet been born, a monument can be erected after the birth, which belongs to the name of the grandson

Erecting a monument to the deceased is a kind of remembrance of the deceased, and it is also a kind of respect for the elders of the younger generation. And the process of erecting a monument also has a lot of etiquette things, I have experienced my father erecting a monument to my grandfather, so I give the subject some suggestions:

Whether the deceased can receive the monument.

It is not necessary to have a monument when a person dies, it is not that a monument cannot be erected, but it is necessary to feel the need. Let me analyze that the average life expectancy of Chinese is about 75 years old. In my hometown, the deceased is about 80 years old, or more than 80, which is a happy mourning; Around the age of 75 is a normal death, less than 70 years old is an early death, 45 or 60 years old is a "pity", and in 30 years old is "a young grade......"It's going to be a dead death.

If the age of the deceased is less than 60, it is recommended not to erect a monument, the monument is to commemorate, children to worship, and before this age, people only think of regret, regret, sympathy, sorrow. Therefore, it is recommended that if the deceased is under the age of 60, it is better not to erect a monument, or to wait a long time before erecting a monument.

Whether the identity can be erected.

Why do you say that, generally the monument is erected by children to the deceased parents, so it depends on the relationship between the monument erector and the deceased. If it's a general relationship, you can fund it, but try not to dominate it, it's not in line with customs. After all, filial piety is done by children, and ordinary people cannot bear this obligation.

But if the deceased has no children, it can be led by nephews. If there are no relatives, then it can be dominated by relatives and friends, which is actually determined according to the relationship between blood relatives.

Time to be with local customs.

This is important because we are influenced by some unscrupulous TV dramas, and when people die, they are buried immediately and a monument is erected. In fact, this is very unin line with our national customs. My father's erection of a monument to my grandfather was carried out ten years after my grandfather's death.

In the hometown of Leadhua, if you want to erect a monument to the deceased, you must wait until more than three years after the memorial time is more than three years before you can erect a monument. Why is it three years, because we had a "Ding Wei" system in ancient times, that is, children keep filial piety for their deceased parents, and the time is at least three years. Therefore, the main topic is to erect a monument, and it is recommended to consult local people with high moral standing and respect local customs, after all, the deceased is great, and it cannot be arbitrary.

The contents of the tombstone.

To erect a monument for the deceased, it is generally written that the name of the deceased, the year of birth and death, the relationship between the monument erector and the deceased, the lineage of the deceased's descendants, the time when the monument was erected and other information will be written. It is worth noting that when erecting the monument, pay attention to the use of words, we commonly have "first test (妣)" and "show test (妣)", in which the deceased has no elders, and has grandchildren, in order to be called "Xian", otherwise everything else is called "first". There is also the use of "therefore".

Is it a joint burial?

If the husband and wife are buried together, it is recommended that only one tombstone needs to be erected, after all, it is a beautiful thing to die in the same cave, and a grave corresponds to a monument, which is the respect for the deceased. But there are many cases, and I will explain them one by one.

If the people who are buried together have all passed away, then a monument can be erected directly.

One of the co-burial people died, and no monument was erected. In fact, this is just as long as the information of the undeceased party is left blank and will be filled in after the joint burial.

For people who are under the age of 60 and have died without a son or grandson, there can be no tombstone just after death.

When such a person just died, in the first year, his relatives would only sweep the tomb and cultivate soil during the Qingming Festival, and when he died, some places would set off firecrackers to invite people to dinner, and of course he would still tidy up the grave.

It's just a ceremony anyway, but no matter what, you can't erect a monument.

It is not until the third year that a monument can be erected for the deceased.

Fourth, do not set up a single grave.

In some places, there is also a rule that if a person who dies under the age of 60 or older, even if it is three years old, the monument may not be erected, and the monument must be erected after three years until the death of his partner. That is to say, "erecting a monument does not erect a single grave, the public does not leave the mother-in-law, and there must be a father and a mother", and both parties must be dead for three years or more before the monument can be erected.

Of course, there is no absolute meaning for this, and some places cannot erect monuments, and some places can, and there will be some differences in each place.

As for the matter of talking about partners, the rules in some places are that it must be the original wife, and it seems that the new wife found after the divorce cannot be buried together, nor can the name be engraved on the tombstone. Of course, on the tombstones in some places, the woman has no name, and most of them follow her husband, such as Zhang, Li, and so on.

In fact, in addition to meeting the four conditions mentioned above, the erection of the monument is also linked to people's economic conditions. I have seen a lot of very old graves, no one swept the graves on the Qingming Festival or anything, the graves were full of weeds, and there were no tombstones, just like a lonely grave, and the person who died may have been forgotten by his family long ago. Of course, it is also possible that he died early and there is no way to erect a monument.

In folklore, many places have their own sayings. In some places, a monument is erected when it is buried, and in some places, a monument is erected after the 1st, 3rd, and 5th anniversaries.

In addition to the area where the monument is erected immediately after the burial, the rest of the places that involve the erection of the monument on a certain anniversary, in terms of the specific time of the monument, most of them choose the Qingming Festival, the Winter Clothes Festival (the first day of October), and some places are before the Spring Festival.

Strictly speaking, the monument should not be based on folk customs, each monument should specifically consider the tomb owner's eight characters, the tomb around the wall, the introduction of a reasonable daily lesson, to determine the mountain direction of the gold, is the auspicious monument rule, in the best time for the tomb to erect the monument. Even if you ignore the wall, the eight characters, and the daily class, you must also pay attention to the location and direction of the monument. And don't follow the custom to erect a monument in the above-mentioned yin festival.

According to the old custom, the monument should not be erected until after the third anniversary.

The stele is generally engraved with the name of the tomb owner, the name of the person who erected the stele (generally the descendants), the date of the stele, etc., and the stele must be engraved in a negative direction, that is, a concave carving, not a convex carving. The second is that the number of words should cross the ecliptic. The zodiac, derived from the Taoism of Zhang Ling, is consistent with the 12 Jianzhi day, and it is calculated that the single digit of the total number of words is auspicious.

Or it is advisable to cross the white road, according to calculations, the single digit of the total number of words is auspicious. But there is no need to be rigid when it comes to word count. In addition, the font should not be line script, cursive, preferably solemn Wei tablet style, official script, regular script.

In the mountain tombs, if the drinking image (drinking the image of the shape, referring to the mountains around the acupuncture site resembles a certain animal shape, such as ant land, centipede land, tiger land, cow land, civet cat and mouse catching land, tiger down the mountain, dragon playing with pearls, phoenix wings land, etc., drinking shape is a special content in feng shui) should not erect a monument, and at the time of sacrifice.

The tomb of the beloved wife xx, born and died in the xx year of the A.D. to the xx year of the A.D., the husband xx and the filial son xx, the filial daughter xx respected.

Summary. Kiss, the third anniversary of the death of the old man can be erected, because according to local customs, usually in the first three years is used to commemorate, and in the first three years can not carry out large-scale activities, generally after three years can be erected.

How Long After Old Man Passes Away Can A Monument Be Erected?

Kiss, the third anniversary of the death of the old man can be erected, because according to local customs, usually in the first three years is used to commemorate, and in the first three years can not carry out large-scale activities, generally after three years can be erected.

After the death of the elderly, according to filial piety, relatives need to mourn, and it is also necessary to note that children are not allowed to wear red and purple clothes, and at the same time, they also need to go to the grave during the Qingming Festival.

Generally speaking, the time of the monument can be arranged in advance, but the specific time depends on the funeral process and local customs. Generally speaking, a memorial service will be held within 7 days after the deceased has passed away, and a memorial service can be erected after the memorial service is over. However, there are special circumstances, such as the will requires the monument to be erected in advance, which can be arranged in advance.

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