Why do I always have the idea of escaping when I want to ask someone to do something?

I just joined the work, it's normal, I'm not used to it when I just went to work, I feel that I can't save face, I'm sorry, in fact, it's like this at the beginning, but everyone is used to it with the increase in the number of times, age, and experience, and they are the same as you at the beginning, but you don't know. How to say it, it is a necessary and must go through the stage, it's good to go through the past In fact, your superiors, such as the section chief, they have gone through a lot of things, you give them **, they will understand what you mean when they hear it, they will not deliberately embarrass you, you don't have to say anything, everyone understands in their hearts, after all, they have also walked through your age and have had the same experience It is better to be at night, this kind of thing, although everyone knows it, it is better not to be too ostentatious, for the sake of the leader, but also for you, don't let him feel that he is ignorant, and there is the first to hit **

Hehe, I'm talking nonsense, it's offensive, please don't mind.

Personally, I think the root cause is your low self-esteem.

I don't know what causes your low self-esteem, I guess it may be that you have made a serious mistake that led to failure or something, hehe, it may also be the influence of childhood.

After having low self-esteem, you are careful in everything you do, and you are afraid of making mistakes. Because once you make a mistake, you feel that you can't do anything well, it's useless, and you have even more low self-esteem. In this way, the vicious circle will become more and more serious.

It is recommended that you see a psychiatrist, which should help.

In addition, you can find something you are good at doing to improve your self-confidence.

I also have such a time, before hitting **, first go through what you want to say in your heart, what the other party may say, how you should answer, and practice. Then psychologically, you should not be humble or arrogant, you ask others to do things, and you are not a grandson, unless you have an arrogant attitude, it generally does not affect the incident itself.

Practice more, and ask others more,,, instead of listening to others' requirements, practice can become a habit, but you are used to such a scene and don't feel anything, the reason why many people can naturally tell people is that they have passed that psychological level, so he does not feel psychological pressure at all.

Don't treat them as elders, but when you ask for help, think about them, but they also get benefits from you.

I didn't ask someone to find a job, mainly because I felt that my self-esteem had been severely hit, and I felt as if I didn't have that ability, and I felt as if I had to ask someone to find a job, so I couldn't find a job by myself? I'd rather find it myself if I could! Better do it than wish it done!!!

It tasted terrible!

The family is also thinking about you, raid.

How can parents in the world not want their children to live well? It's just that the communication between the two of you is inappropriate, too extreme, sometimes do a good job with your family, tell them what you have in your heart, let them understand you, no. People can't be too extreme.

Be! If you can't ask for someone, you won't ask for someone, but the current society is very realistic! A society where money is everywhere, if you have money, you can do things, and if you don't have money, you have to do it yourself.

You should have a ...... experience in this areaIf you choose your own path, you must work hard to go down, and if you live well, you will work hard to get it, and if you don't have a good life, you will make it like this. But now people are young, and there is nothing to fear. Go for it!

Believe in yourself! But there is one point, you must explain your thoughts to your family, home will always be your own shelter, and your family will never lie to you and harm you. Always for your sake.

They are not wrong, what is wrong is just the wrong method, in a word, communicate more in everything. Better than anything else!!

1. Go your own way and let others say go.

2. The society will be one.

First, you.

If you have a clear goal, you won't have so many worries, try to find a goal for yourself to start executing, whether it's work or study, people have to live a little dream, if a person focuses on one thing, he won't care how many troubles there are around him.

Second, your mentality is not right, since ancient times, no one who has achieved great things has relied on his own ability to lay down the world, there is always someone to help, as the saying goes, there are people in the court who are good officials, whether you have money or not, there must always be a few friends who are kind-hearted to help you when you are in trouble, and listen to your nagging when you are upset.

Third, asking for someone is not asking for face, this is because you have low self-esteem, I often ask for people, and I think some people are very "cheap", they are waiting for you to beg in their hearts, because you ask him to reflect his value, and asking for someone is the first step to open interpersonal relationships.

Fourth, I hope you learn the golden mean, that is, you are smart in everything, but you are always the stupidest person around, not stupid, but pretending to be stupid, so that you can be comfortable in society.

Hello, in fact, your problem is that you accept too much of the source mainstream price Bai value.

You may not understand du very well

But what I want to say is that zhi has grown up since he was a child, but it is a DAO school, books, and TV, almost all of which are educational self-improvement, not taking advantage of others, and not blindly comparing. That's good, of course, but instead of learning the golden mean, you're getting into the horns of this value. You shouldn't be in harmony with your surroundings.

First of all, you have to make it clear that you are living in a society full of people, and no matter what, you have to deal with people, and people have shortcomings, such as greed, comparison, etc. But at the same time, people are also abundant, you can see them as your resources, resources that you can use in all aspects, pursue advantages and avoid disadvantages, this is the truth that must be learned in survival.

I don't think people with high self-esteem and stick to the same rules are great, but I prefer people who are willing to lower their stature and turn their contempt into motivation to die and live.

In fact, in other words, you are too face-saving, afraid of making a fool, if you are very capable, I absolutely support you not to rely on others, and I also admire you, the key is that now you have limited ability to have the courage to admit and look at your own disadvantages positively. Everyone can't be strong in a certain aspect, and if they don't know how to be flexible, they can't do what they can't do, not self-reliance. It's not a shame to ask for help from others, just like a good leader, he actually uses others to do things, and he is just a command, but on the contrary, everyone respects him.

Hope you succeed! Pure hand-hitting.

The landlord belongs to a person with strong self-esteem and a high spirit, this kind of person is difficult to work with others, because "will not do things", in fact, the problem of the landlord is that he does not have the right to be entangled in whether the family wants you to ask for someone, but to see how much ability you have, if you live a good life, you don't have to care about other people's opinions, the landlord has this mentality must be a lot of setbacks in life, there is no need to be entangled in whether you need to ask someone to do something, this is not the point, the focus is how to take care of your life, Look at the landlord's information has become a family, these things can be discussed with your lover, no need to use in vain, even if he vents to him is better than holding back, otherwise it may directly affect your family harmony, and finally let people see jokes, the best way is that the landlord can turn pressure into motivation, better work and better life, if not, try to change places may be better.

It may be the stress of life that makes you get into the nitty-gritty. If life were easier, you wouldn't think that way.

In a long-term stressful environment, normal.

People in power will have a more or less similar extreme reaction. In fact, it's not that others think you're doing badly, and it's not that others compare and make you feel like they're hitting you. In fact, it is the gap between your current situation and your own expectations that will cause you to have this kind of thinking.

Relax, especially in tough times. When you have a good life in the future, you will feel that you have thought too much and cared too much during this time. Later, I will feel that I should not be so extreme at that time.

Personally, I think it's a way of thinking about life.

Everyone has bai

My own character,I also don't like to ask people to do things.,I think dao this version is a nest.,But this right.。

Society is like this, different people do things differently, maybe some things we can do by ourselves can be successful, but the time and energy are much more than others, so there will be everyone to help each other, I think, your relatives must also have your help. As for some things, if you do it yourself, and you don't have to be someone else, I think it's more meaningful to do it yourself.

Hehe, you said what I was talking about! Believe it? Every word you say can cause my chorus to resonate!

My small family of four people only lives on my salary of 2,000 yuan per month, and several of my relatives are in business, and they are very well-connected, but if you let me stand under their roof, it is better to kill me directly! We are not pretentious, but we have the right to maintain our own independent personality and dignity! Friend, I'm rooting for you, keep being yourself!

There's nothing wrong with it, who said there was a mistake, I appreciate people like you, who pursue independence, don't seek comparison, and now this society.

There are too few people like this, and I can find a you in this genus, and a person with such ideas, you are really lucky, if you don't want to, you can talk to others well, these things have to be dealt with separately, and tell them well, you want to do things according to your own ability, as long as you do your best, no matter what you do, you can also give yourself an explanation, at least this thing I try to do, I support your idea, but the attitude should be good.

Want to copy mixed in this society.

Good bai, please don't bring too many du's edges and corners, which is destined to make you hit a wall and break the blood dao. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to ask for help, but you have to learn to be tactful, I think you should understand the truth of how to behave in the world, I used to be as extreme as you, but now I have learned to be tactful, and I have paid the price for my stubbornness. Sometimes you have to be good at using all the resources you can use, so that you can mix better!

Hey, hey...

Me too... I don't want to have too much intersection with others... However, being too withdrawn can make people extremist... If you hate someone, think about it, can you kill them? If you don't have the consciousness to kill him, if you don't have the consciousness to give your life, then why bother yourself? When you think about it, you will immediately feel better.

Also, always be ready to protect yourself...

Eun, now to explain your situation, in fact, some time ago I also felt that it was difficult to move an inch, in the circle of life, I am now a student, while going to school and working part-time, it is very hard. Occasionally, I heard the "Sea and Sky" by the Symphony Orchestra, and I slowly calmed down, and I also had the motivation to study, live, and work. I suggest you go and listen,

Reality doesn't allow you to do that.

The big husband can bend and stretch.

People who are overly attached can only be ancient.

Go your own way and let others say go. It's a good thing not to ask for others, we just have to rely on ourselves. Relatives or something, it's useless to ask for something, it's better not to ask for it. You are more reliable than others.

In today's society, you have to learn to be patient I've been doing things in ** these days I'm asking for this and that There's no way But in the end it's OK when my goal is achieved You have to learn these Come on, you can!

There's nothing wrong with that, it's just your character. You should be a very independent person and want to do everything yourself. You are also very strong, and DAO doesn't want to rely on the strength of others.

You're acting normally! You should vent! You may have something to worry about for a long time! Find a place where no one is! Go crazy! Guaranteed for you! I used to be the same as you!

You take your face too seriously, try to change it, maybe what seems to you to be humiliating, others think it's nothing. It's normal to ask someone for help.

It is estimated that it will not be done, and once you do not agree to his request, he will not help you do things. But it's hard to say if he's true to you.

If the things you want to do are important to you. It can affect you for the rest of your life. At a certain time, you can play some tricks. Let Him do things for you. For example, using hue. Just go out with him. You don't have to do anything.

It is estimated that this thing will not be done, if you really have the ability to do it, you will be done it a long time ago, who doesn't want to get paid, they are all perfunctory to you, or think of other ways to find only one way It is easy to go wrong!

You try, invite him to dinner, and if you're still afraid that he has an idea, you're looking for a friend to come along!

Then probe the wind! See what's going on!

You're calling him a **, and you just say it's been so long, can you help me ask, when will you be able to come down?

I have a plan here!

You're asking him, can't there be something wrong with this?