What it s like to help your child with homework

I am still tutoring children to write homework today, but I am very happy, because homework is not the essence of education, we cannot abandon the basics, the foundation of education is to help children grow and self-realize, we should pay attention to children's hearts, brains, emotions, and bodies. Homework is only a small part of the entire educational process. It is precisely because many people over-amplify this small part that once the child can't do it, they completely deny the child, and all kinds of worries and anxieties are transformed into yelling and venting to the child.

Especially for children in grades 1-2, they yelled the most, because the questions are simple, parents will know, and children will not. The higher you go, the less parents yell, because it's getting harder and harder. And the children in grades 1-2 have a young heart that needs to be cared for.

The Ministry of Education clearly stipulates that homework can not be assigned to children in grades 1-2, because children at this age need more mental protection and cultivation, their brain development is not perfect, and it is necessary to have good parent-child communication to open wisdom, and at present, China's parents generally have a backward concept of education, and school teachers are also ignoring the healthy growth of children, regardless of the Ministry of Education's explicit regulations, still assign a large number of homework to children of this age. As everyone knows, the homework is completed under duress, but the child does not get real emotional and mental nourishment. When we ridicule "mothers and children are filial, chickens fly and dogs jump", do we consider the feelings of our children, and when we feel that we have worked hard and have a heart attack after a heart attack in our tutoring homework, have we considered our children's feelings?

So it's time to think seriously about what education is.

From the time I was in kindergarten until I graduated from high school, my mom was at home and would accompany me to do my homework almost every night. Parents accompany their children to write homework, not only can supervise their children's learning, find out the problems in their children's learning in time, but more importantly, this spiritual reading and companionship will help children's learning and growth. I think that in the current ordinary family, there are students in the family, and the whole family has a big event that spans more than ten years.

The quality of a child's learning is not only related to the growth of the child, but also to the joys and sorrows of a family. The accompaniment of parents to their children's homework will not only strengthen communication with their children, but also closely accompany their children's hearts and minds on the long road to school. Accompany the child to write homework, there is a way to supervise and tutor on the side, there is also a way to be around the child, the child is on his own homework, parents are reading books on the side or quietly busy with their own things, once the child has questions in learning, or is tired of doing homework and wants to say a few words to soothe it, parents give answers or exchanges in a timely manner, so that not only to promote children's learning, but also to close the relationship with children.

Of course, for children who are struggling to learn and have some homework that is always wrong, parents should not be impatient and angry, because some problems can not be solved by parents' counting and scolding, on the contrary, it will increase the child's pressure and even cause the child's disgust to learning. In this case, parents will also be angry, just like this cartoon circulating on the Internet, and they can't get it quickly.

Tutoring children's homework can experience all the shortcomings of parents themselves, emotional management, how to deal with problems, control, patience, perseverance, and even some friends have checked out their own diseases in advance through this activity, myocardial infarction, cerebral infarction, stroke, bypass, high blood pressure and so on. I often taste the experience of elevated blood pressure. At the same time, I deeply sigh, child, let me know that I still have a lot of room to grow.

This is a test of endurance, I don't know if I can't explain it thoroughly, or if his understanding is not developed, I talked about a practical problem three times, and I still don't know three questions, and then I was confused...

In the past, I used to look at my phone every day to see what tasks the teacher had assigned, and then force the children to complete their homework one by one. Now I write down the homework assigned by the teacher on a piece of paper and read it to the child, tell her what tasks are there today, and then tell her when she wants to complete the task and come to find it with a checklist, and if she doesn't come to me after 7 o'clock, I won't use it, and I won't accompany her after 7 o'clock.

Tutoring children to do homework, although a little tiring, can enhance the interaction between two people and increase the relationship between two people.

Before writing homework, I was my own mother, and after writing homework, I was my stepmother. Each point can freely change roles, and it is impossible to do it without deep acting skills. Take the child to be mentally discouraged in the role of mother and stepmother!

I usually help my children with their homework in the evenings, and I am about to break down, and the homework that can be done in an hour is not done in four or five hours a night, and there are many mistakes and omissions, and it takes a long time to correct.

It's easy to get mad at helping your child with homework. I can't understand anything.

The first case: comfortable, with a sense of accomplishment. In this case, the child who is generally tutored is more obedient, and he really wants to learn from you, and at the same time, he also remembers what you say and the homework you assign, and can naturally accept the study plan you have formulated for him.

After getting along for a long time, your relationship will gradually get better, and his grades will slowly start, or even better, at this time, your sense of accomplishment will be particularly strong, and your heart will be comforted.

2.The second case: a hard, very slow process.

If the child you are tutoring is a child who does not like to learn, is particularly naughty and mischievous, and does not even listen to the words of parents and teachers, then your tutoring experience may be relatively long. Because you start to slowly try to contact him, try to understand him, start from his heart, understand why he doesn't like to learn, and then guide him step by step to learn, guide him to follow your footsteps, and let him feel that learning is also a very happy thing.

3.The third case: patience is gradually worn out.

If the child you want to tutor is a child with poor academic performance, you have tried many methods, but he still does not understand, or when encountering similar problems, it will not be like this for a long time, if you keep this state, your patience will be consumed, and you will even wonder if you are really not suitable for teaching children, whether your teaching methods are correct, whether they can be accepted by most children, and your heart is very hard.

I saw a small ** on Douyin: A woman jumped into the river because she was tutoring her children, and when the lifeguards dragged her to the shore, she prayed and said, "Don't save me, I'm too tired." "At first glance, it may seem like an exaggeration, but it actually shows that it is really difficult to help children with their homework.

I am a teacher, and people often say, your child does not have to worry, it must be very good. I could only laugh: "It's more than enough than the top."

At school, I have the patience to be responsible for other people's children, and when I get home from work, I want to be a parent, I don't want to be a tutor, and I think that the child has his own teacher to teach, as long as he listens carefully in class, he will be excellent. If you think about it, it's not right, and you've made the mistake of contradicting yourself. As a class teacher, I often say:

Parents cooperate with school education, and children will be excellent; Parents can't have the idea that my child has been handed over to the teacher, the teacher has strong professional knowledge, and the child listens to the teacher. All I am a parent is the object of my education as a class teacher.

When tutoring children to do homework, if they see that they are not writing correctly, they will discipline them; Seeing that the child's handwriting is ugly and dirty, he is eager to reprimand; Weekend homework is always delayed until Sunday night, and before going to bed, I still catch up on my homework ......When your brain is hot, you can say whatever is unpleasant. The child was frightened and did not dare to raise his head, and after the incident, he was still stubborn, and the tug-of-war with the child was endless.

Recently, I have changed my strategy and communicated with my children without hurrying or slowing. Now, how much homework do you tell your mother, you won't arrange your time reasonably for the time being, and your mother will be busy with your schedule for a few days, okay?

Can your font teacher read clearly? Isn't it an added workload for teachers to see clearly? If you love teachers, you have to write your homework clearly?

Right? So how is it clear? Of course, Shen Yu takes a stroke to write homework, although it is slow at first, but practice makes perfect!

If you have practiced calligraphy and you have seen beautiful fonts, then you can just follow the methods taught by the calligraphy teacher, whether it looks good or not, just practice with that mentality.

Chinese words dictation is not good, it's okay, mom helps you ask questions twice a day, and in about ten days, you will write the words after class, and you will be able to write.

Near antonyms polyphonic words, accumulation of recitation, English reading aloud allocation of time is not good, let's sit down and arrange the destruction arrangement together, mom urges, how about it?

After studying, what do you want to do, is it okay for your mother to accompany you?

The tone of discussion, the role of helping Kuan, supervising the implementation of their own plans, and being the child's playmate. If the mountain doesn't come, I'll go there. Changing their mentality, the child has a significant improvement. Before the child has no internal motivation, you can't rely on the teacher all, family education is crucial!