How to make her feel secure in love, and how will you take the initiative in love?

After two people really walk together, they need to have a thorough conversation with each other, a frank conversation, that is, to talk about each other's personalities in the end, what kind of attitude they are like, the two sides have a deeper understanding, get along more happily, love can not be completely guessed, at the beginning may guess some things to have fun, but if everything depends on guessing, love will also be very inefficient, it is easy to make some mistakes, and the feelings of the two will have problems, A frank conversation is very important, and then after this conversation, more boys should take the initiative, whether the woman is right or wrong, boys should regress or regress, some principled issues can not be some activities, should let it, after all, it is a boy.

When you get along with girls, you must let the other party feel your sincerity and your reality.

When I found a girlfriend in college, the two of us get along very happily and sweetly, when my girlfriend encounters difficulties, I will take the initiative to help, and I will help solve any unsatisfactory problems in life, and use my sincerity to impress each other, and the two get along very sweet and warm.

I believe that if you use your true feelings to impress the other party, you will definitely get along very well, and let the other party feel your love for her.

You can increase your sense of security in love by looking for your own strengths, secondly, not thinking crankily, improving your self-confidence, and learning to be independent.

1. Look for your strengths

Don't care too much about what others think of you, this will only make you feel inferior. You might as well try to find your own strengths, find a suitable strength, and play to the extreme, know how to appreciate yourself, you are far more confident than you imagined!

2. Don't be cranky

Don't put all your energy on men, and don't always think cranky, suffer from gains and losses, so that you will only look like a resentful woman. Try to change your mindset to manage your relationship, be less cranky, and give each other more trust. Slowly.

You'll find that everything will be easy!

3. Improve self-confidence

A lot of insecurity** comes from your lack of self-confidence, and one of the ways to improve your self-confidence is to know how to dress yourself. No matter what age you are, always dress up and give yourself a new and beautiful hairstyle regularly to become more confident and beautiful!

4. Don't rely too much on each other and learn to be independent

Lovers get along, each other needs to have personal space, don't want to stick to each other 24 hours a day, this will only make the other party want to stay away from you. While giving each other enough space, you can also learn to be independent, so that the two of you can expand your own life circle, but you can have more topics to share when you get together, and he will love you more!

First: Don't deceive the other party.

No matter what it is, you must not deceive the other party, and you must not break the connection with your ex.

For a very simple example, if your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend calls you or tells you to go out, and you have to go for some reason, you must explain to the other party, if you say it, you will not necessarily be angry, but if you don't say it, you will definitely be angry. The other party will feel that you are still hiding from him and your ex, and it is easy for your boyfriend or girlfriend to think that you have a lot of things to hide from him, which will make the other party very insecure.

Second: Keep a certain distance from the opposite sex, even if you are a good friend of the opposite sex, you must keep a proper distance.

After you have an object, you are a famous person, don't be ambiguous at every turn, go out to eat alone with the opposite sex if you have nothing to do, and never refuse a suitor, this is the most insecure for the other party, you have to make the other party feel that since you are with him, you really won't go to the other person to have an ambiguous relationship with others.

Third: Always think about the other person.

Take the initiative to consider the other party from the other person's point of view, so that the other party feels that you always care about him, and will feel that you are very good and warm. Don't lose your temper at every turn, try to say it in a coquettish tone with a different attitude.

Fourth: No matter how busy you are, you must remember to call each other a ** every day, even if you say two or three sentences in a hurry.

When you are busy at work, remember to call each other ** will make the other half feel particularly secure, and feel that you are always thinking about him, but playing ** must be willing, not as a task, otherwise it will be beneficial and harmless to the feelings of both parties.

It seems that loneliness has become commonplace now, and everyone is seeking the so-called sense of security, especially men and women in love, who spare no effort to get security in each other all day long.

Before how to improve the sense of security in love, let's take a look at what security is.

The so-called sense of security is actually just a person's inner psychological needs. In short, it can be understood in two layers, one is the worry about the unknown risk, and the other is the feeling of powerlessness before the risk. To put it more colloquially, it is that I am idle and have nothing to do, and I think about something every day when I am full of food.

Simply have a general understanding of the sense of security, so let's take a look at the things that increase the sense of security in love.

First of all, let's first determine the "highest action guide", knock on the blackboard, take notes, this is the point, that is, the sense of security is given to oneself.

As mentioned earlier, the so-called insecurity is to be full of five-five-six-seven-seven-eighty-eight all day long, doubting one's love, the most direct example is the ultimate trifecta that kills countless young people in seconds today - "Do you love me or not?" Why do I think you don't love me at all? You don't love me at all!

I said, can't we be a little confident? You see that your little face doesn't affect the city's appearance, and this small figure doesn't occupy the street, what do you suspect all day long?

When you build self-confidence, then you feel safe. Don't have doubts, don't have anxiety, just know that you are good enough to take on this love.

The "Supreme Action Guide" is there, which means that the "output" is stable, and since there is "combat effectiveness", then we have to add an "auxiliary".

The so-called "assistance" is the sense of security given by the other party, and the point is again! Submit your notes!

The sense of security is mutual!

In love, only when both parties care for each other can it last, and the sense of security is gradually improved in a long time. Therefore, you in love, a warm heart every day is indispensable.

In love, many female friends are very anxious for a sense of security, because this will not make female friends cranky, after all, women's thinking is very sensitive, so male friends must pay attention.

Therefore, I have the following observations:

1. Trust

When we gradually have a sense of trust in a person, our trust in the other party is very high, but the premise is that when we are doing something, we can be particularly convincing, so that we can be more convincing. Because my boyfriend and I are like this, what I liked him at that time was his trust, whether it was one of my things or his own affairs, he could take care of it very well, and it was very reassuring, not to worry too much, so I was particularly relieved of what he did.

2. Improve yourself

For a person with low self-ability, in fact, it is also insecure, so it is a very important thing to improve one's ability, so that when we have a certain ability, we will not appear particularly weak, and we will not lack a sense of security, so it is a good choice to improve ourselves. I will not be afraid of being abandoned by my boyfriend, but I can also make my boyfriend pay more attention to myself and make my boyfriend look at him with admiration.

The above points are some of my personal opinions, and I hope they can be helpful to all of you. At the same time, I also hope that everyone in ordinary times, once they meet their own love, they must cherish it, after all, it is not easy for two people to know each other, so we must protect our love, and do mutual tolerance, understanding, care, trust, sincerity, and responsibility between each other, so that the relationship between two people will not be too bad, I hope everyone can pay attention to it, and adopt such a concept, and then go to the specific implementation, to see what the effect is, And then go and adjust it.

It's easy to love someone, but it's hard for two people to love each other.

It's easy for two people to fall in love, but it's hard to love for a long time.

That's why there is such a problem.

I don't know when it started, but a sense of security has become an important measure of "whether love is happy or not".

Speaking of which, security is a very vague and simple concept.

It's "I want to know you love me".

People who fall in love always suffer from gains and losses, and few people are exempt from vulgarity. This can't be helped, because based on love for a long time, each other wants to keep the other half by their side forever.

As a result, the word "sense of security" appeared, and this phenomenon is distributed in daily life such as "talking and eating with the opposite sex", "not being able to hear for a long time", "the tone is not as spoiled as before", etc., and it is easy to rise to the problem of security, and then lead to the problem of the century.

But one thing that needs to be understood is that the sense of security has nothing to do with the tone of eating.

A sense of security should be a tacit way of life.

Now that I think about it, a long-distance relationship should be the most insecure kind of relationship.

Thousands of miles apart, unable to share each other's lives, it is always difficult for two people to empathize with their feelings.

So how do you stay safe?

It's actually very simple, as I just said: a sense of security should be tacit.

The reason for tacit understanding is because of familiarity.

The reason why they are familiar is because at the beginning of your love, there was a sense of security between each other.

The sense of security, in a certain sense, reflects the most precious emotions when two people first fall in love.

Because at that time, you all believed that you would go far, far into the future, and that you would overcome difficulties together.

Our sense of security is not always rising, but descending.

Therefore, based on the above, the most important point to maintain a sense of security is to remember to cherish it.

Because security doesn't mean that you can rise by what you do.

The sense of security is that as long as you don't change, it's good.

Of course, love needs to be precipitated, but the most precious thing is always the sense of security at the beginning.

As long as you can make your other half feel that there is no change between you and when you first fell in love, then that sense of security will last as long as your first love. Finish.

One of the most common things women say nowadays is: I'm insecure.

obviously suffered a lot of grievances in marriage, but he didn't dare to take a step out of the siege because "I have no sense of security".

obviously met a scumbag and was hurt in love, but he didn't dare to break up, and he didn't leave even if he was killed, because "I don't have a sense of security".

Or obviously meet a good person of the opposite sex, Lang has a concubine who is intentional, but no matter how others chase him, he just doesn't dare to take the first step, because "I don't have a sense of security".

Unfortunately, many people talk about security every day, but they don't know what security is and how to make themselves feel safe.

It seems difficult to get a sense of security, but in fact, it is very simple to analyze, as long as you have the following three things.

1. Have financial ability. If you have the ability to earn money, you won't panic, and you know that no matter what happens, as long as you are healthy and sound, at least your life will not be down.

Having financial means is the bottom line.

2. Have the ability to be loved. If no one loves you, you have to have the ability to love yourself.

Being loved by yourself is also an ability, and you don't have to worry about this love disappearing, you can love yourself for 10,000 years.

With this ability, you will not be afraid of no one to love, you will not be afraid of the person you love leaving, even if the whole world does not love you, at least you will be loved by yourself.

3. Have the ability to be independent. The ability to live alone, in addition to being able to live alone, also includes arranging everything, managing money, buying insurance, and investing. In short, everything can be done by yourself, and if you can't do it yourself, you can also find a professional to do it.

It doesn't matter who leaves, even if no one loves you, you still have the ability to make yourself live well alone.

Security is never given by someone else.

I have always believed in this, whether it is love or life.

Many people have an inexplicable sense of humility in love, and always feel that one day the other party will no longer like them, and instead like those of the opposite sex who are better and better looking than themselves.

People who fall in love are always prone to gains and losses, thinking about things and thinking about each other, blindly accommodating and taking care of each other, wanting to make the other party love them forever and forever, and always stay by their side, but the fact is that such ideas are often foolish dreams.

In fact, it is difficult for others to provide you with a sense of security all the time, your so-called sense of security is just a reflection, and the other party's behavior, mannerisms and mentality may become the ** of your sense of security.

And the reason why you need to rely on the other party to obtain this sense of security is essentially due to your own lack of self-confidence. You don't believe that you can feel safe on your own, so you can only put all your hopes on men, trying to get what you can't get from men.

The sense of security gained by relying on the outside world is easy to come by, and it is easy to lose it.

When you are strong enough, strong enough to support yourself to fight for everything you want, then all kinds of external conditions cannot become obstacles to your pursuit of love.