As time goes on, will the shortcomings of lovers become more and more unbearable?

When you first fall in love, you are full of curiosity and attraction to each other, even if you find that the other party has a little flaw, you ignore it. There is a good saying, "When you are in love, the other person's strength is charm, and the other person's shortcomings are advantages." Or you feel that after dating, he is willing to change his shortcomings for you, but he may not be what you think.

When in love, many people want to show the best side to each other, but after in-depth dating, he feels that you are already his and will not leave again, so he will be his true self, after you find out, you feel that he has changed, in fact, he has not changed, but he disguised himself before. Now he's tired and doesn't want to disguise anymore. ‍‍

Over time, the closer the person, the more the shortcomings in him will be magnified because you know him. This way you will be compared to people you are not familiar with. So you can imagine it.

In addition, at the beginning of love, I always showed my best side, but then I became familiar with it, and my true nature was exposed! There is no need to be careful. Everyone has flaws, and if you don't find each other's flaws, it's proof that you and him aren't close enough. ‍‍

It seems logical, but the logic is wrong. Yes, you read that right. Because there is no such thing as the shortcomings of lovers that will become more and more unbearable over time, but we are unbearable for some shortcomings at the beginning, but we slowly find that this person has them, and the most important thing is that he is still our lover, so we become more and more unwilling to bear it.

I don't know if you have noticed, in fact, we are harsh on our lovers far more than we are harsh on our friends and relatives, we can think about it together: why do we want to be so harsh on the people we love. ‍‍

I think we all have a common problem "what you don't get is always in turmoil, and what you get is fearless", when we are not together, all the shortcomings are beautiful, and after being together, we will definitely slowly start to quarrel with zero tolerance.

As a lover, you should know how to care for and protect the people around you, you should know how to take care of your lover and children, don't be noisy and noisy because of a little thing, because he is also very hard around you, for you and your children to run around and work hard, you should understand him. Women are naturally willful and habitually pampered by others, but as a woman, they should know how to stop in moderation, just right, and should know how to have a degree. A man is also tired from running around outside every day, and his heart also needs a harbor to stay, and he also needs a warm habitat. ‍‍

At the beginning of the relationship, you will be very satisfied and curious about the other party, and then when you are exposed to the other party's performance habits, the woman will unconsciously match the other party, and once you find that the information does not match, the woman will be very uncomfortable; Once you grasp the other person's information and find a mismatch, the woman will think of the sweetness and romance at the beginning, and on the basis of the original, she will crave more sweetness and romance, then you will become more and more dissatisfied. ‍‍

Both men and women should know and learn to be tolerant and understand each other, and think more about each other. Quarrels are not the best solution to the problem, they only exacerbate the conflict. It is not easy for two people to come together, and after going through ups and downs together, they should be tolerant, understand and support each other!

True love will make love love become family affection, so that you can't give up! ‍‍

Yes, because all the problems are piled up in my heart, there will always be an outbreak one day, just like a balloon will be ** if you play too much, but it is not easy to fall in love, a little more tolerance and a little more forbearance can last a long time.

The best is always when you just have a good feeling. At the beginning of the relationship, every effort from the other party was a surprise. is always good at discovering the advantages of the other party, why is he so powerful, how can he do so much.

As the relationship deepens, his merits are no more than Erer, is he good to me? He's my boyfriend, so of course he should be nice to me. Everyone is no longer hidden, and the shortcomings are exposed. ‍‍

First of all, the world is not perfect, and even I sometimes hate myself, don't I? As for lovers, you can only find a place where you like more than you don't like, and of course, if you can't stand it at all, break up decisively. ‍‍

I think so, when I was with my ex-boyfriend before, I wasn't very happy with his height, he may be about the same height as me, and he doesn't look as tall ...... me. Then after being together for a long time, I became more and more dissatisfied with his height, and I magnified it infinitely, although I never said it to him, but it was uncomfortable.

Everyone is like this, short-term getting along looks at the advantages, and long-term getting along looks at the disadvantages.

This question must be said no, lovers who love each other's shortcomings will be slowly discovered, and they will be slowly accepted, so that they can be regarded as real lovers.

As time goes by, the shortcomings of lovers become more and more unbearable, do you know why?

First: Many people say that the two people are very sweet in the early stage of love, but as time goes by, they will find that there are many shortcomings in the lover, and they will find that the shortcomings of the lover make themselves more and more annoying and unbearable. At this time, they can't see each other's shortcomings, but after getting along for a while, they will calm down after the sweet period of love, and at this time they can see both each other's advantages and each other's shortcomings, but many people say they can't stand the shortcomings of their lovers.

So at this time, you should reflect on whether you are too strong a person, because there is such a lover, that is, you are too strong, so you like to bind the other half with your own ideas in life, once the other half does not meet your expectations, she will be angry, and even rise to disgust, so at this time, I personally think that both people need to adjust, and the other half should also properly improve their shortcomings, and you also need to adjust your mentality, Because two people themselves are in different families, they will have different living habits, and there will be differences between two people, and you can't use your standards to demand your other half.

Second: In addition, there is this situation, and another reason is that it is too selfish, so it is a personal feeling, so it is not tolerated that your other half has a little shortcoming, so a person has advantages, and naturally there will be shortcomings, so at the beginning when you choose the other half, you should think of this problem, he can not be perfect, so in the process of two people getting along together, not only should consider their own feelings, but also consider the feelings of the other half, and cannot be too selfish.

It's because when they are in love, two people tend not to care about some of each other's shortcomings, but as time goes by, the shortcomings between two people will gradually magnify, which is normal.

This is because as two people spend more and more time together, there will be some contradictions and estrangements between two people, and some shortcomings of the other party will also be discovered, but we must learn to tolerate some of each other's shortcomings. That way it won't get more and more unbearable.

If it is too sweet at the beginning, there will be another extreme, which is also called the opposite of the extreme, a storm and ten cold, just like the weather, when the heat reaches its peak, it is also the time when it begins to move towards autumn. So don't have a dream that will always be in love, if life is only as first seen, what is the autumn wind sad fan. The feelings of life are like the change of the seasons of the year, there is summer and there must be winter.

But it varies from place to place, and there are places where the gap between summer and winter is not so big, like Guangdong, Hainan, these places, feelings are also different from person to person.

Because the longer it is, the more personal shortcomings will be exposed, and at the same time, the novelty of the two people will slowly fade, so there is such a feeling.

Because as time passes, the "halo effect" on lovers will gradually disappear, the other person's shortcomings will become more and more obvious, and our tolerance for the other person's shortcomings will gradually decrease.

The "halo effect", also known as the halo effect, refers to the fact that in the process of interpersonal communication, a certain characteristic of the other person masks other characteristics, causing our cognitive impairment. In a relationship, the "halo effect" is manifested in the fact that we ignore the other person's shortcomings because one of the other person's strengths is very attractive, and even think that the other person's shortcomings are also very cute.

There are two main reasons why I feel that the shortcomings of my lover are becoming more and more unbearable:

On the one hand, when we first started in love, we were all affected by the "halo effect", we could only see each other's advantages, not each other's shortcomings, and we didn't get along with each other for a long time, and the other party's shortcomings had not yet had time to be fully exposed, so it was easy for us to imagine each other in our hearts as we expected each other. But with the deepening of understanding, the "halo effect" gradually disappears, the original advantages of the other party can no longer cover up the shortcomings, and in the process of getting along, the shortcomings of the other party will gradually be exposed, and we will feel the shortcomings of the other party more and more clearly.

Therefore, we will feel that the other person has changed, and there are more shortcomings than when we first fell in love.

On the other hand, when you first start a relationship, you want to show your best in front of each other, and you tend to be tolerant and generous, and you laugh at each other's small shortcomings and mistakes. However, as they get along, both parties will gradually show their truest side, and they will not deliberately tolerate each other's shortcomings, and their tolerance will decrease significantly.

Therefore, you will feel that the shortcomings of the other party are becoming more and more unbearable.

In short, after being together for a long time, it is normal to feel that the shortcomings of the lover are becoming more and more unbearable, and if you want to continue the relationship, you should try to accept the shortcomings of the other person.

Yes. Because two people have been together for a long time, the shortcomings and faults on their bodies have become more and more obvious, and at this time, there is not much tolerance left for the two people, and they will feel more and more unbearable.

Yes, when the shortcomings of two people are exposed, it is very unbearable for each other, and at this time, it is necessary to have a good run-in, and it is necessary for two people to tolerate each other and accommodate each other.

This does happen.

Because two people have been together for a long time, then those bad behaviors and habits in the past will be revealed.

If you don't deliberately disguise yourself in front of the people you like, some behaviors or shortcomings will become more and more unbearable.

After being together for a long time, the shortcomings of lovers will gradually be exposed. To fall in love is to run in with each other, carry forward the advantages, and eliminate the shortcomings. There are more and more shortcomings, of course, it will be unbearable, if you turn a blind eye, go your own way, and change willingly, it will make the object unbearable, and finally the relationship will gradually drift away.

After being together for a long time, the shortcomings of lovers will become more and more unbearable, and it is true.

When two people first fall in love, each other's eyes are each other's advantages, and some shortcomings are selectively ignored, as two people gradually understand, the advantages slowly become accustomed to it, but the shortcomings will gradually amplify, once there is a contradiction, the shortcomings become unbearable, this is very normal.

If two people have been together for a long time, the shortcomings of lovers will become more and more unbearable, then it is necessary for two people to come down, communicate well, and let each other adapt to themselves more today.

After being together for a long time, if you feel that the other person's shortcomings will become more and more unbearable, then it means that you may not like the other person.

When we like to get one, the other party is shown in public. It is confident, elegant, humorous, thoughtful and understanding; When we fall in love with someone, we find it in so many people. I'm sad, weak, and unreasonable.

You will feel how you fall in love with such a person, you can't stand what you mean. At this time, we will always forget the most important things, and you can see these because the other side loves you. Love and reason are often at odds.

It is undeniable that people in love lack intelligence, sexual inhibition gives rise to love, and gender will reduce gender reduction.

Once I reduce, the IQ will come back. Once I got back, problems started to arise before they actually existed. Just like Song Dandan said this:

I just wanted a hug, I accidentally smashed a kiss, and then I wanted a bed, a room, a marriage certificate. When I got divorced, I found it just thinking. It is necessary to hug.

After all, poets only sing before pursuing girls, and then they begin to sing about freedom. In love, we often encounter such chaos that it seems that the love between us and our lover slowly decreases over time. Drunk from the heart.

Seeing that the other party is good, gradually develops and slowly thinks that the other party has more and more shortcomings, more and more unbearable, so much love happens at the end of this stage. This disappointment of a person or love is so uncomfortable that people commit suicide, and of course, the exaggerated description of torstai also deeply reveals a universal fact: disappointment from the charm of lovers is a common thing or law.

Over time, the relationship between the two has changed, it is no longer so comfortable, everything is unbearable!

We are willing to pretend to be in love with each other and make it part of our love, slowly getting along with the middle, feeling that these shortcomings have not changed, and this is not a return, so big temper, I am willing to include you, why don't you want to change the bad problem to get back to my love, it's actually a bit of a conflict. Any shortcomings that our love is to endure are just tolerant of the variation of those shortcomings. If both sides recognize this, they will not be patient.