Are there any wedding customs that particularly disgust you?

1. Marriage troubles. Marriage troubles are traditional Chinese marriage customs, such as the haunting hole house that people often talk about is one of the forms of marriage trouble. However, since the beginning of the 21st century, there have been many bizarre forms of marriage troubles, and some of them have even violated customs and affected the social atmosphere.

All kinds of marriage troubles continue to appear in the news, in various forms, in addition to the bride, but also the bridesmaids, grooms, and even parents-in-law in some places, and some even make lawsuits and deaths. Folklore experts call for marriage troubles that have changed their flavor to be unacceptable, and marriage troubles must abide by social morality.

Most of our netizens have heard of marriage troubles, or have seen them. It exists in some places, but contemporary young people really don't understand the meaning of the existence of this custom, or the meaning of the existence of the changed taste. Some netizens said:

I went to a friend's wedding before, and they had a marriage trouble there. But it's not an ordinary trouble, take the belt to pump the best man and groom, saying that the heavier the fight, the better the day.

In fact, this is still light, and those dirty methods in the marriage troubles that have changed the flavor are endless. Spray fire extinguisher powder on the bride and groom, strip the bridesmaids' clothes, spoof the bride, and more.

2. Secret marriage. Yin marriage, also known as ghost marriage, is the search for a spouse for the deceased. Some young boys and girls died for some reason before they could get married.

The old people believe that if they do not marry them, their ghosts will make the house uneasy. Therefore, it is necessary to hold a yin marriage ceremony for them, and finally bury them together, become husband and wife, and bury them together, so as not to have lonely graves in the fields of the male and female families.

After a man and a woman are married, if the man dies before marriage, the woman must also marry, and the deceased husband and sisters will be held by the deceased husband and sisters when they worship in the church"Divine card"Wedding with the bride. Since then, the bride has been guarding the empty house for life, saying that she will keep the festival and keep filial piety when she is unmarried. Some women are reluctant to go to the house and marry another man, but people think that it is a second marriage, yes"Broken Woman"。

After marriage, the New Year should be her so-called"Ex-husband"Sacrifice to the dead. Out of love and missing their children, the old people think that they failed to choose a mate for them (her) before they died, and they should marry them (her) after death and fulfill their responsibilities as parents. In fact, this is the sustenance of human feelings.

In the old days, people were generally superstitious about the so-called cemetery"Feng Shui", thinking that the appearance of a lonely grave will affect the prosperity of the descendants of the house. There were some at the time"Feng Shui home"(Ancient name.)"Kanyu"In order to earn a little more money, I also tried my best to encourage this kind of yin marriage. Yin marriages mostly occur in nobles or wealthy families, and poor families rarely engage in such activities.

Now this kind of feudal superstitious activities are almost gone, but there are still such feudal superstitious ideas in a small number of regions or individuals.

3. Patriarchy.

This cannot be regarded as a custom, it can only be said to be a bad habit, but the impact is quite large.

Patriarchal preference is a concept of inequality between men and women in society, which values the rights and interests of men while defining women as subordinate to men and restricting their opportunities to develop their personal talents and personal freedom. This concept is common in patriarchal societies and is often accompanied by the idea of the inferiority of men and the division of labor between women. Patriarchal beliefs can also influence parents' willingness to have boys and girls, such as:

In ancient Chinese divination, it was regarded as a good thing to give birth to a man, and not a good thing to give birth to a girl.

01 Grass-faced GodNow there are still many places to get married in northern Shaanxi, and there will be a saying of "the god of grass face". The special clothes and makeup of the parents of both sides went into battle together to pick up their relatives. Not to mention anything else, this red and green dress with exaggerated makeup, if people who don't know such customs see it, they will definitely think that the people in this place are singing a big drama collectively, and they can't fight with the eight poles of marriage.

I feel sorry for my parents, and I have to be forced to open a business.

02Pour vinegar, soy sauce, and colaIn some parts of Ankang, when getting married, the groom is reminded to prepare two sets of clothes. Otherwise, on the way to pick up relatives, some ways to get married are to pour a mixture of soy sauce, vinegar, and cola on the groom. The groom can't fight back yet, he can only suffer.

It is highly recommended to give everyone a water gun, splash water collectively for fun, and make the wedding a Songkran festival much more lively than this.

03 father-in-law carries daughter-in-lawFather-in-law carries daughter-in-law, this kind of custom that young people absolutely can't stand it. Up to now, some counties and villages in Shaanxi are still continuing this custom. The meaning is unknown, but today's young people are disgusted when they see it.

What if you carry me? My 200 pounds of meat is not for nothing! Whoever offered to carry it, suggested that the person sit on my back for 100 push-ups first.

As follows: For example, vulgar marriages. 1. Vulgar marriage troubles in rural areas do have a bad impact and corrupt morals, and some people will do things that violate the law because of their low quality, which will harm the newlyweds, so it is necessary to choose to ban them.

In fact, I have to say that vulgar marriage troubles in rural areas do have a bad impact and corrupt people's customs, so it is precisely because of this that some low-quality people often use the name of making trouble to infringe on newcomers, so it should be prohibited by law, and it is also necessary to directly ban vulgar marriage troubles.

2. For us, marriage troubles are also conducive to increasing the festive component of marriage, which is indeed necessary for us, but the vulgar marriage troubles in rural areas do go against the original intention. In fact, I have to say that it is the marriage behavior that can indeed increase the festive component in the whole process of the wedding, and it can also bring great joy and increase the happiness of the newlyweds, but for us, the situation of rural vulgar marriage troubles is indeed bad, contrary to the original intention.

3. The existence of any thing has its two sides, which we should treat dialectically, and prohibit vulgar and inductive behaviors to avoid others from infringing on the rights and interests of newcomers, affecting social morality, and corrupting people's customs. In fact, I have to say that the existence of anything has two sides, and it is precisely because of the existence of such trouble, there is naturally a positive side, of course, it does have a bad impact on vulgar marriage troubles, and it violates the law and corrupts the people's customs, so for these parties who deliberately condone marriage troubles, they should be punished in a timely manner.

Every country has its own wedding customs, but some wedding customs are difficult to understand, let's take a look at those wedding customs that people don't understand, strange wedding customs around the world.

1. Wedding customs that people don't understand.

1. When the bride leaves home, she can't let her sister-in-law send it, because her sister-in-law has the homonym of "sweep", which is considered unlucky. In fact, this custom is incomprehensible and unfounded.

2. When the bride gets married, she can't touch her mother's land.

3. The bride cannot eat her mother's meal on the day of her marriage, and can only eat it when the groom takes it to her in-law's house.

4. The groom must wear old clothes when receiving his relatives, and then change into groom clothes when he gets married in the church.

5. Pregnant women cannot attend weddings, and people in some places think that the bride will not have a smooth life in the future when she sees a pregnant woman.

2. Strange wedding customs around the world.

1. German wedding customs On the wedding day, the bride and groom need to work together to cut a piece of wood. Of course, it's hard for us to understand, but in Germany this kind of drama wood is to show that the husband and wife are working together.

2. Borneo wedding customs In the first three days of the wedding, the bride and groom are not allowed to use the bathroom, so during the wedding, the bride and groom will only eat a little, which may sound harsh, but it is still necessary to respect the local customs.

3. Kenyan Masi marriage customs In the link of sending relatives, the bride's father and brothers and sisters spit on the bride's head, implying that the bride's family sends blessings to the bride, and the bride will have good luck in the future, and then the groom will lead the bride home, and no matter how far away, they can only walk back, implying that the bride and groom overcome difficulties together and live together.

In a province with a large population, there is a custom to worship, that is, the man's seven aunts and eight aunts are basically alive and have some relatives who let the newcomer kowtow and worship again, of course, kowtow is for red envelopes, less than 10 yuan to kowtow one, and the conditions are better 200 one.

Based on the very tradition of the province, this kind of filial piety etiquette is understood by the respondent, and the disgust mentioned here is mainly in the following situations.

1.According to the amount of kowtow money, the elders who give red envelopes can give them one by one according to the minimum amount, so the newcomer must keep kowtowing, give a few kowtows, and not get angry. I saw such a person in a rural area, and there was a bunch of people around him, and this person knocked on his head for about 20 minutes.

Afterwards, the newcomer seemed to be looking at the money and didn't care much about it (I remember that it was 20 heads, and it seemed to be 500 yuan in total), but he was still very disgusted. It's almost impossible to see such elders now, but there is nothing wrong with asking some elderly people, and even expressing love for newcomers, which can be regarded as educating newcomers to honor their elders.

2.The worship time is after the ceremony, that is, after the parents change their words with tea, the province has a large population, and there are dozens of relatives in a family, and the time spent is basically about 1-2 hours. The newlyweds are considered to have a toast, so the table will not be held until the newlyweds have finished their prostrations.

The waiting time for the recent weddings is basically 2-3 hours, and people like the respondent, who are only familiar with the newlyweds, basically sit there and play with their mobile phones for more than 2 hours, and they are still hungry.

3.I wrote earlier, mainly to worship the man's relatives, in the present look at the individual is really disgusted by this, in ancient times, I also visited the woman's relatives, but now all of them are omitted, and even the province's more traditional family The woman's parents and relatives are not allowed to participate in the ceremony and banquet. I won't talk about patriarchy, but that's what I hate the most.

1. First of all, verbal refusal, everyone has a request for refusal, and you can't vaguely express or compromise on these unreasonable demands, both the groom and the bride.

2. To ensure that the parents and elders at home are present, to a certain extent, to avoid many tragedies in the development of vulgarity, and when the situation is not right, it must be stopped in time.

3. When preparing for the wedding, pay attention to finding some alternative wedding creative games, such as finding wedding shoes, or blocking the door game, etc., but the game should also be done in moderation to avoid embarrassing situations.

4. If there is really psychological harm to people, then you can choose to call the police afterwards, and you must actively maintain the harm you have suffered.

Wedding vulgar behavior, it is not advisable, newlyweds should also pay more attention to these behaviors, and secondly, do not think that it is a wedding day should allow others to carry out vulgar marriage troubles, which is essentially a hooligan! To avoid such a vulgar situation, we must first communicate with the groom, let the groom explain it clearly to his friends, and stifle the source of this vulgarity in the first place.

In many cases, not all of the people who come may not be known to the groom, and if these unknown people behave unruly, then the bride can also do a little self-protection. If you have a younger brother or brother, then let your younger brother and brother take it with you to protect yourself. If you don't have a younger brother or older brother, then find one or two friends of the opposite sex who play better to play as a protective role, and your friends will never see you being bullied.

Article**3 If only one person makes such a vulgar demand, and no one agrees with it, then it will not make any waves, for fear of creating a kind of mentality of following the crowd, and everyone will start to get out of control when they do it. At this time, the bridegroom needs to show a strong attitude and refrain from the behavior of these people. When others saw that the attitude of the host was so strong, of course they were embarrassed to continue.

If the groom is busy with other things, he may not be showing a very strong position. Then the bride must not panic and refuse loudly. Even if you embarrass the scene, it's better than being wronged.

Every daughter is the treasure of her own family, how can she be bullied by others on her wedding day?

I think if you come across vulgar wedding customs, you can deal with it like this1Don't take into account the issue of seniority has always been respected by Chinese, but I think that seniority is not the same as high character, if you ignore it because of seniority, it is likely to have serious consequences, so guests should be treated equally to ensure the normal holding of the wedding to the greatest extent.

2.Learn to use the law, but the law has never been very binding on vulgar customs, which leads to similar things happening frequently. Therefore, the victim should also use the law reasonably**, and when his own legitimate rights and interests are infringed, the relevant offenders must be punished by the law.

For the traditional customs of our country, we must take the essence and eliminate the dross. We must resolutely say no to vulgar customs, and then combine them with the current social development, I believe that we will do something more unique, and at the same time hope that everyone will also do what they do not want to do to others.

3.In such a situation, you have to learn to be in a hurry and pretend to be uncomfortable. When it's severe, pretend to be in pain.

So you often come and get away with it. This was also the case at the time. The only way you can save yourself is if you're serious.

Oppose their pranks, and they will only think that you are just pretending to be high. By that time you have sinned against them. That's how you can turn the tide and get out of the way.

This was probably the only good way to get out of the situation at the time.