How to solve the problem of unbehaving children?

I'm a seven-year-old mom. I only ask my child to be "obedient", safe and healthy on two things. When it comes to dealing with my child's obedience, I take the approach of telling him why.

For example, when he was a child, he was very curious about why there was "smoke" in the kettle, so he wanted to touch it, as a mother, I didn't tell him to be obedient, I just said, it's hot water is very hot and it will burn your hands, I poured out a little hot water and put it in a bowl, and then, gently put the back of his little hand on the outside of the bowl, he felt the heat, at this time I told him that hot water will burn you, so don't touch it. What parents need to do is to provide companionship, support, understanding, care, and tolerance for their children as they explore the world. Tell him, tell him that the rules we let him abide by are to protect him (her), tell him why and the possible consequences, and slowly establish good communication and exchange with the child, naturally, he (she) will be obedient and independent creativity.

If a child is disobedient, he cannot be beaten. It is necessary to analyze whether the parents are really correct or not. If the parent does something wrong, the child is right not to listen.

Whether parents also pay attention to their children's ideas, whether they can listen to their children without interruption, as long as this is done, children will also pay attention to their parents' views. Then speak your mind. This kind of listening to each other is an art, and it is something that we have to do for each other.

No matter what happens to children, they need to be educated. Only by educating with heart, leading by example, and teaching by word and deed, can we educate a child to become a happy person.

As parents, you should take a positive attitude towards your child's disobedient behavior and give full play to its positive factors. If the right guidance and education methods are adopted, the advantages of disobedient children can be maintained and shine more brightly, and then the children will develop into independent, confident and strong people, so that they can adapt to the fierce social competition in the future.

I believe that every mother is a wise mother, as long as you think about the reasons with your heart, observe the needs of your children with your heart, and understand your own needs with your heart, many things do not need to be in a hurry to lose your temper. Of course, it takes a process, and we still have tantrums with the baby. But after the tantrum, explain it to your child in time:

The mother is angry because the baby's behavior makes the mother feel uncomfortable, so she is a little angry, please forgive the mother.

Those children who are not well-behaved are all becomegs under the influence of their parents. First, parents spoil their children too much, and they agree to their children's unreasonable demands. Therefore, parents must not be able to accede to those unreasonable demands.

For children's requirements, we must be strictly controlled. Not all requirements have to be met.

Personally, I think that every child has his naughty characteristics. His personal qualities are not bad, and being naughty is the essence of her liveliness and activity. But if you really don't behave, always make trouble, and always do bad things, then you must discipline them strictly, and if the son doesn't teach them, the father will be at fault.

When I yelled hysterically at my child again and again, I felt that I had had enough, and then reflected on how to make him obedient, and took a series of parental growth courses and such a good practice opponent, and made a little progress. I think the most important thing is to learn to listen to the child, the child has his reasons for what he does, you can't train him without asking the reason, in fact, the child also wants to learn well, but he doesn't know how to do the best, listen to his ideas, we cultivate the child is to cultivate his ability to be self-responsible.

First of all, it is necessary to be reasonable, if you still don't listen to the reasoning, you can give some punishment appropriately, so that the child knows the lesson.

Every child has naughty moments, when he is not well-behaved, then you should punish him, only in this way, can he realize that he will have to bear the consequences of making mistakes.

Like those children who are not obedient and disobedient, parents should guide them in the right way, let them know what is right and what is wrong, so that the children can be self-motivated from an early age, better educate the children, and let them grow up well.

I think that no matter what you do, parents should be good role models first. When you encounter something that you don't do right, you must teach it well.

Sensible children can also be happy, but children who are too sensible may not be happy.

Because for children, his thoughts in all aspects are immature, children's nature is noisy, playful, excluding a few quiet and envious children, but their hearts are still simple and admiring nature, a better life.

If there are some children in it, he is particularly sensible, especially able to know the faces of adults, look at the eyes of adults to do things, know when to do something, when not to do something, so that he is more well-behaved and sensible than Mengzhiling, but in fact, it is not good for the children themselves.

Because what kind of things should be done at what stage, at the child's stage, it should be mainly about learning and playing, and should not let yourself always become so mature, because then you have lost your child's nature.

Every child is playful, noisy, and fun-loving by nature, and if there is a child who seems particularly mature, then something must have happened to him, or the education he is currently receiving that makes him have to pretend to be an adult. However, I would like to say that when a person is young, there are only a few years, and that time will be very unforgettable, and when a person grows up, it is inevitable to undertake too much.

If a child can grow up normally, then at least his psychology will be normal when he grows up, but if a child receives a special environment and a special education from a very young age, then how can you guarantee that his mentality will not be distorted by some things that he encounters?

For example, some children are particularly afraid of the dark when they are young for some reason, even if they grow up, this shadow in their hearts still exists; Or some children are very lonely when they are young, so they will still have palpitations when they grow ......up

To sum up, when a child is just a child, if he is too sensible, it is not good. And life is like doing things, everything is staged, and everything has antecedents and consequences.

Therefore, a sensible child may not necessarily be able to obtain happiness, on the contrary, an ignorant child can sometimes obtain more happiness. Therefore, we can't always help children grow, but follow the law of natural growth.

Every child comes to the world as a unique angel, and time has carved a unique one on each person's body, and every unique one of them has contributed to each other, which together has made our unique and wonderful world.

As the children grow up, the children also have their own thoughts and emotions, and become a little rebellious. So the question is, what should I do if my child is rebellious and unberuly? Let's take a look.

Many parents' wishes are to hope that their babies will be well-behaved and able to listen to adults, but after all, the baby is a little bit with his own ideas, even if he is small, even if he is not sensible, he will always insist on his own opinions.

Therefore, in the eyes of parents, children are not well-behaved and rebellious, so in the face of such children, parents should not worry, they can start from the following three points.

First, parents need to be aware of their responsibilities.

In the face of their child's rebellion, the first thing that comes to parents' minds is that it is the child's problem. But in fact, parents can be the source of children's disobedience, and it is the parents' behavior that reinforces the child's rebellion, so if you want to change the status quo of your child's disobedience, parents must first take responsibility and correct their own behavior.

For example, the problem of attitude: ignoring the child's feelings, he clearly expressed his dislike, and let him accept it; Ignoring a child's needs and thinking that the child's needs are vexatious, rather than listening carefully to the reasons behind the needs.

In addition, there are language problems: talking or even yelling and scolding children in a rough tone, mocking children's weaknesses with harsh language, triggering children's psychological feelings of shame, guilt, and self-blame.

Parents should reflect on whether they have such behavior, stop it in time, and actively correct it.

Parents practice and correct their attitudes and behaviors, are they afraid that their children will not imitate and learn fast enough?

Second, parents should try to see things from the perspective of understanding.

After all, children are not adults, and they are very immature mentally and emotionally, so parents are higher than children in terms of ability.

How to understand children, children's hearts are not difficult to understand, as long as adults can listen carefully.

First of all, it is necessary to convey your serious attitude, so that the child believes that you really want to listen to his heart and not perfunctory, and after the child feels your attitude, he will tell the truth.

Secondly, we must learn to listen, maintain eye contact with children, do not interrupt children's speech at will, and do not arbitrarily evaluate children's attitudes.

You need to convey to your child that it is important for you that I can understand what is on your mind, that I can understand the psychological dynamics behind your actions.

If parents can look at the problem from the perspective of understanding, they will find that all rebellious children have some difficulties behind the scenes.

Thirdly, parents should practice positive reinforcement based on understanding. If parents can truly understand their children, they will think that what they need is help rather than blame.

What should parents do? Positive reinforcement. Children sometimes have rebellious and disobedient behaviors, and sometimes they have positive behaviors, so instead of dwelling on rebellious behaviors and constantly fighting, it is better to focus on praise and motivating positive behaviors.

Moreover, sincere and specific verbal praise is very effective, the child does something right, you praise him sincerely, he will be very happy, and will repeat the positive thing, and finally get rid of the bitterness of rebellion, parents and children are happy.

If the child is disobedient, he can start from 3 points in the future:

1. Observe carefully and prescribe the right medicine.

Children are rebellious, on the one hand, the children understand more and more things, and the ideas in their hearts begin to increase. When the parent's orders are different from the child's inner thoughts, he will not listen to the parents. On the other hand, parents do not perceive their child's bad emotions, and directly yell at him after discovering some problems, causing his rebellious emotions to aggravate, and they will rebel against his parents.

Therefore, if you want to be the most disobedient child, you must first find the right root cause and prescribe the right medicine.

2. Make good use of rewards rather than punishments.

When the child is disobedient and does not write homework, parents can choose to use a certain reward mechanism to encourage the child to complete the homework, such as allowing the child to watch cartoons for half an hour or play games for half an hour after completing the homework, so that he is more motivated to complete the homework.

If parents only know how to yell at their children, or use punitive measures to threaten them, they will gradually lose interest in learning. Therefore, for children, it is more effective for parents to use rewards than to blindly use punishment.

3. Control emotions and listen to children's thoughts.

When a child is disobedient, parents need to understand the reason for his disobedience, and they need to respect his ideas. Often when something happens, the first reaction of parents is to blame and forget what is in the child's heart.

As adults, parents have much stronger emotional management skills than children, and even then there will still be emotional out-of-control, let alone a child with a young mind. Therefore, parents should learn to respect and recognize their children's emotions, and take into account their children's feelings when refusing their children's requests.

Useless. The parents' approach is a bit excessive, and even thinks that the parents are a bit extreme, and you can know that this kind of punishment is very difficult for him by looking at the girl's performance. Isn't this nonsense?

It is common for children to "not do their homework well", but how should parents deal with this situation correctly?

First of all, parents should understand that it is normal for their children to be disobedient, treat this phenomenon reasonably, adjust their own state of mind and emotions, and avoid solving problems in anger, so as not to say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing, which will cause harm to the relationship between the child and the parent.

Second, parents should find a suitable way of reward and punishment for their children, the purpose of punishment is not to end mistakes, but to guide children to realize and correct mistakes.

Finally, after the child has been punished, parents should have a good talk with the child calmly, understand the child's inner feelings, and give comfort in a timely manner, so as to resolve the child's negative emotions and let the child understand the parents' true intentions. If the child is disobedient, the parents will inevitably come up with corresponding measures, or education or punishment, as long as it is suitable for the child and has good results for the growth of the student, they can try, but the growth is a compulsory course for the child and the parents, and the parents should also follow the child's growth and change the educational strategy, do not stick to the rules, because the best way is to teach the hidden material.