How to treat friends who have just graduated and got married and had children

I feel too anxious, I haven't really enjoyed my life yet, and I have fallen into another fog without working hard for myself.

People want to get married and give birth, what's the matter with us, I hope they will be together for a hundred years, and the children will grow up healthily, don't be bear children. As long as the law allows you to get married and have a baby, it doesn't matter if you just graduated, it's good to have an early one.

For such people, perhaps, they have a better relationship with both parties, and they both feel that they want to be together, so they will get married and have children.

It's my best friend who just graduated and got married. This kind of personal problem does not need to be looked at by others, it may be a rush to get married, or it may be the right time to meet the right person, but no matter what, it is someone else's life and someone else's marriage, and there is no need for others to point fingers.

Some people are carried away by love and get married on the basis of nothing, and there will be a lot of trouble after marriage.

If I can have a suitable marriage partner when I just graduate, I love him and he loves me, both parties have similar interests, three views are the same, each other's family identity and blessing, I will not hesitate to get married at the speed of light. If I get married early, I can devote myself to work and daily life without any worries, grow up with the people I love, earn money and save money, and enjoy the world together.

Actually, there is no opinion, everyone's plan is different. Maybe you're busy looking for a job, a house, and so on after graduation, but your friend has everything paved for him, well, why don't you get married and have children?

There is no need to ask it as a question, it is legal for people to get married and have children after graduation, but how do you think about it? What do you think of this kind of friend who doesn't understand that he got married and had children just after graduation?

Everyone's choice is different, I personally think that as long as you meet the right person, it is good to get married after graduation, after all, in a small city, many parents will start to urge marriage after graduation, each time has a corresponding thing, it is good to complete it at the right time, and don't face the troubles such as urging marriage.

If you get married and have children before graduating from college, the major events in your life will be disordered, this is really a gamble, can you be happy? ”

No matter what happens in the future, I feel like I'm happy now. It happened that I got married and had children before graduating from college, and I slowly felt that I could be so happy, and the family relationship was really okay, and I had to die and live every day, until I met my husband, and I felt that the good luck of this life was used to find a husband. When someone asked about the selection of a friend who had not yet graduated from college, he replied with the above sentence.

This friend is fed up with the suffering of her original family, and her experience is quite heart-wrenching. Since she was a child, she would not be liked by her parents who are inferior to men, and she was supported by her grandmother, if she hadn't worked hard and been subsidized all the way to college, she would have been prescribed by her parents to earn money. After going to college, the living expenses were all obtained by my own work-study and academic scholarships, and my parents often called ** to ask her if she needed money, as soon as she came home, her parents kept arguing, to die or live.

Before, she was like a hedgehog, not easy for people to approach.

I met my current husband in my junior year, and I got married before graduating in my senior year, and I really had a graduation certificate and a marriage certificate, and the child was born not long after. I often see her talking about her current life in the circle of friends, and I can feel her achievement and beauty. When I saw her in real life, I looked like a simple person, which was very different from him before.

She chose the right person to get married, she felt guilty about her family relationship, and her mother-in-law's family gave it to her. He was not lucky, but he was lucky. But many girls don't have the same good fortune as she does.

Good friends are happy now, but the future is long, and I hope she will always be happy in the future. But these are more important in life, you should work hard to learn professional knowledge and skills in college, and then after graduation, you can earn money and realize your personal value through your own studies and work.

But he rushed into his feelings, accidentally got pregnant out of wedlock, and then hurriedly got married and had children. In the case that everyone around him is struggling in the workplace, he takes care of his children at home, and he has experienced a family marriage too early. As they grow older, when both of them become mature, it is very likely that they will regret their impulsiveness back then, and then their married life encounters threats, only to suddenly find that they have taken a detour at that time.

These girls who marry and have children very early, and even get married and have children before they finish school. Most family relationships are also unhappy, they can't get warmth and love in family relationships, they look forward to getting atonement from another family, so once she meets a boy who is good to her, she wants to get this glimmer of hope, complete atonement according to married life, and get rid of the psychological shadow brought by the original family.

However, there are still a few who have completed atonement by married life, and if they do not put their minds to it, they are likely to jump into another fire. It is better to rely on no one than on yourself, and if you want to be atoned for, you must first strengthen yourself. First get rid of the shackles of your original family on yourself.

Study hard, improve yourself first, arrange your own life trajectory, you are strong, a happy marriage is the finishing touch, and an unhappy marriage also has the strength to be decided

As a client, I don't think I'm having a good time now, because I got married and had children too early, and even caused me to be out of touch with society for several years.

It's not a good time now, because if you just graduate, you don't have the financial ability, and after you get married, you will have a lot of pressure.

I don't know. Some people are happy, while others are certainly not happy, and not everyone is happy.

Those who get married and have children after graduation generally do not live happily ever after. When I was in college, I knew that college love doesn't last long, and even if we end up together, it's easy to separate. But there are also very few people who get married after graduating from college.

However, they will have a lot of conflicts later, and some couples have even divorced.

College love is actually quite simple. And when I fall in love in college, I don't think about getting married. They also don't think about the pressure to get married after graduation.

The woman's parents hope that their daughter can find a boyfriend who has a car, a house and a stable job.

But just graduated from college and has no work experience at all, let alone salary, so buying a car and buying a house is simply impossible for the man. Basically, I have to rely on my parents to support me. It's fine if the family is rich, but if the family is not rich, the final pressure will be on the two of them.

The pressure of having to bear the mortgage just after graduation and not yet working is actually very uncomfortable. Sometimes it even crashes because of this. And they often quarrel because of this.

Generally speaking, the woman will think why she wants to marry him, why not find someone with a car and a house to marry! The man will think, if he knew that the woman's family was like this from the beginning, then it would be good not to be with him. So college love is beautiful, but it's also very realistic.

And once you experience reality, the feelings of two people are no longer so pure, and cracks will appear. Therefore, most people who get married after graduation are generally not happy now.

In fact, the four years of college are the last four carefree years for the society to give our young people. Sometimes the gap between people is widened in the middle of four years. When I was in college, I liked to go to class and go back to my dorm.

Some students wake up in the morning and go to the library, and then they fill themselves by constantly reading books. They had been interning for a long time before I could get a job. Therefore, you must work hard when you are in college, otherwise you will be frustrated everywhere when you enter the society.

Those who get married and have children after graduation generally have children who are much older than their peers, and some will find that the personalities of both parties are incompatible after marriage, and there are also divorces.

After all, people who get married and have children in the future are very happy now, just take my best friend as an example. Every day at the sister's house, I have a cigarette in my left hand and mahjong in my right hand, which is chic and free.

My best friend got married and had children after graduation, and now the child is in the first grade, and now the family of three lives very happily.

Later, they all lived for the whole family, and they also had a lot of worries and a lot of pressure in their lives.

Based on your detailed description, I would suggest that you have children early, if you are sure that you are now with the person you are working with for the rest of your life. The following is a detailed description based on your situation:

1. I don't like children, lazy, impatient, and unwilling to pay, this is not a problem, on the one hand, because you are still young, and you can't really experience the ups and downs of being a parent. On the other hand, it is because you have a superior family since you were a child, and your parents only have your two daughters, you must have been pampered and pampered more since childhood, in other words, you are still being spoiled by your parents as children. Once the child is born, these problems will definitely gradually improve after a long period of contact with the child.

It's not that there is a saying, women are weak, but mothers are strong. There are many things that can only be experienced after you really become a mother. After all, every parent is not forced to raise their children, right?

2. Giving birth to a child early, because your parents are still young and have the energy to help you take care of the child, your boyfriend's family conditions are also good, the parents are educated, and there are no relatives, which has no worries at all. If you have a child early, you can continue to be crazy like a child for a few years, you can continue to be lazy, continue to be impatient, and you don't have to pay. There is no need to worry about the child's education, after all, the education level of the parents of both parties and the family atmosphere will definitely attach great importance to the child's growth.

3. Love beauty. Giving birth to a child early, the young body recovers quickly, plus a certain amount of exercise, figure, ** can be perfectly recovered, and the irreversible impact caused by giving birth to a child can be minimized, and the older you are, the slower the recovery. Coupled with a certain amount of maintenance, you can really stand with your daughter like sisters like many Internet celebrity mothers, don't you want to be like this?

4. Work problems. Because you have just graduated and your first career has not improved, and your ability is insufficient, you can use the time of pregnancy and pregnancy to continue your studies, and when you have a child, you can put all your mind on work and career. If you wait until five or six years later, when you have all your work experience and ability, and your career has improved, it will be even more painful to struggle with whether to stop and have children.

My brother and I are the best example of this. My brother got married at the age of 22, and the children he had in the second year basically didn't take care of the children before they went to elementary school, and they were all brought by both parents. Both of your parents are intellectuals, and you don't have to worry about your child's education from an early age.

Then they concentrate on their careers, and when they are less than 30 years old, their careers have improved slightly, and they have the energy to take care of the family, and then they stop to have a second child, perfect. And I have been holding that I have a career first and then a family, until I was 28 years old before I bought a house and got married, and I also had a child in the second year, and now my career is not stable, and there is also the pressure of family and children, and I don't know how long to delay to have a second child.

Based on the above points, it is recommended that you have a child early. Young and energetic, energetic and highly motivated, this also has a very good effect on children. Coupled with the hard work and motivation in the later work, it can also play a good role model for children.

If both men and women are in a stable relationship, they can get married! But having a child is better to wait for two people to get married and run in before thinking about it carefully!

It's up to you! As a girl, if you just graduate and get married and have children, the advantage is to solve the problem of childbirth and maternity leave as soon as possible, which will reduce a lot of trouble for your future work and career, but you also have to think clearly, whether you can keep up with the times when you get married and have children, if you are not afraid of being out of touch with society, then you can get married and have children early.

As a boy, if you don't develop your career beforehand, what girl's parents will feel comfortable handing over their precious daughter to you. If you want to start a family first and someone to take care of you, isn't that too selfish?

I think it's better to concentrate on work first, and then get married and have children. It depends on your actual situation. Because only if you have a stable job can you give your children a good life.

There are a lot of people who are married around me, especially in the last two years, some girls have long stopped studying, and those who are not married are also looking for their own partners, or their families help blind dates, people who got married two years earlier already have children, and they will send photos of their children every day, some people are happy and some are worried, but for me, this is not very important.

I'm still in college, so it's definitely a bit late to get married, which everyone can understand, and my plan may be even later, probably before the age of 30, but everyone says to get married early, and I don't think I can afford the family. Secondly, people nowadays will get married later and later, and some people will get married around the age of 35, which seems too late for us.

In the end, it doesn't matter if you get married sooner or later, the point is that you have the ability to support your family, not to mention whether you can get your life to a high level, but the bride price of your own marriage, the house and the car must at least have it, in this way, many people can't reach the level, which is also a headache, we first get rid of the life of "gnawing the old", and have to have their own career.

Sometimes I envy them, I have a relatively stable life at a young age, but for me, I still want to walk more and see more of the world. Compared with "breaking into the rivers and lakes", family is like a fetter, so that I don't have the courage to break the kettle.

In my opinion, family matters are trivial, and the small things in life will be a headache, I gave up the idea of getting married after thinking about it, or let me be free for a few more years! I think probably all people will be shattered by reality, and the dream of getting married. We don't have enough ability to ensure that the person in our hearts lives a good enough life, so let's work hard now, and one day, we can be the pillars of the family.