What do you think of the saying that girls learn well as marry well ?

I still remember a few years ago, in the "Dialogue" column of the second set, a senior girl asked: "Now the society says that it is better to study well than to marry well, does this make sense?" I only remember that Teacher Wang Lifen, who was the host at the time, listened to it and said to her:

Don't let the sorrow of the whole era become the sorrow of your life. ”

Whether male or female, self-esteem, self-reliance, self-improvement: love career, love family, love yourself, this is enough, there is no need to be dependent on whom to prove their success. You have a successful career, my family is happy, and she has a good parenting, this is a kind of success, there is no need to put other people's values on yourself.

Every woman has her own shining point and her own superiority, why, should she apply other people's values to herself.

I think this is just a partial generalization, this statement has some phenomena that cover society, and it may only be a small part, after all, the good ones are far less than the average or even bad ones, but they often get those"Learn well""Well done"What people can't get or what is not easy to get can be said to be some typical ones that are pulled out and said. Maybe you have struggled for 3 or 5 years, and others have ascended to the sky in an instant because of a beautiful face, and it is impossible not to care at all. Therefore, for the understanding of this, I think that growing up well only makes it easier for you to get closer to success, but embroidered pillows can't be a bag of grass, and if you marry well, you can only bet on a man in the next life.

I don't agree with this statement, women now also have a lot of professional women, very good at making money, sometimes women make money EQ is higher than men, can not use this old idea to talk about modern women.

It's better to learn well than to marry, this sentence is not rigorous. If we learn well, we can marry well, and we can marry better. Getting married is the process of getting to know each other.

If we study well, then we will have knowledge and culture, and our conversation and cultivation will go to a higher level, and there will be more people who like or envy us. will increase their own portions. We all like educated people, sensible and reasonable people, and people who have broad horizons, which can only be done if we study well, can study seriously, and be good at thinking.

In order for everyone to become a useful person to society, only through systematic study of cultural knowledge can we create wealth and achieve certain achievements, and we must have the ability. If we have the ability to create wealth, and have the ability to adapt and cope with society, we don't need to marry well, of course, we ourselves are good, we may marry better, only excellent people can be worthy of excellent people.

I don't agree with this statement, this is wrong, learn well, you can be useful in the future, you will live there when you go, grow good, it's just that you are beautiful when you are young, and you are useless when you are old, and ordinary people, you will be praised by others for doing a good job, others will respect you, and you will not underestimate you, even if you marry well, you only rely on the value of the other party's economic conditions to show yourself, the equality of men and women, not necessarily all depend on them to raise.

There are many people who always say that it is useless for girls to study, and they will marry in the future anyway. In today's society, the status of women is also very high. Therefore, it is said that learning well in the past is not as good as growing up, and some people say that it is better to grow up than to marry.

What we need to know is that rich people are not stupid. When they are looking for a daughter-in-law, they must be because their own women are very good, so they will also be looked at by the other party. If you can't say anything, it's like a person who eats idle food, so why should the other party raise a person who is lazy and lazy all day long.

Learning well is the most important thing, so it is very difficult to marry into a wealthy family, so you don't have to daydream. When we can marry into a wealthy family, it must be because we have a certain ability. If you don't have any ability, but you always want to marry into a wealthy family every day, and you always feel that you are good-looking, you can beat everything.

Such an idea will only lead you into the abyss, and in today's society, as long as everyone can dress up, they are all good-looking. Therefore, in today's society, there is no shortage of good-looking people.

There are too many good-looking peopleThen being able to have a good degree and be able to find a stable job is your own knowledge. This is also a reason to negotiate conditions with the other party in the future, if we are very good in ourselves, then the circle of contact is also very good. The second thing to look for is not to mention.

Therefore, don't always think that you are good-looking, you can find a rich son, you can live a worry-free life, and you need to have the ability to look good, if you don't have any ability, why should others marry you.

There must be something extraordinary, especially like the rich people in the family, they have seen a lot of girls. No matter what type of girl they are, they have all been in contact with them, so it is the easiest thing to find a good-looking girlfriend. When there is ink in the stomach, it can be looked down upon by others.

It is also fantastical to think that the other party will be dumped by you just based on some qualifications.

This statement is incorrect, a person must make himself financially independent and make himself better, so that there will be excellent people who love you.

I don't think so, because the meaning of this sentence completely ties the fate of women to men, which is not in line with the values of women in the new era.

This statement is very incorrect, it is just a fallacy of traditional concepts, and the key is to rely on ourselves.

Everyone should have heard a saying, that is, it is better to learn well than to marry, so is this concept correct or wrong?

First of all, I think we should understand the meaning of the phrase "marrying well", which means that it is better to marry a rich man or to marry a person who loves himself and tolerates and cares for himself?

Maybe in the eyes of many people, this kind of good family, in fact, is to find a rich second generation, find a person with good family conditions, and then this life will have no worries about food and clothing, then I think this situation may not last too long, after all, a woman either you are good at school, or you also have to have one of your own advantages, if you say that the hope of this life is only pinned on this man, then when one day you quarrel and break up or even divorce, at this time you actually have nothing.

So I think a woman still has to have the ability to have enough food and clothing, at least you can be sure that after you are separated from this man, you can let yourself live, and not be too dependent on another person.

There may be a lot of successful men who will say to women, that is, after I get married, I will make money to support my family, and you are responsible for being beautiful like a flower, but is this really the case?

After getting married, the man makes money outside to support the family, and the woman takes the baby to do housework at home, of course, if the family conditions are good, there will definitely be a nanny, then the husband and children at home, in fact, I think that unless this man really loves you, otherwise many times they quarrel with themselves are not confident, many times when these men quarrel, they may say: I work so hard to make money to support the family, not all for you, you are still there every day to find nothing.

I think this kind of discourse has actually become the norm, so of course, if you can find a family condition or you want to be a more successful man is always the best, but I think an important girl must also have advantages.

This is wrong: because as long as they finish college, they don't need to think about buying a car and a house, and they don't have to work hard to earn money to marry her, and the only task is to marry a good family, and their lives are basically settled. However, there is also a situation where if you want to educate your daughter to be a kind person who is moral and cultivated, and she is still a woman in the new era who is thoughtful, able to think, and independent, and can live her own life without being dependent on men.

For most people, this is no easier than buying a house.

is wrong, even if you marry well, you may not be happy, but if you learn well, you will definitely be able to have a bright future, which is also obtained by your own efforts, and you don't have to rely on others.

It's wrong, as the saying goes, it's better to rely on others than on yourself, and it's better to marry in order to be dependent on others, but then you will lose yourself and lose your dignity.

Summary. Hello, in fact, all the efforts are to make you have more and better options when facing multiple choice questions. Please don't let the values of society easily hold you hostage. In that case, you can only have second-hand values and live a second-hand life.

What do you think of the view that "it is better to learn well than to marry well"?

Hello, I have seen your question and am sorting out the answer, please wait a while Hello, in fact, all the efforts are empty is to make you have more and better options when facing the multiple-choice questions. Please don't let the values of society easily hold you hostage. In that case, you can only have second-hand values, and live a second-hand life.

But objectively speaking, it is really important to marry well, and the key is that you have to know how to find a good family to marry.

There is still some truth in this sentence, especially for those girls who only care about studying, their brains are stupid, and they can't judge good men and bad men regardless of their sophistication and social communication skills.

Some girls do not bury their heads in the sea of books, and when they go to school, they study while exercising their comprehensive ability, and they have their own unique views on men, and they can distinguish which ones are really beneficial to their feelings.

Life is a long-distance race, the study stage is only a short process, and the more important thing is to start a family. That's the theme of later life.

Therefore, it makes sense that men are afraid of entering the wrong profession and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man.

The so-called marrying well is not necessarily about abundant material conditions, it must be about finding a good man. It takes not only luck, but also vision. As a woman, no matter how good she is, she will fail without this vision.

I used to think I was learning.

It's better to marry than to marry, but recently I saw a college entrance examination news, and found that sometimes marrying is not as good as learning, because how much ability you have, you can stand at the corresponding height, and those who are really good will only look for the other half at the height, not at the bottom.

This news is like this, this year's Guangxi college entrance examination champion, his father is a master's degree graduate from Tsinghua University, his mother is a doctoral graduate from Shanghai Jiaotong University, his grandfather is from Tsinghua University, his grandmother is from Fudan, and his grandmother is from Peking University.

Excellent people are looking for objects, what they want to find is the kind that can be equal to themselves, you are excellent and I am not bad, and when you are not good enough, it is impossible to enter the circle of excellent people, even if you enter, you have no common topic with them, your ordinariness will be particularly obvious, and those excellent people will not really look at you.

So don't think that learning well is not as good as marrying, some girls may not learn very well, but with their delicate face, married to the rich second generation, but is she really happy in this way, maybe in this family, there is no place for her to speak, maybe her husband is just an unmotivated rich second generation, she may have money, but whether she has lost her freedom and her own value.

If a girl uses marriage as her springboard, then how can others respect you. You must understand that Israel serves others, and one day your color will decay, and you can only enrich yourself through learning, so that you will become better and more charming.

Some people do say that it is better to marry well than to study well, for example, even if two girls learn to be rich for 5 cars, it is not as good as someone marrying a wealthy son. But you have a wide range of knowledge, and you don't suffer in life, and the happiness of life depends not only on money, but also on your experience and your own experience. And everyone's standard of happiness is also different, and the standard of good marriage is also different, so I don't agree with this point of view, because there is no comparison, and there is no relevance.

This view is wrong. Only when a person enriches himself will he have a higher vision and the ability that others cannot match, so that the people you come into contact with will be better, and you will have the right to choose others instead of others choosing you. But if you are just a mediocre person and marry a very good person, over time you will find that the gap between you is too big, and you will always feel that you are inferior to him.