If you like someone, you will feel inferior, how to adjust your mentality?

First of all, you have to know that the reason why you have low self-esteem is because you like each other too much, and the other party's ideas have never ignored themselves, but you must know that love is about appreciating each other, but you don't know how to appreciate yourself. How can the other person appreciate you? Enhance your personal charm and be your truest self, this is your top priority at this stage.

In fact, there is not much difference between people, maybe he is better than you in this aspect, but you will be better than him on the other hand, no matter what kind of person you treat, don't feel inferior, because he always has one weaker than you. You should actively adjust your mentality, and don't face the person you like with an inferiority complex, so that you will feel more unworthy of him.

I think that liking someone will make you feel inferior, which means that the person you like must be very good. Then you can think like this, since he is so good, then I have to work harder to be side by side with him, motivate you at the same time, and make you improve!

When I was in college, I also liked a senior, and I did feel inferior, because that senior was too good, and the way I could think of at this time was to let myself boldly approach him and say what I thought in my heart.

Then it is to try to let him see his beautiful side, show his most perfect side to him, so that slowly we will also get out of the inferiority complex, in fact, love is a very mysterious thing, sometimes we don't need to be inferior, we just need to let the other party know that we like him, but also to prove that the other party also likes us is enough.

Calm down, only by maintaining enough self-confidence, you are likely to attract the person you like, if you have been submissive, without a little bit of your own opinion, it is difficult to have the opportunity to be with the person you really like. If you want a love, you always have to put in effort and a little courage, maybe as long as you take the initiative we will have a beautiful story.

I believe that when ordinary people like others, they will have such an inferiority complex, always feel that they are not perfect, and the other party is too perfect, feel that they are not worthy of others, I think the general mentality of most people, I adjust my mentality in this way, every morning I will say to myself, you are the best, you are the best, to enhance your self-confidence, it may be regarded as a kind of self-hypnosis,

I think everyone has the right to like others, if you like someone, but feel inferior, you can first read more books to expand your horizons, make yourself excellent, only if you become excellent, can you face the person you like well You will not feel inferior.

Adjust your mentality and be confident, so that you can confess to the other party.

You can buy some related books, adjust your mentality, and make yourself confident, so that you will become more and more attractive.

If you like a person, you will be brave to confess, only if you speak out boldly, you will have the opportunity to be with each other, I used to like a girl, I didn't have the courage to confess, and then I told myself, I must be brave, and finally one day boldly confessed to the girl, at that time the other party was very happy to accept me, looking back is not so difficult, just a matter of words, as long as you are confident enough, there is nothing that you can't do.

Why have low self-esteem? In fact, we are all the same, we are all ordinary people, we are all working and living, but in different ways. You have low self-esteem, perhaps because he is better and more outstanding in all aspects.

But this has nothing to do with whether you like him, I don't think there's any need to think like this, everyone has their own value of existence, if you like him, go and pursue him bravely, don't feel that you are so bad. Maybe people are also silently paying attention to you, don't miss out on love because of this.

I feel inferior to myself, it means that the person I like is very good, I like it and I feel that I am not worthy of him, so I will work hard to keep up with his pace, what I couldn't do before, now I can change my laziness and ability for him, and I can insist on doing what I plan every day, exercise, read, experience, etc., as long as I can improve my ability, I will do anything, so that I can become more confident, and comfort myself in my heart This thing is very simple, to be confident.

The more you like it, the more you feel inferior: a psychological protection mechanism.

There is a saying in psychology called psychological protection mechanism.

This protective mechanism is often aroused when there are large fluctuations in emotions and environment, and when it has a certain impact on oneself.

And in a relationship, this protective mechanism is manifested in the fact that the person you like appears in front of you.

You like someone, but you don't dare to confess it, you can only look at each other from a distance; Every time you meet the other person, your inner deer is rambling and your heart is racing.

At this time, your emotions fluctuate greatly, so you are very nervous, and this tension subconsciously awakens your psychological protection mechanism.

As a result, your liking gradually turns into inferiority; In the face of the person you like, you just look up and pay attention silently, but you don't dare to take a step forward.

The most obvious manifestation of this protection mechanism is: stay away.

Even if you like each other very much, you will feel very nervous when you see each other and are in an environment with them. So, you want to escape, and despite the reluctance in your heart, you can't help but flee.

This escape is your protection of yourself.

I obviously like someone very much, but when I get along with each other, I want to escape? Doesn't that sound weird?

In fact, this is the inferiority complex at work. Afraid of losing, so don't dare to approach.

People's psychology will subconsciously stay away from those scenes that have hurt them and avoid the unbearable emotions they have experienced.

Some people have low self-esteem in the face of the person they like and dare not get close, in fact, it is because they have failed and experienced an unbearable relationship, so they dare not approach each other.

The more I like it, the more I have a sense of crisis, so I don't dare to take a step forward.

But the situation that arises in this way is: missing out on the feelings that belong to you.

In other words: I like you very much, I especially want to be with you, but I am also afraid that after we are together, we will also fail; Rather than fail, it's better not to come close from the start.

Sensitivity and low self-esteem, longing and restraint, this is the best description of this phenomenon.

In the face of a relationship that has not yet begun, it has already suffered from gains and losses; Before he took the initiative to pursue the other party, he thought that he would be rejected; Before I started, I thought about failure.

This is a typical psychology of avoidance, inferiority complex.

When people are faced with the people they like, they often have a "perfectionist perspective".

There is a saying: the lover's eye is out of the Shih Tzu.

When you like someone, the shortcomings of the other person also become advantages in your eyes; The other party is the most perfect person in your heart.

In the face of this perfection, you can only look at it from afar, but you dare not approach it.

Many times, the more hesitant and timid you are, the easier it is to fail in the end; So, the best way to face fear is to be brave.

The same is true for those you like.

You have worked hard, paid, and been brave to have a chance to get love; But if you haven't started yet, if you haven't worked hard, you will be timid and retreat, how can you talk about happiness?

If love can not make two people progress together, then this love has no value, both people will quarrel because of this, degenerate, and it will not last long, my brother and his girlfriend are motivated by each other, both for each other's efforts, this year is the 6th year, it is precisely because I am changing for my object, in progress, we can go on all the time, like a person, the most charming thing is that in addition to two people can achieve positive results, more importantly, because of that person you have become a better self. Anyone has low self-esteem in love, and will become inactive and afraid to approach each other. However, even if you try to hide it, the like will still run out of your eyes.

Only by working hard can you increase the probability of being liked by the other party. When you seriously like someone, you are afraid that you will be bored, and you can't wait to turn through countless books and learn eight languages at once, so you can put it on your head: Look at me, I'm interesting.

Like a person is not to wash his hands and make soup for him every day, and worship that person as a god, but to use all his strength to grow into a person who can be compared with each other.

Remember, you are trying to be better, not to cater to him, but to become a more dazzling version of yourself and walk side by side with him. There is no way to get fate by hard work, and you have no way of knowing that you have to work hard to win the other party's like. But it is precisely because of this that we must desperately become better and bloom desperately.

Even in the end, you still can't sway fate because you are excellent, and you can't make the other party like it, but at least your efforts have improved yourself in some way.

Like a socks people want to show the most perfect appearance in front of each other, and when they just begin to have feelings, they are indeed prone to gains and losses, both eager to see each other, but also afraid that their "unbearable" will make the other party look down on themselves, and want to cover up all the shortcomings, so see the other party excited and nervous, this is the power of love, I see your ability to love We generally appreciate a person, often the other party has their own lack and desire to have the quality, What qualities do you think you should appreciate in this doctor? It seems that this part of the trait he has is like a mirror, you see him like looking in a mirror, so that you can see what you want to be, and urgently want to change yourself, because you can't change it for a while, so you have a discouraged and inferior complex to yourself, not so much that you are afraid that he doesn't like you, but that you are a little unconfident, a little bit like yourself, right, in this case, how can we make ourselves feel at ease? How we wish we could grow up to be like our ideals, that's why we have low self-esteem, right?

Adler told us that a person who feels inferior is the driving force to help himself grow, to help himself transcend inferiority and become a better person, and now that you see what you want to be, you may be able to use him as a reference for you to move forward, and make some specific action plans for yourself to help yourself become better and better Secondly, we also need to know that when feelings are germinating, it is easier to see the advantages of the other party and over-idealize the other person. Therefore, you can observe other aspects of the other person, understand him more three-dimensionally and comprehensively, and when you know a little more, or you will feel that he is almost ordinary with you, and that tension will gradually disappear In addition, when we have low self-esteem, it is easy to lose ourselves, only see our own shortcomings, and not see our own advantages. So when you fall into negative emotions, remind yourself:

Although I want to be better, I still have a lot of strengths, such as 1, 2, 3 ,..I hope you can record it and see what new feelings will be made, so loving someone will make us feel nervous and afraid to show timidity, but it is precisely this kind of worry that will also push us to improve and become a better version of ourselves. When you are confident enough and can look at the other person rationally, you might as well try to find an opportunity to get close to the other person, maybe something good will happen, look forward to it.