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Tell your child to know how to share toys with friends. If the toy child also likes it very much, it is recommended to buy a few more to coax him. However, it is not recommended to let other children take away their favorite toys.

At this time, you must calmly tell the child, don't be impulsive, after all, it is someone else who takes the child's toys away, in fact, you can tell the child: you have to learn to share with others, so that you will go to other people's houses in the future, and the children will share things with you.

The first thing to do is to tell your child that toys are only fun when they are shared. Secondly, the child should be a generous and good child, so that others will like to play with you.

In the final analysis, this matter is a matter of parents.

First, it is up to the child to decide whether he wants to give it to others, and parents should not impose their own wishes on their children. The stage of forming a child's "self" consciousness is a sensitive period of growth, and parents should not be in a hurry, let alone destroy his growth process. Sometimes parents forcibly give toys to others in order to take care of personal face and personal contacts, completely ignoring the child's feelings, and self-righteously thinking that this is cultivating the child's "spirit of sharing".

What is sharing? It is a party who takes out what he has from the bottom of his heart and shares it with others. When children are forced to share, they often resist sharing, and in serious cases, it will bring psychological shadows to children, so children will lack self-confidence and feel that nothing belongs to them when they grow up.

It is up to the child's toy to decide whether he wants to give it to others, and parents should not impose their own wishes on the child.

The stage of forming a child's "self" consciousness is a sensitive period of growth, and parents should not be in a hurry, let alone destroy his growth process.

Sometimes parents forcibly give toys to others in order to take care of personal face and personal contacts, completely ignoring the child's feelings, and self-righteously thinking that this is cultivating the child's "spirit of sharing". What is sharing? It is a party who takes out what he has from the bottom of his heart and shares it with others.

When children are forced to share, they will often resist sharing, and in serious cases, it will bring psychological shadows to children, such children will grow up to lack self-confidence and feel that nothing belongs to them.

If a guest child likes one of their children's toys, they can say in a negotiable tone: "Would the baby like to give this toy to the child?" "If the child doesn't want to, forget it. Let your child choose other toys that they are willing to share with them.

Second, for visiting parents, first of all, we must educate our children to be polite and civilized, and secondly, to respect the host and guest children, and not to take it for granted that their children can take it away if they like it, so that it is easy for the children to form a consciousness: as long as it is something I like, I can let the parents ask me to come, there is no big deal. Such children are easy to develop a domineering character, and when they grow up, they will be excluded by others, and it will be difficult to move an inch in society.

A friend brought a child to be a guest, and the child took away a few toys before leaving, and his child did not agree, and he was crying after knowing it, what should I do?

The friend's child took the toy with him before leaving, and the parents knew about it and agreed, but they did not ask for the child's consent. Therefore, when the child learned about the matter of Yun Xiandao, he began to cry.

My advice for this situation is:

Parents should have very clear boundaries and awareness that although the toys are bought for their children, the ownership of the toys belongs to the children. When you want to give away your child's toys, you should first get your child's consent, which is a form of respect for each other.

When a parent gives away his toys without the child's consent, the child will feel that his sovereignty has been violated and that he has not been respected. The child may be too young to know what words to use to express his thoughts and feelings, so he can only cry. At this time, parents should understand their children's feelings, respect their children's feelings, and must not blame or promise easily, such as "I will buy you a few more next time".

First, apologize immediately. For this problem, parents have realized that they are wrong, so they should immediately apologize to their children. It was his parents' fault that they gave away his toys without his consent. The apology must be sincere and sincere.

Second, get your child's forgiveness. After apologizing, try to get your child's forgiveness, "Can you forgive Mom?" "When we apologize sincerely, it will be easy for the child to accept it, unless we are not really sincere.

Third, we should actively find ways to solve and make up for it. It's not enough to apologize and get the child's forgiveness, we also need to think positively to solve the problem and make amends. There are many ways to solve and make up for it, and parents can do it according to their own ideas.

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When a relative's child wants to take away their child's toys, parents must not force their child to agree.

1.The choice of the child's personal toys is in his own hands:

Many parents bring their children to their homes because of relatives and friends, and relatives and children want to take away their children's toys when this kind of "unreasonable request". I believe that many parents are definitely in a dilemma, because if their children are unwilling to give toys to their relatives' children, and they are afraid that their relatives will chew their tongues behind their backs and say that they have no way to educate; When forcing one's child to give away his favorite toy to a relative or child, he is afraid that his actions will lead to his child's inner injustice. Therefore, when encountering such a situation, I think parents should give their children the right to choose, because toys are his personal belongings, and no one can make choices for him.

Through this kind of education, children will not flinch when facing important choices in life in the future, and they will also have the courage to choose their own life bravely.

2.Respect all of your child's belongings:

Many parents may not know what their children's toys mean to themselves, but since they love toys the most, they must have a lot of feelings on them. Therefore, parents should not make the decision to give away their children's toys, but can only decide whether they can give them away after obtaining the child's consent. This seems to be a simple little thing, but in fact, it is not only respect for the child, but also retains the child's self-esteem to a large extent.

Therefore, parents must learn to take the initiative to respect their children.

3.In the face of unreasonable demands, we should establish the correct three views for children:

A correct three views can not only make children stronger in the process of growing up, but also allow children to be more independent and have their own outlook on life and values. When children are faced with countless choices in the future, they will be able to better protect themselves. How to solve the many unreasonable demands in society?

Therefore, parents can also take advantage of this event to let their children have the correct three views.

Relatives should not take away the child's toys when they are guests, of course, they should not agree, and if the child does not agree, do not give the toys to the relatives and children.

Don't force it, because it will hurt the child, maybe the parents think it's a small thing, but some children have a long accounting.

You can't force it, you have to ask the child's opinion and give him his own choice.

This question is more appropriate to discuss by category. (Premise: The default age group is around 3 years old).

1. See the toy

1. The first time I saw a toy

The psychological inclination of parents should be: don't buy it.

So all the next behaviors are to guide the childDon't buy it.

but。。Again, it has to be discussed separately.

(1) The reason for crying if you don't buy it:Parents are straightforward when they refuse.

At this point, leave him alone, after all, it's already the beginning. If you buy it at this time, it is equivalent to telling him that he only needs to cry after his parents refuse.

(2) The reason for crying if you don't buy it:After the parents understand the reason, the child cries.

I am more respectful of this situation, don't think that 3-year-old children are not sensible, people just can't express or poor things they understand.

Therefore, when the child wants to buy toys, you may as wellPatientlyQ: Why should I buy it?

2. Seeing a toy for the second time or more (resolutely refusing to see a toy for the first time).

Then please firmly refuse again, but you may want to ask why you want to buy it at the same time, which is equivalent to (2) above

3. Seeing the toy for the second time or more (no rejection when seeing the toy for the first time).

Then please firmly refuse, and do not let the child think that crying is a useful measure. (Of course, the more times you save, the more difficult it will be, and the more patience you will need to deal with).

2. See and eat

1. See the staple food

Please react as soon as possible, is he hungry!! At this time, you can consider adding more staple food to the main meal.

2. See snacks and sweets

(1) If you have not eaten a snack before

It is possible to buy it, but only one pack。However, homeopathic education taught him to share: to share with his parents, siblings, and peers.

(2) If you have eaten a snack before at that time

You can buy it or you don't buy it. But I recommend making a pact with your children when you get home, and you are allowed to buy snacks every time you go shopping, but the number of times you are limited.

Objective: To help children develop the concept of step-by-step rules. Let your child learn the process of choice. (The same step can be applied to toys).

The situation of the topic is the most annoying situation for parents, but it is also one of the best educational opportunities.

However, most parents chose to give up this opportunity - in order to stop him from crying, they bought it for him

Parents should first understand their children, so that children feel that their emotions are accepted by their parents, and when parents understand themselves, they will be willing to communicate with their parents. Guide the child to recall the existing toys, and the Kenwood Hall lacks the stool relationship between the child and the existing toy. In this way, the child will not easily accept the new toy.

Tell your child that this behavior is wrong, and when you get home, you should punish your child by telling him that he is wrong and asking him to correct it.

I feel that this time can only be through language education, if he still keeps talking and let him cry there alone, when he is tired, he will not be so unreasonable.

Summary. Dear, when the child wants to get a toy and cries more than once, what parents should do is to find a quiet and safe place and let the child cry there for a while. When the child is crying, parents should not try to lecture the child, let alone beat and scold the child.

Dear, when the child wants to get a toy and cries more than that, what parents should do is to find a quiet and safe place and let the child cry there for a while. In the process of crying, parents should not try to preach to their children, let alone beat and scold their children.

Parents may wish to find a quiet and safe place and let their children cry for a while. When the child is crying, parents should not try to lecture the child, let alone beat and scold the child. I believe that most of the elders have the same experience, when the child wants to buy a certain toy when playing outside, the parents will keep crying and even rolling on the ground if they don't buy it, and the parents' approach is very important at this time.

If the former elder of Jiakai does not adhere to his own principles and chooses to buy it for his child, the child will encounter similar problems even more after the grandson of the potato. If parents reprimand their children, the children may feel inferior and aggrieved, which is not conducive to the children's psychological growth.

Is there anything else. Can you say it in a coherent way?

Seeing parents sitting aside unmoved, the child will naturally stop crying and screaming for a while, at this time parents must not be busy comforting the child, just tell the child to continue crying if he wants to cry. After the child's mood is completely calm, parents can start to educate the child carefully, and let the child talk about the reason why he wants to buy toys, after all, Yu Jing already has a lot of similar toys at home. Doing so can help your child develop their language skills.

In general, it is to let him cry first, and the parents do not act, and then after the child does not cry, the parents carry out rational education.