What should you do if your wife fights with you because of your family? 5

This problem is more difficult, it is difficult to be a person, it is necessary to understand the problem first, to do ideological work on both sides, and to point out mistakes and misunderstandings on both sides......

Tell your wife to bear with her. The gang doesn't help the relatives.

Behind the support of his point of view, when the face of the family does not speak.

Ask clearly what is the reason for the quarrel, and then no one will be offended for two days, but don't be too biased towards one side or the other.

We can imagine what it looks like for a couple to quarrel in front of their parents or family members. For example, it was because of the problem of disliking the other party's personality that led to a quarrel with Nakuan. Then you start arguing from the room, and you go to the living room, and your parents see it, and the two of you are arguing, and then your parents will definitely come to persuade you, or help you scold together, or something.

This mainly depends on the different personalities of different parents. That's the matter of the two of you, so if your parents know about it. That's a matter of four people, and that would make it even more complicated.

Let your parents worry about your feelings as well, and it will not be good for their health.

If it's just two people arguing, then if you quarrel, you may have a cold war for a while, but you can basically solve this problem later. But if your parents are involved, then your father and mother may do some other work to owe you both, sometimes. Parents don't understand the personal emotions between you, which can complicate the matter.

For example, your wife may think that you are doing something wrong, and it makes him feel very uncomfortable. But your parents say that men are like this, and you should be considerate, then this will make your wife more uncomfortable, and even hate your mother, which will change from a bad relationship between you and him to a bad relationship between her and your parents.

Therefore, when we quarrel, try to control the decibels in our own room to quarrel, or to quarrel outside, and try not to involve our parents, which will make things more difficult to solve.

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Because this will make your parents embarrassed, they will also feel sad when they see their son's family disharmony, so don't quarrel with your wife in front of your parents.

Quarreling in front of your parents will not only hurt the feelings of the husband and wife, but also hurt the feelings between your parents and the other party, and will cause estrangement with your daughter-in-law. There are some parents who are afraid that the world will not be chaotic, or some parents who protect their shortcomings, when you quarrel with your wife in front of his imitators, they will jump out to help you deal with your wife, and as soon as they mix in this way, they will transform the "internal conflict" between you and your wife into a more complex "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict".

Because in the presence of outsiders, you and your wife are one flesh, and you are a family.

Although your father, mother, or other family members are also very close to you, when you get married, your interests with your wife are firmly tied together, so your wife is the closest person to you.

For the sake of your wife's face, I don't let you quarrel in front of others.

quarreling in front of your parents not only embarrassed your parents, but also inevitably involved your parents, affecting everyone's big-size feelings and making everyone sad. The quarrel between husband and wife was originally a matter of two people, and should not be known or understood by others.

Two people's business, two people solve. The parents are older, and they know that the two of them quarrel with the jujube sui, and they are also psychologically uncomfortable, and they are worried that there will be a situation of favoritism, which will add fuel to the fire of the two rock judges, and it is best for the two people to finish the quarrel.

It's because it's all your own family, and if you quarrel with your wife in front of your family, you will end up making your family disrespect your wife.

Because the ugliness of the family should not be publicized. Quarrel with his wife, let outsiders see it and talk nonsense. Let your parents and family see that they will worry about you.

Quarreling with your wife and the person you love is wanton with all your family members and sisters, so your tantrum is also between you and him.

If you quarrel with your wife in front of your own family, it is likely to have a bad impact and make the family even more disharmonious.

This will give them the wrong idea that you have a conflict and estrangement with your wife.

Because this will make Qi Zao seem that you and your wife are not on good terms with Gao Feng, but it will make them worry about your relationship, so it is best not to quarrel with your wife in front of your parents or family, especially children.

If there is a conflict between parents and wives, we should advise them to treat their daughters-in-law as daughters, be more understanding and tolerant, and not hurt young people because they are ignorant, and let everything take its course. Of course, mistakes should also be pointed out lightly, and we must stand on an impartial standpoint. After getting married, the couple is the best and the most communicative person.

When a wife comes to a strange family from her mother's home, there must be a certain run-in period, especially between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, who do not trust each other and have different concepts.

A man has a dual identity in the family. He had to protect not only his wife, but also his mother. At this time, there must be a right approach.

The best way is to be the sufferer, bow your head to both sides, and extinguish the fire separately. Take all the responsibilities and obligations on yourself first. Let both sides calm down and make their own punching bags.

When you are a parent who knows how to love your son, and a wife who thinks of sympathizing with your poor husband, you will succeed. It won't be long before it will disappear, everyone is reasonable, no one is reasonable, home is a place to talk about love, not a place to talk about reason, everyone has love, there will be no chasing family to talk about reason, and there will be no disputes.

At this time, you will find that your love is so strong. Especially after the conflict between the wife and the mother, the man must face it fundamentally and think of some correct ways to solve the problem between the wife and the mother, so that the family can reap happiness. When there is an argument between the wife and the parents, the first thing to do is to calm down, not to figure out the ins and outs of the conflict first, and then blindly blame.

The most taboo is foolishness and filial piety, regardless of right and wrong, to beat his wife first. "Even if my parents are at fault in a thousand ways, you can't fight with them, aren't you bad enough to allow you to treat them like this"。

And in order to achieve such a goal, the man needs to do six points at this time, so that the whole family can prosper. Explain to her your position in the family, explain that it is not easy to be a parent, communicate more when there are differences of opinion, learn to respect and honor your parents, and of course, you must also respect and honor her parents.

I would sit aside and let them have a good argument, first let myself know the ins and outs of the good things, and then I would be the peacemaker myself, praise each side, criticize their mistakes a little, and then let them shake hands and make peace.

I will first calm the emotions of both parties, then figure out what the problem is, and then reason with both parties separately, and finally let them reach a settlement.

I will comfort my wife first, and then calm my parents' emotions. Try to play the role of peacemaker as much as possible, so that both sides are discouraged.

They all say don't quarrel with your wife in front of your parents or family, do you know why?

Many couples are like this. When arguing, if they mention how bad each other's parents are, the two sides will definitely quarrel even more. This is true for everyone.

Their parents would never let someone gossip or let someone scold their parents. Therefore, it is best not to mention each other's parents when couples quarrel.

<> quarrels between daughters-in-law and mothers-in-law are common, and few husbands (sons) choose to side with each other. Because they are the closest people, they can't bear to blame which side has worsened their feelings. Secondly, the conflicts between them are mostly family affairs, and the details of life have nothing to do with the big principles.

And often both sides have their own shortcomings, constantly combing, sorting out disorder. People say that it is difficult to stop housework with honest **, and the family is not a good place to be reasonable. Therefore, smart people do not overestimate their status as judges and referees.

Choose to be a mason and firefighter. However, some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law disputes have obvious problems of right and wrong, and the strong bully the weak. At this time, the man (husband) should administer justice and protect the weak.

You look at someone else, your parents quarrel, can someone else's parents face you? Behind your back you said. If you can't see through the problem, say it behind your back.

The effect is much better than you guys arguing! Your daughter-in-law is not sensible and is not afraid of her parents getting angry? She also argues with you in front of her parents.

What are you seniors involved in? You're going to be a man.

I remember it was one night in March 1987. The old mother was upstairs waiting for her second sister's delivery, and came to my house in the evening. My mom and I sat on the couch and chatted.

Suddenly, I heard the cry of "brother, brother" coming from downstairs. I hurriedly opened the door and looked out. It turned out to be my sister pushing a stroller.

Her six-month-old son fell asleep in the stroller. It was still cold. I hurried downstairs to help carry the car home.

I immediately installed the chimney and stove (for fear of freezing the child). Then I sat down and asked questions.

Hello, glad you asked. Because your parents are arguing with your wife, you can apologize to your wife after she is angry. You quarreled with your wife because of your parents' affairs, and you fully took care of your parents' emotions, but you didn't take care of your wife's emotions, so you have to apologize to her.

If we want to avoid greater conflicts and gain more initiative, we need to change the status of both parties in negotiations through correct interaction and communication, and gradually grasp the initiative. Use scientific guidance to make your wife understand her own thoughts, understand your difficulties, and be willing to take the initiative to accompany you to solve problems. I hope I can help you.

In this case.

First of all, you can't be clear about which side you are on.

You can't also be in a hurry.

Be calm.

Because when people are in a hurry, they are prone to say the wrong thing and do the wrong thing.

You must not add fuel to the fire.

In that case.

You have to be calm.

Think about why they're arguing.

It would be better to find a solution to the problem.

If the problem is solved, it will naturally not be noisy anymore.

If the problem cannot be solved or cannot be solved temporarily.

Then try to separate them as much as possible.

If you persuade or accompany your parents to go back to your room first.

Talk to them privately.

Follow your parents' point of view first, wait for them to calm down a bit, and then talk to them about your point of view.

and the difficulties and embarrassments you face in this situation.

I believe that parents always feel sorry for their children.

They'll take a step back because they feel sorry for you.

Then calmly bring some sweet words to coax his wife.

Follow her.

Wait until she is no longer so emotional, and then tactfully state your opinion.

In the end, it's best to get your wife to apologize to your parents.

But before your wife does apologize, you'd better talk to your parents in private.

Ask them to give your wife a ** rank when they arrive.

Then the atmosphere will be harmonious.