When my father passed away, would it be very shameless if I didn t have relatives and friends to att

Father, father, head dearest.

From ancient times to the present, it is respected as "Ling Zun", if you pass away, as a relative and friend but do not come to mourn and attend the funeral, then there is no need to maintain a relationship in the future, even the top common sense of this person is regarded as dispensable, that is, there is no human nature, and still interact with it, the deceased father, as well as the living neighbors and neighbors, will feel that raising you and being a neighbor with you is a godson, and feel that you are very dirty.

From ancient times to the present, anything can be changed, can be abolished, can be replaced, only the death of parents is the first mourning of children, all relatives and friends should come to mourn, condolences by the way, the etiquette of participating in the funeral can never be exempted and changed, unless it is natural factors can not come but there must be a message of condolences and telephone messages after knowing, otherwise, unless it is a vendetta and enemies.

It is completely possible, and this can be used as a watershed as a criterion for whether relatives and friends can socialize.

The purpose of relatives and friends is to share the joy, that is, to share the great sorrow, and even this point can't be done, so it's not as good as the animal relationship in the African savannah, what do you want to keep it for? How much to roll, the farther you roll, the more innocent the family and good friends in the world are revealed, there is no "come"! Where does the "going" come from?

If you really have something to drag your shoulders, it's okay to "reason", and those who really have feelings will understand. For example, some impersonal people, who have time, know, find reasons, excuses and do not come, it will be in my world.

Gone forever, there is no such person in my mind, no one like this, no one like a stranger. Especially my father's juniors! Don't blame me for being extreme!

Don't say I'm a bull. Because he can disrespect me! But he must not disrespect his uncle, my father.

My world would be more exciting without him!

Concern. Decisive severance of relations, my father died, one of my friends did not come to participate, so since then no contact, about 30 years ago, during which many friends in order to ease the relationship with us, asked him to apologize to me and invite me to drink, I told him not to apologize, because you have your principle of making friends, I have my principles, I think you are not my friend, you are also beyond my bottom line of making friends, so we have not interacted until now.

Thank you, if you know that your father died but did not attend your father's funeral, friends and relatives can not use it? No, it's relatives and friends who can't stop coming and going because they haven't arrived once, which is very bad. Everyone has an unexpected event, so it may be the reason for not attending, so you can't stop coming to the event because of this.

It may seem difficult for you to accept that your father dies once in his life, and relatives and friends should be in attendance. But in case of trouble, we have to consider in many ways, and there may be unexpected things, and we can't help but come and go. If you don't get along, you will break off your family, and you can't do it without a fateful dispute. Thank you.

When my father passed away, it would be really sad to have no relatives and friends to attend, which is the result of family indifference. Life and death are the first priorities for us as human beings.

If you pass away, as relatives and friends do not come to mourn and attend the funeral, then there is no need to maintain a relationship in the future, even the top common sense of this person is regarded as dispensable, that is, there is no human nature, and you still associate with it, the deceased father, as well as the living neighbors and neighbors, will feel that raising you and being a neighbor with you is a godson, and feel that you are very dirty.

From ancient times to the present, anything can be changed, can be abolished, can be replaced, only the death of parents is the first mourning of children, all relatives and friends should come to mourn, condolences by the way, the etiquette of participating in the funeral can never be exempted and changed, unless it is natural factors can not come but there must be a message of condolences and telephone messages after knowing, otherwise, unless it is a vendetta and enemies.

The purpose of relatives and friends is to share great joy, that is, to share great sorrow, and even this point can not be done, it is not as good as the animal relationship of the African savannah, and what is it to keep it for? How much to roll, the farther you roll, the more innocent and precious the family and good friends in the world are revealed.

No, the reality does not allow it, so let's do it according to the actual situation.

Relatives can notify their relatives and friends when they pass away, let their relatives and friends at home to participate in the final farewell, there are not many people, the heart is true This is the warmest, you can go to invite your relatives to participate, after all, it is your own family, there is still a certain amount of affection.

Do your filial piety to your parents before you die, so that your parents can spend their old age in peace.

The day of the day came.

It's nothing. Everyone will have such a day.

About what to do.

Call ** directly to contact the cremation staff.

Aftermath is processed.

Now the society is developing rapidly, mobile phones have become people's necessities, mobile phones never leave the hand, and now the payment method has also changed from currency to electronic payment, WeChat payment and fan Alipay payment is very square and convenient. If a friend has something, transfer it directly. But there are still some situations where cash is needed, such as red and white ceremonies, relatives and friends have to give gifts.

In many cases, people will have a headache when they hear the word "Sui Li", and this phenomenon has undergone obvious qualitative changes in rural areas. In the countryside of the 80s, gifts were just a way to enhance the affection between relatives and friends, to enhance relationships, and to bring people closer together. Now the gift has become a kind of economic burden for people, and the phenomenon of gift in the countryside has appeared in the bad habits such as comparison and receiving gifts through happy events.

There are four types of non-accompanying gifts.

As the saying goes, "the gift is light and affectionate", although the gifts given by people in the previous era were very light and not very valuable, everyone knew that the feelings between each other were very deep, and they also wanted to send blessings to auspiciousness by the way. Now it is the other way around, the feelings between the peasants are getting weaker and weaker, but the etiquette is very heavy, and now the gift is money, and everyone has their own little abacus and careful thoughts. For us farmers, there are four kinds of gifts that are not necessary, and maybe they will not be good.

The work is obviously done with gift money.

There are many things that give farmers a headache now, and one of them is Sui Li. The ** in each region is appropriately controlled according to the phenomenon of suitude, such as controlling the reason and frequency of doing things, but it is still dealt with by the villagers, and some people say that sui li is a kind of customs and culture and tradition in the countryside, which can deepen the relationship between each other. In rural areas, such as red and white things, the joy of relocation, and the elderly at home to celebrate their birthdays, these major events are traditions and customs and culture can be understood.

However, in recent years, the popular college entrance banquets are obviously for the purpose of collecting gift money. There are also birthday banquets for their children every year, these gifts must not be followed, once you follow, you feel uncomfortable not to say, if you don't follow for a year, the host family is likely to talk about you behind your back, and leave a thankless thing.

The etiquette that is not deep in the relationship does not follow.

In rural areas, people know a lot of people, in addition to their own relatives and friends, most of the people in their own village know each other, and there are also a few people from the surrounding neighboring villages. Although I know a lot of people, most of them don't have any friendships, and if these people's courtesies are followed, they can't be finished at all. What's more, too many gifts will cause huge economic pressure on themselves, and the peasant masses actually know that they know a lot of people, and there are many so-called relatives around them, but only when the relationship reaches a certain level, they will send blessings with gifts when they are in trouble.

Just knowing and the relationship is not very deep, there is no need to go with the gift, after all, the relationship has not reached the level of the gift, just send a blessing. If you want to follow a quarrel and finish the ceremony, by the way, you can get closer to each other and ask him for help, or when you run errands at home, he will also bow with you, so that you don't lose money. If that's the case, of course, it's great, but if someone forgets your gift because of a lot of things

There are many people who have no friends to participate in the death of their father, and it is possible that this person or this family did not participate in some things in other people's families before his death, and there are people who have no friends, and only family members participate.

There are still some things where the parents are here, there is still a place to come in life, the parents are gone, and there is only a way back in life. Many people have this situation, that is, when the parents are alive, the relationship between the brothers and sisters is not bad, and the walk is relatively hot, once the parents are no longer alive, the feelings between the brothers and sisters are slowly fading, and they are not even as hot as the people who walk around with each other, and they rarely come and go, what is the reason.

In rural areas, siblings rarely interact with each other after the death of their parents.

In fact, there is no reason for this, brothers and sisters lived under one roof before they got married, at that time everyone was a family, regardless of you and me, the money earned by the parents was willing to be spent on the children, and the money earned by the children was paid to the parents for some living expenses, and the brothers and sisters could also use it casually. When I grew up and had my own family, I wasn't as close as I was when I was a child. But I still often go back to my parents' house, and I still have a big family together for the New Year's holidays.

However, the premise of all family harmony is based on the existence of parents. Even if only one party is alive, the whole family is still cohesive and centripetal. But when their parents are gone, many siblings don't move around much, as if their families are scattered.

In our rural hometown, generally during the New Year, except for the daughter's Chinese New Year's Eve, no matter how many sons, no matter whether the home is **, will return to the parents' home to accompany the old people for the New Year, this is a custom, but also filial piety, if you don't even go home for the New Year, then I am afraid there will be no time to go home during the year. Therefore, no matter how busy they are, the children who are busy working in Tiannan and Haibei will return to their rural hometowns, and the brothers and sisters will come to their parents' homes to celebrate the Spring Festival together, and the feelings between each other will also be enhanced, not to mention between brothers and sisters, even between parents and children, they must often visit and care more in order to be more emotional.

In rural areas, siblings rarely interact with each other after the death of their parents.

Not much. Relatives and friends, father's brothers and sisters, they will definitely be there, and his daughter and son. You have to be there, and you're a relative!

What's my aunt? Cousins, nephews, they all have to be present, after all, they are relatives, and according to Chinese customs, they must be present.

If it is a colleague's father's funeral, it is okay not to attend, but it is best to say hello to people in advance, because there are more rules on funerals in some places, and the number of people may be counted, and if you don't go, it may cause some trouble to others, so it is better to say hello in advance as soon as possible.

Of course, if you really have something to do, you can say hello to a colleague in advance. Tell me not to go when I go to the funeral, but the gift money must be in place.

Of course you can, after all, if you have already sent the etiquette, I will participate, and your name will be on someone else's account.

Yes, as long as the mind arrives, after all, it's just a colleague, and it can be forgiven if you can't get out of it.

If you are not a relative, you can't attend the funeral, and not everyone can attend the funeral. Outsiders can only hang filial piety.

OK! This situation is possible for everyone! Your colleague will surely understand!

After the funeral of my colleague's father, you can not go to it, the death of my colleague's father will make my colleague sad, and when he is working, you should comfort her.

It should be possible, explain the reason in advance, as if it were polite.

Yes, the ceremony has arrived, tell them the reason, it's okay

If you really can't get out of your body, you can go with the courtesy, and I'm really helping you look forward to it.

First of all, this is a white thing, not a red thing, the so-called red thing, a white thing, after all, it is not a relative, and it is not wrong not to notify.

But now that you know, let's measure it for yourself.

If you can't go, you can entrust a friend to buy a wreath on your behalf, put it on the account, and then contact it afterwards, so that it will not be embarrassing to meet and talk about it in the future.

If you don't want to contact anymore, there's no need to go.

Judging from the landlord's entanglement, it's still a good friend.

It is recommended that you ask a friend to make an account.

Hope it helps.

A friend is not in the scope of the notice, if you are a buddy with him, you should go, if you are a friend, I think it is okay to go or not.

It depends on whether you're close or far away, and if you can't get over it, ask other friends to buy wreaths, quilts, and things like that.

There's nothing out of place, I can't tell you about it.

It's not your father, it's not your relative anymore, go hair.

If you usually have a good relationship and don't notify you, you should also follow the courtesy, if you usually have a normal relationship and others don't inform you, there is no need.