Is rebellion good or bad, and is rebellion really bad?

If you're a child: If you're rebelling for the sake of rebellion, you can't think about it. If it is for your quest, for the sake of justice, for the sake of upholding the truth, then continue your rebellion.

Even if your pursuit of your righteousness and your truth are wrong, at least in this rebellion you learn to persevere;Even if one day you realize that you were wrong and regret your original persistence, but without the original persistence, you will never know that you are wrong, and you will always be sad that you did not persist at the beginning. I think the latter hurts even more.

If you are a parent: For you, your child's rebellion will definitely make you angry, but rebellion is not necessarily a bad thing, they grow up in rebellion, and it may not be that parents are always right. You have to know what your child thinks, and if his thoughts are wrong, you have to know why he thinks the way he thinks.

For a child, when you forcefully correct its mistakes, it will rebel. When you know what he thinks, he will admire you, and even if you don't listen to you, you have authority in his heart. Remember:

When he is talking back to you, his logical thinking ability and language expression skills are strengthening.

You can't say good, you can't say bad....To get acquainted....What you recognize may become good.

The former is a normal psychological phenomenon of adolescence, and the rebellion is relatively more serious.

Many parents will envy such children: they study hard at school, go home and consciously complete their homework, and participate in tutoring alone on weekends, and their father is very sensible and obedient, and takes the initiative to help their parents share the task of taking care of their younger siblings. But is such a child really good?

I would like to say that this kind of child probably suppresses his own nature and matures prematurely, losing the "look" that a child should have.

We always say, "That bear child in my family is rebellious."

But in his heart, he thought so: "Although he is rebellious, this guy is very smart."

Why do rebellious children tend to be smarter?

This is because the confrontational child has a lot of energy and is naturally optimistic about successfully achieving their goals. In other words, rebellious children are more likely to succeed when they encounter setbacks.

As parents, our ultimate task is not to suppress a rebellious child and make it "mediocre". It's about guiding these kinds of children and directing them to the right goals. Destruction.

The first rule that must be accepted in the case of a rebellious child is not to overreact as if his behavior was directed at you. Because anger will put you in a power struggle, and no matter who wins the battle, there is no real winner.

You have to use a calm, clear attitude to be sure that the child has no chance of getting anything in return from his confrontational behavior. Don't bargain, don't talk at length. The former will make the child mistakenly believe that you are equal and may make him feel that all adults have to bargain with him.

The latter will bore him so much that he will only see your mouth open and close, but he will not hear what you are saying at all.

What should parents do when faced with rebellious children?

Allowing them to "fight for good things" is an important way to train children effectively. For example, if you organize a parent-free travel plan for your children and their friends, you will of course pay for it; For example, buying him a computer that he has been dreaming about for a long time; For example, accompany him to listen to a key of his favorite star, such as a concert, and so on. Of course, behind this big reward, he has to change his behavior.

Although children at this stage are very rebellious, their behavior is even unacceptable. But the adolescent child changes quickly. Many things change as they get older, and their ability to synthesize moral reasoning changes, and they think about what kind of person they want to become.

Allowing children to begin to exhibit new behaviors and give up old negative behaviors is giving them the opportunity to be a better version of themselves.

So, when your child is completely rebellious, don't give up on him.

Because, he is looking for his own way.