What happens after the divorce, how to divorce now

Hello, after divorce you should live a good life alone, because a person's life can also be very good.

After the divorce, you should find your own happiness.

Hello beauty, after the divorce, two people really have no feelings, so it's best not to disturb each other's lives, let each other find their own happiness, and find what suits them.

Nowadays, there are two types of divorce: divorce by agreement and divorce by litigation. If both parties agree to divorce and reach a consensus on matters such as child support, property and debt handling, they may agree to divorce and jointly go to the marriage registration authority to register the divorce; If the parties fail to reach an agreement, or if one party requests a divorce, a divorce lawsuit can be filed with the court. The court will first mediate between the two parties, and if the relationship between the two parties has broken down and the court's mediation is invalid, the two parties will generally be divorced.

[Legal basis].

Civil Code of the People's Republic of China Article 1079 Where one of the husband and wife requests a divorce, the relevant organization may conduct mediation or directly file a divorce lawsuit with the people's court.

The people's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted. Hu Zhi.

In any of the following circumstances, if mediation fails, a divorce shall be granted:

1) bigamy or cohabitation with another person;

2) Committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;

3) Having bad habits such as gambling and drug addiction that they have repeatedly taught and not changing;

4) Separated for two years due to emotional discord;

5) Other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.

Where one party is declared missing and the other party initiates divorce proceedings, the divorce shall be granted.

Where, after a people's court has ruled that divorce is not permitted, the parties have been separated for one year, and one party initiates divorce proceedings again, the divorce shall be granted.

First things first: turn around decisively and don't divorce without leaving home.

After the divorce, both parties should keep their distance and never leave the house after the divorce.

Divorce without leaving home can only explain three problems, one is not financially independent, can not afford to buy (rent) a house, the second is a well-known reason, for the sake of children, the third is for the so-called face, do not let parents worry, etc., both parties are willing to divorce and not leave home.

Some women, if they choose to divorce, it must be that the disappointment they have saved up over the years has turned into despair, and it is impossible to continue to get along with their ex-husbands and turn around decisively, but some women can't do it well when they divorce, and they don't leave home after divorce, saying that it is for the sake of their children.

If you think about it, you're all divorced, why don't you leave completely? Divorce does not leave home, a man finds a stepmother for his children, you can't control women, women have ambiguities with other men, you can't care about men, anyway, both of them are divorced.

In short, divorce without leaving home is not a long-term solution, and some couples should not always use their children as an excuse, if it is really for the sake of their children, do not divorce in the first place.

The second thing: give your child more care and love, and don't ignore it.

Husband and wife going to divorce, for two people, it is a relief, but for the children, it is a kind of harm. The child originally lived in a family with two parents, but suddenly the parents divorced, and the child became a member of the "single-parent family".

Children who grow up in single-parent families are also prone to low self-esteem and loss of self-confidence. After the divorce of the two people, if the child is living with the father, the father is often busy with work and can't take care of the family, he may find a stepmother for the child.

So, will the stepmother care for your child and treat it as her own? I think everyone knows the answer very well, so after the divorce, no matter who the child is with, parents should give more care and love to the child, don't divorce, and ignore the child.

The third thing: after a divorce, both husband and wife must learn to be financially independent.

After the divorce, the husband and wife must make themselves financially independent, you must know that if you are not financially independent, it is really difficult to move an inch in real life, and you can neither support yourself nor your children.

In this age when everyone pursues materialism, the simplest happiness is actually economic independence.

After divorce, some couples often like to rely on their parents, reach out to ask their parents for money, and even hand over their children to their parents to raise.

Of course, this is just a few examples, some couples still understand the importance of "economic independence" after divorce, after all, it is better to rely on no one than on yourself. All in all, after a divorce, couples must work hard to improve themselves, change themselves, and learn to be financially independent.

No one's life is smooth sailing, you can't self-deny because of a momentary setback, it is completely possible to live happily after divorce, focusing on your mentality and self-regulation ability after divorce.

If you just blindly complain about others, have an extremely negative attitude towards life, and are always immersed in the sorrow of divorce and are unwilling to come out, then the possibility of you achieving happiness is too small, because your three views, that is, the world outlook and outlook on life, and the values have collapsed because of a divorce, so you will live extremely unhappy, because you have lost the pursuit of happiness, and the blow of divorce has overwhelmed you.

On the contrary, if you see this divorce as just a small episode in your life, no big deal, and a new life after the divorce, and pursue happiness with a positive and optimistic attitude, you will continue to reap happiness.

Therefore, there is no need to regard divorce as so important, do what you should do, cherish the people in front of you, cherish the things around you, and embrace life with a positive and sunny attitude, so that you will have more happiness and joy; There is no need to immerse yourself in the grief of divorce all the time, it is not worth it, whether it is because of the person you can't forget, or those things you can't forget, you shouldn't continue to dwell on it.

We should continue to stride forward with our heads held high, why are we stagnating in one place when the road of life is so long. If you have been stagnant, you will miss out on other scenery on the road of life, and there are better people and better things waiting for you ahead.

First, try not to close yourself off.

If divorce is a fact, first of all, you have to learn to accept it and try not to close yourself off.

For example, there are many people who like to lock themselves in their rooms after a divorce or like to drink to drown their sorrows. Often, the more this is the case, the more counterproductive and painful it becomes.

You think, your mood is already very low, sensitive, hypocritical, sad, and staying alone in an empty room will only aggravate your negative emotions, and it is no exaggeration to say that it will drive you crazy.

If you have a dark heart, you should go out to bask in the sun more often and carefully discover the beauty around you.

The more you close yourself, the more you will not be able to think about it, and the more negative, extreme, stubborn, and collapsed you will become. The fact has already happened, you can only force yourself to accept it, and running away is not the way, because your escape will indefinitely prolong the specific period of suffering. Although it hurts more when you push yourself, your state will get better day by day.

Second, learn to be emotionally with friends.

Perhaps, when you are chatting with friends, you understand all the big truths they say, and even you will seem absent-minded and can't listen to their conversation at all.

But it doesn't matter what they say, what matters is that you have a different voice in your ear.

If your spirit has been tense and unwilling to find an outlet for your emotions, it will only make your heart heavier and more depressed. Talking to good friends around you is also a way to vent your emotions, which of course can't be a panacea, and it will have an immediate effect.

But there must still be some potential and invisible influences.

Also, don't hold on to everything alone, and don't hold back when you feel like crying. Tears can sometimes really ** all the sadness in your heart, and crying will make you feel a lot better.

Everyone on the earth turns, and they can live it how they want.

I feel that after the divorce, you can also find your own happiness, start a new life, forget the previous people and things, don't let the previous marriage affect your future life, and start to face a new life again.

One: Perfect your personality first.

Love can be done by one's own nature, or it can be romantic, but in the face of marriage, we need to be a rational person.

So don't copy what you did when you were in love into your married life.

In marriage, you need to perfect each other's personalities.

If one person has a stubborn personality, the other person will learn to tolerate it at the right time, and even if they quarrel, they can reconcile in time;

One person is sensitive and fragile, the other person is thick-skinned, and going out will also make the other person feel a sufficient sense of security.

However, if the personalities of both parties are too similar, such as being more self-assertive, when dealing with conflicts or encountering problems, it is equivalent to missing a solution, or even-for-tat.

In intimate relationships, most people only see each other, not themselves.

Therefore, the sense of need is very high, and I can't extricate myself from negative emotions, accusations, and complaints, and I ignore the importance of doing my best.

If you want to better adapt to your new married life, you have to try to adjust yourself a little.

Although it is said that you should not lose yourself in marriage, you must also remember that in marriage, you cannot be stubborn about yourself. When you are in love, you will respond to each other's needs.

Because during the love period, all you see is the other party's advantages, and after the love is over, it is the process of accepting the other party's shortcomings, which needs to be tolerated.

Looking at the world, how can there be a perfect partner and a perfect marriage, some are just wise and foolish with one eye closed, with the calmness and calmness of the hills and valleys in the chest, and the ability to make trade-offs will balance the common ground while reserving differences, so that the marriage seems to be quiet and unharmed for many years.

We always marry the good of a person, and the truth is that we have to live with the bad of a person.

Two: Be sure to bring love.

It's lucky to get married for love!

When you get into marriage, you will understand that if there is no love, you will live a miserable life.

If you think about it, two people who are not related by blood, whether male or female, want to establish a long-term and stable relationship, except through love, there seems to be no other way.

If the purpose of your marriage is to say that I don't love you in the first place, I got married when the time came.

At that time, I really didn't know if you delayed others, or if you hurt yourself.

Never marry for the sake of getting married, take responsibility for yourself and your marriage partner.

At any time, love should be the premise of marriage, don't enter marriage without love, otherwise when you meet love after getting married, you may be upset.

If it's not suitable, it's the best, there are no two people who are born right, they are two people who run in and grow together, and you don't even want to run in with someone you don't love.