What if someone says bad things behind your back?

First of all, I think you should learn to be tolerant, after all, you can't keep the other person's mouth shut. Multiple enemies are not as good as multiple friends. The method is that you are behind the people, it is best to say good things about him in front of the leader, so that you can get the leader's favor in front of the leader, so that his rumors will not work, but you have to do it a little more skillfully, to let him know that.

After all, people's hearts are made of flesh, and he will definitely be moved. This is to convince people with virtue!

I also discovered that no matter how hard you work and strive for perfection, there are still people pointing fingers behind your back. If I find someone who says bad things about me, I first reflect on whether I really have a problem, if it is not my problem, write it down with my heart, sample, I don't believe that his life is smooth sailing, when he has a problem, he doesn't help him, or even falls into the well, no way, I am wholeheartedly good, but some people are indeed not things...

If I were to ask the leader what he thought of this, he would ask the leader whether he believed it or not. If the leader believes him, then you can explain it clearly to the leader in time to avoid misunderstanding, if the leader does not believe him, then you still care what he says, if he is not tired, you can say it again! I think the leader will get him out sooner or later! Ha ha.

I feel that silence is sometimes golden, sometimes it is worthless. Explain when it's time to explain. You can talk directly to the leader to see what the leader's attitude is, if the leader believes in you, go to the person behind your back and say what you say to your face, if the leader doesn't believe you for the time being, or stop doing it, if you can't stop doing it, let time explain everything.

Don't trust the person who told you, because it's likely that the person making the small report is making something out of nothing.

Anything that you just believe in your ears or else it may be untrue.

But if you hear it with your own ears, you can choose to ignore him, or be like him, and you don't need to have a confrontation with him.

But some people are so cheap that they come to you and tell you that she speaks ill of you in front of your boss, so what should you do? In fact, you should guard against yourself, and you can talk about some innocuous things, but when it comes to certain people and things, don't say your own opinions.

Ask him directly! What is there to say! Or then imply that you already know what he's doing!! said with a smile, you really care about me in front of others, hehe.

Huh!If that's what you say!

You still find him and make it clear to him.

Find the cause and fix it!

Take him out, flatten him, and don't change it again.

1. Politely pointed out that decisive warnings --- do not give a chance for further development at all.

When encountering such a situation, you must politely point it out and decisively warn them not to continue. If you allow this situation to unfold, it will cause irreparable consequences for you. For example, lies will become true, others will have great misunderstandings about you, etc.!

Therefore, in the face of people who spread rumors behind their backs, don't be passive, try to be active!

Second, find the right opportunity, show no mercy--- only this trick, and do not leave a way for them to live.

Now that you know that he is spreading rumors behind his back, don't be in such a hurry to solve it. Look carefully for a suitable opportunity, and then kill him mercilessly. Otherwise, if you give him a chance to live, they will fight back at you like crazy, and maybe end up making a bad scene.

This is called cutting through the mess with a quick knife, don't let them live!

3. Play scheming, don't be too honest--- give them a dismount.

The reason why they spread rumors and make trouble may be that they have caught you or think you are a bully. So to solve this problem, you'd better play a little trick, don't be too honest, and when they are still immersed in the joy of rumor-mongering, give them a dismount, so that they don't dare to have any respect for you. So don't be too honest!

Fourth, a master, for you to vent up--- one more person will always have a little more strength.

In the face of the person who is spreading rumors about you behind your back, sometimes you really can't do anything to her, because you can't lower your level to the same level as them. This requires you to learn to be a good man, for example, to find someone who can govern him, like your leader, or someone who is more hateful than him. This kind of person is angry for you, it should also be a trick!

Fifth, stay away silently, talk less about idleness--- the more you care, the greater the loss.

What they want is probably to have something to do with you, because they have nothing to do, they're looking for something, and you're different, you have something you should do. Therefore, in the face of the people who spread rumors and make trouble, they still silently stay away and talk less to them. The more you entangle with them, the more you will encourage their unbridled behavior!

Hello dear! I understand your mood right now! I don't know how to fight back.

I would like to give you a few suggestions: 1: Grasp the weaknesses of the other party and properly counter itThere is a halo and auspicious Li Lun effect in psychology: people will deduce other qualities of a person based on their initial impressions.

When we meet someone who says bad things about you behind your back, we don't have to act too intensely, but we have to learn to observe. Grasp the weaknesses in him in order to better compete with it. 2：

It is a very special thing to show a strong aura and suppress the arrogant aura of the other party, which can not be obtained by just dressing up on the outside, but the confidence and confidence that exudes from the inside out. Those who can exude an awe-inspiring aura are better able to cope with the harm of others. People who like to say bad things about others behind their backs are just paper tigers, and they don't have any confidence in their hearts.

In the face of the harm of others, wise people will not always choose to forbear and ignore, but know how to show a strong aura and suppress the arrogance of the other party at the right time. 3: Strive to improve, use strength to defeat the other party, Kant once said:

To be angry is to punish yourself for the mistakes of others, and when you can't change the external world and the status quo, the only thing you can change is yourself. "Everyone has flaws, and no matter how good you are, there are still people who will speak ill of you behind your back. When these external circumstances cannot be changed, all you can do is change yourself.

When someone hurts you, you get angry every time and it doesn't solve the problem. Smart people know how to win by wisdom, that is, to work hard to improve themselves and defeat each other with strength. In the face of bad people and bad things, instead of spending time entanglement, it is better to calm down and recharge.

When your ability surpasses the other person, you don't have to look at his face anymore, and he can't appear in your life circle again.

I think. 1. Stay calm first, don't lose your mind because of other people's words In real life, in the company, many people will choose to say bad things behind their backs for their own interests, or even make some small reports to the leader. It's a common workplace behavior, and there's no need to make a fuss when a colleague says something bad about you.

When we encounter this problem, the first thing is to calm ourselves down, so that we can think calmly and face the problem, and then we can find a solution to the problem. Even if you are a decent gentleman, sometimes, you will be interested in talking about things behind others, say a few words, and when you meet others, you will also say your own opinions, if it is not the kind of topic that denigrates you, you can ignore it; You can also pretend not to know about complaints at work. Because in some cases, there will inevitably be some disagreements in the work.

But if you encounter a lot of excessive discussion, you must collect evidence and find an appropriate opportunity to fight back later. 2. Find an opportunity to fight back directly and make him regret that if someone publicly slanders you or insults you, you have to tell him clearly that I am not easy to provoke! The next time you encounter this situation, tell him directly, don't give you the meaning of the leader when you approve, if you have an opinion about me, you can say it directly, if you have an opinion on this decision, you can also say it to me, I can help you react with the leader, there is no need to say these words behind your back.

Some people will choreograph you at will, and the more you show the state of "soft persimmon", the more they will become more aggressive, so at critical times, we must be stiff and don't be afraid. The only fear is the fear of being chewed on the root of the tongue behind the back by the villain, and then reaching the ears of the leader, which will leave a bad impression on the leader. So we must also have faith in our leaders.

It is only when a person lacks insight and is dull in mind that he can easily be influenced by the "bad words" of others. 3. For behaviors that seriously affect your reputation, you can ask the leader not to simply believe in the words of the pure self-purification, sometimes the spitting stars can drown people, and the wise die from rumors. If you don't make the right sound, it's suppressed by the wrong sound.

It is the law of the workplace. If you know that someone is saying bad things about you and hurting your interests, personality and relationships, you have to fight back, otherwise, you won't know how long you will suffer in vain. You can tell your leader that the leader hates the existence of this kind of behavior at work, which destroys the team's ability to work together and destroys the team's ability to work together, and for serious mistakes, we must explain to the leader privately.

Second, prove yourself and make the leader believe in you. It's a good idea to ask your leader for clarification on some occasions. Leaders have their own authority.

In principle, don't blindly say how innocent you are, you will only make yourself more and more unclear the more you talk, and let the leader use his own words to clarify for you is the best strategy.