When a person dies for a year, please eat at the funeral memorial, do you want to give gifts, how to

On the first anniversary of the death of a person, there are some local customs, on the anniversary, a large banquet is held to invite relatives and friends to eat and drink, and everyone who goes must give a follower.

The amount of the gift money is determined according to the distance between oneself and that person. After I went, I saw what other guests did, and just follow along.

This seems to be no longer a ritual, and the rituals are all when a person dies, and a year after his death, it should be a meal for close relatives.

It depends on your local customs and habits, if you will give gifts, you must give gifts, according to the domestic customs to give gifts, buy some memorial supplies and send them together.

Our custom here, the family died for a year to commemorate the anniversary, relatives and neighbors went to dinner, the old custom is to take 12 steamed buns, a piece of meat and paper platinum incense candles and the like.

Now it's just a few hundred gifts.

Sometimes it is used with a gift, but the customs are different from place to place, and at what time it is, all relatives have to pay a penny to go to the dead to burn paper and kneel on the ground.

We don't have an anniversary here.

But will buy some.

A sacrificial offering of paper money, cardboard boxes or something.

When a person dies for a year and goes to the house to pay a memorial and have a meal, I don't think I should give a gift, because I think that giving a gift is disrespectful to others.

To commemorate the deceased, send a thousand miles of E-Mao gift lightly, and send a bouquet of white flowers to seem to pay tribute.

After the funeral in the countryside, it is necessary to set up a banquet to eat, the funeral is generally in the morning to about five o'clock, and at this time, the funeral people will generally eat breakfast in advance, and then go to greet relatives and friends who come to the funeral to eat, which is some customs after the funeral in the area, and this will not make others feel that we ignore them.

Generally, rural funerals are divided into flowing water seats, as well as main meal flowing water seats, that is, let some people who help eat something at will when they are hungry, and the main meal is to invite all relatives and friends to eat together. In the countryside, whether it is a happy event or a funeral, it is necessary to set up a banquet to eat, generally according to the number of people who come, as well as the number of people on each table to arrange some dishes, the general dishes are ordered by the host in advance, there will be hard dishes, there will also be more common steamed dishes. I think that although the difference between the north and the south is relatively large, there are actually certain similarities in these funerals and happy events.

After the funeral, the feast will begin, and in the process of eating, some hosts will invite some performers to mourn. Because the customs of each region will be a little different, you can also talk about some precautions for funerals in your area in the comment area. For friends or relatives who help, they will also be rewarded, such as giving them some cigarettes or alcohol, which will also make others feel more comfortable.

The funeral will also be held, which is very solemn, so that others can feel that we have great respect for the deceased. And in some areas, if the old man dies after the age of 90, then he will not wear a white cloth, but a red cloth, because it is a celebration of the successful death of the old man. And now, the state requires cremation, so these ceremonies may slowly decrease, or even disappear.

I think that if you are doing a funeral in the countryside, you have to come back after the funeral to set up a banquet is the main meal in the funeral, first of all, you have to go back to the house, clean the courtyard of the house, remove the filial piety on the house, and then set up the banquet.

After the funeral, it is necessary to go back to the banquet and eat, mainly to thank the relatives and friends who come to worship.

Yes, after returning from the funeral, you still need to set up a banquet to eat.

The third anniversary is very important, because in ancient times, when parents died, children were required to observe filial piety for three years.

Why three years, not two or five years? Because in ancient times, the child's lactation period was three years, just like now, a three-year-old child can go to kindergarten, and he can be separated from his parents.

In addition, the word three is also exquisite, the so-called three, the way of heaven, earth, and man. Therefore, keep filial piety for three years.

After the death of the respected relatives, before the completion of the service, live at home, do not drink, do not eat meat, can not marry, cut off entertainment and communication, in order to show mourning, called "filial piety".

For the living, after three years, they can go out to work and lift these taboos.

Therefore, the third anniversary is the last solemn memorial to the deceased, and it is also a process of lifting the taboo for the living, so it is more solemn and more important.

The third anniversary celebration should be prepared in advance. Gather the more important people in the family, arrange their respective shifts, take each small family as a unit, prepare their own memorial supplies, and go to the cemetery to pay respects at the agreed time.

At that time, the guests of the feast, the filial son cried to the cemetery to pay respects, and burned the paper products brought by the relatives.

After the third anniversary of the commemoration, the funeral ceremony will end. In many places, monuments can only be erected on the third anniversary.

Filial sons and daughters should prepare some paper clothes to burn along with the paper money, because the clothes taken away at the funeral have become old in three years, and new clothes need to be added.

The offerings are large offerings, chicken, fish, meat, elbows, meatballs, eight kinds of fruits, and five kinds of dim sum with three pieces each.

After the third anniversary, people can wear brighter clothes, but not too brightly.

At the same time, there are also a lot of "paper money" and "ingots" burned during worship. The focus is on a "grandeur", that is, it reflects the psychology that people pay more attention to.

In some places, after the death of an elderly person, his family and children need to change the couplets in their homes to purple and continue to paste them for a year or three years. However, in recent years, many people have stopped caring about these external rituals and have only maintained the most basic worship.

This so-called "commemorative date" makes no difference to those who have passed away, and is more meaningful to those who are alive.

Now because the times have changed, it is basically impossible to keep filial piety at home for three years, but the third anniversary is still very grand. This kind of "filial piety" etiquette is not remembered by ordinary people, but when it reaches a certain age, after the death of parents, they will unconsciously abide by it.

The fundamental purpose of the memorial is to express our sorrow and strengthen the family's sense of belonging, and this behavior is done regularly and has far-reaching significance, if necessary, it can be done anytime and anywhere, so there is no need to pay attention to time, do it if you want to do it, and go if you want to.

In rural areas, after the funeral is completed, the host family will set up a banquet and invite them to eat. In fact, this is not only the case in rural areas, but also in many cities in China. It's just that relatively speaking, there are not as many white banquets as wedding banquets, so people don't feel the same in the city.

SecondlyFunerals in rural areas are more complicated than in cities, and many things need to be done with someone to worry about and help them out. Among them are relatives, friends, and neighbors. People have been busy for your family for several days in a row, in addition to taking care of the meal in these days, out of courtesy and sending the funeral, they also have to invite others to have a special meal.

In addition, this habit is formed becauseIf you want to make the funeral a good time after the death of a family member, you have to spend a lot of money. Therefore, people will take the initiative to give gifts to help, since everyone has already paid, why are you embarrassed not to invite everyone to another meal.

1. The same is true in many cities

The state has always advocated that funerals should be simpler, generally after being pulled to the funeral home, relatives and friends will be notified, and cremation will be carried out after a farewell on a certain day, and then nothing will happen. But in fact, many rural areas, including some cities, still maintain some funeral customs, especially after the funeral, to invite everyone to a meal, and this custom will continue in the coming decades.

2. It is troublesome to do funerals

Funerals in rural areas are much more complicated than in cities, and people come to burn paper every day to mourn, and many areas in the south also invite opera troupes, bands and performing arts groups to perform when holding funerals. In addition, the monks and Taoists chanted the scriptures excessively, and they had to toss for about five days in a row. There are a lot of people to worry about the whole process, so out of courtesy, you have to invite people to dinner.

3. Relatives and friends have already given gifts when they come

In most areas, the white business is the same as the red business, and the gift money is required. In the old society and even in ancient times, people believed that people must be buried in a grand manner after death, and to achieve good results, they had to spend a lot of money. Therefore, everyone will give a gift after coming to the scene, and you will also give a gift when my family has a white thing in the future, so inviting people to dinner is also a kind of thanks.

This is to thank the neighbors who came to help in the house, which is also a kind of human sophistication, so that the neighbors feel that the host is a very caring person.

Mainly to thank the guests, but also to do the final finish, the customs of each place are different, so in the end it is necessary to set up a feast to eat.

At this time, if the family has a meal, it can be a good way to connect with each other, discuss some things better, and thank some people who help.

My grandmother's house, my grandmother's house, it's like this.