Can you listen to the advice of good advice ?

Contrary to the ear means that honest and upright counsel does not sound pleasant. The reason for this is that it has a deeper meaning.

First of all, the tone, manner, and method of the person who speaks are not easy for the other party to accept, and in addition, the other party gives him advice or opinion, which has already shown that the other party is right and I am wrong. The other party is smarter than me, and I am worse than him.

In psychology, there is a principle of self-worth protection, which means that people usually only accept those who like and support themselves, and those who deny themselves tend to reject.

Self-worth is our own meaning and evaluation of our own self-worth. Self-worth protection is self-support, which is mainly to prevent self-worth from being devalued and denied. If we are overly self-protective, we will think that we are all right and cannot accept the opinions and suggestions of others, so there will be a situation of disloyalty.

In the past, my self-worth protection value was relatively high, and when others said this and that, I was unhappy, and I was generally self-righteous and never listened to advice. Later, after suffering several losses, I reflected on myself, or should review my own ** needs to be improved from the advice of others, and take the advice of others as my own mirror, if there is one, change it, and if there is none, I will be crowned. It seems that the mentality has grown a little bit better than before.

In addition, it is necessary to distinguish between what some people say, which is not advice at all, but from their own point of view, expressing their personal opinions.

For example, if you are advised not to fall in love in college, and your parents who ask you to get married as soon as you graduate, this point of view is the opinion of your parents.

For example, if you are at work, you meet a colleague who says that you are not doing a good job in a certain part of the work, this kind of right thing is not right to people, it can be said to be a good word, you might as well take a modest and cooperative attitude, do a good job at the same time, and get along with your colleagues.

In short, everyone should still listen to the advice and reflect on whether there is really room for improvement.

I think this has to be analyzed on a case-by-case basis.,If it's something close to someone like my parents and brothers, I will take what they say to heart, and I won't feel like saying "against the ear", but if it's someone I'm not familiar with and I mention some "advice against the ear", I may feel uncomfortable at that moment, and after thinking about it, I think it's right, and I should listen to it more or less.

My parents used to say things that were "against your ears" a lot of times, and it sounded quite uncomfortable at the time, after all, it would be different from your own ideas, and it was normal for you to be difficult to accept at the time. But because it's my own relatives, of course I know that they are all for my own good and will not hurt me, and most of the time I will listen to their advice. Sometimes we haven't reached that age and can't fully understand some of the things our parents say, but when we grow up, we often find that what our parents said at that time is really right, and they think about us very comprehensively.

If it weren't for our parents, brothers and sisters to help us think about some of the drawbacks and key points of this matter, and if it wasn't for their good care for us, we would have gone astray many times because we didn't have much knowledge, so I really think it's best to listen to some "advice" advice from our parents and relatives.

Of course, it doesn't mean that you have to listen to all the words that are contrary to your ears, sometimes you have planned your own path and others may not be able to understand, and people also need to have a certain sense of adventure at the right time, and you can't worry too much about everything, and then delay doing it. Some good advice is just to rely on the experience of previous people to try to avoid making mistakes in the future, but if you have the confidence and courage to try, then of course you can get rid of the suggestions that seem good to us and let us make our own decisions.

In short, there are some suggestions that should be worth thinking about, whether to accept or not, if you feel that you really need to pay attention then listen to it, if you feel that your own ideas are better and you have the courage and confidence that they are correct, then follow your heart.

Of course, I can accept the advice of others, and I make friends with people who want to know if what they say to me is true, even if the truth is hard to hear, but I am willing to accept it.

As the saying goes, good words are good for deeds. The growth of celebrities in ancient and modern times, both at home and abroad, who did not let him move forward because he heard the advice of others, and who did not hear of the fact that he could have outstanding results only by listening to other people's lies. Although lies are mostly better to listen to and sound comfortable to others, I think I personally prefer to be honest with me.

I don't like others to talk to me flatteringly, what I do well is good, what I don't do well is not good, just talk nonsense, and if there are problems in some aspects, I will use a pretext to cover up the truth and not let me know what the facts are, which I am very disgusted by. Personally, I have to make corresponding corrections according to the true heart of others, if I blindly tell me a lie, even if it is very pleasant, but it is not conducive to my prospects and personal development, and if I talk to someone like this, I will pull him into my blacklist.

I think that if a person wants to have a better development, then he must listen to the advice of others, only by knowing the truth can he know how to correct his shortcomings according to the advice of others, if he can only accept the lies of others, and feel that only sweet words are enough, then he will never be able to move forward.

Therefore, the advice of others to you plays an important role in your overall development and getting along with others.

I suddenly thought of this topic, so I would like to share it with you. In fact, my attitude is in the middle of the two extremes of "reverse ear" and "pleasant ear". I wanted to find this comfortable state of balance.

It is common between praise and disapproval, mainly according to the degree and result of a sentence and a thing, to judge whether it is positive or depreciative. This also shows that "loyalty to the ear" is either good or bad.

We should not be overly "disobedient" because of "advice". This is likely to be unsuccessful and not only disappoint the person you love, but also make you a "sinner" in his eyes. Maybe you think that even if it is okay, sacrifice yourself, even if you are the "sinner".

But I don't think it's worth the cost. It's not fair to you either.

We can't blindly flatter and lose the original intention of "loyalty" because of the pursuit of "pleasant ears".

So what exactly should I do? In fact, as long as we sincerely and sincerely look into his eyes and express our opinions, the other party will definitely feel it. The rest is at his discretion.

Even if we want him to be good, it's not him after all. All we can do is respect his choice and not blame him for the results.

I don't know if my expression is clear, and if I can make you understand it. Do you think the same way you see this?

But if advice can prevent a tragic thing from happening, then it would rather be the opposite. Also, we have to take our time in everything we do. By "slow" we mean the heart.

Only when we are quiet can we be more awake, know what we are doing, and not make choices that we regret. You can't just go your own way and plunge into the fierce man. It's also a responsibility for yourself.

Maybe we're always in a kind of contradiction.

Now, let's close our eyes and think back to the person who has always been there for you to give advice. She's so honest with you. No matter what he says to you, reconcile at this moment and thank you.

Don't listen to anyone. Explanation: Sincere and upright persuasion rushes to the piercing ears and is not easy to accept. Confucius Lao Ji Zhanjia Sayings Volume 4 6 Books:

Good medicine is good for the mouth and good for the sick, and good advice is good for the ears and good for the deeds. Yuan History Volume 168 Xu Guozhen's Biography: Summoning Guozhen into the eyes, the ancestor said:

If you don't listen to you, you will be in trouble. Said to him: Good medicine is bitter and bitter is known, and loyalty is contrary to the ear and wishes to pay attention to it?

The Great Joy of the Ancestors. He also gives advice against the ear. Advice is usually told as the truth (as others know).

It also contains a lot of requirements for positive values (e.g. ethics). The average person can't be perfect.

And human nature tends to be a little less self-deceptive.

Listen too directly to some facts about yourself.

And I don't feel like that, or I never found out.

It will inevitably be difficult to accept for a while.

That's why it's usually talked about.

I have a situation that I don't hear. No matter how broad-minded you are.

Usually have reservations about what others say.

There may be more than one person who has the same opinion.

I question myself.

So in most cases, advice is against the ear.

Reference: It is only your own personal opinion.

Zhongyan smiled and said Bitter medicine, loyal words are contrary to the ear. Since ancient times, the Chinese seem to regard these two sentences as golden rules. Advice is contrary to the ear, no one likes to be smart when it comes to teaching, does advice have to be said with the attitude of teaching?

Must it be uncomfortable? I have been taught a lesson, and although the speaker is reasonable, I always feel a little unconvinced. Same meaning, same purpose, but with different attitudes, different tones, the same effect.

The difference is that the speaker is not angry, and the listener is not angry.