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I feel like this issue should be considered at the discretion of the day! In many cases, white lies come from your own point of view in someone else's shoes, so that others can be less harmed! Of course this one is right!
But sometimes it leads to the opposite! Like the doctor you said above! As a profession, integrity is certainly more important than white lies!
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I agree, because you're thinking about other people, and you don't want to cause other problems, that's fine.
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It's better not to use "white lies" too often.
Good faith is easily abused by liars, and deception is embellished in the name of good faith.
When the lie is exposed, not only the trust between the two people who have been established before collapses, but then every word said by the other party must be believed at a discount, and the self-defense mechanism caused by this makes the relationship between the two people suspicious and mirrors each other, and the development of things will develop in the direction of a vicious circle like a spiral.
The correct thing for smart people is not to do such high-risk and low-return things, because the moment the lie is exposed, your loss can be said to be endless, and to be honest, at least both parties can communicate sincerely and exchange views on things, at least it will not happen because a lie needs to be told more lies to complete the first lie, which is time-consuming and labor-intensive.
The word good will is easy to say, but it is too subjective to be judged by an objective standard, let alone falsified. Because if you want people to believe that you are well-intentioned, the premise of wheel picking is that you have won the trust of the other party through various things, and the most basic way to win the trust of the other party is not to lie.
Trust and lies are inherently mutually exclusive. If good faith is based on a lie, then the foundation of good faith will not be strong. Some people are willing to live in dreams, and they laugh when they are deceived by the other party, and some people are willing to pursue truth, goodness and beauty, sincerely regard the real jujube sedan chair as the highest standard of value, and hate lies and pursue the truth.
If the value evaluation and value comparison are carried out, and the pros and cons are weighed and the most beneficial solution is chosen: if the emotional loss of the other party after knowing the truth is greater than the damage to the relationship caused by the lie being exposed, it seems that this will become a direct reason and excuse for the white lie liar, but the paradox is whether the other party is hurt more after knowing the truth or the lie is more hurt by being exposed.
In the absence of historical data for reference, the liar cannot make a judgment in advance, and even if there is historical data as a reference, there is no guarantee of what kind of opinion the deceived person holds in this case alone. On the other hand, the harm of a lie being exposed is far greater than the harm of knowing the truth, and this is not the case where lying should be done.
The script of life is completed by you and the other party, not a one-man show written, directed and acted by yourself in order to save trouble. If you feel that you hurt the other party a lot, then you can communicate with the other party whether it hurts more to tell the truth or the lie is more hurtful.
Lies are easy to cause uncontrollable chain reactions, your behavior will cause the other party's suspicion, when you feel the other party's suspicion, you yourself will be suspicious, the relationship between the two parties will continue to deteriorate in this alternating suspicion and suspicion, the degree of deterioration of La Yanchang continues to escalate, and the fuse of the whole thing is just your own clever white lie.
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Who says that you can't tell a white lie, it's not right to lie, the more you lie, the more you love to lie, use a lie to cover up the previous one, a lie is a lie, and it will eventually be exposed. But white lies are different. Sometimes a white lie can kill a person.
It can also put a person on the right path. When telling white lies, you need to grasp a degree. It also depends on who it is for.
In order not to be too upset for others, in order to maintain the self-esteem of the vulnerable. For protection.
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I think life needs white lies, but only if it doesn't hurt anyone. If your loved one is seriously ill, you tell him directly, but he can't accept it, it is better to tell him slowly with white lies. Do you think right?